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I’m going to Ocean city next week and have been looking on tik tok for food and restaurant recommendations, a majority of the comments are full of locals complaining about how busy tourist make it this time of year. Obviously I know it’s tik tok so I take it with a grain of salt, but why live in a beach/ tourist town and then get mad…when there are tourist.

The other half of the comments are people complaining about how gross/ nasty Ocean city is. I grew up in the Midwest but have in Maryland for 5 years now, maybe it’s the novelty of not growing up locally but I’m excited to go lol.

Please use coast guard approved life jackets. Not puddle jumpers or those little canopy floaters.

Even with parents being close by they are not safe and teach bad habits that can cause unsafe swimming and safety once they are old enough to go without them.

If you don’t have a coast guard approved floatation device just hold your baby/ toddler/ young child in your arms directly.

I work in water safety and you would be surprised how many drownings/ emergency situations happen with these things even with direct parent supervision, even right under your own nose while you’re in the pool right next to them. Drowning is silent and looks like a child just bobbing around, it’s not screaming or thrashing or anything “obvious” majority of the time.

I was on Zoloft and it suckeddddd. I stopped after a few weeks even before the normal “adjustment” period because it was making things so much worse, then when I finally started to calm back down around two weeks of using it, I could barely get out of bed and was sleeping almost 16hours a day and felt miserable.

Now I’ve been on lexapro for about two months. I don’t feel like my lows are AS low but I also don’t feel like what I think most people would consider “normal” I still have a lingering feeling of dread not like I’m expecting some crazy situation to happen, just constant feeling of how meaningless life is in the grand scheme of the universe. My anxiety still spikes at random when logically I know nothing wrong.

I’m tired of feeling this way. I just want to feel present and not even overly “happy” just content.

I’m not sure if should talk to my provider about going up in doses or maybe try out another medication?

We have an agreement that phone calls will take place for 30min on Saturday’ mornings. My ex is constantly asking to call on Sunday or mondays instead. I have said yes sometimes, I also have said no when we were out and then they threaten to hold me in contempt since our agreement states open communication will be maintained.

What are my rights here?

How do I deal with an order that states we will allow open communication but also stipulates a schedule my ex refuses to follow?

I mean the title speaks for itself. I’ve been seen this line or similar all over social media. The ironic part is it’s usually coming from women who do still work they don’t have a typical 9-5. This economy is crazy to imply families needing/ wanting two incomes to provide means you married a deadbeat husband is just so rude. Not to mention how many mothers choose to work not even solely for a paycheck it could be so that they can have a sense of self, stability, insurance, education, etc. So again to imply you somehow married a “looser” by wanting that for yourself/ family is such a weird dig to take at working moms or duel income families.

My MIL isn’t your typical “monster”in law at face value. The problem with her is she NEVER agrees with any of the choices we make and always has a snarky opinion about it.

My sister just moved in after finally breaking free from being in an extremely abusive relationship she is literal shell of the human she was once before, physically and emotionally. My parents can’t even look at her without bursting into tears seeing the state she is in, so we are fully supporting her. She’s been here about 6mo and has been doing great in her recovery but still needs a lot of help and support. Ofc my MIL is always grilling my husband about if my family is sending us money to help and how are we affording it, and what she does to “pay us back”. The wild part is THEY are in major debt to us. My husband had gotten a bonus for roughly $25,000. He pulled the money out of the bank and was storing it in his mom’s safe, since we were renovating and the contractor was willing to give us a major discount if we paid in cash. The money ALL went “missing” and no one in their house will confess and his mom refuses to figure out who stole it, and has been paying us back slowly but no where near having it paid off.

They only want to meet up at restaurants which my 18mo old does not handle well, she doesn’t sit still in restaurants and thinks it’s jungle gym. MIL is constantly making comments about how “she only acts that way because we let her”. We have very clear expectations and boundaries for our daughter but at the end of the day she’s a strong willed toddler there’s only so much that can be done to “control” them from having melt downs or refusing to sit in chair for an hour and half.

This is coming after her making constant comments comparing my looks to my husband’s ex’s while we were dating.

