Have yall found schema therapy to be helpful? How does it compare to DBT in your journey? What has it helped with?
I’m considering going back to DBT, but I’m curious if a schema therapy based program will be what’s for me.
Would anyone who is educated on/meets criteria for/is diagnosed with both be able to share their experiences or knowledge? Even the ugly or technical bits, if you’re open.
I’ve been connecting with a LOT of what I’ve seen on this subreddit. I’m diagnosed with BPD, and have been horrifically treatment resistant when it comes to shit targeted at BPD alone. Many of my struggles and aspects of upbringing..really do align with what I’m seeing on here and it makes me wonder as to whether AvPD could be in the mix or if it’s just an unfortunate combination of factors from various conditions.
I feel as if it may give me insight on my next steps, even if I don’t fully resonate.
I’m assuming she’s slightly underweight, but having a difficult time telling since BPs tend to be commonly overweight. 4ft long 14yo for reference
NOTE- aware of her scarring, not an active issue and healing well
Howdy! Does anyone have any reliable husbandry recs for vines? I know they’re very mild in potency, but other subreddits have failed me on this one
Fine with resources, individuals, communities etc
What size enclosure for a male turkey long arm beetle?
Trying to figure out my best next steps. I have BPD, decently far along in treatment but just enough so that I’ve moved into quiet BPD. I’ve done one round of DBT, a trauma centered program that didn’t do schema work, and an assload of one on one therapy. We’re currently trying to figure out whether another round of DBT (I struggle heavily with skills use) or targeting the core of shit with schema work would be in my best interest. I understand that yall can only advise so much as you’re not my personal therapist, and I do plan to talk with her soon. I would appreciate input and opinions!
Trying to figure out my best next steps. I have BPD, decently far along in treatment but just enough so that I’ve moved into quiet BPD. I’ve done one round of DBT, a trauma centered program that didn’t do schema work, and an assload of one on one therapy. We’re currently trying to figure out whether another round of DBT (I struggle heavily with skills use) or targeting the core of shit with schema work would be in my best interest. I understand that yall can only advise so much as you’re not my personal therapist, and I do plan to talk with her soon. I would appreciate input and opinions!
24 yo here. Been in treatment since I was 8. Tried nearly every med and every class of med save for novel options, tried so many forms of intensive and outpatient treatment, diagnosed w treatment resistant MDD, BPD and C-PTSD. Doing my second round of tms, idk if it’ll be enough. I am tearing my life down bit by bit and need to crawl out of this pit.
They’re recommending spravato, but I don’t exactly understand how it works or what it can do for someone- I particularly don’t understand the differences in spravato vs IV ketamine in impacts
Looking for PHP/IOP DBT programs that also work with PTSD. Open to a full DBT course with secondary PTSD treatment, or a trauma treatment center that integrates DBT. It can be difficult to judge the standard of care based off of available information, and the person I’m looking for can’t risk a poor fit.
Skyland trail, valor and recovery DBT aren’t options
Pls don’t respond with pessimistic personal anecdotes, looking for constructive discussion rather than mutual venting. I get this is a hard one for a lot of us, but I’ve sat in the weeds of it all too much for that rn
in bpd recovery. Used to be a toxic cliche. Got so, so significantly better that we genuinely thought I was in remission. Had a traumatic event happen that has me backsliding to the point where my relationship is at its limit. I’m still doing the work I need to to improve, going to higher level treatment, and accepting the likelihood of this ending. She doesn’t deserve this from me, and I respect if she chooses to leave. Doing what I need to curb the begging, letting it be her choice, and talking with my therapist about whether it’s fair for me to allow her to keep trying or whether I should leave for both of our sakes later this week.
What I’m struggling with is how to continue to believe in myself here, and how selfish thinking about that feels. I’m hurting others, people I deeply love yet it seems to circle back to how I feel at the core of everything. I know selfishness is a large problem of mine, and it makes forgiving myself enough to move forward difficult. It feel as if that act in itself is selfish and not adequately prioritizing the emotions and needs of the other party.
I have a life of patterns sitting in front of me that I’ve never felt I could escape until recently. I don’t want to give up hope, but it feels like who I can be is slipping from my grasp to a point where it’s an undeserved impossibility. Is there really nothing past constant, intense reminders of how my actions can impact people that can help with maintaining consistency and self trust? What works to keep one from doomspiraling? How do you not feel like a worthless idiot when you’re self aware of what you need to do but can’t seem to drive that nail in deep enough for it to stick?
Pls don’t respond with pessimistic personal anecdotes, looking for constructive discussion rather than mutual venting. I get this is a hard one for a lot of us, but I’ve sat in the weeds of it all too much for that rn
in bpd recovery. Used to be a toxic cliche. Got so, so significantly better that we genuinely thought I was in remission. Had a traumatic event happen that has me backsliding to the point where my relationship is at its limit. I’m still doing the work I need to to improve, going to higher level treatment, and accepting the likelihood of this ending. She doesn’t deserve this from me, and I respect if she chooses to leave. Doing what I need to curb the begging, letting it be her choice, and talking with my therapist about whether it’s fair for me to allow her to keep trying or whether I should leave for both of our sakes later this week.
