Like one day just whoops by. It’s kind of like a simulation everything happens in a loop and there is very little room for change.
Especially as an adult is appears more that way
Other than the fabled one liner “Control your emotions” , “Don’t cry”
I have to go online, read books myself to have more understanding of what exactly is EQ and learn everything as adult.
How to not overanalyze other people’s mean facial expressions , words, nonsense. And set appropriate boundaries while staying regulated ?
And what to do ?
Have been doing stage 3 for a bit now.
Wanted to share my reflections today.
Right now I follow breathe while trying to notice all sensations as I can (not forcefully just relaxed diligence) at the nostrils.
As I do 45 minutes I start to notice numbness at my back sometimes. I try to ignore it it eventually subsides. When I feel the dullness get stronger I intentionally take deep breathes and strengthen my inner intentions to follow the breathe. When I feel impatient at times, I lightly ask myself to appreciate the fact I’m taking the time to do nothing which quiets the mind.
Overall it was a solid practice I had I feel. It felt nice doing the practice today.l, although the intention of meditation isn’t it should be “nice”
Am I doing something wrong even after months of meditation ?
I still feel like venting eg thinking in my head of the injustice creating a story when receiving criticism
I mean money dominates … people will do anything for it.. money dominates…
In relationships there’s l rarely true love …
all this unfairness in life… if u hold power, u can rape , rob people (in various not blatant ways ) and still have people come defend you …
I mean society literally is training you to be soulless .
Yes there’s option to choose not to be… but needs effort… and resilience to the cruelty of reality
No room to be sensitive …
I usually meditate in the morning but didn’t sleep enough last night.
I find myself requiring willpower to follow the breathe.
It felt like a more forceful session but otherwise I would have just skipped the session for the day which isn’t good either…
Any tips ?
Fellow meditators,
In the books or websites I’ve read about meditation , it’s advised to gently notice the tension and relax the mind/body parts during meditation / body scan.
Why’s that the case ? Why intentionally alter the state of the body/mind? How does that translate to daily life ?
Thank you looking forward to your advice.
Work eat sleep entertainment
Unlike other men I don’t play games and don’t find enduring joy from it.
Idk how long I can survive this…
Well I sure am right now
I think my behaviour inhibitory system (BIS) as explained by Elaine is hindering my life.
I don’t have much activities and I’m alone. All this general banter that doesn’t last deeply is not satisfying …
Of course previous trauma doesn’t help
I just feel so nothing or just sadness/depression
I preferably don’t gravitate to follow the nose sensations
Will it affect latter stages ?
Fellow meditators
Would like to hear your opinion
5 months in
Idk I feel alert but unmotivated to do stuff
Like I’m always fearing something , not big anxiety but just inkling feeling
I’m on 60 mg so idk if that’s a lot actually or I should ask doc to switch or lower it
I don’t have opportunity to talk to her much
But she seemed nice and kind. So no wonder in particular two weeks ago she was more talkative than usual
She knew her time was up
I do feel sad I probably won’t see her again and can empathise how she must be feeling
On another note Idk 🤷 how long I can witness the brutality of corporate life
This is really tough
Noting all sensations when in and out breathe, connecting (comparing length of in and out breathes eg ) , labelling
Sometimes on a bad day these instructions get pretty stressful to me
Any thoughts how you go about it ?
I need connection , to socialise
I posted earlier but ….
What if things don’t go well
What if she sees my weakness
What if it goes awkwardly
What if she dislikes certain aspects of me
How can someone not be worried if dating somebody
Ok back to square one what if rejected and it gets awkward