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repost so I accidentally deleted

Does anyone else have this issue?

To preface I get I'm a SAHM to a 6m old and am home alone a TON (hub works like 50 hr weeks) and I have the mental space to think or overthink.

I feel like my husbands just hardly interested in sex. I sometimes have to ask for days before he isnt too tired, or busy or have a task that needs doing first. And even then it feels like he is just humoring me to get me to stfu.

We used to do more, try more etc. Sex has gotten so samey and vanilla- like he even if he does one of the things we used to he stops it pretty quick, like handcuffs come off decently fast and he just seems a bit disinterested. After he is a little quiet and has felt off but I could be projecting.

I read some old messages from way back of his to an ex and it was sexting, which we did too at the start (together 5 yrs), and he was talking like he used to with me cant wait to have you type shit.

I sent him a dirty text today and his response was to come show me his phone and ask whats a tounge because I dont proof read and misspelled tongue. I just feel dumb, unsexy and like crying now and I feel bad cuz he is now thinking we will have sex a bit later after we eat and such but I want nothing to do with it now.

I told him he has a special skill for making me feel dumb and unsexy and he said he was flirting, which we usuallly tease alot to be fair, but I explained how when its his only response, he contested he had been after talking about having sex and in my head im like yea cuz I got visablly upset. We dont sext anymore and dont do "fun" sex, I cant turn him on like I used to, like I tried to do a sexy kiss and he laughed lastnight and said he is funny idky i missed it, maybe he made a face idk.

I know comparing is my big issue, Im working on it, my therapist has been on "vaca" (switching practices) so has been off for like 3 weeks.

to add, not to sound like a prick but I look great, I look just like I did before a baby (baby is 6m)

I'm allowed to complain

I'm allowed to feel stressed, I'm home with a 6m old everyday all day long

I'm allowed to hate pumping and living in 3 hr intervals.

I'm allowed to want to do something fun but not knowing what, but know it isnt chores and label it as "fun"

My husband just said to me "it seems like you don't even want to be a mom because all you do is complain"

which isnt true, yes I've complained lately baby has been a bit of trouble for me but laughy little joy for dad.

I have been telling him how lonely I am, depressed. but sure I just dont want to be a mom thats what it is. not that we never get to do fun stuff, that he works 50+ hrs a week, havent done a proper date in years, im just negative dontcha know.

I just wanna curl up and cry or die or w.e. idk

I just feel like I have to ask for days before it happens, its always "maybe later I wanted to get xyz done first" 3 projects later and oop the days over and we are out of time.

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Its so frustrating, he loves me and find me attractive but he cant help himself with projects, always come first and HAVE to get done before he can "relax" tho he never truely does lol.

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Espicially being 5m pp I worry he doesnt like me as much (I look exactly the same basically as prepregnancy)

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It just makes me feel undesirable. Am I doing something incorrect? I have given him bjs the last couple days and try to dress up for him lately but when I do and nothing happens especially wearing lingerie, makes me feel so stupid. to add He isnt avoiding it atleast not conciously, we had sex recently just its becoming rarer than ever before for us.

I F/27 husband is M/35 cant help but feel insecure after my baby, he is 5m. I know I am arguably thin but I dont feel it, I find my eating disorder flaring and I'm avoiding eating because I want to be thin and petite like before

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(this is also my husbands preference for "type" he is always telling me im sexy as is etc).

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I keep going through his phone trying to find anything (I dont) but I've gone through his old follows and found girls and gone through their pages, and it just gets to me in some ways, most I knew about already (djs, authors, type pages not thirst traps to be clear)

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I went and got screenshots to send him because he has always done better in conversations where I can provide examples of what I'm talking about. so I sent him some images just to try and explain myself and how I'm feeling insecure and like I'm not feeling sexy or his type or attractive enough for him sense he is amazing.

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my husbands now saying he is going to delete his Instagram, he has all his photography on there and uses it for Pokémon and such I dont want him to do that.

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I just feel like a raging pos for even brining it up, I just wanted to explain I'm not feeling attractive and feel my ed flaring.

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tl;dr

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I showed my husband pics of girls he follows, to try and explain how I'm feeling shitty and unattractive and my ed is flaring after a baby. He is now going to delete his account and I feel I should never have daud anything

what would you or did you like for your first fathers day? I'm wanting to make it so special for my husband who is an amazing dad but im at a loss.

what would you or did you like for your first fathers day? I'm wanting to make it so special for my husband who is an amazing dad but im at a loss.

just yelling into the void

I wish I felt like enough in any aspect of my life, I feel like I'm always not doing enough for my son, he is 5m old, I cant make enough milk all of a sudden too so we have been topping bottles with formula.

I wish I felt like enough for my husband, he loves me totally and has never made me feel unattractive if so not intentionally, but I just dont feel like his type anymore, he like petite girls and small chests like I used to be, im breatfeeding so am a little larger chested but not huge and I feel more squishy sense the baby, a healthy weight in reality but its hard, ive had an ed my whole life due to rhetoric from my parents so the need to be thin is real. I just dont feel pretty enough.

I wish I was enough for myself, I feel like a waste of life, I dont feel like I have many skills or even any hobbies. no friends. I never was able to work in my field I worked so so so hard to get my degree and paid for it alone through aid and scholarship because my parents kept bailing my brother out of not trying and cant afford to retake classes so nothing was left for me (he could do no wrong, i was always wrong but the good kid) I dont feel like im worth more than babies and housework and even then.

I do 99% of babycare being a SAHM, and most of the house work, like laundry and dishes, taking care of pets but I still get the rouge oh you forgot to this xyz or didnt do xyz right type comments.

just yelling into the void

I wish I felt like enough in any aspect of my life, I feel like I'm always not doing enough for my son, he is 5m old, I cant make enough milk all of a sudden too so we have been topping bottles with formula.

I wish I felt like enough for my husband, he loves me totally and has never made me feel unattractive if so not intentionally, but I just dont feel like his type anymore, he like petite girls and small chests like I used to be, im breatfeeding so am a little larger chested but not huge and I feel more squishy sense the baby, a healthy weight in reality but its hard, ive had an ed my whole life due to rhetoric from my parents so the need to be thin is real. I just dont feel pretty enough.

I wish I was enough for myself, I feel like a waste of life, I dont feel like I have many skills or even any hobbies. no friends. I never was able to work in my field I worked so so so hard to get my degree and paid for it alone through aid and scholarship because my parents kept bailing my brother out of not trying and cant afford to retake classes so nothing was left for me (he could do no wrong, i was always wrong but the good kid) I dont feel like im worth more than babies and housework and even then.

Does anyone have some doll clothes patterns, preferably historic in nature, they could share? I have a few dolls that dont have clothes and I'd like to make some but cant seem to find a good pattern especially for free (thats not ai slop). Thanks!

Does anyone have some doll clothes patterns, preferably historic in nature, they could share? I have a few dolls that dont have clothes and I'd like to make some but cant seem to find a good pattern especially for free (thats not ai slop). Thanks!