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I don’t have a specific reverb sound in mind, I guess just a cool ambient huge shoegaze wall. Something that sounds pretty like the bands slowdive or Julie. I have an rv6 and have heard good things

I recently got a brand new vintera 3 jazzmaster, I’ve had some problems out of the box with the saddles. I’m not sure what the exact term is but they aren’t stable and are causing string buzz on the E, D, and B. Even when played open. My high e also popped off after strumming behind the bridge, not sure if this normal. Does this just require a setup and minor maintenance or is this an issue I should seek a replacement for? Thanks so much

I recently got a brand new vintera 3 jazzmaster, I’ve had some problems out of the box with the saddles. I’m not sure what the exact term is but they aren’t stable and are causing string buzz on the E, D, and B. Even when played open. My high e also popped off after strumming behind the bridge, not sure if this normal. Does this just require a setup and minor maintenance or is this an issue I should seek a replacement for? Thanks so much

I can play guitar pretty decently but I feel like I really struggle with writing the music I’d like to make. I wanna do something kind of Julie oriented, they’re my biggest inspiration in guitar playing. I have ideas and riffs that I think are decent but it just gets discouraging and hard to expand them and then it feels like they aren’t going anywhere. I could write basic pop music with easy chord progressions that would be decent songs but I wanna do cool interesting stuff like Julie/nu gaze. I’m just curious about how they actually find those really cool riffs and chords that work so well together

I’m a 16 year old teen, I’ve always identified as straight and been happy like that. Never once questioned. I have had crushes on girls since I was 7 years old, physically and emotionally. These crushes are always very intense, I feel depressed and sad if a girl doesn’t like me back. I’ve never felt anything close for a man. I recently developed really horrible hocd from porn. I’ve always had a transformation fetish, it’s extremely broad. Literally could be anything other than an inanimate object significantly changing into another thing. That fetish made sissy and mtf transgender porn incredibly arousing because I saw it as a change or transformation. Eventually I saw gay porn and realized it fit the transformation too, to an even bigger extreme. I had never cared for gay porn before, my first porn interest was lesbian porn. But seeing gay porn as one man “losing” his masculinity as a bottom was very arousing and fit the transformation fetish very well. I definitely have a porn addiction and it does feel like it’s hurting my real life attractions and love.

The other thing that really messes with me is that I’m honestly pretty scared of vaginas. Ass and tits are amazing but a vagina feels scary and foreign. It’s like the shape and feel look like some sort of alien creature and I’m scared it’ll feel weird. In the contrary, the gay and transgender porn doesn’t really cause the same fear for whatever reason. An ass and penis doesn’t look weird to me, it’s like those don’t trigger this fear and worry. I do think I like vagina however, the idea of licking it is hot and I like to think it’s a divine part of natural femininity. I’m just so scared this is how closeted gay men feel before realizing. I care for women so much and I’ve always loved them, I don’t wanna end up being secretly gay or “dl”. I feel so incredibly amazing identifying as straight. When my ocd gets horrible and I’m convinced I’m gay, I feel probably the worst I’ve ever felt in my life. But then when that relief hits and I think I’m straight it’s the most amazing feeling in the world.

I know you guys can’t solve this or actually tell me what I am but I thought it would be good to get input from actual gay men

So I’m a male, I identify as straight but specifically gynesexual/finsexual. I am attracted to women and specific feminine men. I find that as my attractions are overwhelming heterosexual, straight is a good umbrella term that works for me and gynesexual is the super specific, 100% accurate label. I’m totally fine with that, i love being attracted to femininity. I’ve always had ocd and intrusive thoughts. Recently they’ve been about my sexuality. I worry that I secretly masculine men and saying I’m “gynesexual” is just cope for being bi or even fully gay. I don’t really have any reason to think this, I’m beyond a shadow of a doubt attracted to women and typical men and masculinity have always grossed me out. Since I was 7 years old I’ve had huge crushes on girls, emotionally and physically. Never had anything like this with men. The only semblance of anything towards men is certain gay porn turning me on. I don’t really count this however as it’s about a specific fetish and has nothing to do with the men or their appearance, more so the dynamic present. Said dynamic also appears in all types of content, not just gay.

