u/Rainbow_planet_1273

So I’ve been wanting this feature for years now and I have no idea how the discord team can make it happen, I also don’t know if it’s in demand enough to even incorporate it into the app

I have this main account I’ve had since 2017 and I have a lot of chat history on there

In 2024 some stuff happened with me irl that forced me to abandon the account and create a new secret one to talk to my partner and my close friends

I was too afraid to go back to the older one even though I missed it a lot and preferred it because it had a lot of my old chats and I like going back to old conversations when I’m lonely

But I feel like I have to choose between one or the other as a main account

I’m ready to go back to it but I also don’t wanna lose all the chat history I’ve had over the last two years with my friends and my partner

Neither do I want to lose ownership of the servers I’ve created

Both are my accounts, and both have chats with everyone I love

I just wish there was a way where I didn’t have to choose between the two accounts because they’re both important to me and it’s just an inconvenience to go back and forth between accounts if that was a suggested fix to how I’m feeling

I’m just wondering that if you merge two accounts could you possible do it? And how would it look like? Could you have the chats align from the day they stopped and continue like nothing happened? Could you import newer chats I.e the ones with my most recently newfound best friend onto the older account? Could this work in theory? How could the make it work? And would they even consider it? Because this would be a great feature to be honest

To be clear I don’t know much about app development or tech in general

So I have no idea if this is even possible

I’m just very curious and I’m very interested in discussing ideas with other people because it’s fun for me, and maybe if we have enough of a group of people who want the same thing we could bring it to discords attention!

In this post we will be sharing two perspectives of both our experiences with an issue we’ve been facing as a couple and how we both feel and we’re trying to find a common ground together because we’re struggling to figure it out on our own.

Perspective A, (19M, he/him)

Perspective B, (19NB, she/they)

PERSPECTIVE A

Hello. I (19M) am facing a pretty big problem with my partner (19NB (she/they)). She is of the belief that monogamy extends to the mind, and that thinking of other people or scenarios is the same as having an emotional affair with someone you know. I’ve always disagreed with this idea. To me, your own fantasies and ideas and thoughts are your own, and they don’t represent what someone does IRL. Now, for context, I have OCD, and a part of that for me is taking rules and guidelines way too seriously. There was a time where I tried to adopt my partner’s way of thinking, and it was horrible, I would mentally punish myself for the slightest “transgression,” and I was constantly questioning everything I did or thought. If there was a particularly steamy scene in a book or show, I would skip it and mentally chastise myself. I would avoid even casting a moment’s glance at a girl in public, because I was scared of feeling attraction. At some point, along with a lot of things changing in my relationship, this rule came to an end as well. For me, this was great. Slowly, I felt like I could operate in the world again without becoming a cheater. But for my partner, things are different. They want me to disclose and discuss the fantasies I have in my head, so that they feel involved and included. But this is unacceptable for me. The whole thing for me is that these things stay in your head. My mind is my only true sanctum. And besides, I think expressing every single thought would only cause problems. Thoughts are by nature uncontrollable. They go on and on whether you want them to or not, and they don’t follow any rules. Pulling my thoughts out and having them interrogated and dissected would be nothing but humiliating to me. Now, I also understand where my partner is coming from. I’ve had periods of intense anxiety and insecurity, and the idea that she might even cast a glance at someone would drive me insane. I’ve since grown out of this, but I know how all-encompassing this dread can be, and the term “pit in my stomach” is fitting.
 In the first year of our relationship, my thoughts and fantasies coexisted with my relationship, because I was hardly even thinking about them. I even remember reassuring myself by affirming the privacy of my mind back then. Once we put this under the spotlight, though, it seems like all hell has broken loose. My partner and I don’t seem to be budging on this. We each have our own ideas about what loyalty and monogamy mean, and we’ve decided to come here and ask anonymously for some third, fourth, etc. opinions. We’d appreciate any help.

PERSPECTIVE B:

Hello
I (19NB)(she/they) and my partner (M19) are facing an issue and have been for the past two years or so.
We met in 2023 and at first things were okay because i didn’t know about this and he didn’t know it was even something he should bring up

To clarify some things, I’m a very mentally ill person and i’ve gone through some severe trauma ever since i was 4 years old. I have many undiagnosed mental issues and i hope one day i can get a formal diagnosis but i can’t afford it at the moment. So while i wait for that to happen, i won’t sit around and wait, i’ll instead work on these issues myself. So far I believe it could be bpd, adhd, a small chance of autism but very unsure, and bipolar, but i still can’t tell. I deal with depressive episodes that last a long time and a lot of times i experience something very similar to a split on people i love dearly. Again, i have no idea what this is, it could just be a trauma response, but this is something i struggle with alot and it only recently calmed down because i finally got past a very stressful stage in my life, i.e highschool. I wanted to clarify because this is an important explanation to my experiences as a person and my emotional responses and why i act in certain ways. My partner agrees with my perspective on my undiagnosed mental issues and many close friends do too. I’m not excusing my actions by hiding behind a mental illness shield, i’m just explaining what’s wrong and why i might be this way.

