u/Vegetable-Corgi-5225

I really need to get all of this out so I apologize for the length of this post haha

We broke up on Tuesday, I've cried every day since. We spent so much time together. We met each other's parents, all of our dates were at least 7 hours long, we saw each other like 2-3x a week, he spent the night at my place twice. I guess our relationship was just meant to be a summer thing. I cried while we broke up. He didn't. Lmao that was embarrassing for me. 😭

The longest relationship I've been in was 7 months, but honestly ending things with him were easy. He was very judgey of me and basically made fun of everything I did, and he did things I didn't approve of (smoking, heavy drinking) so I just ended it right there.

But with the guy I just broke up with, he was perfect. He was so smart, funny, so so so unbelievably handsome (sex was AMAZING too, holy shit lol). We had all the same interests, beliefs, he was a genuinely amazing person. He's so kind to everyone and everything around him, the way he talks to other people when we're out in public made me fall in love with him. I cried into his arms about problems I was having with my closest friends, he listened and made me feel so loved in that moment. He was EXACTLY my type, I keep thinking I'll never find someone like him again.

The problem was our conflicting communication styles. I wouldn't hear from him for DAYS. We're also both going back to school (I'm going back halfway across the country). I didn't want to put myself through that stress and anxiety forever. But part of me doesn't care. He was so amazing in person I just wanted to forget about that and stay because everything else about him is so perfect.

I feel so silly for overreacting this much over a month-long relationship. I feel like he definitely isn't reacting this way over me, he's so much more emotionally mature and stable, I feel so jealous.

Since we were into all the same things, every hobby I try to do to distract myself just reminds me of him and I can't do it. He introduced me to my new favorite music genre and every song reminds me of him. I also got into tennis with him, but now when I think of playing I get a churning pit in my stomach. I've lost my appetite and I can barely eat because I miss him so much.

this is a very random question, but i'm getting into skateboarding and i'm wondering if there are any spots on campus or nearby for me to practice? i saw online that sfsu banned skateboarding on campus

recently i've been so sick to my stomach i can't eat anything. i think it might be because of a relationship i'm currently in which i know is coming to an end soon. i'm not sure if it's just because of my relationship or if it's just regular stress or other things. all of my relationships i've been in had me genuinely nauseous from anxiety half the time lol

i always try to downplay my struggles because "someone always has it worse than me" and i've never had a panic attack (i think). right now the thoughts of my relationship and my future and my life in general are completely consuming me and i can't eat or watch tv or do anything without this churning feeling in my stomach. it also keeps me up and night and i don't want to go outside because it's impossible to do anything without my stupid thoughts taking over

does this sound like regular stress or overthinking or actual anxiety? i don't know if i should talk to someone or if i need to go on medication or something. honestly i don't want to do either :(

sorry for the venting!! kinda just needed to get it out lolol

was recently broken up with, and the reason was basically because i have no hobbies and i don't have much to talk about. ouch. now just thinking of starting a new hobby or getting into the cool stuff he was into makes me nauseous.

most of my teen years (i'm 18 rn) was spent doomscrolling on social media because i was so introverted and had zero friends. now i watch movies or tv shows instead. i used to draw but i gave up because i hated what i created. i read sometimes too but i don't want to talk to people about my books lol

honestly recently i've just been letting my anxiety consume me and i lay in my bed sick to my stomach all day because of it.

i want to get into skateboarding or some sort of instrument or sport but lessons are expensive, the gear is expensive, everything is so fucking expensive! i've been looking in thrift stores for weeks at this point looking for a skateboard or something but i can't seem to find one. i might just splurge on a new one

i wanted to hang posters, string lights, etc, but i can't find any information about what i'm allowed to use to hang these items. am i allowed to use command hooks and/or thumbtacks? since those can leave damage. i don't want to be stuck just using regular tape lolol.

