u/No-Light9581

I hope this isn’t too vague and I know I’m about to sound lame as hell, but that’s okay 😪

Basically I tried to make an ironically obscene post that none of my friends or I can stop laughing at on a certain TMI community on here but it got automatically removed by Reddit’s filters, very likely because it was far too vulgar. I think a screenshot of it might do well with certain audiences on Instagram and I just want get a chance to see it flourish 😅. I do not wish to post it anywhere associated with me and neither does anyone else lol. I wish I could just post the screenshot on here somewhere but since it was already removed by reddit I don’t want to take any chances at my account getting flagged or something. I also don’t want to make my own new account to post it because i obviously won’t have any followers and no one will see it, which is no fun.

So, I’m looking for a funny instagram page that takes submissions and might post it (without tagging me). I found what I thought were a few possibilities by searching around on Google and clicking through random pages on insta, but even accounts that apparently do take submissions don’t have any posts or anything in their bios stating that. They also have it set up so you can’t sent photos via their dms, which I assume means they don’t want me to send them a submission. Anyone know an account like this that does this kind of thing?

@bluehue
@you.are.banned
@baseballscenefromtwilight
@mylifeisupsetting

^^accounts down the alley of what I’m looking for, just can’t find any that accept photos in dms, although I did message some asking if I could submit something 😅

I first learned about ROCD while I was in an abusive relationship and I would constantly obsess over whether it was actually abusive or not. I read so many articles that it became difficult to find ones I hadn’t already dissected multiple times, which is how I originally found out about ROCD. I also reached out to every DV hotline/chat line out there, some more than once, desperately seeking to resolve my feelings of uncertainty about the reality of my situation. I had a therapist who I saw weekly and every single session involved me discussing the meaning behind different aspects of and interactions within our relationship the entire time. I ghosted that therapist as soon as I left him.

Once I got out of that mess I was single for 4 years and had a lot of short-term/casual connections with people I didn’t really like that much, until I met my most recent ex. As soon as we started getting serious I found myself repeating the same patterns over again, but instead of obsessing over whether I was being treated right, I was just constantly questioning his feelings for me. It’s kind of understandable in a way because now that we’ve been broken up for almost 2 years, I can see that in hindsight I was valid to feel the way I did, but the amount of time and effort I put into seeking reassurance from him, other people, and of course the internet was very excessive.

I would spend abnormal amounts of time thinking of ways I could set up certain “sneaky” scenarios where his reactions would “prove” or “disprove” how he felt about me, spent hours getting immersed into TikTok’s/reels discussing different relationship topics that could potentially lead me to the “truth,” and was seemingly always fighting the urge to seek reassurance when I felt insecure for whatever reason. It was physically unbearable at points because I knew if I kept engaging in those behaviors that it would overwhelm my partner and make me feel worse but when i didn’t address every little thing that casted doubt in my mind about whether he really loved me I couldn’t stop ruminating over it no matter how hard I tried.

We never really argued, but the one time we did before the breakup, it was after he got off work late at night and he was too tired to come to a resolution and we couldn’t talk further until I got off work the next day. I ended up coming up with an excuse to get sent home from work that next day because I couldn’t focus on anything other than the feeling of uncertainty over what was going to happen next and what he thought. I’m talking not even being able to pay attention for 15 seconds while my coworker was talking to me because the thoughts were so unavoidable and loud that they “spoke over” anything going on around me.

The breakup was pretty brutal and involved him leaving the apartment we shared together for several days after a super minor argument without a single word, not even just a simple “I need space.” Literally nothing. I know it sounds dumb, especially since I’ve been through much worse in the eyes of most, but it was truly one of the most unbearable experiences of my entire life and I severely relapsed in self harm after over 5 years. I ended things over text after 3 days of not hearing from him because it was the only way to feel any kind of certainty about the whole thing and to stop suffering at the hands of the most extreme anxiety I’ve ever felt. I never got closure or any kind of conversation about what happened and it messed me up for a really long time.

I’m just now starting to break free from obsessing over finding an answer. I didn’t delete any of our texts that spanned over several years until a few months ago because I found comfort in constantly analyzing them for evidence for why he did what he did. I admittedly probably completely exhausted my close friends because I couldn’t stop asking for their interpretation of different memories and things I found in our texts. I basically have full on research papers, for lack of a better term, about the whole thing in my notes app with quotes from our messages and retellings of different scenarios with in-depth analyses on everything.

