u/Plastic_Station6954

TLDR: Girl I thought I was friends with who flirted with my boyfriend in front of me and blatantly disrespected me, recently graduated and worried she is going to try talkint to my boyfriend who still has one more year of school left, wierd behavior (copying, following me, making friends with his friends etc) and her best friend trying to follow my social media account

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Not really a dead horse per se, but I have talked about this on this sub before. Recently graduated, 19F, my boyfriend who I met in hs my junior year is in his last year (18M) we've been dating a year and a half now. I really love him, and I do think we can possibly have a future together.

When I was still in school last year, there was this freshman girl who started coming around. Originally it was because she was friends with my friend and would start coming to our lunch table because of her. That turned into her coming to the table to talk to me and my boyfriend, then to just my boyfriend. A lot of the conversations went like her excluding me and taking ANY attention off of me. She would talk about things she knew that he liked or things they both had in common. One that stuck with me in particular, somehow they got on the topic of hobbies, and I pitched in and mentioned I liked skating. I dont remember verbatim what she said, but it was along the lines of "thats baby/kid stuff" or that it was "so easy" and that she plays the guitar and that its "way harder than skating". Basically trying to make it seem like what I like to do is boring/disinteresting to keep me out of the conversation. I shut up after that because clearly she wasn't interested in talking to me and was only there for my boyfriend.

She would blatantly flirt with him, and I was in a situation similar to that in sophomore year, I was dating a girl a bit older than me. She made friends with some guy she ended up cheating on me with, so I convinced myself I was overthinking it or just being insecure even though it was VERY CLEAR what she was doing (referring to the girl crushing on current bf). Im also a very NOT confrontational person so I didn't want to say anything, and I was scared of pushing him away (for a bit of context, in my previous relationship if I ever brought up something bothering me she would threaten to break up with/block me- this isnt because of something he did, he's genuinely very sweet and caring but it was pretty recent and I was scared). Also proximally she was also very physically close to him. If there was a free seat at the table, she would crouch down in the corner to be near him. We had this pigeon joke, because at our schools lunch area there's these pillars next to the tables and my boyfriend would joke about the pigeons pooping on him every time they landed on the top of the pillar, he would jump up away from the table and she would follow suit and get up to stand close next to him.

There was a couple of other things, like she would talk shit about his sister TO him, and overall just her leaving me out of the conversations and making sure the conversation stays between him and her. I do wish he did more now, but he genuinely didn't know. He has issues with social cues and social interactions, and he never reciprocated it, but he never quite shut it down either and I wish he did. I also wish he tried more to include me in the conversation because I feel like he didn't really notice, and I think that made him seem "open" to her. Im a naturally quiet person so I understand why maybe he didn't ask me or notice what was wrong when I just sat there zoned out half the time she was at our table. Once I got really upset by it, I brought it up with my friend, she said she didnt think she liked him because she had a "type". He realized I was upset, I told him after school the same day. He reassured me, told me we could sit somewhere else. The cherry on top, what OFFICIALLY confirmed my suspicions is that his sister told him that she called him buff. The next day, we sat away from her (my school has a senior only section) I brought him up to sit with me. I thought it was okay because I invited him to sit with me, but apparently not because he was a junior at the time and an admin kicked me out. She came looking for us, and realized something was up, because we were acting kind of wierd towards her, im a little mad I didn't do something more or say something because I froze and he had to say it. He said "you called me buff", which obviously it was more than that. She brushed it off as it being a "joke" or "just a compliment" so I figures it was okay and just a misunderstanding. We didn't talk to each other for the rest of the day, but I waved to her the previous day thinking things were okay and she avoided me.

The rest of the year was pretty wierd involving her, because she didn't REALLY leave me alone after that. I feel crazy because these are such miniscule things that I feel like I shouldn't even really be paying attention to but I think thats exactly the point. She started making friends with some of his friends (strong arming her way into his friendgroup basically), she would start coming into the same classrooms she knew he had, we would always sit in one particular teachers classroom early in the mornings, she would come in there (talk to a teacher, a friend, etc) in a class I NEVER seen her come in before, her doing little things with her style that I also do/did before, for example, I like wearing lipstick, black lipstick on my top lip nothing on the bottom, ive also done little stamps on the bridge of my nose to look like a piercing, I had done that kind of makeup since the beginning of the year and she started doing it pretty soon after we stopped talking to each other. Also little things like, I would have my hair up a certain way, and the day after she would have the same hairstyle. Obviously, I didn't invent these things, but it just seems too good, or bad in this case, to be true. We had the same art teacher in different periods, she walked in one morning (I was almost always in there because it was my first period) we made eye contact for a second, I didn't think anything of it. I walked in a couple weeks later to her sitting in the EXACT same seat. It sounds stupid, and I can't believe I'm even typing these words out but I just cant believe in a classroom with 35/40ish seats that she just HAPPENED to have the same exact one. Also, towards the end of the year for some silly reason, I'd notice she would get really close to me

