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Anyone else?

So fed up of my thinks short Asian eyelashes. Clusters messed up the length and left damage

So fed up of my thinks short Asian eyelashes. Clusters messed up the length and left damage

Discipline, I already know it’s something that can be trained, but what are some other things to do to help my narrative and self perception so I THINK as a disciplined and consistent person?

I’m a person who dead ass is such a bad Procastinator, I want to change

Genuine question. no judgement, is it possible to really like someone ONLY for personality even if the aesthetic may not be attractive to someone?

Genuine question as someone studying Psychology, sociology and english langit combined. main thing I'm struggling is English langlit, trying to redeem myself with my grades: AUC

I only feel the stress kick in when I’m in occasion with my family, I’m supposed to be relaxing, but then it kicks in to me that I wasted 2 months of my summer holiday. The feeling where I didn’t do work even though I said I would.
It’s impacted my grades, fucked yo my predicted grades with ACU Due to procrastination, I won’t feel the hit Until it’s a holiday, or getting driver to go out in job. Then I procastinate again and then the cycle just continues. Just like today, we were SUPPOSED to be out by like 9, I ended up getting stressed. Autistic 5 yr old niece kicks off and doesn’t want to go to school- delays time, time won’t get back, time I could’ve been studying but just didn’t.

I hate it because when I’m at home I don’t study, I doom scroll, Procrastinate even more and then when I’m around damily issues I feel that feeling hit in. I’m not doing anything on the plan where is aid I would do work at 8am. It’s now 10:04AM with tutroing at 4:00pm
I hate being in the cycle of being numb to overwhelmed and avoiding again

I cba doing the whole dramatized sob story - too fed up of it all. Got an alcoholic dad that only pisses me off from how superficial he is with validation and all this materialistic bullshit he Indulges in despite deep down not having any sort of identity or life without the alcohol i. at 12 being all optimistic and shit, wanted to get a psychology degree to fix him while silenetly resented who he is because of his lifestyle.

Now 17, I feel like he's just a waste of my time. Looking at him, I dont have any subjective opinion other than he's a man who got the dick in my ma so now I exist. He's nice to me. A people pleaser. I can like him finally to only get disappointed by the booze hes so proud to have.

I know its hard enough already to change someone as they can't do it unless they truly want to. But for those that made it possible, how did you manage it

As much as I despise his drinking, I'm am still his daughter than just wants him to be sober.

I'm tired

Is there even point in having hope

I get so pissed off, I don't actually know why. People report that when I am locked in I have the RBF, intimidating and I'm moody asf. Anyone else like this?

Just a genuine question. People report I get in an absolute mood when they try coming up to me and I'm studying or doing homework, and I do. I don't actually know why though or if that's a common occurrence for anyone else. Working me = fuck off don't talk to me/cranky me

Only today. I don't feel emotional but my my body is. My throat is tensing with that pit you have when you are anxious and I'm crying even though I don't know why. Im acting emotional but i Dont actually feel the emptions currently.

Anyone else have this?

Long story short, theres this girl I sat next to in psychology whi ended up disappearing for months and then came back in again. I had friends back in high-school who never came in, they got mocked at but They always had something going on in the background that made them avoid school. I found my classmates secret Tik tok account purely by accident one day on my fyp where she was expressing how bad her mental state was. She posted a lot on her how no one checked up on her because she was good at hiding it

I didn’t because we aren’t close like, at all and I felt she would’ve viewed me as weird. Though, those couple months ago, I was going to send her message a saying how I noticed she was absent (Since she sits next to me) and I was hoping she was okay, giving her context that I had friends back in the past who were absent due to challenging events. Not really specifying it. Giving her notes to catch up. I genuinely do wonder if I should’ve done it anyway but I feel guilty I didn’t.

I do still think about if it meant anything, but on the alt account I accidently found her post, I did comment a nice comment of encouragement thay she could make it through.

Genuinely though, was it a better idea that I didn’t send her an individual message? I felt it would’ve been creepy but idk

Was just thinking about my sociology teacher and how much respect I do have for her , when i was fucking up the most in year 12, she was the one who rewired my brain and put me back into accountability and was a teacher that I truly appreciated for being honest, but actually considerate with how its given- but with all the demands and mundanity of marking. How on earth do you guys manage?

I’m 17F tutor with the intentions of becoming a psychology or social science teacher. However, today I was observing as a new support tutor came in and how she was someone who I 100% could learn from. Authoritative, respected and could actually teach.

I teach year 6s maths and English, though maths is 100% my weakness and I haven’t done it in a while, however I struggle so much with being stern. I want to make an environment where the children won’t have the anxiety, or feel stressed out knowing they have tutoring on a Tuesday 4:30pm, as I myself remembering the anxiety I had, and tears I would shed at being told off.

However, It’s my accountability that I’ve been far too nice. The students don’t fear me, and a chatty box student of mine doesn’t really take me seriously when I do try to tutor her, not entirely taking in my instructions.

Instead of comparing myself to the new support tutor and ridiculing myself, I do henuinly want to learn so I can improve.

In sixth form I genuinely feel like I can’t do or work up for anything if it isn’t for someone else behind me, or I’m doing it for someone else. Because of it, I will straight up do jackshit and procastinate like hell.
I want and need to become more intrinsically motivated

In sixth form I genuinely feel like I can’t do or work up for anything if it isn’t for someone else behind me, or I’m doing it for someone else. Because of it, I will straight up do jackshit and procastinate like hell.
I want and need to become more intrinsically motivated

I’m fed up of being in this push and pull cycle of relapsing and daydreaming instead of doing the thing.
I’m fed up of daydreaming of a romantic partner that I keep dismissing it doesn’t exist.

I’m curious on the counter arguments to this question. There’s this Male acquaintance of mine in sixth form that has been coming for me for romantic advice. I’m a 17F, and he’s 18 (soon)

I notice this common pattern. I’ve noticed how he has a low sense of esteem which caused him to crave a romantic relationships so it fills an internal struggle with an external solution. May work within a relationship, but it isn’t entirely sustainable in my eyes.

He’s never been in a relationship and he has confessed to me how this feeling only roses even more when he sees a couple within his peer group, admitting to me how he feels if he doesn’t feel like he will ever get into one. He’s an anxious guy who compares himself a lot.

I told him how he should focus on himself more and pretty much what I’m questioning - to accept his struggles before rushing into a relationship out of scarcity. However, critiquing my own judgement, It goes back to the title of this post.

What do you guys think