u/Pot8obois

I'm looking for a place locally to buy a nice decorative teapot meant specifically for steeping tea (not a kettle or a clear glass pot).

I really like Japanese kyusu side-handle pots or traditional ceramic/clay brewing pots. I saw a few options at Li Mings in Durham, but wondered if anyone has any recommendations of shops or grocery stores that might sell these?

I've been thinking about how the mental separation of human and animal shapes the way we think of and interact with other creatures. When I saw an bird, a squirrel, a deer, a cow, whatever... I saw a mindless robot programmed to behave a certain way. I saw humans to be separate from them, and consciousness, language, etc... to be uniquely human. I was so wrong.

I recently finished a book called the Genius of Birds, and it really opened my eyes more to the reality that we are all not that different. Animals communicate, understand, have awareness and feelings. Humans are unique in their capacity for sure, but other creatures are not mindless machines, but conscious living things that are capable of understanding, thought, emotion, relationship, in some cases even culture (birds, whales, chimpanzees).

I started a different book about eastern north american wildlife, and the history before European settlers made me very sad. When we think of bison, for instance, we don't think of Florida, right? But there used to be massive herds of them there! And what was described of eastern north america before colonization is truly magical.

Anyway, I'm on a bit of a rant at this point. What I'm getting at is that, by mentally separating ourselves from animals, we don't feel so bad destroying their ecosystems, treating them poorly, injuring them for sport, etc... But at the same time, we have seen that humans don't treat each other very well either, with examples of slavery and the genocide of indigenous people in North America. We are truly the most destructive creatures on this planet.

I live in Durham, but can go to Raleigh. I'm curious if there are any organizations that need volunteers. I'm very interested in land conservation and wildlife rehabilitation. My day job is social services, but outside of work I love animals, really into wildlife photography and learning about wildlife and their environments, so I think I'd enjoy volunteering somewhere that does this kind of work.

I just finished season 4 and the way it just left off made me sad, wanting more. But it's been since 2023 than any word of season 5 has been mentioned. I understand it can take years between seasons, but part of me wonders if I should not hold my breathe they'll finish this reboot.

I love the art style, the relationships and story. The action and strategy are fantastic. I love the complex political questions, and yeah... it's such a good show. I worry the original may feel "stale" in comparison? If I were to watch the original instead of waiting or hoping they continue DNT, should I restart or start on a later episode?

I really liked this character, and was shocked by how emotional I got when he died..I felt so bad for Reinhard. I just finished season two of DNR. I want Reinhard to fail in the end but the connection between Kircheis and him made Kircheis death feel devastating and I felt sad in a way I haven't about a character death in a while..

I'm 33 a year old man... in my second marriage. I've known for a long time I shouldn't be with her, and that I didnt' want to marry her. But I'm too much of a people pleaser to have ended it, and I married her about 4 months ago now. This is my second marriage, and I feel like I complete failure. I repeated my past mistakes again. I feel complete loss of autonomy over my life, she tells me what to do and if I don't do it she gets upset. She cut off my family, says future children won't have anything to do with them. I avoid my family out of guilt, my twin brother who lives 30 minutes away isn't talking to me... my wife handles relationships in a way that crushes me, as she has cut off almost all of her own family as well. I am allowed to maintain relatinoships with my family, but it's really hard... and she wants a kid and I feel nothing but fear and sadness over it. I had multiple panic attacks, took off work and drove out of state one day... the two weeks before the wedding. But I kept coming back. My family offered so much support if I choose to leave, but I didn't take it. I kept going back.. and we got married in a courthouse with no family or friends. I can't believe I did this. I struggle to find her attractive, she's not very nice, the way she talks to her own family feels combative and I often feel she is unkind in the way she talks about others. I'm a social worker and it often feels we are not on the same page with how we view or talk about people. I can't believe I just stuck around... my whole body was screaming at me... and now I just feel stuck. I wanted a family so bad, and now I just can't fathom how to do that with her without serious regrets. No one is going to want a 2 time divorceee, and I know how people think of others who have been married 3 times. I graduated with my masters two years ago and told myself my 30's would be the time I'd actually get my life in order and do what I wanted... but I ended up right back in a situation where I hold little control and feel like my life is going in a direction I did not want. I feel like I completely ruined my life and don't know how to move forward. I've wished so many times I could restart, have a clean slate... I have this one life and I feel like I've kept allowing it to be torn in directions that where not for me at all. I do care and love my wife and feel awful that I have done this to her as well, but at the same time I've tried to communicate, I've tried to take us to couples counseling. She maintains moral authority over me and everything else. I feel a loss of control over our future and our children's future. My therapist warns me future children could suffer in a dynamic like this, and I feel full of guilt for the potential children, full of guilt for marriyng her and then potentially saying no to having children with her, even though she really wants it. She told me if it didnt' work with me she'd be done with dating entirely. She's much older than me, and never had a long term relationship. I feel like I owe her something. I know it's illogical, I know what people will say... but I genuinely feel suck... and today I was looking back and kept thinking why did I do it? Why did I marry her? My whole body was screaming at me for months, and it resulting in panic the weak before, and I was hyperventalating the day of. why am I so weak? What is wrong with me? Why do I ruin my life like this. Ive been so mentally unwell for so long... I hate this I hate my life right now.