She also talks horribly about EVERYONE in their family and friend group, when she’s not making passive aggressive comments about us in our faces, it’s the only other thing she talks about it.

I’m so tired of being around it, and so is my husband, but he’s not ready to cut her off per se.

Any advice on how to deal with this or set boundaries with her that don’t seem like an attack or instigating as we don’t want to become the “bad guys” or start some huge family rift, but also want to make it clear this is not behavior we’re willing to tolerate anymore.

My MIL isn’t your typical “monster”in law at face value. The problem with her is she NEVER agrees with any of the choices we make and always has a snarky opinion about it.

My sister just moved in after finally breaking free from being in an extremely abusive relationship she is literal shell of the human she was once before, physically and emotionally. My parents can’t even look at her without bursting into tears seeing the state she is in, so we are fully supporting her. She’s been here about 6mo and has been doing great in her recovery but still needs a lot of help and support. Ofc my MIL is always grilling my husband about if my family is sending us money to help and how are we affording it, and what she does to “pay us back”. The wild part is THEY are in major debt to us. My husband had gotten a bonus for roughly $25,000. He pulled the money out of the bank and was storing it in his mom’s safe, since we were renovating and the contractor was willing to give us a major discount if we paid in cash. The money ALL went “missing” and no one in their house will confess and his mom refuses to figure out who stole it, and has been paying us back slowly but no where near having it paid off.

They only want to meet up at restaurants which my 18mo old does not handle well, she doesn’t sit still in restaurants and thinks it’s jungle gym. MIL is constantly making comments about how “she only acts that way because we let her”. We have very clear expectations and boundaries for our daughter but at the end of the day she’s a strong willed toddler there’s only so much that can be done to “control” them from having melt downs or refusing to sit in chair for an hour and half.

This is coming after her making constant comments comparing my looks to my husband’s ex’s while we were dating.

She also talks horribly about EVERYONE in their family and friend group, when she’s not making passive aggressive comments about us in our faces, it’s the only other thing she talks about it.

I’m so tired of being around it, and so is my husband, but he’s not ready to cut her off per se.

Any advice on how to deal with this or set boundaries with her that don’t seem like an attack or instigating as we don’t want to become the “bad guys” or start some huge family rift, but also want to make it clear this is not behavior we’re willing to tolerate anymore.

I always dreamed of having two kids. I also have two sisters im EXTREMELY close with, and wanted my children to be able to have that same bond, and someone to play with, grow up with and be there for one another when the day comes my husband and I are no longer here. My Pregnacy was horrible, I was sick and miserable the entire 9mo. I also had some very very mild complications that are likely to come back up if we’re to have a second. I’m sure I would be able to have a healthy second and no doctor has told me otherwise. I’m just not sure I want to go through it all again.

I just find parenthood extremely draining. My daughter is A LOT the first year she refused to sleep, and had to be held 24/7. Now as a toddler she has zero chill. Constant fits, never sits still, etc. still doesn’t sleep well, is still pretty clingy and high maintenance. I love her, but I cannot Imange dealing with her and being in the newborn trenches again.

Not to mention the cost of raising two children, plus my husband and I both work full time so childcare would be so high. We have very little family or friends near us to help create a “village”.

It’s still very sad to me almost like I’m mourning the life the I always envisioned for myself and my child(ren), and still feel so torn even though I feel like it’s the right choice.

This who struggled with being one and done, but knew it was the right choice… how did you accept it?

The first year of my daughter’s life sleeping was HELL. She woke up every 2-3 hours never outgrew the newborn sleep cycle. I broke down and sleep trained. Things been great ever since…. Until now, she just turned 19mo and the last week she’s been refusing to sleep in her bed, crying, crawling out, waking up in the middle of the night crying when we do transfer her to her bed, etc.

Is this a “normal” phase for their age? How long did it last for others? Any tips for getting through it, or “re”sleep training in the toddler age?

The first year of my daughter’s life sleeping was HELL. She woke up every 2-3 hours never outgrew the newborn sleep cycle. I broke down and sleep trained. Things been great ever since…. Until now, she just turned 19mo and the last week she’s been refusing to sleep in her bed, crying, crawling out, waking up in the middle of the night crying when we do transfer her to her bed, etc.

