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My friends and i are planning a trip to Madeira, Portugal. I would love to hear fellow hijabi experiences if you have been there! But also what were the best destinations you’ve been to that you felt the most comfortable/kind locals. Surprisingly i had the most amazing time in paris last year and the french people were very kind to us. I’m born and raised in london so i guess my standards for kind locals are low 😂😂i should point that out

and feel pretty pathetic and embarassed. so i (23f) workin childcare and float around different rooms. Today i was in a room with this older lady let’s call her alice. Alice is known to be very bossy and kinda harsh and i’ve been working here a year so i’m very aware of that. However today we were pretty understaffed and she was in charge of the room and was understandably very stressed. However it felt like she kept picking on me for every little thing, and when she’d tell me off it’s not like she’d say it normally, she’d literally yell it and make me feel stupid and small. She wasn’t just like this with me but with literally every woman in the room, extremely harsh and disrespectful but everyone is so used to how she is everyone put up with it.

Later in the day, after she had gone home thankfully, i went to my manager and ranted. My manager said she’s sorry to hear that and that nobody has ever said these complaints about alice. she said everyone knows she can be bossy but nobody has anything bad to say about her and that this was the first. she said she wants me to be resilient to people that i find difficult to work with and i can’t avoid everyone i dislike basically.

After this i just burst into tears which i still feel humiliated about. I felt like she was kinda invalidating my feelings which i know she wasn’t she was just trying to be neutral and see both sides. I also felt like i was overreacting and shouldn’t have said anything and that since everyone else is used to her behaviour i should be too. After i cried my manager said that Alice will be observed on monday and that she will be spoken to by every member of management (i will remain anonymous).

The main thing is i was going to pursue a qualification where i would be based in the same room as Alice. The other women that work there are brilliant and are my close friends but i can’t stand to work with Alice. My manager said to not make a decision right now when im emotional but to come back to her next week and essentially let her know if i want to pursue that same qualification in a completely different room or just stick to my first agreement and stay in the same room as alice .

I’m sorry this is so long! and i feel like i haven’t scratched the surface lol. But i guess im asking what would you guys do?

Multiple times now one girl who is around 1 year and 6 months clearly comes in with the same diaper from the night before. The nursery opens around 8 and then the first nappy change is at 9 and two seperate occasions her nappy has been so ridiculously full with wee and poo. As in unlike any other child’s nappy. Multiple educators have commented that this is deff the same nappy she slept in. I feel awful for her and feel like this is something i should bring up to management but im also pretty new in childcare and don’t want to make a fuss over nothing so what do you guys think i should do?

…and feel pretty pathetic and embarassed. so i (23f) workin childcare and float around different rooms. Today i was in a room with this older lady let’s call her alice. Alice is known to be very bossy and kinda harsh and i’ve been working here a year so i’m very aware of that. However today we were pretty understaffed and she was in charge of the room and was understandably very stressed. However it felt like she kept picking on me for every little thing, and when she’d tell me off it’s not like she’d say it normally, she’d literally yell it and make me feel stupid and small. She wasn’t just like this with me but with literally every woman in the room, extremely harsh and disrespectful but everyone is so used to how she is everyone put up with it.

Later in the day, after she had gone home thankfully, i went to my manager and ranted. My manager said she’s sorry to hear that and that nobody has ever said these complaints about alice. she said everyone knows she can be bossy but nobody has anything bad to say about her and that this was the first. she said she wants me to be resilient to people that i find difficult to work with and i can’t avoid everyone i dislike basically.

After this i just burst into tears which i still feel humiliated about. I felt like she was kinda invalidating my feelings which i know she wasn’t she was just trying to be neutral and see both sides. I also felt like i was overreacting and shouldn’t have said anything and that since everyone else is used to her behaviour i should be too. After i cried my manager said that Alice will be observed on monday and that she will be spoken to by every member of management (i will remain anonymous).

The main thing is i was going to pursue a qualification where i would be based in the same room as Alice. The other women that work there are brilliant and are my close friends but i can’t stand to work with Alice. My manager said to not make a decision right now when im emotional but to come back to her next week and essentially let her know if i want to pursue that same qualification in a completely different room or just stick to my first agreement and stay in the same room as alice .

I’m sorry this is so long! and i feel like i haven’t scratched the surface lol. But i guess im asking what would you guys do?

Today i was in a room with this older lady let’s call her alice . Alice is known to be very bossy and kinda harsh and i’ve been working here a year so i’m very aware of that. However today we were pretty understaffed and she was in charge of the room and was understandably very stressed. However it felt like she kept picking on me for every little thing, and when she’d tell me off it’s not like she’d say it normally, she’d literally yell it and make me feel stupid and small. She wasn’t just like this with me but with literally every woman in the room, extremely harsh and disrespectful but everyone is so used to how she is everyone put up with it.

