u/pawogub

I was never a big drugs person, just thc and occasionally mushrooms, tried DMT once. I drank regularly and fairly heavily for 20 years.

I’m 10 months sober from alcohol, but have been smoking weed 3-5 nights a week still. Now I’m seriously considering quitting the weed too and just being a sober guy for a while.

All my friends still drink and smoke weed and sometimes do other drugs. It feels like such a wild move to me, to be 100% sober.

How does it feel? Any advice? I think I might be done with alcohol permanently, but likely would smoke weed again eventually, but want to take a nice, long break and see what it does to my brain.

Used to be, weed would often make time feel slower. I’d look at the clock thinking it’s been an hour and only ten minutes had passed. Lately it’s the opposite for me, though. I smoke then I check the time and it’s been an hour and a half and I feel like I don’t even remember it.

This might be a dumb question, but most upper/lower weight training workouts I see online have an A and B workout for each that alternates, like Upper A, Lower A then Upper B, Lower B.

Can you do just one upper and one lower and just repeat them for the third and fourth workouts of the week?

I started a few months ago unable to do a single pull up. I’ve gotten to the point I can consistently do 4 in a row, sometimes I’m able to do 5 or 6, but I’ve kinda stalled out. I do them every 3 days, in addition to some dumbbell exercises.

I do usually 10-15 pull ups total on days I train, 4-6 at a time. Should I be doing more volume? Should I have more rest days between workouts?

Any tips or guidance is appreciated. Also, I’m in my 40’s if that matters. I lifted weights when I was younger, but I haven’t trained regularly in 10 years or so.

Mine is a heel who plays a possibly sincere but suspicious old school baby face. He’s part of the ring crew just trying to work his way into the business, a real aww shucks type, but he often wins by gimmicking the ring in some way.

He plays dumb and acts oblivious while maintaining his persona as suspicion mounts. His opponents get their feet stuck in weird holes or the steps slide out under them as they enter due to not being installed properly, ect.

Maybe he eventually snaps and whines about people suspecting him and ganging up on him, ect.

He wasn’t nude at home, he kept it separate, I had no idea. At his funeral some of his old nude beach friends showed up and that’s how I found out then I go to my moms after the funeral and she shows me a secret photo album that’s all photos of him with his nudist friends, grilling out and whatnot, totally naked.

I‘m not really open about being asexual, but I figured the fact that I’ve never dated anyone and I’m in my 40’s would be a clue for friends and family.

I‘m a guy and my closest friends are all straight men. We went to a strip club recently. I was on vacation visiting one of them so I guess I didn’t want to just be like I’ll stay at the hotel or whatever.

These strippers were being super assertive, like putting their boobs on my face, grabbing my crotch through my pants, sitting on my lap and grinding on me. It didn’t really do anything for me. It was super awkward. I ended up tipping them to leave me alone pretty much. I’d politely decline a private dance then give them a few dollars for their time already spent trying to turn me on.

I’ve been in therapy and that’s helped for sure, but 6 months ago I quit drinking. I was drinking between 15-30 drinks a week for 20 years or so.

I still have obsessions and compulsions, but I feel much more clear headed and am able to talk myself down easier on lots of them. Some of my obsessions and compulsions are health related and quitting drinking seems to have helped a bit with them too, I feel generally healthier.

An MD diagnosed me with generalized anxiety disorder, a few years later a talk therapist diagnosed me with OCD. I’m a bit skeptical about the OCD diagnosis. I do have some of the symptoms, but not sure they meet the clinical definition. I do go through phases where the compulsions are worse then will be much better for sometimes months, then kinda flare up again.

Is it possible to be sort of right on the border of the two? Or have both at once?

I’m not Christian, but I’m trying to be open minded and have been learning about Christianity. So the thing is my father and grandfather are both already dead and were non-believers.

If I end up becoming Christian someday I’ll have to live with the fact they’re in hell for eternity. I get according to Christianity most people probably end up in hell, but it’s easier to accept that when your whole family is Christian. For people coming from a non-Christian background that’s a pretty big thing to wrap your head around, that your whole family is going to hell.

I don’t like confrontations/fights. I’ve realized I imagine confrontational situations and worry about them and they often don’t even happen.

For example I was waiting for an appointment at the post office the other day and someone was walking past me. For a moment I thought what if they’re trying to skip ahead of me then I was worried about would I say something if they did and how that would play out.

Or like at restaurants if I don’t get the right food I just eat it usually cause I see telling the staff there was a mistake as confrontational. I’m a very go with the flow kind of person.

I hate the idea of people being angry with me or seeing me as incompetent or annoying.

I feel like my whole life is built around not drawing attention or bothering anyone. I hate being made the center of attention, even for positive reasons. When I was a kid we’d play bingo at school and if I had a bingo I wouldn’t say anything cause I didn’t want the attention.

I had an MD once suggest I had Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I tried going to a talk therapist. They thought I had OCD, and although I had a few of the symptoms I wasn’t fully convinced. We didn’t do a formal evaluation, it’s just what they said after talking to me for a couple sessions.

Having the president of the company be part of the invaders didn’t make sense. And he’s always talking about how he tried to book realistic angles. Realistically Turner would have fired his ass when he openly started fighting against the company.

I remember they reference him being promoted, but it doesn’t seem like a natural career progression at all. I know the real reason and I think Levar was well-suited for it, he aced the technobabble, but just funny chief engineer seems like such a specialized role and Picard was like eh, let the helmsman try it.