u/No-Photograph87234

14 yr

idk why but many time i text people it seems that they are just ignoring me. like i send something like asking about a repost they made or something like that, and it just goes like:

me:"something related to _____"

them:" respond"

me " respond, normally with a sentence or an observation, not a question most of the time"

them:" ghost"

i cant wrap my head about it, is it me or them, do they just dont care about me, or just bad timing or is that im just bad at texting? normaly this happens when i text people that im not close friends, so that probably it, we dont really know each other but i want to get close to them, but them this happens.

I want to text some people but idk, i didnt had any communication with them for some time, like 4 weeks, but at the same time, we dont know each other. Its like, we are two people who meet randomly or because of some friends, then we would be together the rest of the day( normally we would meet more at the end of the day, so we werent really that time together). probably the next or for some time we crossed paths and be together for a bit more but them summer hit, its been 4 weeks and i wanna text them but i dont know how. We dont really know each other well and dont talk a long time, its like temporary friends.

i want to see if i can connect with them, its mostly girls that this happens to me so i wanna see we it goes, so PLEASE HELP ME.

14 yr male.

there is this girl i meet last week of school, i want to text her but, we arent really close. More like we know each other and hang out for a while but that it, like temporary friends. i have friends on her class( might be useful)

I really want to text her and se were it goes, has its summer, texting is the only way of communication. the only thing i texted her has a repost she made, i made a comment, she responded, i responded has well, but then she just seen it the next day( probably went to bed and has its convo from 12h ago, she just ghosted, idk why but its not the first time it happens, convo going fine, she doesnt seen message, probably went went to bed, 12 hours later seen and no response) and thats it.

HELP ME PLEASE, sincerely me (sorry for english)

I want to text some people but idk, i didnt had any communication with them for some time, like 4 weeks, but at the same time, we dont know each other. Its like, we are two people who meet randomly or because of some friends, then we would be together the rest of the day( normally we would meet more at the end of the day, so we werent really that time together). probably the next or for some time we crossed paths and be together for a bit more but them summer hit, its been 4 weeks and i wanna text them but i dont know how. We dont really know each other well and dont talk a long time, its like temporary friends.

i want to see if i can connect with them, its mostly girls that this happens to me so i wanna see we it goes, so PLEASE HELP ME.

I want to text some people but idk, i didnt had any communication with them for some time, like 4 weeks, but at the same time, we dont know each other. Its like, we are two people who meet randomly or because of some friends, then we would be together the rest of the day( normally we would meet more at the end of the day, so we werent really that time together). probably the next or for some time we crossed paths and be together for a bit more but them summer hit, its been 4 weeks and i wanna text them but i dont know how. We dont really know each other well and dont talk a long time, its like temporary friends.

i want to see if i can connect with them, its mostly girls that this happens to me so i wanna see we it goes, so PLEASE HELP ME.

I want to text some people but idk, i didnt had any communication with them for some time, like 4 weeks, but at the same time, we dont know each other. Its like, we are two people who meet randomly or because of some friends, then we would be together the rest of the day( normally we would meet more at the end of the day, so we werent really that time together). probably the next or for some time we crossed paths and be together for a bit more but them summer hit, its been 4 weeks and i wanna text them but i dont know how. We dont really know each other well and dont talk a long time, its like temporary friends.

i want to see if i can connect with them, its mostly girls that this happens to me so i wanna see we it goes, so PLEASE HELP ME.

Trying to quit porn, so i was wondering if there was *alternatives* to it. Imagination is one of them but are audio porn/euroticas a good alternative? should i keep away from it or not? Also others like erotic literature, porn comics, etc.

14 yr male.

Im having dificulty starting/opening converastions through texts, mainly with girls. Most of the time it gets dry really fast, so im hoping to get some advice one that. idk if "hey, how u doing?" is good, most of the times it gets dry (possibly not the opener, but idk), so say to me if its good or bad and other possible openers, ways to have a reason to text and/or have a conversation and openers to just wanting to talk, and ways to flow the conversation(please). Keep in mind im 14, so openers more normal to teenagers.

14 yr male.

Im having dificulty starting/opening converastions through texts, mainly with girls. Most of the time it gets dry really fast, so im hoping to get some advice one that. idk if "hey, how u doing?" is good, most of the times it gets dry (possibly not the opener, but idk), so say to me if its good or bad and other possible openers, ways to have a reason to text and/or have a conversation and openers to just wanting to talk, and ways to flow the conversation(please). Keep in mind im 14, so openers more normal to teenagers.

14 yr male.

Im having dificulty starting/opening converastions through texts, mainly with girls. Most of the time it gets dry really fast, so im hoping to get some advice one that. idk if "hey, how u doing?" is good, most of the times it gets dry (possibly not the opener, but idk), so say to me if its good or bad and other possible openers, ways to have a reason to text and/or have a conversation and openers to just wanting to talk, and ways to flow the conversation(please). Keep in mind im 14, so openers more normal to teenagers.

14 yr male.

Im having dificulty starting/opening converastions through texts, mainly with girls. Most of the time it gets dry really fast, so im hoping to get some advice one that. idk if "hey, how u doing?" is good, most of the times it gets dry (possibly not the opener, but idk), so say to me if its good or bad and other possible openers, ways to have a reason to text and/or have a converastion and openers to just wanting to talk, and ways to flow the conversation(please). Keep in mind im 14, so openers more normal to teenagers.