Ever since that break up, my mindset around dating has shifted significantly as well. Like i said, after my first breakup with my abusive ex, I wasn’t really all that invested in the people i was seeing, but now it seems like I can’t escape these habits even with people I don’t like that much. It’s like an extreme fear of abandonment with every slight romantic interest i form along with the same obsessive thoughts and feelings I experienced with my ex and it’s ruining my ability to form genuine and healthy connections.

I’m able to resist the urge to directly seek reassurance from people I’m seeing since I know that doing so only a month or two into knowing someone is a great way to ensure they’ll never want anything to do with me again, but I still obsessively seek reassurance on the internet/social media, from my friends, and just by ruminating over our interactions until I feel like I have an answer (which never happens). It’s almost more unbearable than it was while I was in a relationship since during talking stages, there is a lot of uncertainty about where things are going and it just kills me inside and I hate it.

There have been too many times where I should just move on and accept people’s eventual (and lately, inevitable) clear signs of disinterest, but instead, when it becomes clear someone is over me, I’ll spend HOURS carefully crafting a message to them in hopes of getting an explanation as to why they lost interest. It’s exhausting and I seem to fall into these patterns every time someone is into me and ruin it because I’m no longer being myself, I’m just trying to hide my reassurance seeking behavior in everything I do and say and no matter how hard I try to let go of these habits and enjoy getting to know someone and see where it goes, I can’t.

This all doesn’t really match what a lot of online sources say about ROCD though. Most things I’ve read/watched focus on people wondering whether their partner is the right one for them, it their feelings for the person are real, if they’re compatible, etc., meanwhile my rumination is almost exclusively revolving around the worry that someone is losing interest in me. I’m not really sure if what I’m experiencing is just extreme attachment trauma and insecurity amplified by being abandoned by a long term partner or actual ROCD. Not seeking a diagnosis here of course, just want to see if this is relatable for anyone else.

Anyways, if you made it this far you are a trooper and i appreciate you 😭

When I first started driving for GoPuff when they were pretty new to my state, around 2020, I was making nearly $30 an hour due to incentives, which was awesome, and customer service was actually helpful.

I started driving with them again earlier this year for extra money and quickly realized it is not worth it a single bit (at least in my area). They rarely ever do incentives, and when they do it’s always announced last minute and so many people show up to deliver that there will be 30+ minute gaps between offers (but to be real that wasn’t all that uncommon without incentives either):

When you don’t disclose tips for orders and the only way to receive frequent offers is by accepting every single order (again, with no incentives), it’s nearly impossible to make money. That fact alone makes me seriously wonder how the hell they are in business or have any drivers at all. I was legitimately making $10 an hour, not even including gas. I was forced to rely solely on tip and it was actually ridiculous. Why anyone would chose to drive for GoPuff instead of DD or UE is beyond me. I was out there delivering multiple 24 packs of water and 5-10 extra bags up 3 flights of stairs for no tip on a frequent basis even though I only did it for about 3 weeks.

Their downfall is noticeable from a customer pov as well. I used to never have issues with them but now I’ve faced issues with stolen orders, completely incompetent drivers, and nonexistent customer service far too often to the point where I only order from them when absolutely necessary. Support literally doesn’t even do anything for you ever, it’s just there so they can pretend they offer it. All they do is say they can’t help you every time. The fact that you can’t even change the address if you put the wrong one on accident, even if the order isn’t even on the way yet and you contact support immediately, is just plain stupid, among many other policies of theirs.

A month ago I placed an order and when it was finally on the way i saw that there were four drop offs ahead of me all around town, but I was willing to wait. Once the driver was now on the way to me, I opened the map to see how far they were and they were only 10 minutes away maybe so i closed the app and did my own thing. About an hour later, it hit me that my order still hadn’t arrived so I checked the app and saw my driver was outside a restaurant even further from where they started, and I immediately knew that they were using another delivery app, so i of course reached out to customer service.

I explained the issue as clearly as I could and was just told over and over and over again, like a broken record, that my order was on the way and was within the expected timeframe for delivery despite it having been well over 2 hours at this point from the time the driver left and the original time frame I got said my order would take 1.75 hours max. The entire time I was chatting with them, I watched my driver go allllll around town on the map, anywhere except towards my apartment. Customer service can literally see the maps but they refused to acknowledge what was happening. They offered to cancel it, but refused to refund my $8 tip. I fought and fought with them to refund the tip too but they wouldn’t budge.