, she would follow behind me, if I was walking in the door she would walk behind me at the same time. One time me and him were standing in the lunch line, she was walking with a friend and beelined it for the lunchline. I honestly don't know WHY she did this, my guess is it was her trying to intimidate me or something similar . If for some reason me and bf would go outside or inside, just a couple of minutes after she would come in after us. It happened so much, I doubt that it was ALSO just a coincidence, given everything I've already talked about.

Now that im graduated, im worried shes going to try talking to him again now that im not there. I dont think my boyfriend would be the kind of person to go behind my back and talk to her when he knows I really dislike her, but hes a very extroverted person. Not to mention, hes friends with her brother. I get this feeling, because if she had the balls to flirt with him in front of me, what she would try to do when im not there. I think the only reason she stopped talking to him in the first place was because I was there. I've asked a couple of my friends who are still in school just to keep an eye on her (I dont want her talking to him PERIOD, and im not a controlling person. I've never wanted him NOT to talk to someone before which is saying something, and I wouldn't expect any less if it was me in the position he is in) and his sister as well, who told me she thinks she still likes him because one of her (his sisters) friends heard her talking about him at the end of the year. She claims he doesnt like her at all, thinks she's gross, in his words a "poser" but I still can't help but be worried about it, especially about the way she acted towards me at the end of the year. The only reason im talking about this now, is because a few days ago, I got a follow request from her best friend.

I know they are best friends because she has a public profile, she has a highlight with her and went on a trip with her, and they seem to be practically glued at the hip. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and assumed she's only following me because I have a couple of other people im friends with that are also friends with her (despite me never talking to her before/even meeting her irl because she goes to a different school) I still didn't let her follow me. She HAS to have some idea about who I am. The fact that her friend was still talking about my boyfriend at the end of the year despite not having talked to him for 5ish months or so, she HAS to know who I am. I know what she's doing, trying to keep tabs so that that girl doesn't have to. I dunno. Im just sick to the stomach even thinking about it.

I WANT to trust my boyfriend. Hes never given me a reason not to trust him, but its easier said than done to put all your trust in someone. I just feel uneasy, I dont try to make him stop talking to people, or not NOT be friends with other girls or whatnot.

Hi guys, im a beginner sfx artist. I mostly practice on myself, I want to start wearing colored contacts but ive heard that some people get measurements before getting and wearing contacts. Is this absolutely necessary? And how common is it for people to start wearing contacts without a prescription? I rely on my parents for transportation (living in the US, so i COULD pay because i have my own money but I don't know how expensive it is) should I get my measurements or is it okay to wear on their own? Im looking at eyevos eye contacts, i don't know if they are any good but I seen them and im interested in buying them.

Hi everybody, I've never been officially diagnosed with OCD but I've noticed some things about myself that I think could be signs? Or just symptoms i guess? Im not here for a diagnosis, but more of validation. I feel like im being crazy.

Ive always been a pretty anxious person and wonder if its just me being anxious. Also, I've thought I've had autism/ADHD or another form of neurodivergence which could be why. Ive never been diagnosed with either of those either ​and I hate feeling like people are going to think im just trying to get diagnosed with something 😭

Im a recent graduate, still living with my parents and I rely on them for transportation or to take me to the doctor and pretty much everything else. They're also the kind of people that dismiss mental disorders, dont think they're real, or think if I ever brought up thinking I had autism I DEFINITELY don't have autism because I dont act like my cousin who has autism.

As for the OCD part, one recurring thought happens trying to sleep at night. Luckily it hasn't happened as often as it used to (when I was a kid like 8years old was when it first started happening) but i get super paranoid thinking someone is going to come into my room and kill me when Im sleeping. Or someone is waiting in my closet or under the bed waiting for me to let my guard down so they can kill me. When I was little, the only way I would be able to sleep was if I slept under multiple blankets (often times during hot summers where I live), with the lights on, and if my sister was home. We have a pretty big age gap, so by the time I was 8 she was already of college/working age so she wasnt home that often during nights. With that combination of things it was impossible to sleep either way because i was either paranoid thinking someone was going to kill me, or it was too hot or the light wouldnt let me sleep. This literally makes no sense because nothing has ever happened to me to make me think that something bad is waiting to happen? I feel like its a trigger to hear about things like this (crime cases, horror stories) it also doesnt help for things as miniscule as prank texts or posts (ie. When someone texts you 'forward this to ten people or you get bad luck for the next ten years' or 'this thing/person is going to come for you' kind of texts) which obviously its a joke and not real, but i genuinely get paranoid about stuff like that.

