u/Rainhailsnow_storm

it should be called “attractive privilege” or ”beauty bonus” because both men and women who are attractive receive this privilege.

pretty privilege makes it sound like only pretty women experience this phenomenon and that isn’t the case.

edit: yes men and women can both be called pretty and handsom. Generally handsome is reseeves for men and pretty for women. Of course exceptions happen. No one said they don’t.

If you’re honestly trying to tell me men and women get called pretty and handsome at the same rate. You are delusional.

before my edit, I didn’t even mention handsome and you’re going on about how women can get called handsome. So you’re proving my point.

attractive is bery gender neutral. Handsome and pretty while are objectively gender neutral, are not conventionally used that way I practice very often. Yes of course exceptions happen. This honestly goes without saying.

they never cheated on me, and they didnt have another supply when I got dumped. this is what makes me question if they are actually a narc.

apparently addiction issues can give people narcissistic traits and she may have just been an addict.

but I remember the love bombing. I remember thinkig “I feel like the most awesome person in the world. the amount of compliments I am gletting can’t possibly last.

then things were ok for a little while.

then the claiming to be an empath

the the selfishness and having to beg for my needs. Waiting for my turn.

Then the silent treatment.

then the criticism.

the the future faking.

then the making your life revolve around them. They won’t go to your events or anything about you. If they do they get drunk and ruin it.

rhen taking the future faking back.

then the criticism.

the not taking responsibility for anything.

the apologies I did get were confessions of them “being the worst.“ but still slightly better than beaters, cheaters, pedophiles, murders, and then them skightly better than these people.

then me asking if they liked me as a person and getting told they love me.

then begging for a compliment something they like about me. being told they don’t do that. It’s not them.

Then the dog whistling

openly Admitted she hung out with special and attractive people.

The being cheap with you but not anyone else.

the charm that seems so genuine. You still wonder if it is.

then the drunken hate, but not hate more like bringing up all your insecurities And confirMing them.

then the “you’re trying to change me.” by asking for my needs.

the the emotional abandonment while being ill

the no empathy

the trauma olympics. Something bad happened to you? At least this worse thing that happened to her didn’t happen to you.

rhen the accusations of you being a narcissist

then the drunken breakup.

then the no closure.

they never cheated on me, and they didnt have another supply when I got dumped.

but I remembet the love bombing. I remember thinkig “I feel like the most awesome person in the world. the amount of compliments I am gletting can’t possibly last.

then things were ok for a little while.

then the claiming to be an empath

the the selfishness and having to beg for my needs. Waiting for my turn.

Then the silent treatment.

then the criticism.

the the future faking.

then the making your life revolve around them. They won’t go to your events or anything about you. If they do they get drunk and ruin it.

rhen taking the future faking back.

the the criticism.

then me asking if they liked me as a person and getting told they love me.

then begging for a compliment something they like about me. being told they don’t do that. It’s not them.

then the drunken hate.

then the “you’re trying to change me.” by asking for my needs.

the the emotional abandonment while being ill

the no empathy

rhen the accusations of you being a narcissist

then the drunken breakup.

then the no closure.

I’m the one putting in all the effort. it’s been like that for years now.

I’m not resentful. I am taking a step back. If they don’t put in any effort, I am ok with that. I will let the friendship go and I will not feel sad about it.

I don’t mind being alone. I honestly just stopped caring. the realization was sudden. It’s been 4 days, and I haven’t heard from anyone. I’m surprised at how little I care. I don’t think I’m expecting to hear from anyine.

Maybe they wanted to dump me for a while now and didn’t know how to tell me. That’s all right. Its all good.

I don’t care if I don’t hear from my ex again, and honestly the fact that I don’t care makes me sad.

I know it’s weird. I kind of don’t want to hear from them again, but as the same time I feel sad that I stopped caring. we shared so so much together. I feel guilty. I feel almost sociopathic because I don’t know how tiu can go through that much together and then just not care.

