u/helge-a

I have tried to post to r/AskaRussian and r/languagelearning and neither of those subreddits allow this. I am a bisexual man with a boyfriend and I am learning Russian. In a perfect world, these two things would be completely irrelevant to each other, but the experience I just had shows me I need to address this. 🙄
I use an app called HelloTalk, a language exchange app. I made a Russian friend who is learning English and we had our first call where we introduced ourselves. We shared details about our lives and I mentioned I live with my boyfriend and things got very awkward and he said he does not agree with the “western” LGBT ideology. Should I put a rainbow flag in my profile or something to filter out the people if I am going to be interacting with Russians on a regular basis?

I use an app called HelloNative to help others with their english in exchange for help with my russian. I organized my first video call with a guy from Russia and he said he would like to immigrate to an english-speaking country. When we talked about the US, he said first and foremost "I don't want to move their because of LGBT". I asked him to explain what he doesn't like and he said he doesn't like that people force their opinions on others and that people think two men together is normal. He wants to make weekly calls with me and I said "I'd like to do that too but you should first know I am a bisexual man. I respect your beliefs but if this is an issue with you, obviously you need to find another language partner. I even have a boyfriend." and he said "No, I don't care about that. When can we call again?"

What would you do? The answer "block him and find another accepting partner" is a simple but unsatisfying answer to this problem. No, I don't tolerate bigotry and I have next to zero patience for it after growing up with homophobic family members, but my dad taught me an extremely important principle that these kinds of people won't be any closer to understanding me (an LGBT man) if I shut them out. Maybe I am giving it too much thought. It's not my job to tolerate stupid shit like this but you never know what friendship can do for people and their beliefs. Fundamentally I cannot change anyone but extending an olive branch is better than nothing.

I was on the way home from a long weekend of traveling and I matched with this really beautiful bi guy heading the same direction as me. We spontaneously decided to hangout and I planned to give him a tour of my favorite city as a nice gesture. He was chatty and very excited to get to know me.

He let me shower at his hotel which immediately turned into both of us showering. Afterwards, I said “Hey, how about we slow down and I give you that city tour, we eat, and afterwards we can come back and have some fun? Sometimes when I finish, my energy levels drop and I don’t feel like myself” but he wanted to so we ended up having sex anyway. No complaints haha.

It was the most intimate sex I’ve had in a long time. He said such sweet things about me and my body and I felt extremely comfortable. Huge rugby type with blue eyes. We had good chemistry. He finished and I could immediately tell he felt different. We headed out for food and I stopped him and said “Hey, I can tell you’re much more quiet. Are you ok?” and he said he just felt very tired from so much travel. We planned on me staying the night because it’s an hour journey more for me to get to my small town, it’s late, and it’s cold but he said he needs a good night’s rest. We didn’t do the city tour, I just went home in very cold, windy weather and got a taxi home because no more busses were running. I know it sounds pathetic but it made me cry a little. I knew we were gonna hookup but I didn’t expect to be treated like that.

My dad was a very stubborn and hateful person at times and I had vowed to not grow up to be like him. Nevertheless, I notice I am developing a resentment towards muslims and I’m concerned about this snowballing into something much more negative later.

After the attack at Pride in Berlin, Hamburg (my city) reached a record number of visitors for Pride, likely because many knew we needed to demonstrate that love trumps hate. But I didn’t fail to notice that in a city completely full of muslims, there were no hijabs in sight. Anywhere.

I am asking myself the fundamental question of tolerance and why should I defend muslims when it’s clear they will not defend me. There was a large queer-christian group during the parade and christians with signs like “God loves you and you and you…” but no muslim. Why are we “coexisting” when it’s one-sided?

I’m a bisexual man and I’ve had enough of it. It’s amazing the boundaries that other men will cross when it comes to dating and sex. You give an inch, they go a mile. I went on a date from Tinder on the weekend and we had a great time. I informed him that I tend to take things a bit slower in comparison to most of the gay men in the dating scene. I said I’d love to hangout again and cook food at his house. I’m literally hinting at wanting to be in his private home and to see where it leads and off he starts with being extremely flirty. These disgusting lustful glances and overt touching or getting in my space. I told him it’d be appreciated if he slowed down, I just wanna enjoy the evening together and it got to a point where I just left.

This is not an exception, this is many men. I have experienced this multiple times.

Hello. I’m a first year radiology tech from Germany. While waiting on some friends to pick me up from the train station on Saturday, an ambulance showed up. I am formally trained as an EMT (Rettungssanitäter) but I never rode in ambulances and just used the qualification to work with intellectually disabled individuals.