One day, he confessed that he fantasizes about other people and fictional scenarios and that that’s something separate from our relationship.

To me, it’s not. To me it feels the same as watching porn. As emotional cheating, even. Because he sometimes fantasizes about real people too. We talked about this over and over and haven’t found any solution that works for us. At first i tried my best to accept things as they are
That he has his fantasies and I just don’t know about them and that I should just deal with it. But I can't accept it. It eats away at me. It haunts me every time I'm reminded of it and it genuinely breaks me. I can’t even handle the thought of it. We have a relatively healthy relationship. As healthy as two teens trying to work it out can be. We communicate as much as we can, we discuss things and are relatively on the same page on a lot of things such as the way of living, our future plans, etc. we’re very close, though I do want my partner to be closer to me eventually and close enough to communicate openly. I understand that my past actions make it intimidating to approach me but I've worked on this issue for a long time now and still I feel as though he doesn’t trust me enough. I’m doing what I can with the resources I've got.

I tried to incorporate it in our sex life too. I told him that if this is really something you can’t control then I wanna be a part of it at the very least because I feel excluded. I feel like he favours them or sees a lack in me he feels he needs to fulfill through fantasies. He says this has always been the case since before he met me and that he has always been like that. He said that his fantasies aren’t significant and that to him it’s just something he uses to get off and forget about but to me that’s similar to porn. And we both struggled with porn usage due to unsupervised internet access since we were children (and i being groomed and molested into using it) and we’re both very against the usage of it so we avoid it as much as possible. But to me this is the same as that. He says that he should be allowed to not police his own thoughts and that he shouldn’t have to share what’s in his mind and i agree to some extent
I’m not telling him to share every single thing
But I still wanna be a part of it and I still wanna be included.

I cannot accept it, it really hurts me, i feel really insecure and upset when i think about it
To me sexual stuff especially should be only between my partner and i, sex is really sacred to me, not for religious reasons, but for my own morals and ethics in general. It’s how i’ve always been, i hate hookup culture, i don’t agree with even thinking of looking outside your relationship for other people or even fantasizing about others, and i never do it and never have while with him.

He mostly agrees with me on the hookup stuff and sex being sacred, but he thinks that fantasies aren’t a part of that,when to me, they are.

I know this may seem insignificant but it’s affecting our relationship and affecting how we are together and i feel like neither of us have been able to get really comfortable around one another due to it.

Side note, WE ARE NOT interested in breaking up. We’ve known each other since we were teens and it was like we grew up together as a couple, and are genuinely perfect for each other except for this very issue and a few others that just need time to be worked on. I also want to emphasize that I'm not a quitter, especially in relationships, I’m a fixer. If I see something wrong I find a solution and make sure it’s dealt with. I don’t like holding things off either, I like doing it in the moment to get it out of the way and to ensure both parties are able to live their lives without something nagging them at the back of their mind. But this issue in particular has pushed us into a whirlpool of back and forths. We don’t fight, we don’t insult each other, when we have discussions like this, even heated discussions, we respect each other. *This is when I'm doing okay and I'm stable enough to speak about issues in the relationship, I’m not perfect.
I don’t leave relationships, they either end from the other person leaving or I’ve genuinely had enough or it just fizzles out and we grow apart.

Not here. I’m not leaving this man. If there's a solution, I'm finding it, even if it means learning to accept it slowly over time. But I wanna learn how because this is something I can’t even comprehend as normal. Nobody is ever gonna love him like I do or understand his needs like I do, and nobody’s ever gonna love and understand me the way he does. We’re not abandoning each other for this, we just want a solution. And advice from people who are in relationships, preferably with a similar issue.

We just want advice and steps on what we should do next because we’re both lost on this and have been trying to fix it on our own for a long time now. Thank you for your time, any advice is appreciated. 

In this post we will be sharing two perspectives of both our experiences with an issue we’ve been facing as a couple and how we both feel and we’re trying to find a common ground together because we’re struggling to figure it out on our own.

