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I’m a 19F and my older sister (32F) has been married for years but is deeply unhappy in her marriage. She refuses to divorce for the kid which I get on some level, but instead of dealing with her own problems she basically lives at our family home with me and our mom. She’s here way more than her own house.

She is extremely intrusive. She goes through my stuff, my phone, everything. A few weeks ago she crossed a massive line: she went through my phone without my consent, I still don’t even know how she did since I never told anyone my password and found private things (very embarrassing personal details) and decided to read them out loud in front of my family. It was humiliating asf. I was so done that I packed a bag and left for several days. I had zero intention of coming back. My mom ended up crying and begging me on the phone to return home, so I reluctantly did.

When I got back I told my mom straight up that her daughter is a bitch who is projecting all her frustration and unhappiness from her failed marriage onto me. She just shut it down and completely dodged the topic by replying "That’s your older sister and you and you owe her respect!!!" Anyways.

Since then I’ve been avoiding my sister as much as humanly possible. I don’t engage, I stay in my room, I basically pretend she doesn’t exist. But she keeps pushing. She constantly meddles in my private life, makes little comments and allusions to what she found on my phone just to hurt me, and honestly… it works.

Luckily, I’ve managed to save up a lot over the past few years, and I’m moving into my own apartment in two weeks. Hallelujah

I’m a 19F and I’ve been in a relationship with my partner (21F) for almost two years.

When we started dating, she made it very clear that she only wants to be with someone who is already out to their family and close friends. She doesn’t want to hide her relationship or live in secrecy, but the problem is I wasn’t honest with her.

I told her that I had already come out to my family, friends, and close circle just because I was completely crazy about her and I was willing to do anything to make it happen.

That wasn’t true. I come from a very conservative , homophobic family and environment so I haven’t come out at all. Instead, I’ve been lying to them by saying I’m going out to see a "bf" named Tanner (who doesn’t exist) every time I was hanging with her. My family sometimes brings up this guy and says they want to meet him, I tell them he’s shy and prefers to take it slow.

I did this because I love my gf a lot and I was scared of losing her. Everything between us has been really good otherwise her family knows about me, and she’s fully open about us.

I, on the other hand, have been delaying her meeting my family and making excuses, telling her it just takes time and organization.

Now she’s starting to doubt me and our relationship. She keeps asking when she’ll finally meet my family, and I can tell she’s getting frustrated and feels like I’m not serious or fully committed.

The truth is, I’m terrified. If I tell her everything, I risk losing her. If I don’t, I risk losing her anyway and also potentially everything with my family if this ever comes out.

I feel like I’ve trapped myself in a lie I didn’t think would go this far, and now I don’t know how to fix it without destroying something.

"We’re just humble servants of the lord" they say. But then you actually look at the core claims and it’s the most arrogant shit imaginable.

In this unfathomably vast universe, with billions of galaxies, trillions of planets, and millions of species on earth alone… the all powerful creator of everything decided to manifest specifically as a human. On this one tiny rock. To deliver his special message. To us.

Not as a majestic eagle, not as an ancient tree that lives for thousands of years, not as a whale that communicates across oceans.

Nope. A Jewish dude 2000 years ago. Because apparently we’re that special.
Meanwhile every other animal on the planet is completely incapable of understanding or caring about this divine revelation. Your dog doesn’t give a fuck about original sin. The birds outside aren’t debating whether they need to accept jesus as their savior. Dolphins aren’t forming churches or worrying about going to hell. They just… live.

If there really was an all knowing, all loving god who wanted a relationship with his creation, why make the message completely inaccessible to 99.999% of the creatures he supposedly made? Why design a system where only one arrogant primate species on one planet can "get it" ?

It’s almost like the whole story was written by humans, for humans.

The sheer human centric narcissism of it all is what breaks it for me. Every religion conveniently puts humans at the absolute center of cosmic importance. Shocking. Really makes you think.

The way women in porn are treated versus the way male performers are glorified is textbook misogyny.

A young woman gets into the industry? She’s immediately labeled, shamed and often broken down. Her scenes frequently involve rough, degrading acts- The titles and thumbnails are literally designed to show her being used and humiliated. Once she’s "done" or ages a bit, the industry discards her. Mental health issues, trauma, substance problems? Way too common. Society still slut-shames her for life.

Now flip it to the guys.
A male performer can fuck hundreds of women on camera, often while being rough or dominant, and what happens? He’s celebrated. He’s a stud. A pornstar legend . A "GOAT" living the dream or alpha male energy shit. He gets fan pages, OF success, podcast appearances, and a weird kind of respect from certain corners of the internet. His body count is a badge of honor. No one calls him "used up" . He’s just cashing checks and smashing.

The female performer is a disposable sex object whose value is in how much degradation she can endure while staying hot. The male performer is a conqueror getting paid to live out every fantasy. One is degraded and discarded. The other is glorified.

That’s not “just fantasy.” That’s a reflection of how society actually views male and female sexuality. Men’s pleasure and dominance = celebrated. Women’s bodies and boundaries = consumable product.