u/Every-Tap-577

Just started posting recently and I love girlhood and realizing that some of the experiences I’ve had… I’m not the only one. But maybe I am on this topic, idk

Like yes, I get the pleasure part. But damn, nobody told me how much work it can feel like sometimes.
Don’t even get me on the overthinking part about whether you’re pleasing the other person or if they’re just pretending.

Everything that comes with it just seems like work sometimes

Of course I haven’t had it in years but still.

Not trying to make this male-centered or anything I just want to get back into dating eventually, but before I do, I want to work on some insecurities I have. One of them is sweating/moisture between my ass cheeks. I do have a bigger ass so maybe that contributes, idk. And when I say sweat, I don’t mean like drenched in sweat it’s more like friction between the cheeks that causes moisture or dampness.

And to be honest, sometimes it doesn’t smell great. Yes, I wash properly like in the shower I literally spread the cheeks and wash with Dove. But that’s the only time I actually feel and smell super fresh down there. Even if I haven’t used the bathroom or anything.

For people who’ve experienced this, what do you guys use or do that actually helps?

AND CAN THE MODS PLEASE STOP DELETING COMMENTS ? I’m trying to GET HELP.

Hey girlies, I just wanted to ask if this is normal. After a long day I tend to have a distinct smell down there. Is that normal ? I mean I’m also asking cause there’s this thing where girls wanna seem like they don’t stink and to be honest I do believe that most girls take care of themselves( atleast the ones I’m around) that’s why I’m wondering.
FYI haven’t had sex in 3 years so it wouldn’t be that. And I’m very uncomfortable going to a gynecologist. The smell isn’t very bad where someone sitting next to me can smell it. It’s just that smell that if I was to smell using my hand there’d be a smell and I wouldn’t feel comfortable someone going down on me if you know what I mean.
If there are any tips please help and also of this is normal let me know .

Those in relationships, how do yall have sex after a long day ? I mean how do you manage to keep your vaginas fresh?

Having cake for dinner!

Edit:
Thank you!🥹 I literally went to bed a few minutes after making the post, so I didn’t expect to get so many responses. I’ll go through the comments and take your suggestions into consideration. Thank you!