When Did We Stop Saying “Thank You”?

When Did We Stop Saying “Thank You”?

Our increasingly digital lives make communication easier, but they can also strip away the small, physical interactions that remind us we're dealing with other human beings.

A thank-you to an Amazon driver led to an unexpected exchange. Years ago, I also witnessed two very different reactions from musicians receiving flowers from fans. Those moments stayed with me and made me think about what we're losing as more of our interactions move onto screens.

This essay looks at why those small “analog” moments may matter more than we realize.

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 1 day ago
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What happens when a public meeting follows the Brown Act but still limits public participation?

El Camino Real Charter High School recently held a board meeting following the sudden departure of Executive Director David Hussey. Twelve members of the public signed up to speak.

The meeting was conducted as a special meeting, meaning the board wasn't required to provide a general public-comment period. The presiding officer also repeatedly interrupted speakers when he believed they had moved beyond the agenda.

The interesting part is that the Brown Act wasn't violated.

I look at how a law intended to promote transparency can nevertheless be applied in a way that restricts meaningful public participation—and what that says about accountability at a San Fernando Valley charter school.

Full article:
https://difrntdrmr.substack.com/p/hiding-behind-mr-brown-using-transparency

u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 6 days ago

Can democratic accountability work when citizens no longer share standards for evaluating evidence?

Accountability in a democracy depends on citizens being able to evaluate what their government does and decide whether leaders have succeeded or failed. That seems straightforward when the evidence is relatively observable. But what happens when political identity affects whether people accept the evidence in the first place?

Trump's attempted repair project at the Lincoln Memorial Reflecting Pool struck me as an interesting case study. What began as a relatively mundane government-maintenance project became a dispute over the project's cost, effectiveness, responsibility for problems, and competing explanations for what had happened.

There are several ways to interpret this. One is that this is simply another example of a government project going badly. Another is that partisan polarization makes people interpret ambiguous evidence differently. A more troubling possibility is that political accountability becomes increasingly difficult when citizens are willing to reject independently observable evidence because it conflicts with their preferred political narrative.

I'm interested in the broader political question: What minimum level of shared agreement about evidence and reality does a democracy need in order for elections and other mechanisms of accountability to function effectively? And can that standard survive intense political polarization?

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 11 days ago
▲ 11 r/LAUSD+1 crossposts

Hiding Behind Mr. Brown: Using Transparency Laws to Avoid Accountability

At a recent El Camino Real Charter High School board meeting, 12 members of the public signed up to speak following the sudden departure of Executive Director David Hussey.

The board's presiding officer repeatedly invoked the Brown Act to restrict what speakers could discuss. But there was an important distinction: the Brown Act wasn't actually being violated.

Because the meeting was designated as a special meeting, the board wasn't required to provide a general public-comment period. Instead, public comments were limited to items on the agenda—and speakers were interrupted when they appeared to stray beyond those boundaries.

I wrote about what happened and why there's a difference between following the letter of a transparency law and honoring its purpose of encouraging meaningful public participation.

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 4 days ago
▲ 56 r/LAUSD+4 crossposts

Should LAUSD have required El Camino Real Charter to release its internal audit before renewing its charter?

I wrote a detailed analysis of the latest controversy at El Camino Real Charter High School after reports that Executive Director David Hussey is no longer with the school amid new allegations of financial improprieties.

The article also revisits an earlier financial scandal, a taxpayer-funded internal investigation that was never released to the public, and the role LAUSD played when it renewed the school's charter despite unresolved questions about transparency and accountability.

Rather than focusing only on the latest allegations, I look at a broader question:

What responsibility does LAUSD have to require full transparency from charter schools before renewing their charters?

I'd be interested in hearing from current and former LAUSD parents, employees, and students. Is the district providing enough oversight of charter schools operating with public funds?

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 14 days ago

Why do incumbents keep winning elections even when many voters are dissatisfied with their performance?

I've been thinking about why incumbents often seem politically untouchable, even when they're associated with unpopular decisions, scandals, or poor performance.

A recent Los Angeles school board election struck me as a good example. Despite years of criticism over district governance, controversy surrounding Superintendent Alberto Carvalho, and frustration expressed by many parents and educators, every incumbent seeking reelection kept their seat. In one race, there wasn't even an opponent.