Later in the day, after she had gone home thankfully, i went to my manager and ranted. My manager said she’s sorry to hear that and that nobody has ever said these complaints about alice. she said everyone knows she can be bossy but nobody has anything bad to say about her and that this was the first. she said she wants me to be resilient to people that i find difficult to work with and i can’t avoid everyone i dislike basically.

After this i just burst into tears which i still feel humiliated about. I felt like she was kinda invalidating my feelings which i know she wasn’t she was just trying to be neutral and see both sides. I also felt like i was overreacting and shouldn’t have said anything and that since everyone else is used to her behaviour i should be too. After i cried my manager said that Alice will be observed on monday and that she will be spoken to by every member of management (i will remain anonymous).

The main thing is i was going to pursue a qualification where i would be based in the same room as Alice. The other women that work there are brilliant and are my close friends but i can’t stand to work with Alice. My manager said to not make a decision right now when im emotional but to come back to her next week and essentially let her know if i want to pursue that qualification in a completely different room which would make things difficult.

I’m sorry this is so long! and i feel like i haven’t scratched the surface lol. But i guess im

asking what would you guys do?

I know i shouldn't be negative but its hard not to be. Im 23 and have been learning to drive for 3 years now, starting off in a manual. The experience in the manual traumatised me so much i didnt drive for another year and a half and then took lessons in an automatic. Lets call this instructor Sophie. Sophie was great and we took a lot of lessons but when i took my test in the summer of 2024 i failed so badly, i got so many serious faults and it was clear i wasn't ready and shouldn't have taken the test.

Fast forward to mid 2025, i am with a new instructor and do some more lessons with him. I then end up taking two tests within a month of eachother. I failed them both but they were a huge improvement from 2024. Both examiners told me i drove perfectly except from a single serious fault in both respective tests.

Again, life got in the way and i didnt drive apart from the odd lesson here and there with my parents in their car. I decided to do a lesson this week with my old instructor, sophie. She was surprised to know i still hadn't gotten my license. She assesed my driving throughout the lesson and it was a disaster. She's a lovely woman and we get along but she straight up told me my driving is very poor and that i need to cancel my upcoming test in july. Im not mad about it at all and think she is completly right. She kept grabbing my wheel and i just felt humiliated but also like im a danger to the roads lmao and should just give up on driving. Not to mention the various theory tests, one of which has expired during this time and the next will expire at the end of the year.

Sorry this was much longer than i wanted it to be but im making this post to ask if it makes sense to just completely give up on driving or at least for a while. Im emotionally and financially drained. I live in london and could technically survive without a car. Im just sick of spending so much money on lessons and tests, and the fact that this is in an automatic makes me feel even more embarassed and that it would be safest to just not drive. I feel like ill never completly get the hang of it

So i’m 23 and feel like i have no idea what im doing with my life. I know im young but i feel like every day is the same thing and time is passing me by and im wasting my life away. I got a bachelors degree 2 years ago in politics and international relations but im now working in childcare. I know its not what i want to do with my life but nowhere seems to really be hiring + i dont really know what career i want. After working here for almost a year, ive decided to get my qualifications which could take anywhere from a few months to over a year. A part of me is thinking what’s the point since i know this isnt what i want to do but another part is thinking well let me get the most out of this experience whilst im here and that qualification will always be something to fall back on. I know this is a common feeling for my age but im just absolutely clueless on where to go from here and kinda feel like a failure if im honest. Anyone else the same age and have similar feelings?

So i (23F) have recently started looking for a husband and it’s already been a complete nightmare and i want to give up lmao. I know the replies will be you’re still young and have lots of time to find the right one but i honestly don’t think i’ll find the right person for me. Every guy i’ve spoken to has been incredibly weird or the attraction isn’t there. Or if the attraction is there for me, it isn’t there for

him etc. A part of me feels like i’m too emotionally unavailable for this but then another part of me feels like i just need to find the right one. But i’m already so drained🫩 and it hasn’t been long at all. I think im just gonna stop searching for a couple years, or is that a bad idea?

I (23F) have decided to start looking for a husband. I’m not super eager to get married right now but i know the search can take a while and i thought what’s the harm in getting started now. If i find someone perfect for me then alhamdullilah i think im ready to make that jump, if not, im not super desperate and it’ll give me a couple more years to find someone. The issue is i’ve got no clue how to really go about it. I’ve tried muzz but literally every person on there i’ve spoken to is so weird and it’s ruined my image of muslim men lowkey💀 i also come from a culture where arranged marriage doesn’t really happen and asking parents is kinda bizarre. I know i might need to resort to that of course but does anyone else have any suggestions and/or advice when it comes to finding a spouse? I’m scared to choose wrong lol🫣

So i (23F) have been getting to know this guy for marriage. He’s literally perfect and ticks every box but i mentioned one of my few dealbreakers was a guy who has had relationships/committed zina and he admitted he’s been in a relationship before. Im just confused on what to do. Like what if end things with this guy just to end up with another man who’s got a past but never admitted it. It’s still very early but yeah any advice?

