u/Sigma_Raj

Hey guys. I know I’m not conventionally attractive and I don’t really get much attention from women, but lately, I’ve been trying my best to change that and work on myself. I decided to change up my fashion, started wearing some accessories, and even got my ears pierced. I actually really like how it looks.

The problem is my friends (all guys) have not been supportive at all. Instead of hyping me up, they told me I look like I'm "dressing like a thug." It honestly stung because I realize I secretly look for their validation.

I want to feel confident, but it's hard when my own circle is bringing me down. Has anyone else dealt with this when trying to glow up or change their style? How do I stop caring what they think and just own the way I want to present myself?

Hey guys. I know I’m not conventionally attractive and I don’t really get much attention from women, but lately, I’ve been trying my best to change that and work on myself. I decided to change up my fashion, started wearing some accessories, and even got my ears pierced. I actually really like how it looks.

The problem is my friends (all guys) have not been supportive at all. Instead of hyping me up, they told me I look like I'm "dressing like a thug." It honestly stung because I realize I secretly look for their validation.

I want to feel confident, but it's hard when my own circle is bringing me down. Has anyone else dealt with this when trying to glow up or change their style? How do I stop caring what they think and just own the way I want to present myself

Hey guys. I know I’m not conventionally attractive and I don’t really get much attention from women, but lately, I’ve been trying my best to change that and work on myself. I decided to change up my fashion, started wearing some accessories, and even got my ears pierced. I actually really like how it looks.

The problem is my friends (all guys) have not been supportive at all. Instead of hyping me up, they told me I look like I'm "dressing like a thug." It honestly stung because I realize I secretly look for their validation.

I want to feel confident, but it's hard when my own circle is bringing me down. Has anyone else dealt with this when trying to glow up or change their style? How do I stop caring what they think and just own the way I want to present myself?

I’m sure many of you have seen comments under posts saying “AP is South India” or discussing Telugu culture, and people immediately dismissing any criticism as hate. But honestly, some of these criticisms are not jokes.

There are serious issues with misogyny, domestic violence, victim-blaming, and the normalization of controlling women. Studies have also shown concerning levels of acceptance of wife-beating in the Telugu states.

And in the modern era, films and music are a huge part of how a culture represents itself. Telugu cinema has plenty to be ashamed of. Colorism, body shaming, sexualization of women, casting non-Telugu women while sidelining Telugu actresses, romanticizing harassment, and glorifying extremely misogynistic male characters.

Obviously, actors don't represent every Telugu person. But when the biggest stars repeatedly promote sexist attitudes and pass comments like they are living in 1950's and millions of people celebrate them, it does say something about what our society is willing to normalize.

All of this gives me a big headache. I wish I had power to dismantle whole telugu film industry

I see so many posts, and even hear people offline, saying that women's expectations are unrealistic.

I am honestly confused about how we ended up with this argument. I am not talking about basic expectations related to equality, such as wanting to live independently instead of with parents, sharing cooking responsibilities if both partners work, or preferring a small age difference.

My question is about materialistic expectations. Things like salary packages, assets, and the obsession with height, hair, or living in the USA.

Is this because the sex ratio is skewed?

Is it mainly a Telugu community thing, or is it common across India?

I would also like to hear the other side of the story. As a man, I may be biased, so I am genuinely interested in understanding different perspectives.

I'm in my early 20s and this has been on my mind a lot lately.

My mom, expects that after I get married, they'll live with me and eventually see my kids grow up. She often talks about my future wife, grandchildren, and all of us living together as one family. She made it her whole life.

The thing is, I honestly don't know what I want. I don't even know where my career will take me. I might end up working in another city, and I have no idea what my future partner would want either.

I love my parents, but my parents also have a difficult marriage with frequent fights, and my mom struggles with anxiety and health issues. Sometimes I feel guilty even thinking about living separately because I worry they'll feel abandoned.

At the same time, I also want the freedom to build my own life and make decisions with my future spouse.

For those who have already gone through this, especially in Indian families:

Please help your brother you.

I'm not looking for validation either way. I just want to hear real experiences from people who've been through this.

There are these two stray cats in my office area. I don't see them often have only seen them twice till now.

I love cats, but Hyderabad has not many cats so had very little experience.

My question is, what should I feed them? They are very afraid and run away as soon as I approch them.

I understand P1->P2, he got marc behind his wheels but how P3 with such drastic time gap

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This post is for People who are not conventionally attractive and below average in looks and for those dealing with body dismorphia.

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You might have sensed it from childhood that you felt like people didn't treat you correctly or people didn't care about you as much they cared about others. And they gave more importance to others even though they had potato personality. Honestly you are not wrong, people do it. People don't see the good in you, the fun in you as quickly as in others. They might not even want to try seeing it. And honestly fuck them.

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You don't need them, you don't need anybody. And please please never hate yourself for your looks or things which you have no control.

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Whenever I see myself hating myself or feeling low. I imagine the 5 year old me who was so much of joy and full of life who wanted to grow as quickly as possible to experience things. I can't disappoint him by drowing in my own sorrow. This child doesn't deserve the hatred.

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Take care ❤️ just wanted to vent

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Parents who are unhappy internally and don't have foundation for strong bond between them (mother and father)

Mother who had essentially no life outside work and children. Now having existential crisis due to kid growing up and quitting job. And who is controlling

Father who is avoidant and doens't socialzie much with faimly or mother. Because we got nothing in common no intrests. And due to moms controlling nature

They fight every other day and enviornment is dependent on moms mood.

Being a single male child makes me suffocated seeing this.

Parents who are unhappy internally and don't have foundation for strong bond between them (mother and father)

Mother who had essentially no life outside work and children. Now having existential crisis due to kid growing up and quitting job. And who is controlling

Father who is avoidant and doens't socialzie much with faimly or mother. Because we got nothing in common no intrests. And due to moms controlling nature

They fight every other day and enviornment is dependent on moms mood.

Being a single male child makes me suffocated seeing this.

I need a skincare routine buddy. There are so many products from so many companies in the market. The whole thing is very confusing.

Some guidance would really help me