Perspective A, (19M, he/him)

Perspective B, (19NB, she/they)

PERSPECTIVE A

Hello. I (19M) am facing a pretty big problem with my partner (19NB (she/they)). She is of the belief that monogamy extends to the mind, and that thinking of other people or scenarios is the same as having an emotional affair with someone you know. I’ve always disagreed with this idea. To me, your own fantasies and ideas and thoughts are your own, and they don’t represent what someone does IRL. Now, for context, I have OCD, and a part of that for me is taking rules and guidelines way too seriously. There was a time where I tried to adopt my partner’s way of thinking, and it was horrible, I would mentally punish myself for the slightest “transgression,” and I was constantly questioning everything I did or thought. If there was a particularly steamy scene in a book or show, I would skip it and mentally chastise myself. I would avoid even casting a moment’s glance at a girl in public, because I was scared of feeling attraction. At some point, along with a lot of things changing in my relationship, this rule came to an end as well. For me, this was great. Slowly, I felt like I could operate in the world again without becoming a cheater. But for my partner, things are different. They want me to disclose and discuss the fantasies I have in my head, so that they feel involved and included. But this is unacceptable for me. The whole thing for me is that these things stay in your head. My mind is my only true sanctum. And besides, I think expressing every single thought would only cause problems. Thoughts are by nature uncontrollable. They go on and on whether you want them to or not, and they don’t follow any rules. Pulling my thoughts out and having them interrogated and dissected would be nothing but humiliating to me. Now, I also understand where my partner is coming from. I’ve had periods of intense anxiety and insecurity, and the idea that she might even cast a glance at someone would drive me insane. I’ve since grown out of this, but I know how all-encompassing this dread can be, and the term “pit in my stomach” is fitting.
 In the first year of our relationship, my thoughts and fantasies coexisted with my relationship, because I was hardly even thinking about them. I even remember reassuring myself by affirming the privacy of my mind back then. Once we put this under the spotlight, though, it seems like all hell has broken loose. My partner and I don’t seem to be budging on this. We each have our own ideas about what loyalty and monogamy mean, and we’ve decided to come here and ask anonymously for some third, fourth, etc. opinions. We’d appreciate any help.

PERSPECTIVE B:

Hello
I (19NB)(she/they) and my partner (M19) are facing an issue and have been for the past two years or so.
We met in 2023 and at first things were okay because i didn’t know about this and he didn’t know it was even something he should bring up

To clarify some things, I’m a very mentally ill person and i’ve gone through some severe trauma ever since i was 4 years old. I have many undiagnosed mental issues and i hope one day i can get a formal diagnosis but i can’t afford it at the moment. So while i wait for that to happen, i won’t sit around and wait, i’ll instead work on these issues myself. So far I believe it could be bpd, adhd, a small chance of autism but very unsure, and bipolar, but i still can’t tell. I deal with depressive episodes that last a long time and a lot of times i experience something very similar to a split on people i love dearly. Again, i have no idea what this is, it could just be a trauma response, but this is something i struggle with alot and it only recently calmed down because i finally got past a very stressful stage in my life, i.e highschool. I wanted to clarify because this is an important explanation to my experiences as a person and my emotional responses and why i act in certain ways. My partner agrees with my perspective on my undiagnosed mental issues and many close friends do too. I’m not excusing my actions by hiding behind a mental illness shield, i’m just explaining what’s wrong and why i might be this way.

One day, he confessed that he fantasizes about other people and fictional scenarios and that that’s something separate from our relationship.

To me, it’s not. To me it feels the same as watching porn. As emotional cheating, even. Because he sometimes fantasizes about real people too. We talked about this over and over and haven’t found any solution that works for us. At first i tried my best to accept things as they are
That he has his fantasies and I just don’t know about them and that I should just deal with it. But I can't accept it. It eats away at me. It haunts me every time I'm reminded of it and it genuinely breaks me. I can’t even handle the thought of it. We have a relatively healthy relationship. As healthy as two teens trying to work it out can be. We communicate as much as we can, we discuss things and are relatively on the same page on a lot of things such as the way of living, our future plans, etc. we’re very close, though I do want my partner to be closer to me eventually and close enough to communicate openly. I understand that my past actions make it intimidating to approach me but I've worked on this issue for a long time now and still I feel as though he doesn’t trust me enough. I’m doing what I can with the resources I've got.

