The Knicks’ win may have saved my relationship
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I really love him and our relationship has been really happy as of late. The one big issue that we’ve kind of both been avoiding is that his family is living in California but we’re both based in NYC where I’m from at the moment.
He loves NYC, and his corporate 9-5 is here, all of his friends are here, and I’m here. I don’t intend on leaving - I also want to be close to my family who’s here in the city, and it’s better for my career to be here. Although it wouldn’t be soon, he’s heavily considering returning back to California to be closer to his parents and brother, who he’s really close to. He also is considering a career pivot and pursuing his passion, and it would be much easier to do that while in LA.
We’ve talked about it, and neither of us really would want to do long distance. We said we’d cross the bridge when we got there, but I think if he moved to LA, realistically we would try for a bit and then amicably break up, even though everything else about our lives, personalities, and values line up really well, it’s just this one huge thing of location.
My bf became a Knicks fan when he moved here a few years ago. He was on the streets every single finals game. He took off of work on the day of the parade, was frolicking in the city. He sent me videos of him running around with random strangers he met at bars. During the fifth game, we took the train down to the west village and folded into the crowds and all the joy.
Recently we were talking about that day again. He said the energy of New York is irreplaceable. The way that there are no boundaries between people. The subway is the great equalizer. Rich and poor, all races, sexualities, genders. Everyone just together. The diversity and community is unique to this place. He said he couldn’t imagine being anywhere else.
We’re still young. And we don’t really know what exactly can shake out in the future. But the excitement, and awe and comfort he shared makes me hopeful that this city can be our forever place. It’s truly New York or nowhere.
Dinner: homemade apple pie and Jeni’s ice cream.