We both went through multiple major life changing traumas together more than most people get in a lifetime. We also went through every major stress imaginable in the 3 years we were together. My ex keeps contacting me for a little bit and then blocking me And that hurts. So I honestly dont want to hear from her anymore, and I have blocked her. I got no closure , but I have accepted it and moved on. I keep getting contacted saying we had no closure, even though I begged for it. once a year I get contacted saying “we didn’t get any closure” when I try to say my piece or I call, I get blocked.
I don’t want to hear from them anymore because getting blocked hurts more. I have finally just permanently blocked them. Somehow I can’t get around to blocking and deleting their number. I feel too guilty doing it even though it’s the right thing to do.

But it makes me sad that I have moved on. I know that’s the goal, and I don’t want to get back together , but I am just sad that I moved on. maybe it’s stupid but it’s how I feel.

I’m sure there are more low waste options. these are just the ones I know about.

Feminine hygiene product: diva cup (they make a disc.) this has saved me lots of money.

laundry detergent: Nellie’s. I boufht a 5 gallon pail with 1100 loads. Ite good for high efficiency washers. this has saved me so much mone.

Dishwasher detergent: Nellie’s. Their dishcubes are very low waste and work very well.

Toothpaste: change. (I use attitude toothpaste. because change is a little too expensive for me. ) But if you feel this is worth it for you, then by all means.

shampoo/conditioner: jack 59. Most shampoo conditioners bars I have tried are crap, but this one is legitimate. I grt a salon quality shampoo/conditioner for a very reasonable price.

toothbrush: Nada. you only change the toothbrush heads. The forever aluminum handle is a little in the pricier side. But its one of those thing that will eventually pay for itsel in the long run. The heads are a very good quality toothbrush And if you buy in bulk the unit price is only $3.50. This isn’t a bad price for such a great toothbrush.

Razors: hensons. This is a double edged safety razor that hat uses a steel blade for the razor. this didn’t take long to pay for itself, and it’s very low waste. I keep the dull blades in a reused frozen fruit bag. when it gets full I take these and my old batteries to be properly recycled. I love it!

dental floss: green beaver. The floss is biodegradable and therefore compostable. The packaging is also low waste.

Sunscreen: etee. This comes in compostable/biodegradable pods where you fill up a glass jar (you can buy one or use one you already have.)

face cream: rocky Mountain soap compan: once you’re fonsished your face cream, you can bring it back to the store. They wash it out at the factor, and refill it, and resell it. You can’t mail these back.

liquid hand soap: naturebee: this comes in a tablet, you put it in your dispenser and add water.

Liquid hand soap: Rocky Mountain soap compan: you can take your liwuid hand soap refills tot he store where they wash them out, and reuse them for resell.

bar hand soap: this is also low waste. so many good Canadian brands.

stain remover: Buncha farmers, this bar has saved me money. A bar is about $3 and lasts a long long time. It’s a different way to remove stains off your clothes rsther than spray and wash, but it works great.

dish soap: naturebee. For about 3.50 you can get a little pouch full of powder. You add the powder to your old dish soap container, add water and let it sit overmouth. I always make an extra one, so I always have it in hand. It’s about the same price as any other dish soap, just low waste. It’s also sulfare free.

Alcohol: Rig Hand Distillery: I save the bottles of alcohol this comes in. I bring them to the distillery where they take them, wash and refill them. I usually go when I’m heading out that way. Last time I took 16 bottles back and got a free bottle.

they make vodka, gin, and “baileysIrish cream” called Double Double. It is my favourite and it is so much better than baileys.

of course this works if you ever make your way to the Edmonto/leduc area, or if you know someone going. The company has a very nice red on site. It is a cool place to check out.

all purpose cleaner: myni; this is like blue land it comes in a tablet form, you add it to your old bottle and add water. this is about $2.60 a tablet so it’s cheaper in the long run.

Toilet bowl cleaner; myni: this comes in a solid tablet, you put it in the toilet, it dissolves, and you can clean. It’s cheaper than buying liquid.

body wash: nature clean: you could just use a bar of sap for this but I use nature clean. It’s a Canadian company where 99% of everything is made in Canada. So I’m not sure why these bars are made in the USA. i wrote the company to ask and didn’t get an answer. they are still a Canadian company though and low waste. this is cheaper than liquid body wash.

hopefully that helps.

I am born and raised Albertan. I am from rural Alberta where I was born and raised.

