u/Alextheaxolotyl

My son had a MRI to determine if he’s a candidate for cochlear implants ..we received results and he is a candidate but also the report states there was other findings

“few scattered foci of susceptibility in the right occipital lobe consistent with sequela of remote hemorrhage”

My baby was SIUGR born 37 weeks when induced. He was 4.14lb and didn’t have to stay in NICU. Now I’m spiraling because how could this have happened?
How common is it with small preterm babies?
How was it’s missed?
He’s never shown signs of anything that I’ve noticed?

I have a 6 month old and 2.5 year old. I feel like I spend the day waiting for the day to end 🫠I try to take them on an outing library, store, water park if not too hot, backyard. Then meals take ups some time. I feel like I don’t fill my toddlers day with learning activities. Doesn’t like to paint or color or read just wants to pretend play with her figurines or dance.
I don’t feel we do enough. But I also don’t have the energy for playing all day

Also how much of your day is 1:1 play

And what toys do you suggest that are age appropriate?

I 33F grew up only seeing explosive arguments. My parents who are still together would scream at eachother and not talk to each other for days/weeks. Silent treatment was normal awkward car rides with the parents was normal. There wasn’t any physical abuse but definitely verbal. Us kids heard a lot starting from young age still through adulthood. Never saw reconciliation.
My early adult life I was also in a emotionally abusive relationship which lasted a decade. I finally clicked in me I didn’t want to be miserable my entire life and left although I “loved” him or was attached at least. Now in my new relationship every argument I want to flee. I want to end things and I feel it’s super toxic but idk if this is just normal healthy arguments? My fiance for the most part is amazing person, shows me all the love languages, has done nothing but become a better person for me buttt we do butt heads.
Our argument is mostly bickering and flipping eachother off. We do have kids now so I try not to yell but I know they feel tension. And like my parents unfortunately we will do silent treatment for a couple days. I try to shield the kids from feeling my emotions. But is this normal? I also feel like I actually hate him sometimes when we argue and idk if that’s just my walks going up and protecting myself?

I guess I should add I rarely apologize and usually he does with a “even though you’re being mean I’m sorry blablabla” also via text. We rarely ever apologize in person to each other and we been together six years. We have talked about couples Counceling but have never been.

As you can tell I’m over it. Wakes up asking for candy I’m like no we eat breakfast first. Drank her juice and refused to eat the meal. How is she alive how can she go without eating. Takes a couple bites of food a day and that’s it. How to approach this .also refuses to eat in any seat

Newer SLP here still getting used identifying deficits I read about in text books but in actual patients so sorry.

I had an evaluation today. Super intelligible and dx I believe was some gastrointestinal issue like severe constipation. Anyway, no hx of stroke but had episodes of seizures in hospital.

During eval she had some slushing sounds when speaking. looked like her tongue kinda was bunched up sometimes some hyper nasality. She was completely intelligible. I guess just having difficulty identifying what it was? Maybe it’s obvious maybe I’m overthinking it? Or a mixture of things.

Patient scored 0 on SBT and is 97 insane good memory. Very Intelligent.

Idk how to handle my 2.5 year old. Constantly asking to be picked up or for a hug. When I’m trying to get us ready to go out ,or about to shower, or making them food , any te I’m doing anything. I also have a 6 month old who I barely have time for because I’m doing all the things and then meeting my toddlers needs. She’ll whine the moment she’s up. I’m tired and 9/10 I do not want to pick her up or hug I have shit to do. I feel like shitty mom the moment I do hug her it’s not genuine on my part I’m more annoyed than anything. I know this is hurting her it’s got to make her feel rejected but I just can’t carry her all day I have other responsibilities.