What I’m struggling with is how to continue to believe in myself here, and how selfish thinking about that feels. I’m hurting others, people I deeply love yet it seems to circle back to how I feel at the core of everything. I know selfishness is a large problem of mine, and it makes forgiving myself enough to move forward difficult. It feel as if that act in itself is selfish and not adequately prioritizing the emotions and needs of the other party.
I have a life of patterns sitting in front of me that I’ve never felt I could escape until recently. I don’t want to give up hope, but it feels like who I can be is slipping from my grasp to a point where it’s an undeserved impossibility. Is there really nothing past constant, intense reminders of how my actions can impact people that can help with maintaining consistency and self trust? What works to keep one from doomspiraling? How do you not feel like a worthless idiot when you’re self aware of what you need to do but can’t seem to drive that nail in deep enough for it to stick?
I’m in bpd recovery. Used to be a toxic cliche. Got so, so significantly better that we genuinely thought I was in remission. Had a traumatic event happen that has me backsliding to the point where my relationship is at its limit. I’m still doing the work I need to to improve, going to higher level treatment, and accepting the likelihood of this ending. She doesn’t deserve this from me, and I respect if she chooses to leave. Doing what I need to curb the begging, letting it be her choice, and talking with my therapist about whether it’s fair for me to allow her to keep trying or whether I should leave for both of our sakes later this week.
What I’m struggling with is how to continue to believe in myself here, and how selfish thinking about that feels. I’m hurting others, people I deeply love yet it seems to circle back to how I feel at the core of everything. I know selfishness is a large problem of mine, and it makes forgiving myself enough to move forward difficult. It feel as if that act in itself is selfish and not adequately prioritizing the emotions and needs of the other party.
I have a life of patterns sitting in front of me that I’ve never felt I could escape until recently. I don’t want to give up hope, but it feels like who I can be is slipping from my grasp to a point where it’s an undeserved impossibility. Is there really nothing past constant, intense reminders of how my actions can impact people that can help with maintaining consistency and self trust? What works to keep one from doomspiraling? How do you not feel like a worthless idiot when you’re self aware of what you need to do but can’t seem to drive that nail in deep enough for it to stick?
Howdy! My mourning colony is FINALLY at a size where I’m ready to pull as feeders :)
I’ve loved vine snakes for years, and would love some reputable sources and can’t miss info on their husbandry! If possible id also adore some other suggestions- I’m fine with sp that are primarily/exclus WC as I ADORE working on cracking the code on breeding species others can’t figure out.
Experienced with mean ass snakes, true hots aren’t on the table
Looking to get a set of bedside tables as a project piece! What are your experiences with the models listed in the title? Both models of Kronören interest me! Curious about ease of staining/painting, sturdiness, longevity and more.
Thank you!
I was at a party last year. Group of girls were mean enough to me that I left in tears, and enough of dicks abt me being a trans guy (pre-T at the time, I was called a theyfab and had my appearance scrutinized along the rest of the shit. Weird transmasc vs transfem discourse has made it offline this group supposedly Actually Hates Trans Guys) that it set off a dysphoric spiral that nearly lead to me recloseting. I know this is disproportionate, and that’s the issue.
My hatred has been obsessive, particularly because these were (now former) very good friends of my partner and exist in her social circles. We’ve resolved our personal issues with that, her and I handle it as well as we can and it hasn’t been an issue with us. She’s realized they didn’t really respect her well, either. But it still loops in my brain. Bounces between rage, being a shit talking hater, and obsessive thought loops that lead to panic and isolation. I gave up on putting myself out there, I stalled in recovery, I don’t do anything anymore because I’m so freaked about it happening again.
Has this happened to yall?? Wtf did you do? I’m working on it w my therapist but it’s been very slow :( I don’t want to like them I just don’t want it to be consuming. Makes me feel like an icky freak I’ve gotten too much therapy to still be doing this shit
This little FREAK emerged from the substrate in my 20gal walstad during a rescape. He ‘walks’ with his barbs and swims like a giant detritus worm from hell. He’s around 3in long.
This freak showed up in my 20 gal walstad during replanting. What the fuck is he. He spent two days hiding inside of the joints of my grabbers before finally emerging. Bro is about 3in long. uses his barbs to ‘walk’ and swims like a giant detritus worm.
Buddy of mine is looking for someone to cut his hair, simple men’s cut. He’s sick of everyone somehow finding a way to feminize him, even though he’s close to passing and has a whole ass beard by now. they’ve somehow even pixie-fied a buzzcut before it’s insane. Any recs? Even if the person is used to cutting butches/studs without feminizing them. Thanks
I’ve got a relatively small chest, b cups, but my tissue is DENSE as hell. I’ve been trying to figure out taping for years and no method I’ve tried works, they just look bigger and more noticeable. Can’t pull em anywhere without it somehow seeming like I’m wearing a push-up-bra, and I don’t have the upper body bulk to contrast enough for it to be pec passing. Twinks don’t have fat muscular man tits LOL.
I feel so weird asking bc ultimately I know I’m still privileged over someone w a larger chest, but it’s really getting to me as I can’t bind. Anyone in a similar position have any links to tutorials that work?
I currently have an atlas beetle on my right thigh, and am trying to decide on a stag species for my left! Throw out some suggestions- trying to get proportions as symmetrical as possible to the atlas. Pincers can’t be too short, too long OR too wide.
Open to non stag suggestions as well, just no tri-horned scarabs