Is this a “normal” phase for their age? How long did it last for others? Any tips for getting through it, or “re”sleep training in the toddler age?

I’ve kind of wonder if Taylor refusing to get offline/ continue to push this “victim” storyline she’s made for herself that she has a cult of “supporters” helping push for her she sees as just another 20 seconds of fame.

Like most narcissists they assume they won’t have any real punishments for their behaviors. I’m sure she truly thinks the custody stuff will get “resolved” and aside from spending a night in a jail 1-2times she hasn’t actually faced any real legal issues from all the abuse and DV she’s done.

Even the whole “swinging scandal” as much as it is a scandal it gained her so much attention, views, etc= more money, more followers on her “side”

That’s why I really don’t have any hope for her turning around or doing right by children. Shes living the life she wants. Shes gets money and validation and has zero responsibilities. Who would give that up. (Yes most people would see loosing their children/ jail as a wake up call. Most people who would see that as a wake up call, also would not want the life she happily lives)

Idk maybe she is miserable as she tries to portray , I just don’t get that feeling. She honestly seems content. Erratic and unstable yes, but she seems to really enjoy the high she gets from her outbursts. Hence why she hasn’t taken therapy seriously or gotten sober, etc.

Thoughts?

Can we all please address how momtok actually started. It wasn’t this “supporting and empowering” other wives/ mothers they try to portray on the show. They would make weird rage bait videos and It was them doing any/ everything for attention and followers. Thats it.

Then they got more attention once TFP exposed the whole “swinging scandal”. She publicly outed multiple others sex lives who did not want or consent to that just to get “her side out” which essentially was just her admitting to cheating. Then demonized the other women (funny how she didn’t go after any of the men) when they did not want to be forced into explaining themselves and defend or support her (same cycle she’s in with the Dakota situation now).

Don’t get me wrong this isn’t just an attack on TFP, I don’t understand how/ why none of the other women want to admit Jessi’s cheating and weird two men at the baby shower situation has just been swept under the rug. Along with all her other toxic behaviors they refuse to address or “call her out for” in order to actually help her learn/ grow like REAL friends do.

Mikayla has grown on me although I did not like her in the first few seasons. The fact that none of the women want to come to her as a woman/ friend/ mother/ etc. and call out how weird Jace is and how he clearly is toxic and predatory. They all just give him a pass since he’s quiet and not loud/ explosive like the other husbands.

There’s nothing that has ever been “supportive” about this group.

My husband and I have been married for 10years my SD(16F) just got a car that my husband and I pay for to include the insurance. I love my SD and treat her like my own I’ve been in her life since she was 4. It was HARD in the beginning. Her mom encourages and allows some very bad behaviors. She has since gotten better at understanding our house has structure, rules, and parents need to be respected (for context her expectations have always been age appropriate and I make sure that when I say something it has a reasonable I don’t say “no” or tell her to do something as some power tripping evil step mother).

Her mom’s house is basically a free for all, with very little rules/ structure and she often leaves SD in charge of her two younger siblings. She also lives over an hour away. I have told SD (with my husband agreeing) we do not want her using our car we have given her to travel to and from her moms house or while under her moms custody at all. SD obviously is very upset by this and thinks she should be able to use “her” car when she’s over there. My reasoning 1. I don’t want it being used to transport her siblings around and SD turn into a chauffeur for her mom, I don’t want to risk her mom driving it for whatever reason since she often has car problems/ issues, I could easily see her viewing it as a second vehicle for herself. All those issues aside if there were to be an accident or emergency I don’t feel comfortable being well over an hour away before either my husband or myself to take car of insurance claims, ensure everything is documented properly, etc.

SD aside from being upset that she can’t use it to drive around while out there also has brought up she would like to start working and needs transportation for that. Which is reasonable but IMO the good far outweighs the bad here, and stand firm on the idea that she should not have the car while in her mother’s custody.

So AITA?

I know this isn’t the “typical” topic on here. Does anyone know any childcare benefits out there for us…if it even exists.