My mind just tells me I’m really bi but in denial. I’m worried that I’m so heteronormative it’s causing me to repress my sexuality. It scares me so bad, I really care for women and I want to be with one. I don’t want to be lying or “dl”

I’m a 16 year old dude, I’ve always been attracted to women and vagina. I really love the idea of having a loving wife and raising a family with her. I care for women deeply emotionally and physically. I also have quite a big interest in certain types of femboys that look very androgynous and feminine. Too masculine or a masculine name are turn offs for me. My attraction towards them isn’t really romantic, it’s more so completely fetishized and sexual. I understand this is objectification so I want to be careful to not offend anyone. I do think I would hookup with a femboy who meets that criteria however. I have no interest in typical men or masculinity. My question is can I still identify as straight without it being a lie? I have no issues with my attractions, I just prefer the label straight as it matches me more than bi. Maybe gynesexual is the more specific word but I think straight is a good umbrella label

This sounds like a silly question but mic stands seem like something where a poor one will really annoy you and break easy. So what are some quality ones that aren’t super expensive? Thanks so much

Im gonna write about my own experiences in hope that I can have some feedback and talk a little bit about this

I’m a 16 year male, I’ve always identified as straight and never questioned it. I’ve always had a huge umbrella kink for transformation or just stuff being changed in general. It shows up in a done of different ways from literal transformations, sissy porn, and eventually femboy/gay porn. I don’t care about being transformed myself, the fetish is more so spectating it.

As I matured into my teenage years I had always watched lesbian porn. Straight porn felt kinda boring and gay porn never interested me. But then I kinda feel deeper into porn rabbit holes and discovered trans and sissy stuff which really stimulate that aforementioned fetish. I’m at peace with that, trans women are women and it’s just fetish. That doesn’t cause me any issue. What’s scary is I can be really turned on by femboys and gay porn now as well. It doesn’t have anything to do with the men, I started seeing gay porn through a whole new lenses. Instead of two guys having sex my brain associates it as the bottom being emasculated and feminized which triggers the kink. It’s like biologically a man isn’t meant to be penetrated, that’s the woman’s role so that role reversal is very hot. I know this is objectification so I want to be careful not to offend anyone. This is just fetishized material not stuff I actually believe ofc. The femboy stuff is more of the same, a man dressed as a woman = feminized = transformed

Since I can remember being 7 years old I’ve had vibrant, emotional crushes on girls. I never really had a reason, I just kinda thought certain girls faces looked so cute. I get really depressive when girls I like are with other guys or they don’t like me back. Not in a hateful, incel way, more so like a melancholic, hopeless feeling. I love women physically and emotionally. I love the idea of getting a girl pregnant, marrying her, and having a life together. Those cliche heteronormative fantasies genuinely make me happy. I’ve also come around a little bit on straight porn, seeing it with the view of “woman getting pleasure” is way better than the way I was seeing it before.

Now here’s where the ocd kicked in. I started seeing stuff online that these types of things make you gay and in denial. Which yea I understand that point, but also I’m not actually attracted to men or masculinity. It’s all just an extreme form of a preexisting kink. This doubt eventually developed into really severe hocd. It’s better now that I’m on an ssri but I still have bouts of really horrible doubt that I don’t actually like women and I’m “DL” and lying to myself. They feel really true and convincing a lot of the time. And honestly I don’t know if they’re true. Being straight has always felt good for me, it makes me really happy. Not in a repressed, hiding type of way but like actual euphoria about feeling right as me. The feeling when my brain accepts I’m straight and the ocd goes away is so amazing. But it’s also like I get intrusive thoughts about actually being there in the scenario penetrating a man and I honestly can’t tell if they feel good or not. When I’m super super aroused it just is any other thought and doesn’t cause any questioning, as is the case for like all humans. But then when I have post nut clarity I like start to worry I want to have sex with men. I try to imagine having sex with a man and I can’t actually feel anything. I like imagine it and nothing happens and then my brain says I have arousal and I’m lying to myself. It says the happiness I feel being straight and discomfort being bi/gay is just repression and I should just accept it. It’s so horrific and hurts so bad

I guess I’m making this post because I want other people’s opinions. I don’t feel bi or gay and I don’t really think I am but the ocd makes it really hard. It makes me feel horrible and I just want it to stop. I’m hoping I can have some feedback on this and talk to some people. Thanks so much for listening to this

I recently got one as my first jazzmaster and “quality” guitar. Haven’t gotten a chance to play it yet but wanted to see what the consensus here is

Im gonna write about my own experiences in hope that I can have some feedback and talk a little bit about this

I’m a 16 year male, I’ve always identified as straight and never questioned it. I’ve always had a huge umbrella kink for transformation or just stuff being changed in general. It shows up in a done of different ways from literal transformations, sissy porn, and eventually femboy/gay porn. I don’t care about being transformed myself, the fetish is more so spectating it.