I love Alberta. it is a beautiful place, with lovely and kind people.

I live downtown Edmonton now, and I don’t own a car. I can’t drive due to medical reasons and I walk/take public transit to get around because of this, I have lost count of the number of times I have seen people overdosed on the sidewalk. it always gives me hope that there are multiple people stopping to help. whether it’s giving them another dose of narcan, or whatever. It lets me know people from Alberta are compassionate people.

Albertans are not evil. clearly. It’s hard to understand why we keep voting what we do. It makes me want to leave.

I can count on one hand the amount of times I have been catcalled.

I can count on one hand the amount of times I have been asked out by someone I didn’t know, like on the street.

it just doesn’t happen to me that often, yet women complain about it a lot. am I just ugly?

we would become an American territory, without the ability to vote. our resources would be taken and we would be give nothing back.

that’s exactly what would happen, and it has already happened to a place.

everything except my floss, which I will switch over to.

toothpaste: attitude

sunscreen: green beaver

toothbrush: Nada

toilet paper: purex

razor: hensons razor.

hand soap: Rocky Mountain soap company

Body wash: nature clean

shampoo\conditioner: Jack 59

deodorant : Attitude

female hygiene: diva cup

face cream: Rocky Mountain soap company

my cleaning supplies are all Canadian:

Laundry detergen: Nellie’s

stain remove: buncha farmers

all purpose cleaner: naturebee

Dishwasher detergent: myni

Dish soap: naturebee

I feel proud of this. I don’t like supporting unilever, proctor and gamble, Colgate palmolive etc or other oligopolies any more than I have to.

of course not all men are the same. but as a general rule…. I don’t understand this saying.

they are more likely to be colour blind.

they have more trouble differentiating between subtle shades of the same colours.

they have trouble finding things right in front of their face.

men have trouble matching stuff

they won’t notice a hair cut or a new outfit unless it’s dramatically different.

women tend to notice details more than men.

i think women are the more visual creatures in general. I am a very non visual woman and it’s 99.9% of the time women pointlong out to me stuff I missed. Men honestly usually agree with my assessments, or struggle with the same things I do and so this is how I know! I’ll tell you even as a non visual woman I am still more visual than an average man.

I have met one or 2 exceptions who are extremely visual. I’m not saying this is a bad thing. I’m just saying they’re not visual for the most part.

I wish that saying would go away and retire quietly in a remote fishing village where there are no telephones.

30 to 40-% percent of people can not turn plant based omega 3 fatty acids LDA into DHA.

Is there actual proof that this particular group of people can turn omegs 3s into DHA from their algae supplement? I actually don’t know and I am legitimately asking.apparently the algae creates its own DHA, and that is how the fish get DHA. But we do not have the same digestive system as a fish. I can’t find anything these supplements work. I know the Jains did not eat fish and did not have this supplement on hand for many years. I know the Jains ate dairy from cows that grazed on grass. but Even dairy omega 3s are ALAs. How did the Jains do this?

one of the side effects from DHA deficiency, are anger and irritability, which honestly might explain why so many people in this community are….well… you know.

stepping stones is a charity that helps trans people. I made a one time donation, of $50 and I put it under Danielle Smith and the ucp party’s name. She does get notified, and I hope it helps her realize people do care about her scapegoats.

is there a way to help them realize I care about her other scapegoats people on AISH too?

If you have any tips I’m not doing, please let me know. most of my waste happens in the kitchen it seems, and if you can get it to be less wasteful at the grocery store you’re doing well.

egg cartons- which I give to the food bank donation box to be reused When I’m done with them. (I compost egg shells) I would love to donate my egg cartons to a local personwho sells eggs, and then keep getting reused and re-donating them. I wonder if I could go to thr farmers market for this.

beans, canned pumpkin/ canned tomatoes - I wash the tins out and recycle them.

yogurt: I wash out and recycle when I’m finished with it. I buy the biggest container I can find to use less plastic. If you don’t go through that much yogurt, you can freeze it.

bread bags: I save them for dog poop bags, or for pipping bags.

olive oil: I get my bottle refilld from evoo.

