u/Every-Tap-577

Has anyone seen the anger from you telling them
No? Or maybe it’s not an actual thing ?

I’ll just use one example that’s clicking for me now. He would pressure me for nudes, and when I kept saying no-or because I was being pressured, I’d say “tomorrow” and then say no again- he would crash out, call me a liar, etc.( maybe I was wrong, I take accountability)
Then during the apologizing phase, he’d say, “It’s just that you’re my girl, and when you say no, it feels like you’re denying me something that’s mine .” Or along those lines… but he’d say it in a way that sounds cute like I’m his and his mine
Why does “no” trigger them so much? I’ve just started noticing this.

I’ll just use one example that’s clicking for me now. He would pressure me for nudes, and when I kept saying no-or because I was being pressured, I’d say “tomorrow” and then say no again-he would crash out, call me a liar, etc.( maybe I was wrong I take accountability)
Then during the apologizing phase, he’d say, “It’s just that you’re my girl, and when you say no, it feels like you’re denying me something that’s mine .” Or along those lines… but he’d say it in a way that sounds cute like I’m his and his mine

Maybe I’m just reading a book while it’s that time of the month and everything is pissing me off 😭 but STILL.
We get it. She’s so small. He’s so big. His hand could probably be the size of her thigh. WE GET IT.
It happens so much, and sometimes it feels like every interaction has to remind us of the size difference. He picks her up? She’s so tiny compared to him. He holds her hand? His completely swallows hers. She stands next to him? Here comes another reminder that she barely reaches his chest.
Please, we remembered from the first five times 😭.
Not to pick and choose, but sometimes I can understand emphasizing body size when it’s actually relevant to the FMC’s character. I’ve read one book with a chubby FMC where her size was part of her insecurity, so the comparisons made more sense because they were actually connected to how she viewed herself.
But if constantly making the FMC tiny is supposed to make the MMC seem more intimidating, TRUST ME, you can do that with his personality. 😭 Even if they were the exact same size, a well-written intimidating man would still be intimidating.

Edit:Guys, I genuinely did not know this was a kink thing. So I hope y’all understand that I thought the authors were just being repetitive or trying to emphasize how intimidating the MMC was ( which they can do this in another ways ).
I didn’t realize the size difference was being emphasized on purpose.

I’m not using our real names for privacy, but these example names have the exact same type of difference as our actual names.
Let’s say my grandma’s name was Isabella. She named me Isabelle after herself ( actually it had to be Isabella but my mum wanted to just change it alittle) , my grandma passed away before my dad remarried and had another daughter. He then named his daughter Isabella, after the same grandma.( His mum)
My dad was barely in my life. I was the kid who would maybe go to his house twice a year, and some years not at all. So I think that context is part of why this has always felt strange to me. Sometimes I wonder if, consciously or not, he was trying to erase or replace me in some way.
He’s done other terrible things where there’s no confusion about whether they were wrong, but this is one thing I’ve never known how to interpret.
I can’t ask him because I’ve been no contact with him for years( for other reasons). I’m not calling him a narcissist, but he has traits ( like a lot )
And conversations like this would tend to end in blame shifting or gaslighting.
Also, I actually asked both my dad and stepmum who chose the name in the middle of normal conversations. Surprisingly, my dad said my stepmum did, while my stepmum said my dad did.
I honestly believe my stepmum because she never even met his mum, so I don’t really see why she would choose to name her daughter after her.
And just to clarify, I was young and asked naturally, not confrontationally. I barely saw either of them, so I wasn’t really comfortable enough to question it further.

I’m genuinely open to all opinions, including people who think there’s nothing weird about it. I’ve just never felt comfortable discussing this with people who know me personally v, so I’m curious how strangers would interpret v

I’m not using our real names for privacy, but these example names have the exact same type of difference as our actual names.
Let’s say my grandma’s name was Isabella. She named me Isabelle after herself ( actually it had to be Isabella but my mum wanted to just change it alittle) , my grandma passed away before my dad remarried and had another daughter. He then named his daughter Isabella, after the same grandma.( His mum)
My dad was barely in my life. I was the kid who would maybe go to his house twice a year, and some years not at all. So I think that context is part of why this has always felt strange to me. Sometimes I wonder if, consciously or not, he was trying to erase or replace me in some way.
He’s done other terrible things where there’s no confusion about whether they were wrong, but this is one thing I’ve never known how to interpret.
I can’t ask him because I’ve been no contact with him for years( for other reasons). I’m not calling him a narcissist, but he has traits ( like a lot )
And conversations like this would tend to end in blame shifting or gaslighting.
Also, I actually asked both my dad and stepmum who chose the name in the middle of normal conversations. Surprisingly, my dad said my stepmum did, while my stepmum said my dad did.
I honestly believe my stepmum because she never even met his mum, so I don’t really see why she would choose to name her daughter after her.
And just to clarify, I was young and asked naturally, not confrontationally. I barely saw either of them, so I wasn’t really comfortable enough to question it further.