As I matured into my teenage years I had always watched lesbian porn. Straight porn felt kinda boring and gay porn never interested me. But then I kinda feel deeper into porn rabbit holes and discovered trans and sissy stuff which really stimulate that aforementioned fetish. I’m at peace with that, trans women are women and it’s just fetish. That doesn’t cause me any issue. What’s scary is I can be really turned on by femboys and gay porn now as well. It doesn’t have anything to do with the men, I started seeing gay porn through a whole new lenses. Instead of two guys having sex my brain associates it as the bottom being emasculated and feminized which triggers the kink. It’s like biologically a man isn’t meant to be penetrated, that’s the woman’s role so that role reversal is very hot. I know this is objectification so I want to be careful not to offend anyone. This is just fetishized material not stuff I actually believe ofc. The femboy stuff is more of the same, a man dressed as a woman = feminized = transformed

Since I can remember being 7 years old I’ve had vibrant, emotional crushes on girls. I never really had a reason, I just kinda thought certain girls faces looked so cute. I get really depressive when girls I like are with other guys or they don’t like me back. Not in a hateful, incel way, more so like a melancholic, hopeless feeling. I love women physically and emotionally. I love the idea of getting a girl pregnant, marrying her, and having a life together. Those cliche heteronormative fantasies genuinely make me happy. I’ve also come around a little bit on straight porn, seeing it with the view of “woman getting pleasure” is way better than the way I was seeing it before.

Now here’s where the ocd kicked in. I started seeing stuff online that these types of things make you gay and in denial. Which yea I understand that point, but also I’m not actually attracted to men or masculinity. It’s all just an extreme form of a preexisting kink. This doubt eventually developed into really severe hocd. It’s better now that I’m on an ssri but I still have bouts of really horrible doubt that I don’t actually like women and I’m “DL” and lying to myself. They feel really true and convincing a lot of the time. And honestly I don’t know if they’re true. Being straight has always felt good for me, it makes me really happy. Not in a repressed, hiding type of way but like actual euphoria about feeling right as me. The feeling when my brain accepts I’m straight and the ocd goes away is so amazing.

I guess I’m making this post because I want other people’s opinions. I don’t feel bi or gay and I don’t really think I am but the ocd makes it really hard. It makes me feel horrible and I just want it to stop. I’m hoping I can have some feedback on this and talk to some people. Thanks so much for listening to this

I’m 16 and I’m just starting to try and write stuff. I had an idea that’s pretty and I thought worked pretty well but I have minimal music knowledge and would like to know if it actually works as a song or if it’s not a functional idea.

It’s incredibly simple right now. It’s a soft arpeggio of a Fmaj7 without the 3 on the 8 of the A string. Im plucking those notes of F, C, and E. I’m also playing the open B string to give it a #11 color while also having that perfect 5th of E-B.
The second chord is just a C5 powerchord on 3 of the A with that open B still open keeping the maj7 feel. Still an arpeggio. The speed and intensity plucking changes. I was hoping this could be a softer thing someone could sing over.

The chorus is a similar idea. It’s that Fmaj7 no 3 being strummed, lower this time on the 1 of the E. I add a B every few strums to get the #11 tension again. Then it’s back to the original F chord but this time it’s strummed very sparsely with the open B and E ringing to give it a shimmering kinda sound.

I was hoping to do something soft and then keep a similar idea later on just with distortion, bass, and drums.

Again I have like very minimal music theory knowledge or songwriting experience so I’d like some advice. This very well could just be a very stupid idea so id like some feedback. Thanks so much!

(pg. 4 is only partially done but the first half is correct)

I did the first few bass bars, but I wasn't able to tell what it was so anyone is open to fill that. I'm horrible at drum tabs so left blank

Am I required to be super open about all my fetishes and interests?

I’m 16 and I’ve always considered myself a straight male but recently I realized that trans women and femboys can be very arousing and fall into my attraction. I know trans women are women so I have no problem being attracted to them. Femboys scare me a little bit because it’s strictly fetishized, I have no interest in them as men or without all the makeup, wigs etc. I have no attraction to men or masculinity. Since I would never date a man or femboy am I required to actually be super open about this? Being straight has always felt right for me and it makes me happy to identify like that. I also don’t believe I’m in denial, i genuinely don’t like men and the attraction to femboys vanishes when they look masculine. It’s mostly just the taboo and transformation kink of a man dressed as a woman. My biggest fear is being a dl man who’s in denial. I have really bad hocd and it tells me I’m in denial and lying about who I am. I know gynesexual is probably the most accurate label but am I allowed to just identify as straight because it feels right for me?