Legend of the Galactic Heroes season 1 (of the new show) is not available anywhere. Crest of Stars is unavailable. Toward the Terra is unavailable. These are all shows I want to watch. I tried even going the "free online streaming" route, but even there these shows don't exist. I feel right now people's best bet, especially with Toward the Terra, is to find a physical copy of it? Also, would you guys suggest other shows while I'm trying to figure out how to watch these? I'm not big on mecha stuff, although I think I'm going to try watching 86 next.

I feel like having a community that a child can be a part of is something that is overlooked... and as an adult I know just how hard it is to even make friends, let alone have a community. But if your children has no one outside your home to connect with... they have to rely on school?

I think a piece of information that is relevant is that we are an interracial couple I am white a man, she is a Black woman.

My family has been rejected by my wife and she has said our future kids will have no connection with them. She is not connected her family either. So our future kids have no meaningful connection to family (which guts me to my core). We are not religious either.

Honestly, I'd have to write way too much to explain what's happened between my wife and my family. My immediate family mean well, have been very open to being a part of her life but somethings have led my wife to feel they are unsafe for her and future children. She never knew my family well, has spent little time with them, and rejected attempts to meet them from the very beginning. That being said, I am intentionally trying to not make this biased one way or another, because it's not simple to explain.. To be clear, this is not "my immediate family support the current administration" level stuff, but at the end of the day several attempts at couples counseling has failed to make any change and she has officially decided she wants nothing to do with them, and our children will have no connection with them. But I'm more focused on lack of social support and community for future kids here, not litigating who is right about my family.

I'm a bit terrified about the lack of community in our lives, and it feels as if we are kind of isolated. Mostly, I feel like something HAS to change if we bring kids to the world. They need to have community of people like them, and right now I don't feel like we can provide that... and that's a big deal to me. So I have to do something about it.

The concern I have is my future children not having community, and my wife and I having no support system. I believe it's important for kids to be around poeple like them as well. My wife doesn't seem to share these same concerns or thoughts, and seems to have a level of excitement about children that I'm struggling to share right now given how things have gone. I think it breaks me a bit to think of my future kids not having aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.... On top of that, there's no community we've built outside of it. So our future kids really just have us, and whatever happens when they go to school. My wife seems to be very content with how things are, and when I've shared concerns it's felt like we weren't on the same page. I'm trying to get out and meet people, but it's challenging.

I grew up religious and became agnostic, and she's agnostic as well. Sometimes I've thought about connecting to a diverse progressive church, but my wife says thats for me alone, and not the rest of the family because she doesn't care for religion. So now I feel like I share this concern in isolation, while she is at an age where we can't delay having children much longer... To be honest it's not just about kids, but about my feelings of isolation.... I feel a hole in my life and it doesn't feel solveable right now.

Am I overthinking this? What kind of advice would you have for me, considering community, support systems, and how to ensure your children are a part of something? I feel bad because I feel like my wife and I don't share the same energy about having children right now. I see her light up about being a mother, and that does make me feel bad for the fact that I end up feeling more anxious than excited. Am I kind of making a big deal out of this?

I feel like having a community that a child can be a part of is something that is overlooked... and as an adult I know just how hard it is to even make friends, let alone have a community. But if your children has no one outside your home to connect with... they have to rely on school?

My family (who is white) has been rejected by my wife and she has said our future kids will have no connection with them. She is not connected to her side of the family either. So our future kids have no meaningful connection to family (which guts me to my core). We are not religious either.

Honestly, I'd have to write way too much to explain what's happened between my wife and my family. My immediate family mean well, have been very open to being a part of her life but somethings have led my wife to feel they are unsafe for her and future children. She never knew my family well, has spent little time with them, and rejected attempts to meet them from the very beginning. That being said, I am intentionally trying to not make this biased one way or another, because it's not simple to explain.. To be clear, this is not "my immediate family support the current administration" level stuff, but at the end of the day several attempts at couples counseling has failed to make any change and she has officially decided she wants nothing to do with them, and our children will have no connection with them. But I'm more focused on lack of social support and community for future kids here, not litigating who is right about my family.

I'm a bit terrified about the lack of community in our lives, and it feels as if we are kind of isolated. Mostly, I feel like something HAS to change if we bring kids to the world. They need to have community of people like them, and right now I don't feel like we can provide that... and that's a big deal to me. So I have to do something about it.

The concern I have is my future children not having community, and my wife and I having no support system. I believe it's important for kids to be around poeple like them as well. My wife doesn't seem to share these same concerns or thoughts, and seems to have a level of excitement about children that I'm struggling to share right now given how things have gone. I think it breaks me a bit to think of my future kids not having aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.... On top of that, there's no community we've built outside of it. So our future kids really just have us, and whatever happens when they go to school. My wife seems to be very content with how things are, and when I've shared concerns it's felt like we weren't on the same page. I'm trying to get out and meet people, but it's challenging.

I grew up religious and became agnostic, and she's agnostic as well. Sometimes I've thought about connecting to a diverse progressive church, but my wife says that for me alone, and not the rest of the family because she doesn't care for religion. So now I feel like I share this concern in isolation, while she is at an age where we can't delay having children much longer... To be honest it's not just about kids, but about my feelings of isolation.... I feel a hole in my life and it doesn't feel solveable right now.

Am I overthinking this? What kind of advice would you have for me, considering community, support systems, and how to ensure your children are a part of something?