(i'm a bit of a newbie with sex lol)

i can't seem to get the last inch of my partner, feels there's like a barrier or something in the back of my mouth that i just can't shove his dick into!! i've been trying to get rid of my gag reflex (putting toothbrush down my throat) but i can't even get him that deep in :(

i keep trying with him and i get out of breath and lightheaded and feel like i'm about to puke because i just try to shove him down my throat for 10 minutes straight lmao

very tmi i apologize! i had sex for the first time about a week ago, and we did it again earlier this week. but yesterday i noticed an itchy feeling in my vaginal opening? it's not unbearable, just slightly uncomfortable! it's pretty mild. like i could just forget about it and go about my day lol

we used protection (condoms), but he fingered me & performed oral on me as well, so now i'm worried his fingers weren't clean or something ?...

is this a sign of an STI or another infection?

i just turned 18, and i realized that i literally don't have any hobbies or interests. i don't even know what i spend my days doing. i don't really use social media, i just watch youtube or hang out with friends all day. i draw occasionally, but i've sort of given up recently because i got burnt out.

please things that are on the cheaper side!! or things that i could try out for cheaper and then put more money into it when i'm actually interested. (if that makes sense?)

we live about 1h 20mins away from each other, and we see each other like 1 or 2 times a week. he hates texting, i love texting! obviously we'd both prefer to be face to face. but since we're slightly long distance, texting/calling is all we have?

my boyfriend doesn't like being on his phone and i guess doesn't check it much. i feel bad spamming him with texts because i don't want to force him to talk to me, but i'm very much an anxious person when it comes to relationships.

i don't need to be texting all day 24/7, but it'd be nice to have a conversation at the end of the day just as a little update on how we're both doing. or a cute little good morning text

i'm kind of scared to tell him, i don't want to seem annoying or selfish to try and take him away from his life to text me. but at the same time i feel like im not wanted/important to him when he barely texts

i'm also not sure how to say any of this to him?? we kind of talked about it in the past but we didn't go much in depth to it

hello!! i've started going to the gym 3x a week, it's super fun and not as scary as i thought!! i do strength training, as well as 5 minutes of cardio (stair stepper, cycling machine, or incline treadmill) before and after.

i'm 18f, 5'2 (157cm), 133lbs (60kg)!

i was eating 1200 calories a day since i wasn't really active at all (barely reaching 6k steps), but now i'm a bit lost on how much to eat. the calorie calculator says i should be eating around 1300 to lose 1lb/week, is that too low? i'm worried about not having enough calories and passing out or something lol. but i'm also worried about eating too much and gaining/not losing weight.

thank you so much!!

i always see very attractive men in public, and i'm TERRIFIED to even think about going up to anyone with romantic intentions! i'm scared he'll have a girlfriend or something and i'm scared of rejection! whenever i have an interaction with a guy i find attractive i turn into a stuttering idiot and i stumble over my words and make a fool of myself 😭

does anyone have any advice on how to get the confidence to do so? i'm probably average or below average attractiveness, so i don't think i'm "in their league". i have no idea what to say! like do i just jump into it, "hi, you're handsome, can i have your number?" but then what would i say after?? what would i text him??

i should maybe add that i've never been in a relationship before and i have no idea how to flirt/be romantic lolol

just started to count calories & working out again!! i'm super proud of myself! but i'm going to school in the fall and i'll be having dining hall food. i'm super nervous because when i'm not able to track my calories i kinda just spiral and overeat a LOT. i also struggle a lot with "eating until you're full" because i grew up with "full" being stuffed with so much food you're about to explode

my dorm has a mini fridge & microwave and there's communal kitchen downstairs on the 1st floor (not sure how much i'd use it since i'm all the way on the 5th floor)

does anyone have any advice/meal ideas? i'm worried i'll overeat & gain weight or undereat because i'm scared of overeating. i'm also worried about tracking protein since i'm also trying to build muscle!

i have VERY broad shoulders and chubby arms, i want to start losing weight. basically all the weight is in my thighs & arms and shoulders. i know about CICO and everything like that, and i've lost a little bit of weight before, but i don't remember how my body looked lol.

i've always dreamed of have a petite slim feminine figure with thin arms and upper body but im not sure if that's possible for me

but i also know that the broad shoulders are my bones, and there's not really any changing that. i also heard that arms are the last place to lose the weight which is honestly a bit discouraging

i have smaller breasts (i don't even have cleavage 😣), and i'm scared they'll get even smaller when i lose weight.

i'm 5'2 & 132lbs if it matters!

my closet is basically a bookshelf, and there's no space for hangers or a bar to hang things. i HATE having my clothes folded, it makes it much harder to find what i want to wear! like if i want something from the bottom of the pile, the whole stack is messed up. i'd love some advice or organization products that would help!