I’ve had issue with my mom since my daughter was born 2.5 years ago. She used to watch my kiddo while I worked for the first 1.5 years.
She never respected how I wanted to raise her including:

\-no yelling in the house. Cuz that’s all my mom did/dows yell scream when she doesn’t have her way or she mad/frustrated/annoyed. Just the other day commented how we talk to her so softly and bland. So …like and adult.
\-no putting on cocomelon type shows for her.
\-not feeding her chips and crap. She would feed her chips if my kiddo didn’t want what I had for her. She still comments how “gross” the food looks with a disgusted look on her face when it’s literally just buttered noodles .
\-she also force feeds her when I’ve told her numerous time not to. My aunts have always been obsessed with making us eat and eating eating. I’ve told her we don’t have to eat all day, we don’t have to finish our food and I’m not having you follow her around sticking food in her mouth. Now as an adult I refuse to eat even when I’m still hungry because subconsciously I’m doing what I wanted as a kid. Also my sister developed anorexia.
\-not smoking or holding our child after smoking. She always made me feel and expressed how it was a ridiculous request.

Shit she does still that annoy is control everything my daughter does including telling her how to play, how to move when she dances always telling her to sit down when my daughter clearly doesn’t want to, force feeding her, if I ask my daughter something she responds for her, if I give my daughter something to play with she has to change it give her something she perceives as being preferred, she’ll leave the room and wait for my daughter to come look for her “are you looking for me?” Like she need constant approval, she always calling for my daughters attention I could be asking her something or talking to her and my mom will start singing or calling for her. She micromanage everything I try to do wihh th my baby now which I ignore. She’s say things like “your mom doesn’t want us…“ your mom doesn’t understand you” you’re mom blahblabla. “ is your mom not paying attention” “did your mom not hear you”

My daughter is gravitating to her more now that I have a baby and it drives me insane cus she such a toxic adult and she influences her. Everything my mom wants or dislikes she makes sure to influence my daughter instead of allowing her to have her own thoughts/preferences/dislike. She’s Attention seeking, dramatic, controlling person. I do plan on staying away but it hurts my heart for my daughter tbh

Another toxic grandma post

I’ve had issue with my mom since my daughter was born 2.5 years ago. She used to watch my kiddo while I worked for the first 1.5 years.
She never respected how I wanted to raise her including:

\-no yelling in the house. Cuz that’s all my mom did/dows yell scream when she doesn’t have her way or she mad/frustrated/annoyed. Just the other day commented how we talk to her so softly and bland. So …like and adult.
\-no putting on cocomelon type shows for her.
\-not feeding her chips and crap. She would feed her chips if my kiddo didn’t want what I had for her. She still comments how “gross” the food looks with a disgusted look on her face when it’s literally just buttered noodles .
\-she also force feeds her when I’ve told her numerous time not to. My aunts have always been obsessed with making us eat and eating eating. I’ve told her we don’t have to eat all day, we don’t have to finish our food and I’m not having you follow her around sticking food in her mouth. Now as an adult I refuse to eat even when I’m still hungry because subconsciously I’m doing what I wanted as a kid. Also my sister developed anorexia.
\-not smoking or holding our child after smoking. She always made me feel and expressed how it was a ridiculous request.

Shit she does still that annoy is control everything my daughter does including telling her how to play, how to move when she dances always telling her to sit down when my daughter clearly doesn’t want to, force feeding her, if I ask my daughter something she responds for her, if I give my daughter something to play with she has to change it give her something she perceives as being preferred, she’ll leave the room and wait for my daughter to come look for her “are you looking for me?” Like she need constant approval, she always calling for my daughters attention I could be asking her something or talking to her and my mom will start singing or calling for her. She micromanage everything I try to do wihh th my baby now which I ignore. She’s say things like “your mom doesn’t want us…“ your mom doesn’t understand you” you’re mom blahblabla. “ is your mom not paying attention” “did your mom not hear you”

My daughter is gravitating to her more now that I have a baby and it drives me insane cus she such a toxic adult and she influences her. Everything my mom wants or dislikes she makes sure to influence my daughter instead of allowing her to have her own thoughts/preferences/dislike. She’s Attention seeking, dramatic, controlling person. I do plan on staying away but it hurts my heart for my daughter tbh