It hasn't happened as much in recent years, but it does from time to time. I do the same thing with going to the bathroom, every time i go into a bathroom I have to pull back the curtain before I can use the bathroom. Its been happening more lately, I've started smoking cannabis which im aware can make you MORE paranoid, which can happen but usually doesnt. The only way i can sleep, and thats while sober because even though it can make me more paranoid its easier to ignore those kinds of thoughts and sleep when Im high. But, the only way i can sleep is if I get up and check under the bed or in my closet multiple times. Sometimes theyre so bad I genuinely cant sleep at all and spend the entire night tossing and turning in my bed. I can try to drown them out by listening to music or doing something that distracts me, but trying to not think about those things make it worse.

Aside from this, theres a handful of other things I cant stop myself from thinking. I have a hard time with intimacy because some of the most abhorrent thoughts pop into my head and it ruins it for me. A lot of times, both in and outside of relationships it makes it hard for me to fully be in the moment. I worry about the things people might think of me, I hate putting this in words, but i started babysitting my sister recently and get seriously worried about doing something wrong and her thinking im a pedophile. I would never hurt a child!!! So why do i think like this? I feel like i gaslight myself a lot. Another thing that happens is with things like if im ever cooking with the oven, or stove, or any other kind of heating appliance I have to check multiple times that I've turned it off before leaving. On an off note, I made lunch for my mom and dad yesterday. There were bits of broken glass in my dad's sandwich, i told him I didnt know where it was from. And truthfully I didn't. My mom's sandwich was fine, also because I made them in seperate bowls so something must have broken in the bowl and I didnt notice. But these thoughts I have keep convincing me im somw horrible person, or that I must have forgotten and done something bad and I feel like its eating me alive.

Im sorry about the lengthy post, but its how I was able to put my thoughts together.what in the world is going on???

TLDR: Undiagnosed, but think i have OCD. Extreme paranoid thoughts i cant stop (thinking someone is coming after me/coming to kill me etc.)

Its my fifth time over watching season 5 alone, although I've only watched all seasons of the entire series twice. It genuinely is probably one of my favorite TV series, I do wish we got more out of just the one season because I really love the story and the characters.

Im on episode 8, and it made me incredibly joyous to watch Roy get his ass handed to him during the debate with the commentator asking him if they really needed a tank, and him getting embarrassed, as well as the three other Roys taking a hit to his ego in real time, not knowing how to take it. His acting is incredible, i really hate his character which is how you know his acting is good. His facial expressions are gold too. I have a lot ​of other things to say, like Gator mirroring/parroting his dad (which the consensus is that Roy doesn't like him and is ashamed of him so gator does everything he can to try and win his favor) but i guess i didn't notice it as much the previous times I watched, not just how he tries to impress his dad, but how he copies him. Maybe thats stupid and pretty self explanatory but I thought it was interesting. ​

I guess i never realized how anxious of a person I was until I started smoking. Whether that be in social situations, or while driving. ALSO let me preface this by saying I never drive while under the influence for obvious reasons 😭 obviously I wait till it wears off. If my vision or memory is still choppy and I often forget what im doing, I avoid driving altogether or anything that demands my attention. The residual high/brain fog has only ever happened to me when I've had bad trips, and even then I hate doing anything because it makes me feel kind of crappy and sluggish, let alone driving 🥲

Aside from that, when im sober I notice im just a lot more... chill? Like im not as on edge as I usually am. At first when I started driving, and even now I tense up pretty badly, and I was INCREDIBLY anxious, especially about messing up (I usually drove with my dad and he's pretty reactive which and yells a lot which doesnt help) and would get in my head which made me mess up more. For the longest time i just thought i was genuinely a bad driver, but i think i can finally get enough practice in and not freak out enough to get my lisence. I also notice my thoughts arent as constant. I feel like it also helps me function more when im around people and im not thinking as much about how im being perceived. it kind of makes me feel like a normal person for once.