Im gonna quit porn and *maybe* just masturbate ocasionaly with my imagination. but that got me thinking if there are "good" and "bad" fantasies. And if there are, which ones? is imagining getting a blowjob or being trapped in room with somebody and then fucking or just visualising a porn video you have seen are bad? and what are the good ones? and does the bad ones lead me back to porn?

14 yr male.
well im trying to quit porn, but idk if i should quit masturbation too.
Idk if i should keep or stop masturbating, if it will help quitting porn or even if its okay to keep doing it without porn, or even if i will never stop having urges.
Also, how do you masturbate without porn? So you imagine sexual fantasies in your head? but whats a "healthy" sexual fantasy? is imagining sex or a love story, or something like that the way or not? is imagining blowjobs and diferent positions possibly "unhealthy"? and the intensity of the fantasies, does it effects anything?
So in conclusion- Should i still masturbate after/while quitting porn and how do i masturbate without porn?

When going on reddit posts and instagram coments about the greatest drummers of all time, i never see Tomas Haake and it genuinelly blow my mind.
The guy is a machine i think he is the greatest drummer of all time. I dont give much credit for drummers with influence, if your an ok drummer but are in a very famous band your going to influence people for playing drums and its not connected to skill or anything, more like luck. so skill is i think the only way to compare drummers and Tomas is the best undeniably. What do you think?

NOTE: Im not saying that Tomas is bad or anything. from my experience i dont see many people talking about him on the more " mainstream" side of drumming, only the metal circles. On the metal scene he is a god no doubt, but im talking about the more popular side.

14 yr male.

im having trouble texting girls. i dont how to text them in the first place, whats the best way to text her and flow it to a conversation. im okay when she texts me and im good keeping the conversation alive but starting thats where i suck.

If you guys can share how do you start a conversation through text with girls, id apreciate it. also i think that "hey" and "how is it going" doesnt work that well for me, always gets me nowhere (from experience), but say if im wrong.

Thanks in advance and sorryfor bad english, not my native language.

NOTE: out of the blue, texting her to talk without much reason to speak to her, more to just talk.

14 yr male.

im having trouble texting girls. i dont how to text them in the first place, whats the best way to text her and flow it to a conversation. im okay when she texts me and im good keeping the conversation alive but starting thats where i suck.

If you guys can share how do you start a conversation through text with girls, id apreciate it. also i think that "hey" and "how is it going" doesnt work that well for me, always gets me nowhere (from experience), but say if im wrong.

Thanks in advance and sorryfor bad english, not my native language.

NOTE: out of the blue, texting her to talk without much reason to speak to her, more to just talk.

14 yr guy (me) and 13 yr girl.

ive had a crush on this girl for a while. we are in the same math tutoring class and we never talked. about a week ago she finally "acknoledge me" by playing volley on the luch break. we talked a bit( about a guy she been texting with that sended her a video of "messing with his wood" and then another girl that dates a guy i know) But got her insta,YAYYYY.

las night i texted her about the day i had( went to the office cause of something stupid i did and broke my phone the same day...) while i was telling it she was sending "ahahahahah"s many times then we kinda talked a bit, she asked me if i would buy an iphone and said no cause they suck and it went like 10 minutes. then i said that im going to sleep by saying" im gonna die for 8 hours" she replied the next morning with "ahahahah i dont", then i asked her if she didnt sleep but she sees the message but doesnt respond. its been 10 hours as of posting this. also school ended today(YEAH SUMMER!!!!!!!) so i cant see her in school, only form of communication is text.

So first:

1- what should i do? is she ghosting? and if so what?

2- how can i keep texting her.

stupid but i know, i know how to keep a conversation but starting...thats another thing, nobody text me so i dont have lots of experience starting. need ways to text her. i think that "hey" and "how u going" arent that good( im asking you guys, tell me if its good or not) and dont wanna pass that i want to text her for wanting to talk to her, kinda more like a reason to text her (tbh i dont really know what im writing in this part, but what im trying to say is that i dont wanna make her think that i like her), also remember that we technically met a week ago. Also if i fumble i would the laughing stock out of my math tutoring.

Thanks in advance and sorry for bad writing, english not my native language

14 yr guy (me) and 13 yr girl.

ive had a crush on this girl for a while. we are in the same math tutoring class and we never talked. about a week ago she finally "acknoledge me" by playing volley on the luch break. we talked a bit( about a guy she been texting with that sended her a video of "messing with his wood" and then another girl that dates a guy i know) But got her insta,YAYYYY.

las night i texted her about the day i had( went to the office cause of something stupid i did and broke my phone the same day...) while i was telling it she was sending "ahahahahah"s many times then we kinda talked a bit, she asked me if i would buy an iphone and said no cause they suck and it went like 10 minutes. then i said that im going to sleep by saying" im gonna die for 8 hours" she replied the next morning with "ahahahah i dont", then i asked her if she didnt sleep but she sees the message but doesnt respond. its been 10 hours as of posting this. also school ended today(YEAH SUMMER!!!!!!!) so i cant see her in school, only form of communication is text.

So first:

1- what should i do? is she ghosting? and if so what?

2- how can i keep texting her.

stupid but i know, i know how to keep a conversation but starting...thats another thing, nobody text me so i dont have lots of experience starting. need ways to text her. i think that "hey" and "how u going" arent that good( im asking you guys, tell me if its good or not) and dont wanna pass that i want to text her for wanting to talk to her, kinda more like a reason to text her (tbh i dont really know what im writing in this part, but what im trying to say is that i dont wanna make her think that i like her), also remember that we technically met a week ago. Also if i fumble i would the laughing stock out of my math tutoring.

Thanks in advance and sorry for bad writing, english not my native language