Caught my kiddos finger on the car door after I was putting brother in car seat. I feel like a shit mom. It’s always fucking something

My toddlers been up since 730 which is early for her. I woke up maybe 10 times between the infant the dog the toddler kicking my back all night . As soon as her eyes crack open it’s NON STOP and I’m tired. My back hurts I can’t keep my eyes open if I sit for a sec and the constantly whining from her if I don’t meet her needs as soon as she has the thought. And my break is work and that’s only 1-2 a week . I find myself raising my voice more than I ever thought I would as a mom I wanted to be different than how I grew up and I keep disappointing myself but god damn is my patience being tested

Maybe not the place to ask but I’ve gone to my pediatrician and she seems to think it’s normal.

So my baby since he was born sleeps EASILY. I can roll him over with binky and he’s out. He’s 6 months now and takes a bit more effort to fall asleep sometimes but if binky is in and enough butt pats he’s out. My concern is when he’s playing on the floor or in his jumper..I can leave him play and before I know it he’s asleep no binky. I been putting him on the floor to build his strength and he fell asleep within 10 min . He had already napped
Ate at 12 fell asleep woke up at 2 and it’s 227 and he fell asleep on the floor mat while playing…
I’m starting to think it’s just not normal at this point…
Also to add he is deaf and maybe lack of stimulation makes it easier for him to sleep?
Any similar experience?

Maybe not the place to ask but I’ve gone to my pediatrician and she seems to think it’s normal.

So my baby since he was born sleeps EASILY. I can roll him over with binky and he’s out. He’s 6 months now and takes a bit more effort to fall asleep sometimes but if binky is in and enough butt pats he’s out. My concern is when he’s playing on the floor or in his jumper..I can leave him play and before I know it he’s asleep no binky. I been putting him on the floor to build his strength and he fell asleep within 10 min . He had already napped
Ate at 12 fell asleep woke up at 2 and it’s 227 and he fell asleep on the floor mat while playing…
I’m starting to think it’s just not normal at this point…
Also to add he is deaf and maybe lack of stimulation makes it easier for him to sleep?
Any similar experience?

My fiance pays all the bills works in sales makes good money. I went to school for my masters and can only work on the days he has off since his job is what covers all the bills.
So we had argument this morning because according to him he does me a favor so I can go to work . He basically said my job is optional which is fine but to say he’s doing me a favor is crazy. He went on to say every woman would love to be able to chose if she wanted to work or stay home. I told him he sound arrogant and patronizing . Thoughts?

Edit: to clarify I can definitely survive on my own with kids. This is just the arrangement rn since his job isn’t flexible and has a fixed schedule. And mine is super flexible job.

What foundation isn’t thick but makes you look air brushed.
I know someone’s gotta know. I see girls when I go to mall and their skin literally flawless not patchy not thick no streaky not oily just perfect. I have yet to find that satin look foundation.

Help

What foundation isn’t thick but makes you look air brushed.
I know someone’s gotta know. I see girls when I go to mall and their skin literally flawless not patchy not thick no streaky not oily just perfect. I have yet to find that satin look foundation.

Help

Just curious for those who’ve had cochlear implants..
How long did it take for the placement from start of every thing

General question from a mom of newly diagnosed deaf baby.

What age did you get cochlear implant?
Did you not get implant?
How is your speech and language?
How well did your parents who are hearing learn ASL?
How did it affect relationships with an entire hearing family?
Any advice?

What age did you get cochlear implant?
Did you not get implant?
How is your speech and language?
How well did your parents who are hearing learn ASL?
How did it affect relationships with an entire hearing family?
Any advice?

Also we speak Spanish and English in my home so if your from a bilingual family did you learn the specific sign language for that just ASL?