u/-OhWhale-

I'm a sahm and I don't ever answer the door for safety reasons.

The idea of a doorbell camera makes me anxious because I don't want to talk to anyone I'm not expecting anyway, and I don't want them to know whether I'm home or not. Like, just go away.

I'm thinking just a camera up in the corner of my covered porch, as well as one near my backdoor, that has video plus sound and alerts me if someone is near it (especially for in the middle of the night)

OR would a camera that's more in the open, so they can see it before even walking up my sidewalk, deter them better? We've had a no soliciting sign for years and it annoyingly gets ignored.

Please let me know your thoughts and any recommendations. Thank you!

We have a child so he’s in my life forever.

I wish I could just go no-contact so I could move on and never think about or talk to him ever again.

it’s so hard to move forward when I share my child with him.

I hate him. but he’s still somehow my best friend as we parent together. fuck this

My hu$b@nd spent a decade cheating on me before he told me about his affairs. I became very depressed. It's nearly been a year since he randomly told me.

We have a toddler I'm a sahm to so I'm scared to divorce until he goes to school and I go back to work and have my own salary.

He said he'd live with his parents while my son and I are in our house, he'll still pay for my stuff, and I can date as long as I don't spend our money on my dates.

I have been feeling so trapped, and I feel like I can breathe a little more easily now. This feels good.

I'm terrified to date but I'm also hopeful. I just want a fun fling or something to give me something to look forward to and smile about, ya know?

Anyway, how the hell do I go about this? I dated him starting when I was nearly 18 and I'm now in my thirties. I wasted so much time on him bc I didn't know about his double life. I just want casual fun without feeling pressured to have sex or to get into a serious relationship.

He spent a decade cheating on me before he told me about his affairs. I became very depressed. It's nearly been a year since he randomly told me.

We have a toddler I'm a sahm to so I'm scared to divorce until he goes to school and I go back to work and have my own salary.

My husband said he'd live with his parents while my son and I are in our house, he'll still pay for my stuff, and I can date as long as I don't spend our money on my dates.

I have been feeling so trapped, and I feel like I can breathe a little more easily now. This feels good.

I'm terrified to date but I'm also hopeful. I just want a fun fling or something to give me something to look forward to and smile about, ya know?

I had a dream that I couldn’t breathe. My husband was actually lying on me causing it and I finally was able to whine/yell and he got off of me. He said that he was praying for me. 

We’re only legally married because I’m a SAHM for now and I don’t trust him to actually give us money if we divorced right now. We have been living separately, but our young child is sick so we all slept together last night so we could both help with our sick child. Also note that sometimes we kind of have situationship behavior so it’s not crazy that he would be super close to/on top of me.

He‘s hugged/cuddled up to me while I’m asleep or just lying down to pray for me before, but I had him show me what he did tonight because I didn’t understand how I could barely even breathe:

I was lying on my side, and he was lying flat on top of me hugging me. I was asleep and dreaming when I realized I couldn’t breathe. In my dream, I was whining or trying to, but he said I wasn’t making any noise. Finally I was able to be loud enough that I actually made noise irl and he immediately got off of me.

I am traumatized. I already have ptsd from him randomly telling me half a year ago that he spent the first decade of our relationship cheating on me, from my abusive father, etc.

I had a panic attack. I told him to not murder me because I need to be here for our child. I told him to not ever do that again. I told him I want cameras inside. I told him I want a divorce and a restraining order. I’m so scared.

I know he’s going to gaslight me into believing that he really was just praying for me. He’s never done anything like this before. He’s never physically harmed me. I made him go sleep on the couch and I locked the bedroom door.

After finding out he spent 10 out of 12 years having a double life, how am I supposed to trust him. I don’t know this man.

We’re only legally married because I’m a SAHM for now and I don’t trust him to actually give us money if we divorced right now. We have been living separately, but our young child is sick so we all slept together last night so we could both help with our sick child. Also note that sometimes we kind of have situationship behavior so it’s not crazy that he would be super close to/on top of me.

He‘s hugged/cuddled up to me while I’m asleep or just lying down to pray for me before, but I had him show me what he did tonight because I didn’t understand how I could barely even breathe:

I was lying on my side, and he was lying flat on top of me hugging me. I was asleep and dreaming when I realized I couldn’t breathe. In my dream, I was whining or trying to, but he said I wasn’t making any noise. Finally I was able to be loud enough that I actually made noise irl and he immediately got off of me.

I am traumatized. I already have ptsd from him randomly telling me half a year ago that he spent the first decade of our relationship cheating on me, from my abusive father, etc.

I had a panic attack. I told him to not murder me because I need to be here for our child. I told him to not ever do that again. I told him I want cameras inside. I told him I want a divorce and a restraining order. I’m so scared.

I know he’s going to gaslight me into believing that he really was just praying for me. He’s never done anything like this before. He’s never physically harmed me. I made him go sleep on the couch and I locked the bedroom door.

After finding out he spent 10 out of 12 years having a double life, how am I supposed to trust him. I don’t know this man.

We’re only still married because I’m a SAHM for now and I don’t trust him to actually give us money if we divorced right now. We have been living separately, but our young child is sick so we all slept together last night so we could both help with our sick child. Also note that sometimes we kind of have situationship behavior so it’s not crazy that he would be super close to/on top of me.

He‘s hugged/cuddled up to me while I’m asleep or just lying down to pray for me before, but I had him show me what he did tonight because I didn’t understand how I could barely even breathe:

I was lying on my side, and he was lying flat on top of me hugging me. I was asleep and dreaming when I realized I couldn’t breathe. In my dream, I was whining or trying to, but he said I wasn’t making any noise. Finally I was able to be loud enough that I actually made noise irl and he immediately got off of me.

