u/copperbrownred

Hello hello,

I was curious about this as it’s completely spot on for me! I was raised non-religious with some Catholic influence, then became interested in religion/attending church on my own and eventually became engaged to/married a reformed Protestant from a strict reformed Protestant family (yes it was a rough mix up at the start)

I have Jupiter in 9th house in Sagittarius and I somehow always attracted the ‘black sheep’ son from the religious family who was a bit more of a wildcard and dated outside their own religion lol.

I am now reformed Protestant myself and go to church weekly :) but I’m also spiritual, like astrology and love learning about other believers/important religious people such as Rumi.

What is this like for you?

Hey girls,

I would really appreciate some insight / someone to talk to about this subject. I’m feeling very vulnerable so please be nice to me as I might cry otherwise haha

I’m still very young (in my twenty’s) but going into law has been a mistake for me from the beginning. I enrolled into law after joining a friend of mine at their uni courses introduction day and I thought it wasn’t ’too bad’ (I wasn’t someone who was ready or looking forward to university. Ever since I was young I feel like I’ve been behind in big developments (I also have adhd and autism) and I didn’t know what to do or what I wanted to do so I chose what my friend chose so that atleast I wouldn’t be alone). I started law and I flew through my bachelors without doing any work really. This isn’t meant as a flex, as it made me feel very uncomfortable in my profession as I feel like I didn’t learn enough.

During my master degrees, I had a switch up as I realised that this profession is about grades and my C-grades wouldn’t be enough. I worked really hard, isolated myself, and graduated cum laude in two very tough niche market area’s. This also came from a major place of self hate, proving myself to my former teachers who bullied me that I can actually do it (I have a tax law and a public administrative law degree in environmental law).

Graduating cum laude blessed me with being able to develop a high functioning career quickly. I’m currently in a senior role already and I earn a very high salary (approximately 2,5-3 times the average monthly income here and I’m from Western Europe) but I’ve never felt more unhappy and burned out. I also can’t get myself to do the work, I work maybe a few hours a day before being burned out and I feel so guilty about it. I am a disc yellow person, while law is such a blue profession. I am not good at being precise, focusing on details and administrative work. I can do it but it depletes me and I make mistakes. I dream of being an entrepreneur (I have so many creative business ideas) or even a hairdresser, a health and lifestyle coach, a chef, walking around and doing something with people, healing them, listening to them, seeing those who feel lost. I would therefore consider being a mediator but I feel like it’s so hard to get into.

6 months ago I went into a job search spree and I tried to enroll in a different working field, but again and again the recruiters came back to me with
‘But why not work into law, we have great jobs for you in that department but not in any else because your profile doesn’t fit’

I feel so stuck that I’m considering just quitting and seeing where it goes. I feel like life will provide a way, a path, if I am for once saying no myself and walking away. If it helps: I’m (about to be) married, my rent is low, I could take a pay cut but I would have to look into my health costs (but tbh I think I need so much acupuncture because I’m so deeply unhappy and distressed)

If you read the whole thing: thank you so much! I would love some advice, a hug or some words of encouragement to leave.

Vragend omdat ik gisteren iemand niet een klein stukje, maar echt kilometers lang over de vluchtstrook zag rijden en over een afgesloten rijstrook, nadat er een ernstig ongeluk was gebeurd en alles stilstond.

Zelf dacht ik dat je hiervoor vrij snel een boete zou krijgen, maar nu denk ik dus van niet?

Like for real. I think it overtakes how ugly I feel when I’m sitting at the hairdressers and looking into the mirror.

Hoihoi,

Ik had pasgeleden een bijzondere situatie en ik vroeg me af wat jullie hiervan vinden. Op een locatie was ik (vrouw, in de 20) nog niet zo lang aanwezig dus ik had een kennismaking met een collega (man, in de 40/50 als het uitmaakt).

Ergens in het gesprek over van alles en nog wat van werk vraagt hij opeens: ‘ja en hoe is jouw thuissituatie eigenlijk. Heb jij een vrouw? Huisje boompje beestje.’ (ik ben zelf een vrouw).

Dus ik zo: huh?

Hij: wordt heel rood en begint nu te stamelen van: eh ja nee ja partner, man kan natuurlijk ook.

Dus ik zo: vraag je nou indirect of ik gay ben.

Hij wordt nog roder. Het werd echt heel ongemakkelijk dus ik ben maar ergens anders over begonnen en het gesprek was daarna relatief snel klaar, maar wat vinden jullie hiervan? Ik vond het erg bijzonder. Snap het vooral ook niet echt.