I tried to incorporate it in our sex life too. I told him that if this is really something you can’t control then I wanna be a part of it at the very least because I feel excluded. I feel like he favours them or sees a lack in me he feels he needs to fulfill through fantasies. He says this has always been the case since before he met me and that he has always been like that. He said that his fantasies aren’t significant and that to him it’s just something he uses to get off and forget about but to me that’s similar to porn. And we both struggled with porn usage due to unsupervised internet access since we were children (and i being groomed and molested into using it) and we’re both very against the usage of it so we avoid it as much as possible. But to me this is the same as that. He says that he should be allowed to not police his own thoughts and that he shouldn’t have to share what’s in his mind and i agree to some extent
I’m not telling him to share every single thing
But I still wanna be a part of it and I still wanna be included.

I cannot accept it, it really hurts me, i feel really insecure and upset when i think about it
To me sexual stuff especially should be only between my partner and i, sex is really sacred to me, not for religious reasons, but for my own morals and ethics in general. It’s how i’ve always been, i hate hookup culture, i don’t agree with even thinking of looking outside your relationship for other people or even fantasizing about others, and i never do it and never have while with him.

He mostly agrees with me on the hookup stuff and sex being sacred, but he thinks that fantasies aren’t a part of that,when to me, they are.

I know this may seem insignificant but it’s affecting our relationship and affecting how we are together and i feel like neither of us have been able to get really comfortable around one another due to it.

Side note, WE ARE NOT interested in breaking up. We’ve known each other since we were teens and it was like we grew up together as a couple, and are genuinely perfect for each other except for this very issue and a few others that just need time to be worked on. I also want to emphasize that I'm not a quitter, especially in relationships, I’m a fixer. If I see something wrong I find a solution and make sure it’s dealt with. I don’t like holding things off either, I like doing it in the moment to get it out of the way and to ensure both parties are able to live their lives without something nagging them at the back of their mind. But this issue in particular has pushed us into a whirlpool of back and forths. We don’t fight, we don’t insult each other, when we have discussions like this, even heated discussions, we respect each other. *This is when I'm doing okay and I'm stable enough to speak about issues in the relationship, I’m not perfect.
I don’t leave relationships, they either end from the other person leaving or I’ve genuinely had enough or it just fizzles out and we grow apart.

Not here. I’m not leaving this man. If there's a solution, I'm finding it, even if it means learning to accept it slowly over time. But I wanna learn how because this is something I can’t even comprehend as normal. Nobody is ever gonna love him like I do or understand his needs like I do, and nobody’s ever gonna love and understand me the way he does. We’re not abandoning each other for this, we just want a solution. And advice from people who are in relationships, preferably with a similar issue.

We just want advice and steps on what we should do next because we’re both lost on this and have been trying to fix it on our own for a long time now. Thank you for your time, any advice is appreciated. 

In this post we will be sharing two perspectives of both our experiences with an issue we’ve been facing as a couple and how we both feel and we’re trying to find a common ground together because we’re struggling to figure it out on our own.

Perspective A, (19M, he/him)

Perspective B, (19NB, she/they)

PERSPECTIVE A

Hello. I (19M) am facing a pretty big problem with my partner (19NB (she/they)). She is of the belief that monogamy extends to the mind, and that thinking of other people or scenarios is the same as having an emotional affair with someone you know. I’ve always disagreed with this idea. To me, your own fantasies and ideas and thoughts are your own, and they don’t represent what someone does IRL. Now, for context, I have OCD, and a part of that for me is taking rules and guidelines way too seriously. There was a time where I tried to adopt my partner’s way of thinking, and it was horrible, I would mentally punish myself for the slightest “transgression,” and I was constantly questioning everything I did or thought. If there was a particularly steamy scene in a book or show, I would skip it and mentally chastise myself. I would avoid even casting a moment’s glance at a girl in public, because I was scared of feeling attraction. At some point, along with a lot of things changing in my relationship, this rule came to an end as well. For me, this was great. Slowly, I felt like I could operate in the world again without becoming a cheater. But for my partner, things are different. They want me to disclose and discuss the fantasies I have in my head, so that they feel involved and included. But this is unacceptable for me. The whole thing for me is that these things stay in your head. My mind is my only true sanctum. And besides, I think expressing every single thought would only cause problems. Thoughts are by nature uncontrollable. They go on and on whether you want them to or not, and they don’t follow any rules. Pulling my thoughts out and having them interrogated and dissected would be nothing but humiliating to me. Now, I also understand where my partner is coming from. I’ve had periods of intense anxiety and insecurity, and the idea that she might even cast a glance at someone would drive me insane. I’ve since grown out of this, but I know how all-encompassing this dread can be, and the term “pit in my stomach” is fitting.
 In the first year of our relationship, my thoughts and fantasies coexisted with my relationship, because I was hardly even thinking about them. I even remember reassuring myself by affirming the privacy of my mind back then. Once we put this under the spotlight, though, it seems like all hell has broken loose. My partner and I don’t seem to be budging on this. We each have our own ideas about what loyalty and monogamy mean, and we’ve decided to come here and ask anonymously for some third, fourth, etc. opinions. We’d appreciate any help.