Also- i know medical marijuana is a thing, but im 19 still living with my parents and theyre older (also religious/conservative/huge right wingers ) and completely against the idea of the use of recreational drugs in any setting, and also think stuff like anxiety or depression are made up. So I found this out on my own terms pretty much. I just think about how they drink alchohol, coffee, teas, and use over the counter medicines, plus coffee is a mild stimulant so it produces the affects other stimulant drugs would, same with alchohol and theyre against the use of marijuana. How silly is that???

Anyways, I really love it so far. Its helped me a lot, cant wait til I move out and can do it on my own accord 😸

Sorry for the wierd title, i wasnt sure how to word it. I was thinking about this the other day when I was babysitting my niece and nephew, I was watching Mulan.

The movie isnt ruined for me, nor is it necessarily because of the plot of the movie. But it is a lot different watching it now, and noticing things, especially with the lyrics. I feel like Disney missed the mark on what they were trying to achieve. Of course mulan was the strong female lead of the movie, and it was going to be misogynistic to some degree because it takes place in imperial china and womens entire purpose was to be brides and mothers (specifically mothers to bear sons). I guess i noticed it more in the lyrics of the songs, like the first where its talking about desirable features ​in women and wives, and how "men like tiny waists" and they should have "good breeding" which im not gonna lie caught me off guard for a kids movie 😭 in a later song, after "I'll make a man out of you" where the soldiers are describing what they want in a wife, and in one part when Mulan pitches in and says "I want a woman who speaks her mind?" And everyone disagrees with her. And i know where Disney was going with this movie, but i cant help but think they could have came up with better lyrics? Lol.

The whole movie feels like it catered to the whole 90s girl power movement, where it was just feminism repackaged into a more digestible, profitable, still very misogynistic, and catered the the beauty standard sold to young girls.

Another movie (which I guess the butt of the joke in some comedy movies is making fun of women) was click (Adam Sandler movie if you dont remember) I think I watched that when I was 8 years old or so, so i didnt really remember much about it. Rewatched it with my partner, and in one part of the movie Adam handlers character has flashback to his previous girlfriends and theyre all shown as overweight, with super exaggerated, comical, kind of manly features, and very hairy. I liked the rest of the movie except that one part, and it didnt ruin it for me but it annoyed me a bit.

Edit: im getting a lot of criticism because of my take on Mulan, and clearly I read too far into it. I guess i was also associating it with it being a children's movie, and thinking kids might take the lyrics and things said in the movie ​too literally, because while I see the lyrics the songs were trying to make, which is why I said I think they could have to a different approach to their songs and maybe i should have clarified first 😭 im old enough to know that the songs dont actually mean what they say, its not really a matter of my misunderstandings. idk guys, sorry for making you read all this 🥲 also I kind of got called stupid, people saying I dont have media literacy. I personally didn't receive any of the lyrics that way but I know that It could be and i didnt mean to make it sound that way in my original post. im usually pretty good at understand people's intentions, although I am neurodivergent and sometimes I miss the memo, but I promise I didnt with this. I genuinely dont know how to word this though.

Hi guys, today I was trying to play through breath of the wild from the start. Everything worked fine, but when I reached the first shrine, and it requires you to use magnetism which you have to press the L key. Whenever i did that, i would completely lock the screen. I could still run around with my character though, but the screen would not move. I doubt it has something to do with the buttons being dirty and getting stuck because I could still press the buttons, and the only way to get it to work again was by exiting the game, either entirely or to the title page.

It had been a while since I played the first game, so I couldnt remember if it was intentional and the screen was supposed to freeze, so I started playing TOTK instead. I was trying to shoot an arrow, (press R) and the same thing happened. Why is this happening???? The game is completely unplayable without it because you need to be able to press L and R keys for certain things and i can't play because of this.

When im high, I genuinely feel smarter. Like Einstein. But oh my god the brain fog, I swear last night I had a GROUNDBREAKING thought and then it went away just as quickly and im really sad about it. I don't remember exactly what it was, but it had something to do with multiverses/multiple realities/different universes, think "everything everywhere all at once" and my mind was blown for a second... if I remember it I'll put it here I guess.

Just dont think of the possibility of multiple universes when youre high lol

Maybe this is a wierd question but I feel like my brain just kind of goes into tunnel vision. Also eating isn't really what I expected, I hear people talking about getting the munchies and how much better food is when high but I kind of just eat and don't really enjoy it more perse, its not unknowable but sometimes when im eating when I'm high it just feels like im eating to eat.

Also if im doing other things it feels like my brain goes elsewhere? I don't know how to explain it very well, but I just go into autopilot.

Tried 7 chakras incense for the first time. No one warned me how strong this is because my room looks like I've been hot boxing. That is all.