u/Waste-Reality7356

hello, I'm afraid to ask for help regarding what happens at work.

I'm told to go to HR or to call the manager of my manager but I simply can't.

I trusted people but too often I asked for help and was dismissed and not taken serious.

I also lost confidence in myself. People offered to be there but they often also leave.

Right now I would need to talk to a lawyer I guess, or atleast to HR but I simply don't know what to do.

I wanted to ask for clarification and talk with the team about the harrassment and bullying but what use would it have when the manager participates in it?

I'm also asked to describe the incidents and tell them exactly what happened but what is when I struggle to find words?

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hello,

I just was verbally racist attacked.

I was walking in a street amd saw someone sitting at the ground. I immediately backed off and took distance by walking away. They were.two guys and the one who just lay on the floor and got on his feet and said:

"fuck off. Fuck off,.immediately"

"Out of which hole did you crawl?"

"just straight out of the bush."

" I will beat him down. He, her, they, I don't care"

".f*ck.off. I told you to fck off".

I kept walking away,

I didn't say anything.. but I was thinking about doing so. But I knew that as a woman, I'd be weaker. So I shut my mouth but I'm very disturbed for getting insulted for just walking on the street.

It wasn't a good idea to start working full time again. I had to decide if I'm going to wash my clothes for work or buy groceries and I chose closes over having enough food.

My weekend lasted NOT long enough for me to recover from the stress. 🥺😭

Hello, I've started a new job and I've never entered a place with so brutal, intense and personal bullying.

I could go into detail, but can't. It's just that I'm feeling extremely lonely and isolated because I'm often times getting bullied and octracised by other women.

I actually saw all of this coming, but somehow wasn't able to say no - maybe I should have done that.

Because the work conditions are so demanding and the commute is so long I'm hardly able to buy groceries or wash clothes.

I also have to deal with a coworker who is extremely draining.

Its my second week and everytime you make a mistake it gets gossiped about. But never when the person is there.

The women also seem to be very competitive and react annoyed when I ask questions.

I live in Germany and I saw a lot. But I never experienced that kind of hostility.

I think I never experienced this and I guess there is also a different issue at play.

I cannot even talk in german subs about the problem because I feel so alienated

I'm also irritated by the level or misogyny in that workplace. The draining coworker called a young girl ugly. She isn't ugly at all. That girl left the company as well as there are other coworkers who have been sick for a long period of time.

He also already told me all of his problems, debts etc

My problem is that I'm also loosing contact to the healthy connections in my freetime because I'm seriously shocked and disturbed.

I'm also disturbed because I had a bad gut feeling from the very beginning

Just need someone to listen.

hello,

I don't need you to help me. I guess it's just something I have to admit to myself.

I'm in my 30es, I was raised in Germany and I'm unable to put my life in a few sentences. Maybe because I don't like being vulnerable. Because I was bullied for being me.

I've just started a new job and it has been a nightmare. I've never been to a place with so much open racism. Not only racism, but also badmouthing and gossiping. I guess a little gossiping happens at every work place, but I've never encountered gossip to be so mean, so personal and so brutal.

I'm on of the few women and the "queen bee" seems to dislike me. It's okay.

But I'm kind of at a loss.

Because I've spend so much time getting hired, only for it feeling like a desaster.

I've also lost a friend and missed other important deadlines.

I'm at a loss because I've trusted people, but often time I got used and manipulated.

I can't talk with anyone about it, but could have avoided a lot of problems if I only had set boundaries, if necessary with the protection of lawyer.

I was adviced to leave Germany, but here is still part of my family. And my selfesteem is at a low.

How should I trust someone again, how can I trust myself again?

I'm so hurt

sorry for alI of that being over the place. Have a nice day and take care.

I don't want to list all of my struggles and problems, I'd just want to know whats the point of living when no one likes you?

Not sure where to post this, but lately reddit makes me feel incredible lonely.

It's about posting and not being seen, or commenting and not receiving a reply. It's also about not understanding certain decisions. It's cos of the post history getting called out and used and words being easily twisted.

I really don't know why I am spending so much time here.

Hi, neet on and off. I myself agreed to going back to the workforce in a couple of days and I'm freaking out.

I regret not asking to delay the start date and due to poor time management and procastrination I'm trying to get everything ready for my first day at work.

Last minute. I wonder if my choice was right, the work starts extremely early. It's a 180 as I'm a night owl.

trying to repost.

hello

I feel unwell where I live. Yesterday I got insulted by a stranger on the street. The neighborhood has changed. I don't know if it's a me problem, but I'm met with a lot of hostility in Germany lately.

I'm experiencing a mental health crisis, while I have no support.

Crisis hotline tells me to see a doctor or therapist, but my problems or "symptoms" are the result of the constant micro aggressions.

My one friend just abandoned me. I told her everything about me and now she left. I didn't realise for a long time she wanted distance.