( i have anxiety if it’s not clear🤣) So one of the toddlers in my room, his mother hasn’t picked him up in a while because she’s just given birth. She picked him up today and it was the first time i saw her in like a month so without thinking i gave her a hug and said congratulations. I have a good relationship with both parents but nobody at my place really hugs parents unless it’s serious. It was the spur of the moment and i didn’t really think but now im overthinking like what if she thinks it was super weird or something idk💀

There is a young guy that works at my nursery who has made several comments about the children’s appearance. These children are around 2 and would definitely understand if he said it loudly but he whispers it to me in a “joking” way. He has made a comment about one little girl having a moustache, one having no lips and today called a little girl fat? The first two i didn’t even fully register in my head since it was outside, loud and towards the end of the day. But the last one happened today and again, the children didn’t hear or anything but it really rubs me the wrong way and i think it’s disgusting to talk about literal defenceless toddlers this way. I should go to my manager asap right?

so i’m 23 and my cousin convinced me this eid to download muzz. i’ve only been on it for a few days and i already hate it💀like ive not even had a bad experience or anything alhamdullilah but it already seems exhausting and it feels like im putting myself on sale or something 😭😭. i know im young and im not desperate to get married but i thought there’s no harm in trying to find someone i guess? but it seems like all the guys that like me on there are so far from my type no offence. Should i just give it some more time or just delete my account 💀

So i (23) was born and raised in london to east african muslim parents. Im visibilty muslim and have lived here my whole life and have never even visited my country of origin. I speak the language a little bit but obviously nowhere near as fluent as i am in english. The past couple of years i’ve struggled a bit with my identity. Like i know since i was born and raised here i am british, but i often don’t feel british “enough”? I guess the rise of reform has amplified this feeling for me lol. But even though im visibly muslim and east african i identify a lot more with the uk than my parents country. It doesn’t mean i’m not proud of that part of me or that i don’t love it, just that i’m naturally going to gravitate towards the country i’ve spent my whole life in. Anyways i feel like im rambling 😂 and just wanted to know if any other second gen immigrants ever feel the same?

Ok so i’m 23, come from a working class background and had absolutely no handouts. I went to university and didn’t really work during then or sixth form (apart from a few odd agency shifts) . I’m currently working a job where im on a 0 hour contract but i take home a similar amount monthly (anywhere from £1600-1800). I’m working on trying to find a better job but this will do for now. I live at home with family and contribute only £150-300 to bills monthly, i also pay my phone bill and small things like spotify. I have a stocks isa that i am saving most of my money in and then investing £300 monthly in various stocks. I just feel like i should have more money and im not managing it properly. Even though i dont think i spend a lot at all, my money seems to just disappear lmao. Not looking for judgment just some practical advice/tips. Thanks for reading!

My driving journey began at the end of 2022. Since then i’ve failed 3 tests already and had countless exams. I can definetly drive and the last two exams i failed only by one major. I’ve not had lessons since last year because im tired of paying thousands to fail. i have access to my parents car and can practice with them. Anyways my point is that i have no motivation for my next test in july, and actually im dreading it. My theory expires in december and it’ll be the second time its expired 🥲so i know i need to pass before then but i just have this nagging feeling that ill fail again and i can’t take it. What’s worse is that im doing automatic. I feel like i should just give up since i live in london and can survive without a car. And like i said i cant emotionally cope failing again. Should i just cancel my 4th test and wait until im in the right headspace again? Or just practice with my parents again for the next two months and hope for the best

I’ve been at this particular job for almost a year. I’m on a flexible contract although it doesn’t feel like it since i pretty much work full hours. A couple months back i threw up at work and one of my managers was quite mean and insensitive and then proceeded to make me wait 2 hours before i could go home. I guess since then ive began to be disillusioned with the place. the worst part is im a graduate in a subject unrelated to childcare and i know this isn’t what i want to pursue but the job market is awful. I’m applying to everything i can and sometimes get to interviews but nothing else. I love the children and most of my coworkers but everything else about the job makes me very annoyed and i feel like ive become an angrier person in general. Everything were reminded about a rule or told a parent has requested something im just filled with rage and i know it shouldn’t be that way. I’ve cried multiple times and have decided to take next week off due to burn out but even that i’m

scared of my managers reaction. I guess i’m just looking for words of encouragement or anyone that feels the same