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finally did it booked a consult with a surgeon in sydney for next month.

ive been researching for like 2 years. looking at before and afters reading reviews making pro and con lists but actually booking it feels different.

i want to fix my breathing mostly. but also the bump on my bridge. im not trying to look like someone else. just a slightly straighter version of myself.

my friend went to him last year and her nose healed so naturally. she said he spends a lot of time on the consult going through everything.

im nervous about what to ask. i dont want to forget something important. what questions did you wish you asked at your first consult. also how do you know if a surgeon is actually good or just good at marketing

on a mission to find decent dancewear for my 6yo that isn't 100% polyester and i'm exhausted. i get it, stretchy synthetic stuff is cheap and works but my kid has sensitive skin and the regular stuff makes her itchy and miserable.

looking everywhere and either it's all synthetic or it's insanely expensive and still not even that natural. found one brand that had some cotton blend stuff but it was like 70 for a leotard which is just not happening.

i dont even need 100% organic everything. just something that doesnt feel like plastic against her skin is that really too much to ask???

anyone found any good brands im missing? i feel like i've googled everything at this point.

been doing judo for about 6 years now and my newaza is decent for judo standards but Ive been thinking about trying BJJ properly. problem is I keep watching BJJ matches and seeing how differently they approach ground work and im curious about one thing

The turtle position In judo I live there. It's my go-to when I'm in trouble. But from what I understand in BJJ turtle is basically just asking to get your back taken right? So I feel like if I start BJJ Im gonna get wrecked immediately because my instincts are all wrong. Like my brain is gonna be like turtle is safe while the BJJ guy is already putting hooks in lol

anyone here made the switch? How long did it take you to unlearn the judo habits? And did you get your back taken a thousand times before you figured it out? Lowkey scared but also excited at the same time

my skin has been overly reactive for the past year or so. it flushes red easily from heat, stress or even mild products, and the pores around my nose and cheeks look quite enlarged and textured. i have cut back on actives and switched to very gentle routines but the redness and rough texture are still there and it makes my skin look uneven no matter how much moisturiser i use.

while i was in seoul recently i visited a premium dermatology clinic for a proper assessment. they did a detailed consultation with imaging and i had some laser work targeted at the redness plus a skin booster session to improve texture and calm things down. it has only been a short time so i am still in the early stages of seeing changes.

has anyone dealt with persistent redness combined with large pores? what actually helped reduce the flushing and smooth the texture for you? i am also wondering how long it typically takes to see noticeable improvement after treatments like these.

Been opening a couple fast-casual spots lately (we’re at 3 now, 4th coming soon) and honestly… the tech side is way harder than I expected. POS setup delays, internet not ready on opening day, printers randomly not talking to tablets… it’s always something.

Feels like every new location turns into this scramble of calling 5 different vendors and hoping everything works by soft opening.

We tried handling it ourselves to save money, but it’s kind of backfiring.

Curious if anyone else is dealing with this? Do you just build an internal team or outsource it?

we have been struggling with expensive and unreliable fibre between our main office and a second site about 3km away. the connection drops often during peak hours and the monthly costs keep going up. we need something more stable for data, voice and some video without the ongoing telco headaches.

has anyone used wireless microwave links for similar distances? how reliable have they been long term compared to fibre?

After months of trawling through listings i finally pulled the trigger on a 620sqm block out in the Yarrabilba growth area, paid $425k which felt reasonable given how quick the new estates are moving (and how much inner Brisbane prices have gone stupid). Decent spot, quick highway access, parks nearby, and the mrs was happy with the school options so that sealed it.

Now the real fun starts, trying to work out what the hell to actually build on it. Aiming for a 4 bed 2 bath single storey, somewhere around 195-210sqm. Got a loose budget of 500-550k all up including site works, driveway, fencing and connections (those bloody connection fees always end up higher than the quotes). NGL the numbers are doing my head in a bit. One option i'm seriously looking at is land developers in Brisbane. From what i've seen they do a fair bit of turnkey stuff in these South East Queensland growth spots and it looks like they handle quite a lot of the process which might save some headaches. Still getting other quotes though, nothing decided yet.