My conclusion is that accountability can break down for several reasons. Qualified challengers may decide the personal cost of running is too high. Organizations that might recruit or support alternatives don't always do so. And many voters simply don't have the time or information needed to evaluate local offices like school board races.

That made me wonder whether this is really an LAUSD problem—or whether it's something much broader.

What do you think is the biggest reason incumbents continue to win even when many people say they want change?

For anyone interested, I wrote a longer analysis using this election as a case study:

https://medium.com/educreation/why-lausd-incumbents-keep-winning-even-when-they-fail-b2eecde5c6a4?sk=f8cc1e194c30e16107f798d9737ad0f5

u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 1 month ago
▲ 80 r/federalway+2 crossposts

[Wild Waves Theme & Water Park] A Final Ride Before the Wrecking Ball

I moved to Washington last year after spending decades in Southern California, and Wild Waves quickly became my new home park. It isn't the biggest or flashiest park, but that's exactly what made me appreciate it. Between Wild Thing, Timberhawk, and the atmosphere of a smaller regional park, it became a place where my daughters and I could make new memories.

Hearing that 2026 will be the park's final season really hit me. Parks like this are becoming harder to keep alive, and replacing nearly 50 years of coaster memories with a massive warehouse feels like the end of something that can't really be replaced.

For those of you who have visited Wild Waves, what are your favorite memories? Do you have a favorite small regional park from the past that still means a lot to you?

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 20 days ago

Have presidential norms become politically irrelevant, or do they still matter to voters?

Throughout American history, presidents have generally observed the unwritten norms surrounding the office. While these traditions were never legally binding, they often reflected concerns about public perception, security, institutional legitimacy, or the symbolic role of the presidency.

Donald Trump has been notably more willing than his predecessors to disregard many of these conventions. One recent example was his decision to attend an NBA Finals game, becoming the first sitting president to do so. The visit required heightened security that affected fans attending the event, and his appearance drew boos from many in attendance. Images circulating afterward also showed him appearing to nod off during the game, prompting comparisons to his previous attacks on Joe Biden.

Supporters argue that breaking with tradition demonstrates authenticity and a willingness to challenge outdated expectations. Critics contend that many presidential norms exist because they help avoid unnecessary political distractions and preserve the dignity of the office.

This raises a broader political question:

Do presidential norms still provide meaningful political guardrails, or have they become largely irrelevant in an era of intense partisan polarization? More specifically, do events like this have any measurable effect on public opinion, or are they simply short-lived media moments that reinforce views people already hold?

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 1 month ago

The Los Angeles school board election offers some answers as to why failing incumbents keep getting reelected

Despite scandal, public frustration, and years of controversial decisions, every LAUSD incumbent running for reelection this year kept their seat. That outcome is surprising because the board unanimously extended Superintendent Alberto Carvalho's contract shortly before federal agents searched his home and district offices as part of the AllHere investigation. Yet the election produced almost no meaningful accountability.

I don't think the explanation is simply that voters approved of the board's performance. Instead, several structural factors worked together. Few credible challengers entered the races. Running for office has become increasingly hostile, discouraging qualified candidates. Organizations that might have recruited or backed stronger challengers made strategic decisions that left incumbents largely untested. Finally, many voters simply don't follow school board politics closely enough to evaluate years of board decisions before casting a ballot.

To me, this raises a broader political question that extends beyond Los Angeles. When incumbents face little organized opposition and voters have limited information, are elections really serving as an accountability mechanism, or are they simply reinforcing the status quo?

I expanded on these ideas here, including examples from this year's LAUSD election:

https://medium.com/educreation/why-lausd-incumbents-keep-winning-even-when-they-fail-b2eecde5c6a4?sk=f8cc1e194c30e16107f798d9737ad0f5

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 1 month ago
▲ 17 r/PoliticalOpinions+1 crossposts

Trump Misfired Again

With 250 years of history behind us, Trump’s 45 predecessors left him a clear path for how to succeed in the presidency. If every president for more than two centuries avoided a particular activity, there was probably a good reason.

With narcissistic tendencies, Trump often seems to believe he is the smartest person in any room — even one that includes historical giants like George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, and Franklin Delano Roosevelt. Rather than considering why certain presidential norms exist, he tends to dismiss his predecessors as “stupid” or “weak.” Trusting only his own political instincts, he barrels ahead like a bull in a china shop.

Breaking with precedent, Trump became the first president to attend an NBA Finals game.