PERSPECTIVE B:

Hello
I (19NB)(she/they) and my partner (M19) are facing an issue and have been for the past two years or so.
We met in 2023 and at first things were okay because i didn’t know about this and he didn’t know it was even something he should bring up

To clarify some things, I’m a very mentally ill person and i’ve gone through some severe trauma ever since i was 4 years old. I have many undiagnosed mental issues and i hope one day i can get a formal diagnosis but i can’t afford it at the moment. So while i wait for that to happen, i won’t sit around and wait, i’ll instead work on these issues myself. So far I believe it could be bpd, adhd, a small chance of autism but very unsure, and bipolar, but i still can’t tell. I deal with depressive episodes that last a long time and a lot of times i experience something very similar to a split on people i love dearly. Again, i have no idea what this is, it could just be a trauma response, but this is something i struggle with alot and it only recently calmed down because i finally got past a very stressful stage in my life, i.e highschool. I wanted to clarify because this is an important explanation to my experiences as a person and my emotional responses and why i act in certain ways. My partner agrees with my perspective on my undiagnosed mental issues and many close friends do too. I’m not excusing my actions by hiding behind a mental illness shield, i’m just explaining what’s wrong and why i might be this way.

One day, he confessed that he fantasizes about other people and fictional scenarios and that that’s something separate from our relationship.

To me, it’s not. To me it feels the same as watching porn. As emotional cheating, even. Because he sometimes fantasizes about real people too. We talked about this over and over and haven’t found any solution that works for us. At first i tried my best to accept things as they are
That he has his fantasies and I just don’t know about them and that I should just deal with it. But I can't accept it. It eats away at me. It haunts me every time I'm reminded of it and it genuinely breaks me. I can’t even handle the thought of it. We have a relatively healthy relationship. As healthy as two teens trying to work it out can be. We communicate as much as we can, we discuss things and are relatively on the same page on a lot of things such as the way of living, our future plans, etc. we’re very close, though I do want my partner to be closer to me eventually and close enough to communicate openly. I understand that my past actions make it intimidating to approach me but I've worked on this issue for a long time now and still I feel as though he doesn’t trust me enough. I’m doing what I can with the resources I've got.

I tried to incorporate it in our sex life too. I told him that if this is really something you can’t control then I wanna be a part of it at the very least because I feel excluded. I feel like he favours them or sees a lack in me he feels he needs to fulfill through fantasies. He says this has always been the case since before he met me and that he has always been like that. He said that his fantasies aren’t significant and that to him it’s just something he uses to get off and forget about but to me that’s similar to porn. And we both struggled with porn usage due to unsupervised internet access since we were children (and i being groomed and molested into using it) and we’re both very against the usage of it so we avoid it as much as possible. But to me this is the same as that. He says that he should be allowed to not police his own thoughts and that he shouldn’t have to share what’s in his mind and i agree to some extent
I’m not telling him to share every single thing
But I still wanna be a part of it and I still wanna be included.

I cannot accept it, it really hurts me, i feel really insecure and upset when i think about it
To me sexual stuff especially should be only between my partner and i, sex is really sacred to me, not for religious reasons, but for my own morals and ethics in general. It’s how i’ve always been, i hate hookup culture, i don’t agree with even thinking of looking outside your relationship for other people or even fantasizing about others, and i never do it and never have while with him.

He mostly agrees with me on the hookup stuff and sex being sacred, but he thinks that fantasies aren’t a part of that,when to me, they are.

I know this may seem insignificant but it’s affecting our relationship and affecting how we are together and i feel like neither of us have been able to get really comfortable around one another due to it.

Side note, WE ARE NOT interested in breaking up. We’ve known each other since we were teens and it was like we grew up together as a couple, and are genuinely perfect for each other except for this very issue and a few others that just need time to be worked on. I also want to emphasize that I'm not a quitter, especially in relationships, I’m a fixer. If I see something wrong I find a solution and make sure it’s dealt with. I don’t like holding things off either, I like doing it in the moment to get it out of the way and to ensure both parties are able to live their lives without something nagging them at the back of their mind. But this issue in particular has pushed us into a whirlpool of back and forths. We don’t fight, we don’t insult each other, when we have discussions like this, even heated discussions, we respect each other. *This is when I'm doing okay and I'm stable enough to speak about issues in the relationship, I’m not perfect.
I don’t leave relationships, they either end from the other person leaving or I’ve genuinely had enough or it just fizzles out and we grow apart.