frozen fruit and vegetable bags: I reuse these to put compost fertilizer in, (I compost and it creates a fertilizer) or to put kitty litter in, I reuse them for used battery bags or general storage, or I reuse them to freeze stuff in Instead of buying glade freezer bags.

leafy greens container: I have no choice. I have to buy containers of these and wash them out and recycle them later. Or sometimes I have to get them in a bag. I’m not sure how to reduce this waste.

stuff I get from bulk bins and fill my own containers/reusable produce bags, and fill them at home in my container and create no new waste: oats, chia seeds, hemp hearts, lentils, barley, nuts, spices, baking soda, baking powder, flour, sugar, chocolate chips, bakers chocolate. Labelling the containera is important.

stuff I bring containers for and get from behind the counter: shrimp, (chicken breast) I recently started going more vegetarian So less chicken breasts.

fruits and vegetable: I buy these whole (pineapple, melon) and cut them up myself. I compost the rinds.

fruits and vegetable: I buy them from “bulk section” of the fruits and vegetables. I don’t put them in any bags or anything. I just let them free in my cart.

muffins/cakes cookies: I make my own. but pillsbury cookies you buy in a roll seems to be less wasteful then the tin/ box cookies if you’re too busy to make scratch ones. even a boxed cake is less wasteful than buying one from the grocery store wrapped in plastic etc.

cheese: I buy it in large blocks and cut it or grate it myself. Except for feta. it seems I have to buy it in a little container. I wish there was a way I didn’t have to do it.

soup stalk: i buy it in buillon cubes.

popsicles: I make my own out of frozen fruit, maple syrup, plain yogurt and lemon juice.

lemon juice: I buy the biggest containers of lemon juice I can find, I recycle them afterwards. I would buy lemons but I don’t go through them fast enough and so they would go bad.

Maple syrup: I get the biggest container of maple syrup I can find so it’s a little less wasteful. I recycle it when im finished with it.

Olives/ capers; I buy these in glass jars, I wash out and reuse the glass jars. For the capers jars I bring them to the reuse centre when they take them.

Berry containers: I basically just switched over to frozen fruit bags and reusing the bags.

juice: I don’t buy juice.

milk: if I do I try to buy it in the smallest milk containers so it doesn’t go bad, because I hardly use milk. if it does go bad I compost it.

pasta; I buy it in cardboard boxes and recycle the boxes. I would love to start making my own.

pasta sauce; I make my own from canned tomatoes in tin cans and I recycle the tins afterwards.

ice cream: I go to a local creamery, and I get them to fill up my mason jar.

ice cream cones: I bring an old bread bag to the creamery, and buy waffle cones. they fill up my bag.

any more tips? please let me know.

first I’m going to start off by saying I have never worked in the sex industry. Honestly I am not attractive enough for that.

women who make a killing doing only fans or are sugar babies are really hardcore judged and I would like to know why….. why is using what you have going for you so wrong?

if you’re really smart, no one says “hey it’s bad to use your brains to get ahead.”

if you’re really strong no one says it’s bad to use that to get ahead. (Maybe if you use it against other people against their will; people will say this is bad, but if you work a labour intensive job nobody puts that down unless they are an elitist assshole.)

if you have a skill no one says it’s bad to make money from that skill.

Why is it ok to sell your body in a blue collar job, or to sell your brain for your knowledge or a skill?

But it’s wrong to sell yourself for sex or (only fans case) not even sex?

Usually men are the ones creating cults.

usually these men are straight for the most part, due to their harem etc.

why do they always tell women to dress in ugly and modest clothing?

you would think they would want them to dress in bikinis all the time or something? Instead women usually wear prairie dresses down to their ankles and their hair in ugly hairstyles?

why?

I put chia seeds in my oatmeal made with quick oats, berries, maple sugar and hemp hearts. it’s a nutritious breakfast and I honestly don’t feel hungry until supper time. so I eat a lighter lunch. It has helped with weight loss.

I can pretty much get everything in Canada for this meal but I am not sure about the chia seeds.

I am low waste. I get everything from the bulk section and I fill my own reusable bags and fill up my containers when I get home So I save in using plastic bags.

I know the bulk barn has chia seeds, but it doesn’t say where they are from.