Eventually I messaged the driver and asked them to please just bring me my order and while they didn’t respond, they surprisingly did start heading my way, so I asked customer service if they would just refund my tip and not cancel the order. They refused. I demanded a supervisor, then they changed their tune. It was a massive hassle and I’d say about 25% of the time I order I face similar issues.

They are very convenient for sure, but I would not be upset at all if they went out of business. They don’t give a damn about their customers or their employees.

So my profile is private and I don’t have anything that identifies me on there that people who don’t follow me can see. My name and pfp are not “real” and my bio is one word. About a month ago this account that I have been mutuals with for a year according to Instagram started liking every post I make and most of my stories (which they are always quick to watch it seems), even though neither one of us have interacted with each other on the app whatsoever until this and I don’t recall having ever seen their username/pfp on there.

I recently checked out their profile out of curiosity and saw that they only have 2 posts (both are just single photos of nature from 4 years ago) and that most of my close friends, who I met during high school 10+ years ago, follow this person. I assume that is what led me to accepting their follow request and returning their follow a year ago, along with the fact that they have a decent couple hundred followers on their account. I reached out to my friend who is following the account and asked if she knew who the person was and and said she thinks it’s a girl who used to attend the same parties as us a lot, however I do not remember her despite also looking her up on Facebook to see pictures.

Now, over the past few days I’ve noticed this thing happen with almost every story I post where I’ll get a notification that they liked it, but when I go to the story itself and look at the full list of views and likes, it won’t even show that this person viewed the story at all in the first place, and yes they are still following me. At first I figured it was a bug but it keeps happening just with that one profile when I’ve never had this issue before until this account came around. Still could be a bug, I just find it kind of odd, especially considering everything else.

I went back to the profile just now and took at their following list and saw that they don’t follow back any of my friends who are following them, they only follow me and 70 other profiles of people I don’t know, although I looked at a handful of the profiles and a few of them were from my home state and:or have my old high school listed in their bio.

I find this to be kinda weird since I don’t remember who my friend said this was at all but it seems the rest of my friends knew this person fairly well, yet 10 years later they decide to follow me while also not following back any of the people who she actually hung out with back the day, if they are who my friend thinks that is. I know I can just block or remove this person as a follower if I’m creeped out. I’m just curious to know if anyone has any guesses as to whether this is all innocent and I’m reading into it too much or if whoever this is has weird and/or creepy intentions.

About a month ago I accidentally posted something to my second account on my favorite subreddit, which I’ve been an active participant in for 5 years without a single issue, and when I realized less than 10 minutes later I deleted it and reposted it to the right account. The post was automatically removed so I politely reached out to the mods after a few days of it not being approved and they never got back to me. I tried posting something different a few days ago and the post was automatically removed again and has still not been approved. The sub is still very active and the mods are usually quick at approving posts and responding to messages.

Upon doing some research I suspect they may have the sub set up to automatically remove duplicate posts and mark them as spam. How can I approach this situation without potentially making it worse? Should I message the mods and explain what happened?

I know it sounds dumb, but this sub is important to me because it’s genuinely the only place I’ve found online to access trustworthy advice and guidance on a topic that’s extremely relevant to my life and notoriously full of misinformation online…and everywhere else. Sorry for being vague, I just don’t want to come off like I’m trying to name and shame this sub. They did nothing wrong, I’m just asking for advice so I don’t mistakenly handle it poorly when I am already potentially on thin ice 😭

Thanks for reading, let me know what ya’ll think is the best way to approach this!

This is a very genuine question because this happened to me recently and I was at a loss of what to do/what the proper etiquette in this situation was, especially since they were allowed to be shooting where we were and they were obviously there before me. Not sure if it matters at all but I am located in Arizona.

Basically, after sitting in my car and anxiously pondering over what I should do for over 15 minutes, I reluctantly ended up approaching the group and asked if it was okay for me to scope out the area for a few minutes and they said sure, so I just picked up as many rocks as I could in 5 minutes… then left 😅 They had a whole camp set up there and again, got there before me so I really didn’t wanna throw a wrench in their plans and prevent them from having a good time, but then again I also drove 15 miles on a very rough dirt road in my SUV just to hunt that one spot, which was a well renowned banded calcite mine that still has plenty material to go around in the dumps, so I was pretty disappointed.