I was suspicious why the two EMTs decided to bring a defibrillator with them while exiting the vehicle and I checked around the corner. That’s when I saw them bring the person down to the ground and begin compressions. I threw my stuff to the side and jumped in. I grabbed gloves and assisted with breathing and then did chest compressions when one of medics could not do anymore.

It lasted about 5 minutes until the paramedics and Notfallärztin (Emergency Doctor) arrived. I said “You guys have this?” and threw the gloves out and washed my hands. Only after all the adrenaline was gone have I noticed how this has affected me.

It has made me feel like an emotional sponge. I am doing clinical rounds in xray right now and when very sick patients show up, I feel like I absorb their feelings and I suddenly feel the same tightness in my chest when I realized “Oh my god, I’m about to kneel down and push into this man’s chest wall.” I will be speaking to the crisis counselor at our hospital tomorrow and have told my teachers about this as well as medical professional friends. I just feel like I should be over it by now.

I got certified as an EMT-B 2 years ago and then worked in a different field and fucked off to a new country. My training became irrelevant. Then yesterday I did CPR and breathing for the first time alongside two EMTs on a real patient and I still have a lot of adrenaline.

Yes, I’m doing mentally just fine. I am aware feelings and thoughts all show up possibly later. I have friends and family in medicine that I’ve leaned on. (Asking for more ketchup in a restaurant scares me more than chest compressions). Any recommendations to recenter myself?

I’m based in Niedersachsen and helped 2 Rettungssanitätern with Reanimation at a train station. When the 2 paramedics showed up, so came 4 people in vests (I think they were blue?) and kind of stood around the perimeter of the scene observing. They had no medical equipment or clothing on, just these vests. Who were they? Does anyone know? When they had enough personnel, I went back to where I was going.

I visited the doctor 4 months ago and wished for a physiotherapy Überweisungsschein due to pain in my back that goes along my neck and around my head. I was told they won’t cover it because I am a young man, 25, and prescribed posture exercises. I did those daily and saw some improvement but still had issues.

I was playing Volleyball on Thursday and did nothing crazy and suddenly I got the same pain and worse. I had to take care of it all weekend with warm packs and ibuprofen. I could not turn my head to look backwards and experienced a little nausea. I went to my new Hausarzt today, explained, and he said “The insurance will not pay for a young man to get physiotherapy, sorry.” I said “This problem is getting worse. When will I be sick enough to get physiotherapy?” and he said “Sorry, it’s not my decision.”

I (m25) am dating someone right now. We’re both Americans in Germany but I speak fluently and he does not speak German… yet. I will teach him.

He told me this morning while we had breakfast that I spoke German to him constantly throughout the night. Most often I’d explain something to him in German, could tell he did not understand, said something like “no no listen to me” or “sorry, right, english” and explain it all in German again and then fall asleep immediately.

Where is my honorary C2 certificate

Hey, I hope this is the place for this. I’m (M25) bisexual and have been doing online dating for a long time. I put my best foot forward and got to know many men and women over a period of time before it suddenly dawned on me that I’m burned out. When dates aren’t fun and feel like a chore, it’s time to back out. So I did.

After realizing I need to take a break, I knew I’d kind of go insane if I didn’t go have sex with someone. A guy has needs. I downloaded Grindr, a hookup app, and met up with what I can only describe as a teddy bear. Tall, handsome, strong, very smart, and extremely emotionally intelligent. What was supposed to be a hookup turned into hours of hanging out.

I’m not about to explain I’m in love or infatuated. In fact, I am having the opposite reaction and it’s troubling to me. I’m in such burn out from dating, it’s as if I can’t see anything past hooking up. I communicated this fully to him and he’s in no rush and is fine with casual dating but my brain feels… broken. I dated for so long that I have a potential partner standing right before me and I just feel indifference. I hope that spark and desire for loving connections comes back around ☹️

I’m in my first year of a medical Ausbildung and my Praxisanleiterin said to me that she notices I am very feinfühlig/sensitive and she hopes I can develop a thicker skin in the future because most Germans speak like her and this won’t be the first time I experience this in the medical field of Germany.

Basically I make a mistake, they are already stressed because of lack of personnel and they look very frustrated when I make a very obvious, dumb mistake. Maybe a born and raised German student would just be like “ah shit” and move on but my heart races and then I just start internally freaking out and cannot relax and then I make more errors and more errors.

It’s not even that I can’t handle German directness. I LOVE it. But when I notice how difficult I make their lives and then you combine German tone of voice, I start to have anxiety that I will make another mistake. It’s a waste of time and energy and I will suffer greatly in this field if I don’t learn to stop caring sooo much