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This is always something I've been really conflicted on growing up and still even now. You'll have people seemingly over the moon at the idea of small things with you like going to a new coffee shop or playing a video game. A lot of the time it goes as far as making plans and then you just don't hear from them again.

I understand that people have their own lives and things happen but it's every time I think I'm making plans with somebody or making a new friend who says "I'll totally message you!" then leaves you on delivered when you try. I don't know if it's my autism causing me to take things really literally so I think that people are actually going to do things with me but I don't know how to stop taking it to heart.

I try and keep my word with everybody and if I'm really not feeling it then I either won't pretend I really want to do something in the first place or if I have another important commitment or illness then I'll be transparent and apologise. If they want to reschedule then I'll take a few minutes with them to find another good time to do something together.

It's just super confusing and it makes me feel sad a lot that friends don't follow through on their plans with me

I've been really stuck on this recently. I just don't want to go outside. I hate people looking at me now. I just can't seem to do what is socially normal despite knowing in my head the social rules of a situation. I feel like I'm stuck in a prison, watching my body do the wrong things while my mind suffers the consequences of complete shame.

I'm going to university soon. All I want is the amazing social life, a circle of friends, the ability to just focus on my studies instead of worrying constantly about how I'm being looked at. It's even gotten to the point where I'm constantly trying to mask even alone in my own room.

I'm just wondering if anyone else is or has experienced this too. I just don't want to be alone in it.

Due to some unfortunate circumstances with my own family, I currently live with my partner and his family. We both attend university so we are still at home and we have been together for over 2 years now. His family have stated many times that they are happy for me to be here, so I doubt that's the issue.

Throughout these two years, even before recently moving in, I've stayed over multiple days a week and had many days out with his family, more than I've ever had with my own. But they still treat me like I'm completely new. Like we only got together a week ago. I've tried multiple ways of getting to know them but they just seem completely closed off to me. They just give me awkward short replies and won't want to involve me unless they really have to. If they do have to let me know things, they make him tell me.

They're actually really charismatic people too and seeing them talk to each other and people outside of their family is amazing. I really admire it but I just don't know why they won't treat me the same.

It just makes me feel like an alien in the house. My partner doesn't seem to notice at all and just keeps saying they love me being around and think the world of me etc etc but it's just hard to believe now. He keeps saying how I've always got his family no matter what because I don't have my own but I really could not feel any more uncomfortable asking them for anything. I don't even like using their shower now or going to get food. I was always a bit awkward but that's to be expected since I didn't live here before.

I've told them countless time how I'm awkward a lot and I apologise for it, I have autism. I just have no idea what to do and it honestly just makes me want to leave and go home to my awful family where I know I'd be even more depressed.

I am sorry if this is a topic that comes up frequently.

My doctors have began to discuss fibromyalgia as an explanation for my constant pain and fatigue alongside other symptoms. I've looked into it before the doctors took me seriously, and it always seemed likely. It feels surreal that they're finally finding a diagnosis for me, and surreal that I might've been right all along.

"Preparation" might not be the right word for what I need, but the thought that this might be an incurable condition without a set cause is scaring me really badly. Sure, I'll know what will work best for me in time but the thought that I'll always have to manage my life daily is really getting to me. I'm already so limited by my pain, even with walking and trying to take care of myself.

I don't want this to be forever. But it seems like it might be. So I'm asking you guys, how do I mentally prepare for this to be lifelong? What are your best tips for pacing and still living your life to the fullest despite this limitation? Do you work and if so what job do you do? (This is something I'm especially worried about because I already struggle so much financially). How do you cope with the mental health side of things? I'm already really depressed about the pain and I've lost so many people due to being too negative all the time.

I'm also so worried about not being believed even with a formal diagnosis. How do you deal with the people who don't believe fibromyalgia is a real thing?

I'm sorry if these questions are generic. But anything please that helps you even if not related to any of the examples I asked about, I would appreciate so much. I'm really scared. I also know it's different for everyone, but any personal experiences with stuff that helped would really make me feel better. Thank you so much

It feels like everyone around me just forgets about me and they always have. When I was younger, friends forgot to invite me to things or wish me happy birthday with the explanation that they just forgot. Family forget my birthday all the time now still, even my own siblings and parents. They forget how old I am. Everybody makes a little lighthearted joke about it when I bring it up but I don't see it as a joke.

Even the people I live with forget I live here even though I eat dinner with them every night and contribute to conversations. Today, from my room, I heard them going around inviting each other to see a movie I have talked about wanting to see. They skipped my room. I know I should just go out and ask them but I've always then felt like an intruder.

I'm just not sure what to do.

I’m currently going through a journey to find what works for me. I’m trying to do it slowly due to how expensive skincare can get but I feel guilty seeing all the skincare products I’ve only used about 30% of sitting on a shelf abandoned.

I tried asking people I know if they want it (e.g. family members) but nobody wants any slightly used products. So I’m unsure on how to get use out of them.

I’m not sure if the title is the right way to describe it simply.

My entire life I’ve felt behind other women in terms of knowing how to take care of myself. I grew up in poverty and the women in my family showered only once a month. I wasn’t ever told to brush my teeth or how to shave or take care of my hair.

I’m 18 now and I’ve learnt a lot of things myself using the internet and trial and error. But still I feel so behind. I constantly feel dirty unless I’m straight out of the shower. My teeth always feel dirty no matter how much I brush them. My skin is always spotty and crusty no matter how much or how little I moisturise it.

Everything about me feels so wrong and behind in terms of hygiene. I’m really not sure how to fix any of it.

People actively avoid me. They don’t check up on me. They don’t care for me.