Not here. I’m not leaving this man. If there's a solution, I'm finding it, even if it means learning to accept it slowly over time. But I wanna learn how because this is something I can’t even comprehend as normal. Nobody is ever gonna love him like I do or understand his needs like I do, and nobody’s ever gonna love and understand me the way he does. We’re not abandoning each other for this, we just want a solution. And advice from people who are in relationships, preferably with a similar issue.

We just want advice and steps on what we should do next because we’re both lost on this and have been trying to fix it on our own for a long time now. Thank you for your time, any advice is appreciated. 

I want help finding out what this dream means

My childhood friend and I were going home by an uber and we were talking
Her and I haven’t spoken since I was forced to leave our apartment complex in late 2019
We were talking but I can’t remember about what
And she had a hijab on her shoulders I believe
I think I asked her why she had that with her since she’s not a hijabi
And I think she said she can’t not please her parents?
And then out of nowhere there was like a huge amount of stars in the sky I hadn’t noticed till I looked out of the window
There was a meteor shower I think
But it looked way prettier than a regular one
With the colours of the northern lights
And as we arrived to my house the northern lights appeared
I live in the Arabian gulf, its boiling hot here so the northern lights have never appeared to me
I’ve never seen a meteor shower in my life either, not even on video, so to me this was so mesmerizing
And I was so amazed by it
I asked her if she wanted to watch the stars with me and she smiled that smile you give kids and said “sure”
We got off the uber and she had a hijab on
I never saw her in a hijab before and for as long as I’ve known her she never wore one
So seeing her put it on was very confusing
I asked her why she put that on and she just shrugged and said “it’s what I gotta do”
I was very confused
Of course her and her family are Muslim so it wasn’t like, Crazily confusing
And I did eventually accept it
But at first I was quite confused
Her and her family aren’t the hijab type, not even her mom wears it, so seeing her be forced to wear it was confusing and upsetting, but I didn’t say anything about it

And then in my dream we entered my house building after we watched the stars and I believe I was playing this video game that’s kinda like hitman but it has parkour
And you’re chasing this weird man
I have no idea what that was about
It was a pov game so it felt realistic but now that I recall it felt more like a game than anything

No idea what this dream could mean, any ideas?

As a Gemini I constantly find that no matter what I do I turn out to be right and others are wrong

I give out advice like it’s free candy when it’s the same advice people pay to hear from a therapist or a life coach

Idek why I bother tbh because I know my brain and my heart are worth their weight in gold, and I know that no matter how many times I tell people the right thing to do after they’ve asked me they turn out to be wrong due to doing what I told them NOT to do

Honestly it’s like watching a goldfish go back into a dark cave it just swam away from

Where it’ll be nothing but prey

I’m always right, and people always admit that I am, but they never listen

I wonder why that is. Anybody else relate?

Hello people, I’m a plus size person and I wear a 46 G bra size

I cannotttttt for the life of me find a bra anywhere where I live

I can’t trust online stores unless they’re reputable and I need them to be affordable because I’m broke as hell

Can anyone please suggest a website that is actually really great and affordable?

It has to have worldwide shipping too because I live in the Middle East-

Thank you <3

Hello people, I’m a plus size person and I wear a 46 G bra size

I cannotttttt for the life of me find a bra anywhere where I live

I can’t trust online stores unless they’re reputable and I need them to be affordable because I’m broke as hell

Can anyone please suggest a website that is actually really great and affordable?

It has to have worldwide shipping too because I live in the Middle East-

Thank you <3

I just have a lot going on rn
My best friend and I ran away from my parents house a few days ago
And we were both forced to go back home yesterday
We’re Arabs, and anyone who knows anything about Arab culture knows that women or Arabs aren’t allowed to move out of their parents houses till they’re married or till their parents die
We still left because we had money and some resources
We really thought we got away
It was a crazy time
We spent a whole month planning and we spent a lot of time preparing
Then we ran away Sunday night
And yesterday we found out they followed my best friend to his work and they cornered him and forced him to give up our location
They took him to my aunts house and they brought his mom, his aunts, and his cousin
And my parents and aunt were there
My family was a lot sweeter and loving about this
But his family wasn’t
They yelled at him and berated him
And they degraded him
His mom doesn’t have a job nor does she have an ID, and here you can’t live without an ID. You get deported if you don’t have one. She’s forcing him to sleep next to her
And she took his phone away
She gave it to the maid
And the maid has let him use it to talk to me
But I’m so worried about him
His mom is really abusive
She’s trying to force him to get procedures done on his body
She’s gonna make him get laser hair removal
And nose surgery because “his nose is too big”
He’s an afab, he’s trans, he’s 21 years old, and he’s being treated like absolute garbage
I’m grasping at any opportunity I can to find someone who will have a marriage of convenience with him
This isn’t to try and find someone
But please
If any Arab person who isn’t attracted to trans men is willing to help my best friend out and you both can leave the country together
I know other Arabs who have gone through this abuse will understand this and help if they can. Thank you.