The problems began as soon as the announcement was made. The massive security required for a presidential visit forced the cancellation of a free watch party outside Madison Square Garden. Those with tickets to the game, which cost between $3,800 and $161,000 each, were told they should arrive at least two hours early to clear security.

In one of the few times Trump has built unity in our divided nation, he managed to alienate the working class and the 1%.  When his picture was shown at the remaining watch parties and at the Garden, he was roundly booed by both crowds. While almost anyone could have predicted this would happen in deep blue New York City, Trump probably never considered that this would be the reaction to his appearance at the game. Perhaps San Antonio would have been a better place for his visit.

Even worse, the most memorable image from his appearance is of him nodding off during the game. For a man who made much of calling his predecessor “Sleepy,” this was further evidence that Trump’s attacks on opponents often amount to projection.

This was just the latest in a series of political misfires. Are these frequent lapses of judgment a result of the possible onset of cognitive decline, or has his political luck simply run out? I explore this further in the following article:

https://open.substack.com/pub/difrntdrmr/p/a-presidency-built-on-political-misfires?r=9vj2f&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email

u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 1 month ago

Can a Democracy Maintain a Shared Civic Identity During Deep Political Division?

National celebrations have historically served as civic rituals meant to bring citizens together despite political disagreements. But in an era of deep polarization, can those shared traditions still play that role?

This essay looks at the 1976 Bicentennial, America’s upcoming 250th anniversary, and the broader question of whether a divided democracy can maintain a common civic identity.

https://open.substack.com/pub/difrntdrmr/p/when-a-nations-birthday-feels-like?r=9vj2f&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web

u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 1 month ago
▲ 4 r/LAUSD

Why LAUSD Incumbents Keep Winning — Even When They Fail

Despite federal investigations, parents suing the district over arts funding, and years of criticism over board decisions, all three incumbents retained their seats in last month's election. This article examines why meaningful electoral accountability remains so elusive in LAUSD politics, including the roles of candidate recruitment, union strategy, and voter engagement.

I'd be interested in hearing whether others see the same structural factors at work or have different explanations.

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 2 months ago

Does anyone else get unexpectedly emotional when it's time to leave a place?

I've noticed this about myself ever since I was a kid. Whether it's leaving family after a visit, finishing a vacation, or even wrapping up a work trip, I always get this wave of melancholy as I'm packing to go.

What's strange is that it happens even when I'm genuinely excited to get home. It made me realize the feeling isn't necessarily about not wanting to leave. I think it's more about recognizing that a moment in my life has come to an end and won't ever exist in quite the same way again.

Does anyone else experience this? Is there a place, trip, or even an ordinary moment that was surprisingly hard to leave behind?

As a conversation starter, I wrote this essay:

https://medium.com/age-of-awareness/the-footprints-we-leave-behind-and-what-we-keep-ff0676162a3a?sk=a965da7dcb073f38f9503840c12cf793

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 2 months ago

Does anyone else get unexpectedly emotional when it's time to leave a place?

I've noticed this about myself ever since I was a kid. Whether it's leaving family after a visit, finishing a vacation, or even wrapping up a work trip, I always get this wave of melancholy as I'm packing to go.

What's strange is that it happens even when I'm genuinely excited to get home. It made me realize the feeling isn't necessarily about not wanting to leave. I think it's more about recognizing that a moment in my life has come to an end and won't ever exist in quite the same way again.

Does anyone else experience this? Is there a place, trip, or even an ordinary moment that was surprisingly hard to leave behind?

As a conversation starter, I wrote this essay:

https://medium.com/age-of-awareness/the-footprints-we-leave-behind-and-what-we-keep-ff0676162a3a?sk=a965da7dcb073f38f9503840c12cf793

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 2 months ago

Does anyone else get unexpectedly emotional when it's time to leave a place?

I've noticed this about myself ever since I was a kid. Whether it's leaving family after a visit, finishing a vacation, or even wrapping up a work trip, I always get this wave of melancholy as I'm packing to go.

What's strange is that it happens even when I'm genuinely excited to get home. It made me realize the feeling isn't necessarily about not wanting to leave. I think it's more about recognizing that a moment in my life has come to an end and won't ever exist in quite the same way again.

Does anyone else experience this? Is there a place, trip, or even an ordinary moment that was surprisingly hard to leave behind?

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u/ChangeTheLAUSD — 2 months ago