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I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my v-card in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

tl;dr : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all.

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time. Women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this?

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

I have for a long time, tried to go to meetups, only am able to talk to the men. I get intimidated by women and so have able been able to bond with women in any way possible. I tried getting on dating apps and marriage apps but there generally got very few matches with girls and got rejected by girls when I told them about the experiences below.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was not planned, I was just there for chilling, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me. Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this ? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time. Women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this?

I'm a single guy ,28M, never been in a relationship or even really talked much to girls in life– super awkward/introverted, desi family pressures, all that usual stuff. While traveling in Southeast Asia , I ended up doing things I'm really ashamed of now.

Lost my virginity in Thailand (paid service). It wasn't that I had gone to Thailand for sex. I was exploring Thailand and had landed upon a strip club, there I had taken a liking to a stripper and then she invited me and her friend for a threesome paid sex and drunk me obliged. There, I could only have sex for 10 seconds with condom and after that blood started coming from my foreskin, so had to stop after 10 seconds and had applied cream to heal the wound. I think it was somehow due to friction between foreskin and condom. So, it was a traumatic experience for me.

Had sex once in a massage parlor in Vietnam. Like above, it was planned, was just tired and had gone to maasage parlour, and they asked for boom boom and I couldn't say no.

For over a year, on an average of twice a month, I went to various massage places in Bangalore for handjobs or body-to-body rubs(basically making out but only kissing shoulder and boobs) – no penetrations or bjs, but still paid services.

Everything was with consenting adults (as far as I could tell), I was single the whole time, no cheating on anyone. I never went looking for underage stuff or anything violent/forced. But now that I'm back in India, the guilt is eating me up – cultural shame, family values, wondering if I'm "damaged goods" or a bad person.

I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

Could this come back to bite me somehow (like if it gets out)?

More importantly, women, How would you feel if a guy you're considering for dating/marriage/arranged setup admitted this? Is it a dealbreaker forever? Does it make me seem like I objectify women, or just lonely and pathetic? Would you advise total honesty in AM setups, or bury it and move on? Has anyone dealt with similar regrets from guys in their circle?

I know that what I have done is shameful and have quit it. I also want to know whether there is some redemption for me.Also, I did ask each masseuse or stripper whether they were below 20 or trafficked , they did say no to both. Still, I know what I did is shameful and ick and disgusting and doesn't make anything right, but maybe could anyone please how can I help any victims of abuse from my side for the same?

I am truly sorry—for reducing anyone to a transaction, for any unseen burden or discomfort caused, and to every woman (affected or not) who feels disgust, anger, or disappointment because of choices like mine. You deserve respect and full humanity, not this.

TL; DR : Took handjobs for a year in India. had sex once in Thailand and once in Vietnam, all above at massage parlours. Filled with regret now, how would this impact my future chances of marriage? What can I do to redeem myself from this jungleepanaa? I have gotten std test for it and it is negative for all. Also, I have stopped this habit from quite some time.

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Hi, I am 28M. I feel like drinking on Saturday and would drink 3-4 beers and 2-3 liits and don't have drinking buddies so made up this plan. DM me if you want to do the same.

Hi, I am 28M. I feel like drinking on Saturday and would drink 3-4 beers and 2-3 liits and don't have drinking buddies so made up this plan. DM me if you want to do the same.

Hi, I am 28M. I feel like drinking on Friday and don't have drinking buddies so made up this plan. DM me if you want to do the same.

Hi, I am 28M. I feel like drinking on Friday and don't have drinking buddies so made up this plan. DM me if you want to do the same.