What i'm really chasing are practical ideas from people who've actually built recently. Stuff that makes a real difference day to day rather than just looks good in the brochure.

a few things rattling around in my head:

• solid alfresco setup that actually works in Brisbane heat without cooking everyone
• solar from day one (plus battery ready) - any recent setups that are genuinely paying off?
• insulation and window choices that keep the summer power bills from going mental
• layout tricks so it doesnt feel like one giant echoey room but still has good flow for a young family
• low maintenance backyard ideas that don't cost a fortune (raised beds? turf vs gravel? pool later?)

Also super keen to hear about the hidden costs or surprises that caught people out during builds in these new estates. Site works and soil stuff seems to be the big one from what ive read. Cheers in advance!

So Ive been dealing with this candida thing for like two years now. You all know the drill. strict diet, antifungals, biofilm busters, all that fun stuff. And throughout all of it I was taking probiotics religiously cause everyone says you need to repopulate the good bacteria after you kill the bad stuff. Made sense on paper.

But heres the thing. Every time I take probiotics for a few days I get this temporary "okay" phase and then bam, I crash hard. More bloating, brain fog comes back, and my symptoms just flare up again. I kept telling myself it was die-off but honestly at this point im not so sure anymore.

I started reading about how some probiotics might actually feed the yeast or trigger histamine issues that mimic fungal symptoms. If your gut lining is already wrecked, adding live bacteria can just make things worse. it feels like im adding fuel to the fire.

Someone mentioned looking into postbiotics instead, which I had to google cause id never heard of them. basically theyre the compounds probiotics are supposed to produce, but without the live bacteria that can cause reactions. no risk of overgrowth or histamine flares.

I switched to that approach about a month ago using a brand called secondkind. honestly my gut is calmer than its been in years. im still dealing with die-off from antifungals but at least im not sabotaging myself anymore.

Anyone else notice probiotics making their symptoms worse? what did you switch to? and has anyone tried postbiotics long term? im still new to this so curious if its actually sustainable or just a temporary thing.

Been getting into diamond painting lately and trying to figure out the best places to order from. I stumbled across a few sites while browsing and picked up some kits recently. Found nice diamond painting kits on Diamond Art World which had a decent range. Went with a mediumsized landscape in the end, seemed like a reasonable starting point.

Not sure how much quality actually varies between shops though. Does it matter where you buy, or are the drills and canvas pretty much the same everywhere? I've seen kits that look great in photos and then people complain the colors are off or the canvas wrinkles.

Would be good to hear which sites you trust, especially if you've ordered a few times and had consistent results. Always helps to know where people actually go back to.

I've been learning to code for about six months now and I keep noticing a pattern that worries me. Whenever I hit an error or something breaks, my first instinct is to paste it into a search engine or ask an AI tool to explain it. It gets me past the problem, but I never really feel like I understand what went wrong or why the fix worked.

I talked to someone with a few years of experience and they mentioned they could look at a stack trace and immediately have a good guess about what the problem is. That feels like a completely different skill from what I'm currently building.

So I'm curious how people here actually developed real debugging instincts. Did you force yourself to read error messages more carefully before searching? Did you use a debugger consistently until it clicked? Did you just build enough projects that patterns started showing up naturally?

There's a difference between getting code to work and actually understanding why it broke in the first place. I want to build the second skill but I'm not sure what deliberate practice looks like for that.

Would love to hear what worked for people here, especially if you were someone who leaned too heavily on outside help early on and managed to course correct.

i am planning a solo trip to denver next month and will rent a car through turo to visit more places like rocky mountain national park and garden of the gods i want to explore safely and efficiently what tips do you have for women traveling alone with a rental car and any must see spots or safety hacks for that area.

had a second round interview last week for a project manager role in Austin. sent a thank you email same day, nothing back in 5 days. debating whether to follow up again.

someone told me calling and leaving a voicemail feels more personal than another email. but i genuinely cannot bring myself to call and risk them actually picking up. i freeze up on the spot, always have.

