u/xzkandykane

Im 35 so its now or never.

I have 2 senior dogs, and its been 8 months of getting up for 15-20 mins every 2 to 3 hours because one of them either needs to be let out, given water, or need help settling down(one has dementia).

Tonight, ive only slept in 1.5 hour sessions because one of them wont sleep. And then if im up, chances are itll take me almost an hour to fall back asleep, so im getting about 5 hours of broken sleep.

Is it worse with a baby? Especially breast feeding? Id hope my future baby would take a bottle for nighttime so my husband can help, but I know thats not always the case.

(The husband currently cant help on weekdays because his current work is training people to drive trains, cant have him falling asleep driving trains.... but this training is only once in awhile)

I technically qualified for the 1842 and ranked 4(which still had hundreds of people)

My non government background isnt in office work and probably reads as weaker than other city applicants.

I do currently work for another city department for the last 3 years. I haven't even landed an interview for 1842. But I think I might have a better chance at 1840 since that's the start of the series.

Do i need to reapply for 1840?

I am going to a 20s/30 gatsby inspired social dancing. So waltz, tangos and swing dancing. I would love to do a Shanghai qipao look. Did women typically wear qipao out to dancing? Or do they were something less fitted and more similar to an Ao dai?

My 2 dogs are 17. They will be put to sleep in a month.

Both are now intermittently refusing food. Its not that they dont want to eat... its that my husband has started giving them human food as snacks so now, they dont want their canned food and canned chicken.

One dog will pick up a mouthful of food..... and spit it out.

They are old so human grade food it is. Unfortunately they have no teeth so no bones. They are also very very messy eaters so no raw. (How does a 8 lb dog fling food across the kitchen???)

Im more looking for okay meals to give them, less concerned with perfect nutrition. And more concerned with enough fiber so they will poop easily.

I already give them a spoonful of pumpking everyday.

Im going to a 20s/30s/gatsby themed dance party. I have long hair down the middle of my back. I plan to put it in a bun and use a claw clip. I know its not excatly accurate. I want to get a claw clip that has the essence of the 20s or 30s hair assessories. Do I do pearls? Stones? Flowers?

I cannot wear my hair down as its ballroom/social/swing dances and I hate when my partner accidently yanks my hair when turning or hits my ponytail if its too low. I also dont want to have to fuss over my hair at the party. Less fussing = more dancing!

Im wearing a tea length satin dress that's reminiscences of 30s style dress. Im not going as a flapper.

Im debating on wearing a pearl necklace and bracelet, but not sure how much flapping around they will end up doing. But im def wearing a little pearl ring.

There is a stall in a neighborhood that I think they called children alley/street shopping area that had art students painting custom anime style on shoes. Does that still exists?

I am planning a trip to China.

I have two questions, when I look up hotels ex 8 nights in Xian

The cost is 120,500 per stay or 651CNY per day.

Is the 120,500 points for the whole 8 nights? Or is it per night since they quote per night if paying by cash...

On the otherhand since Im planning to use this bonus for a trip to China and hotels are cheaper... wouldn't be more worth it for me to have the 125k points vs the 4 nights free bonus?

I am researching a trip to be booked through the chase card portal. They only offer economy light and essential. If I book either one, will I be able to contact cathay right away to book an extra legroom seat? Or do I still have to wait until 48 hours beforehand?

Is there a cost difference between essential and light to book a extra legroom seats?

The flight will be from SFO to HKG in april.

Due to credit card sign up bonuses... i am thinking on staying in tianhe next year if I go to GZ. Likely in May.

I usually stay in my family's house near the Sacred Heart Catheral but they have no space.

I like the area near the cathedral as im familiar with the shops, restaurants and metro. Whenever we go into the city, Im usually with a relative or my mom so I don't really know where everything is. Im looking for ease of transportation. I think we will at least go to at least Yuexiu park and the Chen Ancestral Hall.