I'm hurt and don't know how I can trust again, because of getting hurt so often.

I also have a big problem regarding a job.

I feel very scattered and as if my intuition is gone.

Hi todsy I'm just exhausted by trying to go to an event or buying some food. I think it has to do with the rudeness of a lot of people. Also that women find me often times suspicious as I'm always alone. Also, I often get misunderstood as 'shoplifting' and staff will follow me around. I think I can't deal with the skeptical stares and the look of ' what do you want here?'

I thought it would be a good idea to go outside, but it never is and its always exhausting.

I'm now wondering what I should do and blame myself for being stuck in this place and country.

I'm about to start a new job, but am already failing badly.

I also have adhd and somehow it just got worse over the years. I'm not sure what I'm looking for. Maybe some understanding...

don't know where to go or whom to turn to

Couldn't get a proper dx so I cannot even say, maybe I'm autistic.

My thoughts always jump to SI because living where I live is just painful.

Yesterday I talked with crisis hotline and I said I wish I had been more grateful, but I feel so alone in dealing with my problems.

I'm a chronic procastrinator, my apartment has become a mess. I just don't know what to do. I wish I could be different.

Maybe I shouldn't have left the door, but idk I felt confident enough.

I have a problem regarding a job.

Maybe someone has some encouraging words. ?

I've became very dysfunctional. Also forgot to eat because I forgot to buy groceries and was too tired last evening.

I wonder if I should ... Idk just reaching out into the void

I tried to buy some food but somehow got afraid and another shop is 1 mile away and the other one opens in 30 minutes idk

I see no escape in it. I only talk to AI or random people on reddit.

If a contact arises in RL I sabotage it by being irresponsible.

I have no access to health care and can't translate my pain in ICD symptoms.

Today I missed another appointment with someone who could help me.

i don't need advice.

I would need someone who is present with me, but no one wants to be present with me

I just had an appointment with a therapist but it was overwhelming as I just quickly booked it but somehow we didn't address my issue or the reason why I reached out to him.

My life is rly just chaos and fixing it doesn't work.

Why? I just read a story of a wife who gets emotional and financial abused by her husband. She lost her apartment, had to go back to her parents, while her husband asks her for money and insults her and lives in their apartment.

There are too many stories like this and I'm tired of everything what is expected of women.

Also, I don't give af about becoming "pretty". It means nothing.

I just want loving and caring relationships and to be treated well and with care.

I'm hurting. And I need help. But no one is gonna save me

I also make very stupid choices and struggle to stand up for myself.

I'm avoiding a lot, I used to talk to crisis hotline but realised they cannot offer the support I'd need.

My problem is that I'm not part of the society where I'm living anymore and have no access to proper medical treatment right now. I also did a mistake by ordering groceries online, cos now I'm stuck waiting for them to come. Ugh.

I'm wasting my days and I feel a little bit hopeless. I'm also afraid to go outside after I've been bullied. That friend who cut me off often times defended the people who'd be mean to me or aggressive and I don't know how I've become so dependent on her.

It sounds stupid, but when I was trying to ask for help, I also sabotaged it because they reminded of the emotional abusive persons.

I'm afraid to ask for help, because the lady offering help overwhelmed me a bit on a first call.

I also feel stupid for ordering groceries and wish I didn't do it yesterday.

Just makes me wanna lay in bed and I feel ..I just feel like a failure and since the 'cut off' I feel even more lost and unworthy.

I'm in my 30es and extremely isolated. Wrong meds, no access to health care.

I got a job offer but have been rescheduling my starting date several times, because out of insecurity and irresponsibility.

I'm in a major depression and I thought about postponing the starting date. Also I asked them to reduce working hours.

I was thinking about postponing the starting date in order " to get my ducks in a row" but I'm not doing much with my free time.

Some months ago I thought about studying but with the state of my health, I'm not in a place to do so anymore unfortunately.

But I'm afraid of the joboffer and wouldn't say their working rules are nothing I'm used to and it would be a dramatic change.

On the other hand: I can try to adjust and give it a try.

I won't be able to do further job interviews.

So it's my last resort to push me out of a slump

not sure how .. I don't know what to write anymore

I'd need help but..can't get it.

Low self worth, etc

hello,

a close friend ended the friendship with me. She didn't wanna be my support system anymore. I felt like I made progresss and that...it doesn't matter.

She knows that I do not have anyone else and since that I'm having very mixed feelings. Today I dreamt of her and was begging to stay with me but the friendship wasn't healthy at all and I neglected myself for her to stay.

She knows that I often get bullied and am harrassed and despite understanding her reasons for not wanting to be a therapist friend I feel left alone and struggle to make sense of it all.

Who am I now? I'm unwanted by everyone.

Can anyone help or say something?

I feel exceptional lonely since a friendship break up. I wouldn't say I want to give up but I'm confused about my goals now and feel like I lost all direction.

I don't know how to spend the days. I'm just tired and annoyed.