looked into voicemail drop tools weirdly enough, stuff companies use for outreach like DropCowboy, Slybroadcast, others. obviously that's overkill for one job application lol. but the concept of leaving a voicemail without the phone ringing made me realize that's kind of what i want. just leave a message without the interaction.

anyone actually called to follow up after an interview or is email still the move in 2026?

it honestly blows my mind that we are slowly handing over critical future systems to models that are basically just high-tech autocomplete.

like, Im seeing startups pitch standard language models for medical diagnostics, flight routing, and automated power grid management. why?? if a model is fundamentally just predicting the most likely next word, a 0.5% hallucination rate is still an absolute disaster when real lives or city-level infrastructures are on the line

It feels like the mainstream tech world is just blindly throwing billions of dollars at brute-forcing parameters instead of building architectures that actually prove their logic is correct before executing. I was looking at some ai reasoning benchmarks recently and saw that formal verification agents are finally starting to hit perfect scores on complex math. It just made me realize how completely backwards our current approach is... We waste so much time trying to coax probabilistic chatbots into not lying to us when we should be building stuff that is mathematically restricted from doing so

if the future of our automated infrastructure relies on crossing our fingers and hoping the system doesn't hallucinate a fake state transition, we are in for a really rough century. We need verifiable logic at the base layer, not just plausible-sounding text

Serios intreb, ca frate meu mai mic intra instant in modul vacanta absoluta cum termina scoala. Adica doarme la 2-3 dimineata, tiktok/discord/gaming nonstop si efectiv uita ca exista aer afara si ma irita rau de tot. Eu imi petreceam verile pe afara si-mi pare rau ca el nu face acelasi lucru...

Ai mei cauta acum tot felul de activitati pentru vara si au dat peste o tabara de vara, ceva cu activitati, workshopuri, socializare si chestii mai interactive, nu doar “hai sa facem romana in iulie” thankfully

Problema e ca el e genul super antisocial la inceput si zice acum ca “n are chef sa mearga”. Dar sincer cred ca i ar prinde bine sa mai stea cu oameni de varsta lui si sa faca altceva decat sa stea in camera toata ziua

Voi ati avut experiente ok cu tabere/scoli de vara din astea? chiar ajuta copiii sa se mai dezlipeasca de ecrane sau dupa 2 zile vor inapoi acasa? :)) Orice recomandari sunt binevenite si multumesc

I'm a fashion designer, and for most of my career I've focused almost entirely on clothing. Lately, though, I've found myself becoming more interested in accessories. The older I get, the more I realize how much a single piece of jewelry, a bag, or even a belt can completely change the way an outfit feels. Sometimes the accessory ends up being the thing people remember most. Over the past few months, I've been playing around with the idea of designing a small jewelry collection

Nothing huge. Mostly sketches, mood boards, and way too much time spent looking at gemstones online when I should probably be doing something more productive. What surprised me is which stone I ended up becoming fascinated with: opals. For whatever reason, I never paid much attention to them before. When people talk about gemstones, the conversation almost always seems to revolve around diamonds, sapphires, emeralds, or rubies. Opals rarely seem to get the same level of attention

And then I began studying them closer. Sometime ago when researching various materials and types of stones, I found some specimens of opals and it made me appreciate the uniqueness of opals again. Some stones literally alter their appearance with each new angle and light. One second you see beautiful shades of blue and green, and the next one there is orange, purple, or colors that defy definition. Some of them truly look like little galaxies in a stone

It is interesting to me that opals seem more unpredictable than many other stones. For example, when it comes to buying a diamond, you can be relatively sure of what you will get. An opal, on the other hand, is different for each and every stone. Some opals are quiet, others bright, and still others appear as if they were painted on. It is intriguing as a designer to work with such a material

With every idea that I draw up about them, I begin to wonder what prevents them from being used more frequently. Is it the fact that they are not as traditional?

Or is it just the old fashion jewelry that they conjure up in our minds? Perhaps it’s just because of other gemstones that are more heavily marketed?