Food wise Im looking for good ol Chinese food and dim sum. We are setting aside one day for clothes shopping. I am thinking of going across the river to where they sell formal/wedding dresses for qipao and well... dresses.

I speak cantonese, understand basic manderin(if they speak slow) but do not read/write.

Im not sure how comfortable i am with DiDi as I dont want to get scammed.

I only social dance so I dont have professional instruction.

(I took 2 classes but they really only went over steps and figures)

What are some tips on engaging certain muscles that I should follow.

By that I mean for example when you do squat, you engage your core as well as use your legs.

My 17 year old jack russell has been on gaba 100mg once a day for general pain/sedation. He has kidney disease, deaf, blind and dementia. He wanders at night and turns in circles, constantly running into the walls. It's also greatly affecting my sleep and our other elder dog's sleep. My other dog gets really nervous when he starts pacing and wants to get away from him, but she has arthritis.

The gabapentin has been a godsend for the last month. We give it to him about 2 hours before bedtime and he's out like a light. The last week or so, he's been more fussy and won't settle down and started to get up at night. When we first started the gaba, after 7-8 hours, he would still be sleepy/sedated when I get him up to go potty. Then he will go back to sleep. Now he is fully awake, alert and cranky. The gaba instruction says okay to give every 12 hours so I will start doing that. But is it possible for the gaba to lose effectiveness after 1 month? Is there another medication we can ask the vet for?

We are planning on putting both dogs to sleep in the next few months.

For the last 1.5 weeks, my 17 year old border collie cough/gags/wheezes when we pick her up if one hand is behind her front legs, and the other is around her stomach. If you put one hand behind her front legs, the other one on her bum or on her side, she is okay.

A few months ago, I carried her and she made a whining/howl noise, gagged/retched and passed out, but came to when I put her down. She was fine afterwards. Then this happened again 1.5 weeks ago and that is when the coughing/wheezing started being very noticeable. She did previously pant when we pick her up.

We have a vet appointment on Saturday. I will not be surprised if she has heart failure or a tumor. We've made the decision to put her down later in the fall but understand we may have to move the timeline up.

She has no other health issues besides some pretty severe arthritis and muscle atrophy on one hind leg. We have to carry her up/down stairs and into the backyard. She cannot poop by herself. We have to hold her up and then she will poop.

She acts/eats/drinks the same as she had in the last 6 months. I do see her getting tired and taking a nap before finishing dinner when she would previously in the years past just gulp down her food.

I just acotar and crescent city series. No problem getting it from the library...

Went to check throne of glass...

Each books as 30-40 e copies checked out and another 40-50 people on hold.

What in the world!

My plan for both of us to retire in 2051 at age 60?

Assuming 7% return on our 401k and 403b

401k will have no additional contributions

403b I contribute $100 month

And husband contributes $200

We each have our own accounts but I totaled them for easier calculation.

Realistically will not be withdrawing the total balance at once. But for calculations, I took the total predicted balances in 2051 and divided for 40 years(if only we live that long!)

Withdrawals/expenses monthly

Mine and husband's pension -10k/month

Our old 401ks(from our old job) - $1555

Our 403b(current) - 525

Total per month - $12080

After tax(I did straight 24%) - $9080

Expenses(all based on today's)

Property tax - 1500

Car, house and medical(covered by retirement benefits) - $1200

So $6,380/month left for food and.. stuff

For housing, we currently own.

By 2051, our mortgage balance will be $258k

Currently, my roth + investment has $64,000. Predicted balances at 7% annual return in 2051 without further contribution is $368,000. That will be used to pay off the mortgage.

We also have a emergency fund of 38k right now.

When we hit 65, we will both qualify to take social security of additional $5400 together before tax.

Our pensions and current salary both have yearly cost of living adjustments of 2%

Pensions are based on the last 3 years before retirement average salary so hopefully we will both also get promotions in the next 25 years.