I am traumatized. I already have ptsd from him randomly telling me half a year ago that he spent the first decade of our relationship cheating on me, from my abusive father, etc.

I had a panic attack. I told him to not murder me because I need to be here for our child. I told him to not ever do that again. I told him I want cameras inside. I told him I want a divorce and a restraining order. I’m so scared.

I know he’s going to gaslight me into believing that he really was just praying for me. He’s never done anything like this before. He’s never physically harmed me. I made him go sleep on the couch and I locked the bedroom door.

After finding out he spent 10 out of 12 years having a double life, how am I supposed to trust him. I don’t know this man.

We’re only legally married because I’m a SAHM for now and I don’t trust him to actually give us money if we divorced right now. We have been living separately, but our young child is sick so we all slept together last night so we could both help with our sick child. Also note that sometimes we kind of have situationship behavior so it’s not crazy that he would be super close to/on top of me.

He‘s hugged/cuddled up to me while I’m asleep or just lying down to pray for me before, but I had him show me what he did tonight because I didn’t understand how I could barely even breathe:

I was lying on my side, and he was lying flat on top of me hugging me. I was asleep and dreaming when I realized I couldn’t breathe. In my dream, I was whining or trying to, but he said I wasn’t making any noise. Finally I was able to be loud enough that I actually made noise irl and he immediately got off of me.

I am traumatized. I already have ptsd from him randomly telling me half a year ago that he spent the first decade of our relationship cheating on me, from my abusive father, etc.

I had a panic attack. I told him to not murder me because I need to be here for our child. I told him to not ever do that again. I told him I want cameras inside. I told him I want a divorce and a restraining order. I’m so scared.

I know he’s going to gaslight me into believing that he really was just praying for me. He’s never done anything like this before. He’s never physically harmed me. I made him go sleep on the couch and I locked the bedroom door.

After finding out he spent 10 out of 12 years having a double life, how am I supposed to trust him. I don’t know this man.

Our 4 year old is still able to use his Medicaid. I thought it was supposed to stop after a year or 2?

Also, did you receive a physical card? We don’t actually have a card, it’s just somehow in his file at the doctor’s office, so all we have is his member number.

our 4 year old is still able to use the Medicaid on his file. I thought it was supposed to stop after a year or 2?

also, did you receive a physical card? we don’t actually have a card, it’s just somehow in his file at the doctor’s office. all we have is is member number.

I have friends and family but nothing compares to the love I had for my husband and mom and the support they were able to give me before.

I just want the life I thought I had with my husband. and I can’t have that so I just want my mom. but I can’t have that because she’s so out of it.

I have a 3 year old and I’m so depressed and overwhelmed and I feel so incredibly alone and just need support.

I have friends and family but nothing compares to the love I had for my husband and mom and the support they were able to give me before.

I just want the life I thought I had with my husband. and I can’t have that so I just want my mom. but I can’t have that because she’s so out of it.

I have a 3 year old and I’m so depressed and overwhelmed and I feel so incredibly alone and just need support.

Long story short my husband is a cheating lying son of a bitch and I didn't know until now- we're still married for logistical reasons until I go back to work when our child goes to school bc I don't trust him at alllllllll

We would've been celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary this year hahahahaha I'm fine so I'm planning a night with my friends instead.

How should I word the evite?

We’re just going to eat, drink, yap, and play games.

Thank you for any suggestions!

Hardy tells a story to Aria about hooking up with some girl while in college, including taking her shirt off.

Then he immediately is like, "EzRa, YoU cAn'T dAte a StUdenT No MaTtEr HoW CuTe aNd SmArT sHe iS"

...Yet he had NO problem telling a high school student about getting some girl undressed. He truly just seemed concerned about Ezra going to jail for his actions rather than the fact that he was INVOLVED WITH A SIXTEEN YEAR OLD

Thank you, that is all.

He recently told me about the affairs and I've started chewing but not swallowing or just not eating. I asked him if he wanted to get coffee this morning (we have a son so we're hanging out as a family) and he said, "no, we're not eating, remember? You're not eating and I'm not eating with you." I was trying to put some calories in my body after refusing to have anything other than water last night, and he made that remark. I feel so defeated.

He recently told me about the affairs and I've started having some ED-like behaviors. I asked him if he wanted to get coffee this morning (we have a son so we're hanging out as a family) and he said, "no, we're not eating, remember? You're not eating and I'm not eating with you." I was trying to put something in my body after refusing to have anything other than water last night, and he made that remark. I feel so defeated.

I can’t get off the couch. I am so depressed and a divorce is not fixing the fact that I created a family that I didn’t consent to. My child does not deserve this. How the hell do I heal

My home life wasn’t ideal growing up and I thought I escapes trauma.

I’m grieving the beautiful life I thought I had- my husband and I being in love and raising our child together in the same home. I want to d**

eta he loves our son and vice versa. That’s the thing. He agreed to divorce, but we’re together very often because our son needs a family. I hate that he did this to us

did getting medicated help you stop hating the life someone else chose for you? I am in therapy. I just hate my life bc I’m connected to my stbxh for life.

You shouldn't get someone pregnant when you're actively cheating on them behind their back. That should be fucking illegal. Our poor baby. I hate my life. I am permanently attached to the man who betrayed me for over a decade while all I did was love him. Fuck this. Doing this to a teenager and adult is one thing, but to betray your own baby? The baby you happily CHOSE to have with the woman you were cheating on while she was completely clueless? That's the most disgusting.