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I’m really struggling right now and just need to vent and maybe get some advice. I (19F) have been crying a lot these days because I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated with my mom. I love her so much and want her to rest, but being around her stresses me out to no end. For context, I’m the middle of three sisters. There isn't a strict hierarchy, but there’s definitely no equality either. My mom expects us to treat each other like we're the same age, but then completely flips the rules whenever it suits her. My little sister struggles a lot with social interactions, gets intimidated easily, and is a bit of a pushover outside the house. My mom knows this, so she acts super protective of her, backs her up in front of everyone, and thinks she's "too pure for this world." But because of that, my mom lets her get away with anything at home. she can literally swear at us and my mom won't bat an eye. The moment my older sister or I act out, suddenly it’s "you're older, you should know better." It feels like such an exhausting double standard. On top of that, my mom doesn't force us to do household chores because she wants us to focus on our studies. But I feel immense guilt watching her do everything alone. The problem is, whenever I step in to be a "good daughter" and help, she hands off every single chore that my sisters refused to do directly onto me. Because of this, none of us want to help her anymore we know if we offer an inch, she’ll take a mile. She works herself to exhaustion, but whenever I try to talk to her or ask her to rest, it feels like I’m talking to a brick wall. She never actually listens or tries to understand what’s going on with me. I feel trapped between loving her, feeling guilty for not helping more, and feeling completely resentful of how she treats us. It’s emotionally draining and I don't know how to navigate this dynamic without constantly breaking down. Has anyone else dealt with a similar parent dynamic? How do you set boundaries without feeling like a terrible person?

I’m really struggling right now and just need to vent and maybe get some advice. I (19F) have been crying a lot these days because I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated with my mom. I love her so much and want her to rest, but being around her stresses me out to no end. For context, I’m the middle of three sisters. There isn't a strict hierarchy, but there’s definitely no equality either. My mom expects us to treat each other like we're the same age, but then completely flips the rules whenever it suits her. My little sister struggles a lot with social interactions, gets intimidated easily, and is a bit of a pushover outside the house. My mom knows this, so she acts super protective of her, backs her up in front of everyone, and thinks she's "too pure for this world." But because of that, my mom lets her get away with anything at home. she can literally swear at us and my mom won't bat an eye. The moment my older sister or I act out, suddenly it’s "you're older, you should know better." It feels like such an exhausting double standard. On top of that, my mom doesn't force us to do household chores because she wants us to focus on our studies. But I feel immense guilt watching her do everything alone. The problem is, whenever I step in to be a "good daughter" and help, she hands off every single chore that my sisters refused to do directly onto me. Because of this, none of us want to help her anymore we know if we offer an inch, she’ll take a mile. She works herself to exhaustion, but whenever I try to talk to her or ask her to rest, it feels like I’m talking to a brick wall. She never actually listens or tries to understand what’s going on with me. I feel trapped between loving her, feeling guilty for not helping more, and feeling completely resentful of how she treats us. It’s emotionally draining and I don't know how to navigate this dynamic without constantly breaking down. Has anyone else dealt with a similar parent dynamic? How do you set boundaries without feeling like a terrible person?

I’m really struggling right now and just need to vent and maybe get some advice. I (19F) have been crying a lot these days because I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated with my mom. I love her so much and want her to rest, but being around her stresses me out to no end. For context, I’m the middle of three sisters. There isn't a strict hierarchy, but there’s definitely no equality either. My mom expects us to treat each other like we're the same age, but then completely flips the rules whenever it suits her. My little sister struggles a lot with social interactions, gets intimidated easily, and is a bit of a pushover outside the house. My mom knows this, so she acts super protective of her, backs her up in front of everyone, and thinks she's "too pure for this world." But because of that, my mom lets her get away with anything at home. she can literally swear at us and my mom won't bat an eye. The moment my older sister or I act out, suddenly it’s "you're older, you should know better." It feels like such an exhausting double standard. On top of that, my mom doesn't force us to do household chores because she wants us to focus on our studies. But I feel immense guilt watching her do everything alone. The problem is, whenever I step in to be a "good daughter" and help, she hands off every single chore that my sisters refused to do directly onto me. Because of this, none of us want to help her anymore we know if we offer an inch, she’ll take a mile. She works herself to exhaustion, but whenever I try to talk to her or ask her to rest, it feels like I’m talking to a brick wall. She never actually listens or tries to understand what’s going on with me. I feel trapped between loving her, feeling guilty for not helping more, and feeling completely resentful of how she treats us. It’s emotionally draining and I don't know how to navigate this dynamic without constantly breaking down. Has anyone else dealt with a similar parent dynamic? How do you set boundaries without feeling like a terrible person?

I scored 535/750 (pcb) in Cuet this year. I will go for an upgrade fosho. But if I don't get a good clg then too I'm thinking of going for jamia hamdard.

Any sorta advice is welcomed!!

I scored 535/750 (pcb) in Cuet this year. I will go for an upgrade fosho. But if I don't get a good clg then too I'm thinking of going for jamia hamdard.

Any sorta advice is welcomed!!

Preferably the ones that extend past the bum

Budget: 400 max for one

Would absolutely love if its available for an even lower price.

Location: delhi

For bsc courses?

19F, this ws my first drop year for neet, during the journey I realised that I didn't really wanna be a doc anymore and since then it's been a heck of a ride for me, I hv told my parents everything but they are quite reluctant to let me do my thing since Im still confused on what alternative course to pursue, Pls guide me guys, I don't wanna waste another year. I hv told them that I'll give neet next year along with a partial drop so that they can chill out.

My qualifications:

10th from CBSE, 94% (95 in both maths and sci, 97 in sst)

12th from CBSE too, 90% (pcb: 83 in physics, 87 in bio and 94 in chem)

Cuet 26 score: 534/750 in pcb and 193 in eng

My interests: Im kinda creative (sketching, diys, thinking outside the box etc) and tbh can do anything sci related so I want a logic based course (not heavy on memorisation).

Expectations: pay has to be 6lpa+ after doing post graduation.

Pls help

19F, this ws my first drop year for neet, during the journey I realised that I didn't really wanna be a doc anymore and since then it's been a heck of a ride for me, I hv told my parents everything but they are quite reluctant to let me do my thing since Im still confused on what alternative course to pursue, Pls guide me guys, I don't wanna waste another year. I hv told them that I'll give neet next year along with a partial drop so that they can chill out.

My qualifications:

10th from CBSE, 94% (95 in both maths and sci, 97 in sst)

12th from CBSE too, 90% (pcb: 83 in physics, 87 in bio and 94 in chem)

Cuet 26 score: 534/750 in pcb and 193 in eng

My interests: Im kinda creative (sketching, diys, thinking outside the box etc) and tbh can do anything sci related so I want a logic based course (not heavy on memorisation).

Expectations: pay has to be 6lpa+ after doing post graduation.

534/750 in pcb, and 193 in eng

Myquals: I got 534/750 in pcb and 193 in English In cuet.

19F and my heamoglobin level usually stays at 11g/dl for some reason.

I'm non vegetarian for context.

I feel like I'm probably the only person who thinks like that. For me desi culture is a mix of north indian+pakistani+Bangladeshi cultures. South indian culture is far too distinct to be clubbed together and probably leans closer to srilankan culture.

South india and Sri Lanka have their own thing.

For context I'm an indian muslim from lucknow.

I js wanna know how y'all perceive us especially those whose ancestors migrated from lucknow or somewhere around it.

Do you guys relate to us or does our culture seem foreign to u?