I’m genuinely open to all opinions, including people who think there’s nothing weird about it. I’ve just never felt comfortable discussing this with people who know me personally v, so I’m curious how strangers would interpret v

Being a side chick knowingly and then intentionally getting pregnant is evil af, and I genuinely wish there were laws that could put people behind bars for intentionally bringing a child into a situation like that.
9 times out of 10, it’s like they’re having that child to trap the man OR because they think having his baby will somehow help them take the wife’s spot.
Like yes, you chose your life. You chose to knowingly be a side chick. If consequences came from that situation, at least it would be something YOU willingly signed up for.
But bringing another human being into this miserable situation is what makes it so heartbreaking to me. That child didn’t choose any of this.
And I don’t care how much money the man has. Money doesn’t suddenly make the situation less selfish. Purposely bringing a child into a mess because you want to secure a man or take another woman’s place is selfish af.

Note: And I think most of the time, it’s seen as evil because they’re breaking up another person’s family or sleeping with a married man. But I haven’t seen many takes on how it can also be evil and incredibly selfish to the child being brought into that situation.

Edit: y’all are so stupid, slow af and dumb. But most importantly selfish. There’s no way y’all are letting the most important point in this post fly over y’all heads..

I was thinking about how people casually say “we’re trying” when they mean they’re trying to get pregnant.

I’m not using our real names for privacy, but these example names have the exact same type of difference as our actual names.
Let’s say my grandma’s name was Isabella. She named me Isabelle after herself ( actually it had to be Isabella but my mum wanted to just change it alittle) , my grandma passed away before my dad remarried and had another daughter. He then named his daughter Isabella, after the same grandma.( His mum)
My dad was barely in my life. I was the kid who would maybe go to his house twice a year, and some years not at all. So I think that context is part of why this has always felt strange to me. Sometimes I wonder if, consciously or not, he was trying to erase or replace me in some way.
He’s done other terrible things where there’s no confusion about whether they were wrong, but this is one thing I’ve never known how to interpret.
I can’t ask him because I’ve been no contact with him for years( for other reasons). I’m not calling him a narcissist, but he has traits where conversations like this tend to end in blame shifting or gaslighting.
Also, I actually asked both my dad and stepmum who chose the name in the middle of normal conversations. Surprisingly, my dad said my stepmum did, while my stepmum said my dad did.
I honestly believe my stepmum because she never even met his mum, so I don’t really see why she would choose to name her daughter after her.
And just to clarify, I was young and asked naturally, not confrontationally. I barely saw either of them, so I wasn’t really comfortable enough to question it further.

I’m genuinely open to all opinions, including people who think there’s nothing weird about it. I’ve just never felt comfortable discussing this with people who know me personally, so I’m curious how strangers would interpret it

I undestand the opportunities that Love Island can give someone and how someone’s life can literally do a whole 180 after going on the show. The followers, money, brand deals, connections, opportunities, etc.
But damn, I don’t know how to explain it. Sometimes it feels like they become prisoners of the fanbase.
They literally can’t do anything without people analyzing it. They have to watch who they’re friends with. If a certain person doesn’t comment on someone else’s post, suddenly there’s a problem. If they’re seen with the “wrong” person, people start questioning them. Every like, comment or lack of a comment becomes a whole discussion don’t get me started on not wanting to follow someone on IG
And don’t even get me started on the pressure of the relationships. I can’t imagine knowing that thousands of people are watching your relationship and expecting you to hold it together because they voted for you, supported you and became attached to you as a couple. Even if things aren’t working anymore, there must be so much pressure knowing the reaction that will come with ending it.
Obviously artists, actors and other celebrities deal with insane fanbases too, but there’s something about Love Island fame that feels different to me.

Maybe because the audience watched these people every day, voted for them and basically participated in their journey, so some fans develop this weird sense of ownership over them.
And then there’s the expectation that they have to be perfect. One mistake, one bad interaction, one friendship people don’t approve of, and suddenly everything changes.
I’ve pretty much detached from this season at this point, and Sol was never even my favourite, but seeing the amount of hate she’s been getting! Mind you they literally voted for sol and sincere ???