I just have a lot going on rn
My best friend and I ran away from my parents house a few days ago
And we were both forced to go back home yesterday
We’re Arabs, and anyone who knows anything about Arab culture knows that women or Arabs aren’t allowed to move out of their parents houses till they’re married or till their parents die
We still left because we had money and some resources
We really thought we got away
It was a crazy time
We spent a whole month planning and we spent a lot of time preparing
Then we ran away Sunday night
And yesterday we found out they followed my best friend to his work and they cornered him and forced him to give up our location
They took him to my aunts house and they brought his mom, his aunts, and his cousin
And my parents and aunt were there
My family was a lot sweeter and loving about this
But his family wasn’t
They yelled at him and berated him
And they degraded him
His mom doesn’t have a job nor does she have an ID, and here you can’t live without an ID. You get deported if you don’t have one. She’s forcing him to sleep next to her
And she took his phone away
She gave it to the maid
And the maid has let him use it to talk to me
But I’m so worried about him
His mom is really abusive
She’s trying to force him to get procedures done on his body
She’s gonna make him get laser hair removal
And nose surgery because “his nose is too big”
He’s an afab, he’s trans, he’s 21 years old, and he’s being treated like absolute garbage
I’m grasping at any opportunity I can to find someone who will have a marriage of convenience with him
please
If any Arab person who isn’t attracted to trans men is willing to help my best friend out and you both can leave the country together
I know other Arabs who have gone through this abuse will understand this and help if they can. Thank you.

I’m an Arab, I have an Arab best friend and we’re both stuck in a very horrible situation. Our families are abusive, his is worse than mine, and we’re both trying to leave. His mom took his phone and his money away, and he’s only allowed to go to work and back home.

She’s trying to force him to get procedures done to his body like nose surgeries and all that bullshit, and she plans on starving him to make him lose weight.

She’s planning on taking him to Egypt for his surgeries. Please help us. My situation isn’t as severe as his is. We both need to leave. But him more so than me. His mother is more abusive than my parents and my family members. Although I’ve had my fair share of beatings and mental and verbal abuse, his is worse. She won’t let him sleep in his own bed, she has him locked out of his bed room and she makes him sleep next to her.

We live in Qatar and my best friend is a Qatari

We need your help to spread the word, spread awareness, and to please help ups find refugee programs that help people like us. We also would prefer if those programs helped us continue our education in Canada. I’m in my last school year and my exams are approaching, and my best friend is signing up to college in a few months. Would be greatly appreciated if there was an option to continue education there.

I just have a lot going on rn
My best friend and I ran away from my parents house a few days ago
And we were both forced to go back home yesterday
We’re Arabs, and anyone who knows anything about Arab culture knows that women or Arabs aren’t allowed to move out of their parents houses till they’re married or till their parents die
We still left because we had money and some resources
We really thought we got away
It was a crazy time
We spent a whole month planning and we spent a lot of time preparing
Then we ran away Sunday night
And yesterday we found out they followed my best friend to his work and they cornered him and forced him to give up our location
They took him to my aunts house and they brought his mom, his aunts, and his cousin
And my parents and aunt were there
My family was a lot sweeter and loving about this
But his family wasn’t
They yelled at him and berated him
And they degraded him
His mom doesn’t have a job nor does she have an ID, and here you can’t live without an ID. You get deported if you don’t have one. She’s forcing him to sleep next to her
And she took his phone away
She gave it to the maid
And the maid has let him use it to talk to me
But I’m so worried about him
His mom is really abusive
She’s trying to force him to get procedures done on his body
She’s gonna make him get laser hair removal
And nose surgery because “his nose is too big”
He’s an afab, he’s trans, he’s 21 years old, and he’s being treated like absolute garbage
I’m grasping at any opportunity I can to find someone who will have a marriage of convenience with him
This isn’t to try and find someone
But please
If any Arab person who isn’t attracted to trans men is willing to help my best friend out and you both can leave the country together
I know other Arabs who have gone through this abuse will understand this and help if they can. Thank you.