I’m an 18 year old female who has no family who care enough to put me above their addictions. I have no friends and the friends I did have ditched me for people who treated me badly in the past. I can’t make any new friends because nobody is in any way interested about me.

I’m not conventionally attractive. I’m autistic. I’m chronically ill which has removed my ability to even shower or get out of bed a lot of days. I put my phone on do not disturb when it’s not really needed because nobody messages me anyway.

All I do is scroll on my phone and be in pain now. There’s nothing that makes me feel better. And now I have all these scars on me and I have to further hide myself from others so they don’t see it.

I hate my life

I fall into the trap of buying shirts or dresses that only have photos with smaller chested models. Obviously when I try them on though, it looks nothing like said model and I get really upset.

I’m looking for any brands that show representation of larger chests (I’m anywhere from an E-G depending on where I shop for bras). None of my clothes fit me at the moment, as I seem to have grown a bit more in the chest area so I can’t wear anything without accidentally popping a nipple. Thanks for any advice!!

It’s everywhere and it’s never ending. Nothing relieves it, no painkillers or rest. I’m constantly just throbbing with pain as if I’ve just climbed a mountain. I wish I could climb a mountain. I wish I could just go on a walk. In peace.

I wish I could truly just rest too. I sit down in bed and all I can think about is how much pain I’m in. I just cry. I slow everyone else down, so nobody wants to be around me as much. I wish I could work. I wish I could exercise. I wish I could shower without it taking all my energy.

I wish for so much.

I feel like I’m only getting worse every day!! Waking up takes more energy than I have. I’m ready to go to bed within an hour of being awake and none of my clothes feel like they fit me right anymore because wearing them HURTS!!

I wanted to go out today and feel good about myself. I haven’t dressed up in so long and when I did, I felt so tired and overwhelmed that I stared at myself throbbing with pain in the mirror and just felt.. ugly.

When I think that this illness cant take any more from me, it finds something new.

We have been together for over a year now. We both have made our interests very clear to each other and we both enjoy similar things. For example, watching movies, gaming etc.

But it just feels like it’s always about what he wants to do. I suggest a movie or franchise I really enjoy? Too long, he’s feeling tired. But we’ll watch hours upon hours of what he enjoys. A game I’d like to show him? Maybe tomorrow, but tomorrow never comes. But we’ll go on to play what he likes constantly.

If I do manage to convince him after weeks of asking, he won’t be very engaged and will go on his phone at the same time or criticise what I like. But if I do this for him, he gets really upset. Keep in mind, I do enjoy what he shows me because I love him sharing things with me, but it just has gotten to a point where I’m getting bored because I don’t constantly want to be pushing my own interests down.

He’s even mentioned to me recently that he avoids doing some of the stuff he likes around me because he thinks that I hate it. And it’s made me confused because all we ever do is stuff he likes. I brought this up in the nicest way possible and he just said “But you enjoy doing that stuff too.” When yes, but not 24/7.

I just don’t know what to do. I’ve mentioned it to him other times than what I described and he doesn’t seem to listen.

I’ve been in pain for so long and he’s been with me through it all. He’s supported me even when he’s running on nothing, making sure to accommodate me at all times. He is the most understanding person in my life.

Everyone else ditched me when I began to get depressed because of my pain. Friends ran to people who did me wrong in the past and family turned their backs on me. I’ve been lacking so much confidence in myself, I feel less than everyone around me.

We’ve been talking about marriage and about our future. The cute little “I can’t wait till we have kids and do (insert thing) with them.” But in the back of my mind, I’m going to be suffering through it all. He’s only marrying into sickness, not health, and I’ve never felt so guilty.

I barely have energy to carry myself around, to shower and take care of myself. The prospects of me being able to take care of a child don’t seem good. I think the most caring thing I can do for a child, is not be the one to raise it. Especially after having barely present parents, who complained of being too sore to spend time with me whenever they did see me.

FUCK this pain!!

I find myself in games with people who just click ready as soon as possible instead of picking who they want to play and who they want to ban. Like is it not better if we try and vote to ban the tank's counters to have more of a chance of winning? I've even had a full team of people not voting at all for anything and I've also had a tank not select what they wanted to play then complain at us for banning their main once in game.

For context, I'm stuck between silver 3 and gold 5 so I don't know if that has anything to do with it hahaha

My own family don't really care about me all that much. They don't speak to me and if they do, it's only to see what they can get from me (money, food etc). I don't like to even be seen by them, I just wish I was invisible so I could avoid their judging eyes while still being able to freely roam the house.

But when I go to my partner's house, I feel like an alien. I just have a huge sense of dread because I feel like I stick out like a sore thumb, that I really don't belong here. Their dynamic is so desirable for a family, they're so positive and love each other greatly. When they show me that type of affection too, I don't know how to respond and I just freeze. It makes them worry about me more, therefore making them focus on me more but I don't want anybody to focus on me.

I just want to be invisible so I can live my life without someone perceiving me. Without someone having the ability to analyse me. This is because of my family and I don't know how to ever escape feeling uncomfortable wherever I go.

Sorry if this is a dumb and obvious question, but I'm trying to change dash from double jump and I can't find where to change it? D:

I’m a very frustrated and angry person at this time in my life. I feel angry because all I’ve ever done is be good, kind and respectful to everybody around me. But my entire life I’ve just had bad things happen to me. Abuse, alcoholic family, bullying.

This past year I have been the lowest I’ve ever been because I developed a chronic illness and I lost my job. It’s been so difficult trying to find another. I lost my only friend, because I was upset all the time and they were the only one I had to lean on especially after I couldn’t afford therapy anymore.

I just want to stop feeling so mad at everyone and everything