And also this thing of how casa girls are perceived as whores or side chicks. Anyway

The opportunities are amazing, obviously. But sometimes Love Island fame genuinely looks exhausting. Like you become famous, but at the same time you lose the freedom to just exist without thousands of strangers dissecting every little thing you do.

Just started Sinners Anonymous and I'm only on page 27, but somehow I already have FOUR crushes.
Maybe I'm just deprived of hot men, idk 5 but l already like all three brothers AND Tor.
I know as I keep reading I might end up not liking any of them, but it's just funny because I don't think this has ever happened to me before.
Mind you, I'm literally on PAGE 27 (
Please no spoilers!!
Also, I know l've heard a lot of people say they don't really like this book out of the series, but so far I think it started pretty decent. I have no complaints yet.
And for the people who say this series is similar to the Made series, I really hope it's not too similar. I don't like reading stories that feel like something I've already read before. I hope the actual story and characters feel different.
"You hoping to fall or fly"
"Suicide is a sin"
Yassss God Ilove a man with dry humor.
YAS I can sometimes be so easy to impress. I just hope nothing happens that makes me end up DNFing it.

Please, you're not in the mafia. You're not a criminal.
You work in corporate (no diss😭), or worse, you're
in high school or college and still live with your parents.
Yes, you have anger issues. Yes, you're possessive.
But what do you mean, "If anyone touches her, they will die"????
WHO is going to kill them??? YOU??? 😭o I don't know how to explain this, but I hope this reaches the right audience because it icks me out so bad when a completely normal MMC starts talking like he has bodies buried somewhere.
Unless you're secretly a serial killer and the corporate job is just a cover-up, please stop threatening to murder everyone who looks at your girlfriend.
Maybe I'm the problem

Edit:Reposting this because the mods removed my other post and asked me to make the title clearer

I feel like sometimes authors are just trying to hit all the things the BookTok girlies love without actually doing the work to make them fit naturally into the story.

Maybe it’s because I watched it when I was younger, but I genuinely did not understand the whole sadist part or the part about him going for women who looked like his mum.
Now I’m rewatching it after recently getting into true crime, and that part was honestly so mind-blowing to me. I’ve watched about four documentaries about serial killers where they would specifically hunt women who looked like their mothers and SA them before or after murdering them.
Obviously Christian isn’t a serial killer, but realizing that the whole psychological aspect of being drawn to women who resemble your mother and then wanting to hurt them isn’t just something completely made up for a movie plot was crazy to me.
When I first watched Fifty Shades, I genuinely thought that whole backstory was just something the writers came up with to make Christian’s character darker. I didn’t realize there were real cases with disturbingly similar psychological patterns.

I’m looking for a romance movie where the guy basically just uses her. They have sex and afterward it genuinely means nothing to him. Like it was basically a hit and run from his perspective.
He can eventually fall in love with her later

I’m looking for romance movies with a cheating trope. I don’t care whether one of them cheats on the other or they cheat with each other.
I would just want the main couple to eventually end up together later on.

And yes, of course I want them to fuck too but PLEASEEE I need actual kissing.
And please, I need them to be attractive as fuck.

Please give me something with actual chemistry, kissing, and sex. No dark romance, but I don’t mind lots of toxicity.

And if it’s dark romance then it should be worth it fr.

For me, it's when a guy hops on the game after taking me through the mattress.
I genuinely cannot explain why. It does something to me BAD.
I know this is so random, so now l'm curious what everyone else's weirdly specific thing is.

I feel like there are two types of enemies to lovers in romance.
The first is where they genuinely hate each other because one (or both) of them has done something so awful that it’s hard to even picture them ending up together.
The second is where they just constantly butt heads. They clash, argue, tease, and get under each other’s skin, but it’s more of a dislike than actual hatred. Watching them slowly fall in love feels awkward, cute, and natural.
I’m looking for the second type.
I just watched 40 Dates and 40 Nights( 2026) , and the dynamic I’m talking about is pretty close to that. I’d love books with that kind of vibe.

I’m looking for romance movies where the guy chooses not to have sex for any reason.( I don’t care if they’ve already been intimate before)
I really liked that in After Ever Happy when Hardin refused to sleep with Tessa because he wanted them to work on their relationship first instead of using sex to fix things or something like that.
Any movies with that kind of dynamic? I don’t mind if they’ve already been intimate, as long as that isn’t the main focus.