I just have a lot going on rn
My best friend and I ran away from my parents house a few days ago
And we were both forced to go back home yesterday
We’re Arabs, and anyone who knows anything about Arab culture knows that women or Arabs aren’t allowed to move out of their parents houses till they’re married or till their parents die
We still left because we had money and some resources
We really thought we got away
It was a crazy time
We spent a whole month planning and we spent a lot of time preparing
Then we ran away Sunday night
And yesterday we found out they followed my best friend to his work and they cornered him and forced him to give up our location
They took him to my aunts house and they brought his mom, his aunts, and his cousin
And my parents and aunt were there
My family was a lot sweeter and loving about this
But his family wasn’t
They yelled at him and berated him
And they degraded him
His mom doesn’t have a job nor does she have an ID, and here you can’t live without an ID. You get deported if you don’t have one. She’s forcing him to sleep next to her
And she took his phone away
She gave it to the maid
And the maid has let him use it to talk to me
But I’m so worried about him
His mom is really abusive
She’s trying to force him to get procedures done on his body
She’s gonna make him get laser hair removal
And nose surgery because “his nose is too big”
He’s an afab, he’s trans, he’s 21 years old, and he’s being treated like absolute garbage
I’m grasping at any opportunity I can to find someone who will have a marriage of convenience with him
please
If any Arab person who isn’t attracted to trans men is willing to help my best friend out and you both can leave the country together
I know other Arabs who have gone through this abuse will understand this and help if they can. Thank you.

I just have a lot going on rn
My best friend and I ran away from my parents house a few days ago
And we were both forced to go back home yesterday
We’re Arabs, and anyone who knows anything about Arab culture knows that women or Arabs aren’t allowed to move out of their parents houses till they’re married or till their parents die
We still left because we had money and some resources
We really thought we got away
It was a crazy time
We spent a whole month planning and we spent a lot of time preparing
Then we ran away Sunday night
And yesterday we found out they followed my best friend to his work and they cornered him and forced him to give up our location
They took him to my aunts house and they brought his mom, his aunts, and his cousin
And my parents and aunt were there
My family was a lot sweeter and loving about this
But his family wasn’t
They yelled at him and berated him
And they degraded him
His mom doesn’t have a job nor does she have an ID, and here you can’t live without an ID. You get deported if you don’t have one. She’s forcing him to sleep next to her
And she took his phone away
She gave it to the maid
And the maid has let him use it to talk to me
But I’m so worried about him
His mom is really abusive
She’s trying to force him to get procedures done on his body
She’s gonna make him get laser hair removal
And nose surgery because “his nose is too big”
He’s an afab, he’s trans, he’s 21 years old, and he’s being treated like absolute garbage
I’m grasping at any opportunity I can to find someone who will have a marriage of convenience with him
But please
If any Arab person who isn’t attracted to trans men is willing to help my best friend out and you both can leave the country together
I know other Arabs who have gone through this abuse will understand this and help if they can. Thank you.

I just have a lot going on rn
My best friend and I ran away from my parents house a few days ago
And we were both forced to go back home yesterday
We’re Arabs, and anyone who knows anything about Arab culture knows that women or Arabs aren’t allowed to move out of their parents houses till they’re married or till their parents die
We still left because we had money and some resources
We really thought we got away
It was a crazy time
We spent a whole month planning and we spent a lot of time preparing
Then we ran away Sunday night
And yesterday we found out they followed my best friend to his work and they cornered him and forced him to give up our location
They took him to my aunts house and they brought his mom, his aunts, and his cousin
And my parents and aunt were there
My family was a lot sweeter and loving about this
But his family wasn’t
They yelled at him and berated him
And they degraded him
His mom doesn’t have a job nor does she have an ID, and here you can’t live without an ID. You get deported if you don’t have one. She’s forcing him to sleep next to her
And she took his phone away
She gave it to the maid
And the maid has let him use it to talk to me
But I’m so worried about him
His mom is really abusive
She’s trying to force him to get procedures done on his body
She’s gonna make him get laser hair removal
And nose surgery because “his nose is too big”
He’s an afab, he’s trans, he’s 21 years old, and he’s being treated like absolute garbage
I’m grasping at any opportunity I can to find someone who will have a marriage of convenience with him
This isn’t to try and find someone
But please
If any Arab person who isn’t attracted to trans men is willing to help my best friend out and you both can leave the country together
I know other Arabs who have gone through this abuse will understand this and help if they can. Thank you.