What I do know is that whenever I show opal-inspired concepts to friends, people tend to react strongly one way or another. They either immediately love them or say they wouldn't wear opals at all. There doesn't seem to be much middle ground. That got me curious about how other people think about jewelry purchases. When you're shopping for jewelry, what catches your attention first?

Is it the stone, the design, the workmanship, or the name of the line? As for me, I have always favored those things that seem different, no matter whether they come from a famous jeweler or not. But I realize that not all consumers buy things in such a way. Some of them pay a lot of attention to the reputation of the company they purchase something from

If you came across a piece from an independent designer that featured opals, would that make you more interested, less interested, or would the type of gemstone not really matter?

Maybe I've just spent too many evenings staring at opal photos and convincing myself they're the most interesting stones on Earth. But the more I learn about them, the more I feel like they're one of the most distinctive gemstones out there. Somehow they still don't seem to get nearly as much appreciation as they deserve

I've been thinking a lot lately about what it's like to reread a novel once you already know the narrator can't be fully trusted. There's something genuinely strange about going back through a book like Ishiguro's The Remains of the Day or Nabokov's Lolita with the full picture in mind. Suddenly every sentence carries a second layer of meaning you completely missed the first time.

What strikes me most is how carefully writers have to construct this. The unreliable narrator can't simply lie at random. The deceptions and selfdeceptions have to feel psychologically consistent, even inevitable, so that on a second reading you find yourself thinking: of course, it was always right there.

I'm curious how people here think about this technique across different literary traditions. Does it work differently in first person versus close third person narration? Are there examples outside the Western canon where authors use narrative unreliability in ways that feel structurally distinct from what Nabokov or Ishiguro are doing?

I'm also interested in whether unreliable narration is fundamentally about character psychology, or whether it can work as a purely formal or structural device without the same emotional investment in the narrator's inner life. What books have genuinely changed how you think about this?

i thought the hard part would be deciding on known vs anonymous or figuring out the legal stuff but nope. its the little things. how do you even know if the donors numbers are actually good.

the cryobanks all give you their motility and count but thats from when they froze it. post thaw can be totally different. i found out the hard way after two failed iuis. not saying the bank lied but the numbers they gave me were way off from what my clinic saw after thaw.

i asked my clinic if i could test a vial myself before committing to more. they said no but i found kits that lets you test at home. you just thaw a small sample and mail it in. gives you motility and concentration. still waiting on results but at least i have some control now.

how do you verify donor quality without wasting thousands on failed cycles

it is getting ridiculous trying to do anything near the water in chittenden county right now. I was looking for a spot to just hang out by the lake with the dogs for a few days and the vt side is either completely booked out till september or people are charging like $400 a night for a dusty airbnb with zero actual beach access. it's just depressing how much of the shoreline is blocked off by million dollar vacation homes and private clubs now

We honestly just gave up on staying in-state and drove across the rouses point bridge. We ended up parking the camper at kings Bay rv park right over the border in ny instead. it was literally a fraction of the price of the spots near burlington and you actually get to use the water without fighting a mob of tourists for a patch of grass.

it just really sucks that as locals we basically have to leave the state just to afford a quiet weekend on champlain. idk, is anyone else feeling completely pushed out of the local summer spots lately or did I just plan too late?

I feel like an idiot tbh. spent the last 4 months obsessively taking flash photos of my cheeks every morning to spot new vellus hairs. I was so tunnel visioned on the gains that I completely ignored the fact that my lower face looks like it belongs to a peeling lizard

The propylene glycol in the cheap bulk pharmacy liquids is an absolute menace. I actually use a proper clean formulation from leo hair for my actual hairline and my scalp is completely fine, zero dryness. but for some reason I thought it was a genius idea to just buy the cheapest harshest liquid possible for my beard journey because "it's just facial skin"

now my chin is constantly flaking off and cerave just sits on top of the dead skin doing nothing

kinda just a warning for anyone starting out. taking care of your skin barrier is way more important than rushing the beard coverage. I'm taking a week off the juice to let my face heal before I switch over to a foam. check your skin guys, don't just stare at the follicles