u/Idontknowhonestlyidk

Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/bQ8S9K4Npa

So, I did it... kinda.

We were talking, and i gave her some unpleasant news, and she asked why I didnt tell her sooner, and why I dont talk to her.

And I told her the truth.

And... I dont think it changed anything.

I told her that i feel upset when I talk to her because she used to shout at us all the time - like 90% of our interactions with her. I told her that whenever i had talked to her in the past, she either dismissed me or made me feel like shit. I told her my chest feels tense when i talk to her, that I was crying right now because I was talking to her (which was true).

I reminded her about some incidents in the past and what happened, and i explained what i was feeling then.

And she said that she always gets blamed for other people life choices, and that this wasnt her fault.

I clarified that I wasnt blaming her for how things turned out, but when someone tells you you hurt them, you apologise, and... she doubles down.

Then I asked her if she wanted to actually talk and have a discussion with us (her children), or if she just wanted us to obey her. Guess what her answer was.

Anyway, I called her (up until then it had been text) and we talked, I guess. I cant really remember what was said, but yeah, it happened.

I wanna point out, I never ever call people, its always texting, because i have trouble with speaking. So, for me to call you, its a big deal.

Anyway, yeah nothing changed. I dont know what I expected to happen, I guess id hoped shed actually listen to me, instead of going all woe-is-me, but that didnt happen. Im so tired of this.

She asked me to come home at least, so we'll see how that goes.

What I mean is, currently, tasks like bathing, brushing my teeth, taking out the trash, making my bed, yunno, is all associated with "going outside". So ill only end up doing them if i have to go outside that day.

The issue is, all of these things require consistent maintanence, so im kinda fucked, cause if i dont have something scheduled outside for, say, a week, i wont bathe that whole week. Which, obvs, gets smelly quite quickly.

I need my brain to associate these tasks with "waking up" rather than "going outside". Does anyone have any tips for me?

A while ago, my mum asked me "Was I a good mother?"

And I really, wanted to say "No" because she wasnt, for a couple of reasons.

Not to say she didnt try, she did, she tried to make the best out of a bad situation. But she still pretty severely fucked up all her children through her own faults, and yeah, she really sucked as a mother, imo. Lemme just say, all, ALL my bad memories from, say, 0-18, were caused by her. ALL OF THEM.

Anyway, I said "Yes", because I love her, even if I dont like her, but i lately came to some realisations about my entire life, and ive been thinking about back then. And how i really wanted to say "no" and what that would have looked like, and how that would make me feel.

But im trying to be more kind, so would lying have been the kinder thing to do? I get that just randomly calling her to tell her everything wrong with her is assholey, but if she ever asks again, would i be wrong to tell her the truth?

Like the title says.

Im going to a convention in a few days and wanted to try a new eye look, but, yunno, i have pretty dark skin, so colours often show up different/more muted than id like. Id heard that adding a white eyeshadow under can make the colours look brighter, but, again, it can be hard to build up pigment. Ive tried it in the past with some drugstore products (cant remember which) but even after several layers it didnt look very bright.

Does anyone have any recommendations for me?

I am hungry, I want soup.

Please recommend types of soups I should eat (and bread to go with it, if applicable).

Preferably, ones that come in a can.

Thank you :>

Just read the best fic OF MY LIFE and im like, damn, crack treated seriously is so good, somehow the fics always turn out super developed and interesting omg

This isnt a rec or anything (i mean, i think u should read it but thats not why im making this post)

I just finished it and I NEED someone to scream about it with!!?!?!?!

Ive seen a few at charity shops but theres always a limited selection.

So, maybe a stupid question, but I geniunely just wanna like, work at a small shop and be done with work once my 9-5 is done and go home and do other stuff.

I dont want to be impressive or well-known/popular, or all of that. But I feel like im doing something wrong but not having big aspirations, i feel like im a disappointment. I used to win awards and stuff and get told a lot "you have so much potential", but im so tired now. And i know myself, i know that reaching for something really big when im not ready for it is going to blow up in my face, but it still feels like id be wrong for listening to myself.

Me and my friend recently watched Shrek 2 and got into an argument about whether Fiona cheated on Shrek.

He said yes because "regardless of the circumstances, Fiona still kissed someone who wasn't her husband."

I said no because "she clearly didn't want to kiss him, and Prince Charming literally lied to her, pretended to be her husband, then forces himself on her."

So who is right? And what are your reasons for thinking so.