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Excuse my English

I don’t know why but all of XNFJs were similar… It’s always something wrong with their ego

I noticed that apologizing is very heavy on their tongue, they can’t admit they were wrong and they don’t say sorry

They don’t like the idea of them being wrong

Also when I would say things that would make them feel guilty they would either disappear and not say anything **or** they would say sorry but very in the edge on their tonge.. like they say it quickly and they don’t seem like they want to apologize

And I remember when I was crying because of my INFJ friend and she said sorry “quickly” I didn’t stop crying and she said **“****I apologized already stop being so needy**” like needy asking for apology it is like I’m being spoiled and asking for too much… it’s translated so I hope you understand

I remember my other XNFJ friends when I do smth wrong and I try to apologize in every way possible, they would be mad for days even if my apology worked they would still act mad

And because I tried a lot and it didn’t work I start feeling like I’m not good for them or I feel like it’s not going to work between us, I get very exhausted

And the moment I’m about to leave they start coming back and say stop being dramatic its not that big its not that deep and they suddenly come back normal

But of course we are not talking about all XNFJs

I’m just mentioning the unhealthy type

I would like to hear it from you guys… like why

I’m not sure if I’m an ISTP or not so tell me if you relate, I also believe my type is 8w9

Excuse my English

I’ve met 2 INFJ females in my life and one ENFJ guy

I like to tease friends, and when I do it I push that person to the edge

I liked all my XNFJ friends, but when I tease someone especially in that circle they get mad but protective to that person especially if the person I teased didn’t say something back

I always know when I have to apologize and I do it immediately, even if it wasn’t that big I just throw my ego behind and I prioritise them being happy and not mad at me ( to person I teased and the XNFJ friend after)

I try to apologize in every way possible, but mostly I say sorry in a way that I really deeply mean it and I don’t feel like leaving until they stop being mas

So here comes my issue… XNFJ stay mad or sad for so long even when they are satisfied

They make it so long that I just feel emotionally exhausted or drained

I never seen them get satisfied unless I’m about to leave, like actually leave because sometimes I don’t feel good for them

MAYBE the XNFJs I talked to were not a healthy type but I don’t know

This feeling with them came every single time and all of them when I just give up after hours or days in most cases and I’m about to leave they just come to me and say it wasn’t that deep stop being dramatic

I love hanging out with this type it’s just when they get mad or sad it exhaust me

انا اول لعبه هي غالبا ماينكرافت وساعاتي فيها 960 ساعه

The realm I joined has almost 2 peopleI know

Forget about the first one he doesn’t even join

The second friend is mad these days and I will tell yall everything

( excuse my English )

The second friend has an area in front of his house, and that area needed to be flattened so we can build the market area, simple, we start to work

Until a girl from the same server start making from every single small detail a big deal… like when we were about to start flattening the area she start saying like yoo guys this is very important join the call so we can negotiate how to flat the area etc

No one wants to join a call, but because she’s nice and expects it, half of the server joins her even if they don’t want to just to not get her sad or emotional ( she’s 20 )

She kept doing this almost to every single detail we make every single day, she makes it a big deal and when she talks about it she makes it complicated to the point when we start flattening the area she start building a court in the middle of the market place even when the ground is unfinished and my friend got so pissed off but not on her because she’s nice

I stepped in so many times, I stopped arguments I made plans I made her change the court location and I made her participate in the flattening process ( she TNT the ground and made it so much worse )

It’s getting too much for a game, I joined to enjoy and now I’m not, even though my friends are there

The second friend who owns the area start being pissed about everything and he literally kicked everyone out and he start doing the area himself, he doesn’t even stand me anymore and It annoys me

This makes the game unplayable, like when I join I literally don’t have energy or passion to play or do anything

The aura between us is very off, everyone is pissed and annoyed

Also the server owner is not allowing anyone to go to the end so imagine how everything is rn

It makes me kinda sad, and I just realized no one noticed what I did to them it’s not just about the game it is also about my friends

Last 3 days I was talking to this ESFP girl and we were playing together online I haven’t met her irl

And I will say this before everything… When I was a child I was bullied by other kids and family members and that mad me isolate myself since a young age and I don’t go out to find friends, I don’t look for friends and I feel more than enough almost overwhelmed with one

I knew her from an MBTI Community… we were fighting mostly, but we didn’t know each other

When I first met her I was almost quite, she talks, I listen and answer

I almost said nothing to her, she wasn’t really curious about me neither we were just playing but I noticed myself being in the fight or flight thing… I felt very tight and next day when I woke up I was like this is the last time for this year I will talk to someone

I genuinely felt exhausted… at night she invited me to a call and I joined but I told her I will just listen to the group chatting because my social battery was very low

I heard her speak with friends and I can’t point what is if but I felt related in a social manner

Today she asked me again to join and we were both talking none stop

She told me that she feels we are somehow similar, like we are not far from each other

I don’t know why but I was just thinking… we didn’t have anything similar the topics were very different it’s like slamming into each other but still the conv never ended

It’s weird… it was normal but I’m confused about myself

We are both girls if that make sense

And excuse my English

First of all, I’m confused if I was an ISTP or an ESFP

When I have friends I usually talk about the silliest things to people, I would send a 2 minute voice message saying…

** ****“**today when I woke up the house was peaceful and I made myself a cup of green tea and it was very bitter”

But If I was asking them I would say…

**“Did you sleep well today?”**
** ****“what did you have for breakfast?”**
**“**does your body hurt after work?”

This is how my most conversations look like, I really care about what the other person is experiencing in their lives, I would like to know if they experience something good or bad, I’m not trying to be nosy when I ask for what they had for breakfast, I just care to know

Most of my past friendships they would get bored by time especially when I send them a 4 minutes voice message saying how I suffer building my Minecraft house, it just happens that they don’t care or we like different topics to talk about

In return… I get bored easily when the conversation turns deep? Like if I was with an INFJ friend and they start talking about how anger can make people blind and they would start getting deeper and deeper into the conversation and it’s like connecting the dots

I would care for the first 20 minutes and then I would shut down… I do think of what they say I just don’t like to talk actively too much about it, I also HATE debating

I’m not an English speaker

لما اشوف تمثيل من دوله معينه امريكي خصوصا مره يوضح انه امريكي، اتكلم من ناحيه السكوت و حركه الوقوف على اطراف الاصابع و النظر حوالين المكان و النظرات وحركات الوجه يعني مره مره واضح امريكي وما اقدر اعيش جو داخل العمل