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The parents thanked me a million times but when I looked at the Zelle the dad sent it didn’t include the $15 for the extra 30 minutes I stayed bc they got stuck in traffic.

I am so tired of people acting like I am just there to do them a favor. As a nanny how do you get parents to take you seriously?

I am so mad bc it’s not even the money, it’s the disrespect. The dad made it clear that my job is “easy” which misses the point. They are paying for my years of experience and my time is fucking valuable.

I feel so insecure every time an opportunity to make a new friend forms bc I feel like it’s such a red flag. Let me explain:

18-20yrs - lived with abusive sibling while in school and just focused on surviving

20-23 - the pandemic, moved back home, worked menial job, went back to school where I again made no friends and committed emotional suicide

23- moved to Miami for my first job out of college. I made friends at work and through yoga for a brief time felt ok.

24- quit that job and got sober. Everyone either left or I left them bc I realized they were losers

25- I got a sponsor who gave me horrible advice and I became extremely isolated this past winter after having to dump her

26- I am alone and only talk to my roommates who are older. I am not ok.

I feel like I’m climbing uphill- creating history with someone at this point feels impossible.

My roommate is Russian and buys a ton of hair products. She has on occasion told me I could use something but then proceeded to put said thing under the sink.

It seems like she gets a new beauty product every day. My hair has had a bunch of built up shampoo in it so I used one of her exfoliating bottles (ps it didn’t help) and I accidentally left it out before remembering to put it back on the counter where she had it so now she knows I used it.

I have a feeling she uses my stuff in the bathroom as well sometimes but probably not as often.

I’m a little sister and used to borrow my older sister’s stuff all the time without asking. It’s a habit that has been hard to break as an adult. Anyone who’s been able to stop borrowing other people’s stuff without asking, how did you stop?

I do this automatically. I don’t know if it’s bc my parents did nothing but criticize and pick each other a part and did the same to their children to a lesser degree.

It doesn’t matter. Bc I smell out peoples weaknesses and insecurities and use it to judge them and wall myself off. I hate that I do this. It’s kept me from so much in my life and connecting with just about everyone.

I also wait for approval from other people to decide if I like someone. Like a 5th grader in a clique.

I am so tired

26F here and I can remember having sexual fantasies at age 6 or 7. I remember thinking I wanted to be a maid when I grew up bc I would get to wear a sexy maid outfit. I remember as a kid being tied up during some game (actually I think I asked to be tied up) bc I felt turned on by it.

I think maybe I was just born a freak and there isn’t anything I can do about it.

Hi! I want to start rollerblading and realized I am not skilled enough yet to handle these streets! lol.

Is there a neighborhood really anywhere other than coral gables that would have good roads for skating? Thanks!

This degree is specific to this college and there aren’t many other programs like it. I was wondering if you did it, was it worth it?

Seems really esoteric and there is t a whole lot of financial assistance for it. Would love to hear from anyone who’s completed this degree or knows someone who has

So I’ve really been feeling the ism of it all and that saying about how you don’t really deal with alcoholism until you get sober bc the alcohol and drugs are just masking all the things you haven’t dealt with.

I’m 5 months for the second time since starting the program and since I have to live honestly, I am having a really hard time following my gut instincts and speaking up when I know I should.

I get angry hours later and don’t feel my emotions in real time. I have horrible to non-existent communication skills.

I know it’s going to just take repeated trial and error in real life but anything I can do to help this along? Aside from working the steps obviously

I hide from feelings. I hate reflecting on my day. I cannot seem to accept the simple reality that whipped cream is mostly fat and sugar and will convert to fat on my body when I eat an entire thing of it. I tell myself I don’t care, that the extra weight won’t bother me but I care tremendously. I tell myself I’ll workout and the chocolate or whatever it is won’t show up on my body and it does.

There have been times in my life where I was so connected to a higher source and this reality didn’t feel so painful.

I want to get there again but I also feel scared to center my life around something so uncertain even tho I know that’s probably when I will start to live again.

So I am the full-time nanny to a one year old I’ll call Jake (not his real name) and I take him to a mommy and me class once a week.

Lately the classes have been smaller bc people are on summer break and she was paying a lot of attention to Jake. I assumed it’s because he’s the youngest and he’s pretty adorable.