It was also not possible to just ask them to shoot in a different direction because the spot is right off the main dirt road and the only safe direction to shoot is obviously away from that road, but that’s also where all the cool rocks are 😭

So, this post honestly might be better suited for r/rabbits since they are so unique in their needs and different from what most people own, which is cats and dogs, however I’m scared of being judged. I’m looking for genuine, non-biased advice. If anyone here who owns or has owned PET rabbits, your advice would be much appreciated but I’m grateful for any and everyone’s takes.

I have 3 bunnies who I’ve had for 6 years, 5 years, and 3 years. One free roams my apartment and the other 2 have their own room together. I absolutely love and adore them and they love me too, but lately depression has been taking over my life. I lost my job because of it and my financial situation is in hell, which has made things 10x worse.

Their very basic needs are ALWAYS met but I’ll admit, there are times where I don’t feed and water them right away in the morning because I can’t manage to get out of bed, times where I only feed them hay but skip the pellets and veggies because, again, I can’t get out of bed. Rabbits are known to thrive on routine so I feel really guilty for being so inconsistent. I also really hate to admit this but there are even are times when I’ll walk past them and they’ll stand up and beg for my attention and I’ll either walk right past them because I am tying to get something done or ill pet them for a few seconds and keep going. I do spend a lot of time on the ground with the single bunny though. I used to clean their areas once a week religiously but as of lately it’s hard to do it at all. I feel awful. They have plenty of space but there is hay, poop, and fur everywhere and they deserve better. I used to give them 24/7 attention when I was home but I just don’t have the energy anymore.

I used to take such good care of them and I feel like I’ve let them down and abandoned them recently. I can’t take care of myself and nearly all the little energy I have goes into making sure they’re okay, but I don’t feel like I’ve been giving them what they need to really thrive lately like I used to. I’m also terrified one of them will need a vet at some point because I am dead broke and maxed out my credit card and care credit card a year ago when unfortunate circumstances occurred.

I don’t want to rehome them, not at all, they are honestly the only reason I drag myself out of bed every day even
though even that has been difficult lately. I love them more than words can describe but I don’t want them to suffer at my hands and I don’t want to be selfish and not let them have better because of that. I hope what I’m going through is only temporary, but at what point am I doing the wrong thing for them, you know?

My other thing is that all 3 of my buns are trauma babies, they’ve all been abused or abandoned in some way and its taken a very long time for them to trust me, so i worry that they would have a very difficult time readjusting to a new home. Not to mention, rabbits are highly neglected, abused, and abandoned animals so i really fear trusting the wrong person to care for them.

I put on press ons for the first time in my life yesterday and I’m experiencing very genuine rage now because everything I have done all day has been so unnecessarily difficult and I’m ready to crash out. I feel like I was born yesterday and don’t know how to use my gd fingers. They’re probably just not glued on very well somehow either but they KEEP COMING OFF. I keep bumping my finger on things trying to complete tasks then boom a nail is gone and here I am for the next 10 minutes trying to find it and reattaching it. I could barely even get dressed this morning and was legitimately on the verge of just ripping them off. I have a lot more to say about this topic but I’m just making myself more mad rn because I DON’T KNOW HOW TO EVEN TYPE ANYMORE 😭

Good night

I believe I was illegally terminated from my job and am looking into the possibility of getting a consultation, however I have absolutely no idea where to start. Any recommendations or tips for how to find someone would be much appreciated, thank you!

Was wanting to take a trip to Fossil Creek soon but haven’t taken the road before. I do have a Nissan Rogue which is AWD high clearance and I’ve taken some pretty rough roads before in it but just wanted to make sure there is nothing crazy I couldn’t surpass if I take it slow? Thanks!

As the title says, where can I buy a single flower?

I have a 2017 Nissan Rogue and take it off road here in Arizona probably every other month or less - on beginner to moderate trails. I don’t usually treck through mud, snow, or sand, just really rocky, bumpy roads but I take it slow. I don’t typically go any longer than 10 miles on dirt road when I do get out, but there is a trail I really like that is 20 miles long that I’d like to take more often.

I’m just wondering since I just got this car and want to make it last and take good care of it, if this amount of off roaring makes it necessary for me to get all-terrain tires?