She’s always been kind of hands on with him which never really bothered me that much but then last week when saying goodbye she kissed him when I put him in his stroller and it struck me as kind of weird. She didn’t ask and it didn’t feel like something she would to any of the other kids or if I was his mom standing there.

Today I took him again and she again was paying way more attention to him than the other kids. He can’t walk yet and she tried to grab his hand to take steps and I scooped him up immediately.

I kept him close to me and by the end of class I think she got the message to fuck off but it still gives me the creeps as. I’m kind of pissed. I don’t think she’s dangerous but definitely feel like she crossed a line and I’m mad I didn’t say or do anything

So, I’ve been needing to checkout other meetings anyway but they are all pretty far from me.

I go to a lot of online meetings too so it’s not the end of the world but I’m just pissed bc there’s this older guy at my regular place who just sits there and smiles at me whenever he sees me and it makes me so uncomfortable.

The other day I was leaving a mtg and looked up to see him enthusiastically waving from across the street.

We’ve talked super briefly a few times but basically just exchanged names.

It pisses me off bc this isn’t the only dude he acts fucking weird af.

I know it’s fairly common in AA and principles before personalities but it honestly sucks.

I know he’s won a bunch of awards and is widely respected and praised. There’s only one of his poems I get and I think he’s probably brilliant and I just don’t get it 😭.

I am also having trouble with his work bc he said “every poem after 9/11 is a 9/11 poem” his reasoning being that the world changed so all poems written after reflect that automatically. I kind of disagree. Thoughts?

I’m almost to five months. I’ve never made it past five months. I fit into multiple recovery programs and I just feel tired and like I’ll never get “there”. I feel like I was more spiritually fit in many ways when I would drink or smoke weed. At least I had relief. Sober I feel like I’ve reverted to my worst self. I feel half dead.

So, I locked my keys in my car today and am covered by triple AAA and used thier service for the first time in my life.

For the record, it was really fast and efficient and the guy that came checked in to tell me his ETA.

When he came he said I’d get a link from the company asking for a review and a tip and I was like ok great.

Once I had my keys we awkwardly stood there as I stared at my phone waiting for the link and told him I was just waiting.

He then asks if I had cash app (I don’t) then says bc “I definitely don’t have Zelle” and got in his car and just waited before eventually driving away.

Pretty sure this is yet another Miami scam but just wanted to post it here. I know times are tough but this was a weird one.

Started birth control a week ago and I have never felt more affectionate. I suddenly feel touch starved where as before I was fine to wait and continue working on myself. Now I am dying to meet someone.

I’m in Miami and my experience has been that it’s pretty clicky. People are still super image conscious even tho it’s AA. While I’ve found some women that are great, Personally, I really only like the New Yorkers that visit from out of town. Their shares are logical and they seem sharper in general. If it weren’t for the weather I would move tmr.

So, I have been taking care of an adorable little boy we’ll call X since he was 5 months (he’s now one).

For context both his parents live at home and they live in a small house. X has never taken a bottle so his mom feeds him about two or three times a day still plus she insists on prepping his lunch which I then feed him.

I feel pretty neutered bc even tho I know this is what she wants, I don’t do any of the usual things a nanny does like laundry or meal prep. I hold him while he naps (as per the mom’s request) and I take him for walks and to an occasional class.

It’s confusing bc part of me thinks she doesn’t trust me to do this stuff and part of me thinks she might just like the control and bc she’s home she’s able to do it.

Being alone in the nursery and living room with him for hours at a time can honestly feel like torture. I am able to take him on walks but only in the last hour of the day because of the sun. I feel like I am going crazy sometimes and resent that I have so little freedom. My lunch is usually 20minutes but sometimes less bc shit is always happening with the house and the parents are on meetings through out the day.

I just feel suffocated and I lose the capacity to engage with the baby a lot lately. I am not even on my phone, I just stare at the wall for 30 minutes sometimes. I think the kid needs way more stimulation as well.

Idk what to do.

It’s become apparent that I really need to start getting up two hours before work at 7am to get what I need to get done in a day.

I share a bathroom with one of my roommates and she is really annoying in the morning, spitting in the shower and taking a long time.

For those of you with roommate that wake up at a similar time, how do you go about your business without letting them distract you or get in the way? Thanks!

Hi! I recently started going to EDA meeting but my issues are binge/restricting specifically. This is different than over eaters anonymous.

Are there meetings that focus on binging/restricting and even balemia? Thank you!!