u/Vibingwithlife_

I am in a same sex relationship and we had a baby boy in March and although I do love him - I really wasn’t ready. My mother passed away just before I decided to do IVF and I spent her inheritance money for IVF. I wasn’t thinking about what I was doing. I felt like everything I done was rushed and now he is here I have realized I am not ready for motherhood and I am not ready to be a mother.

I should be grateful that it worked on our first try but I’m just filled with dread and regret that I didn’t listen to others when they asked me if I was sure I was making the right decision. I should’ve thought carefully about if this is what I really wanted.

I feel sick to my stomach every day and I just want to die because I can’t look after him, I can’t even look after myself.
I’m in no position financially and I have only been able to keep part time jobs my whole life.

I think about killing myself every day because I can’t live with the guilt and shame. I should be happy I’ve got a lovely little boy but I’m not. He doesn’t deserve this. He deserves a mother who wants him.

I have ruined my life. I done IVF last year which resulted in me having a baby boy but now I realize I am in no position to be a mum. I went into this with rose tinted glasses thinking it’s some sort of game. I can’t live with myself. I feel sick to my stomach and I am suicidal almost every day.

I have ruined my life. I done IVF last year which resulted in me having a baby boy but now I realize I am in no position to be a mum. I went into this with rose tinted glasses thinking it’s some sort of game. I can’t live with myself. I feel sick to my stomach and I am suicidal almost every day.

I am in a same sex relationship and we had a baby boy in March and although I do love him - I really wasn’t ready. My mother passed away just before I decided to do IVF and I spent her inheritance money for IVF. I wasn’t thinking about what I was doing. I felt like everything I done was rushed and now he is here I have realized I am not ready for motherhood and I am not ready to be a mother.

I should be grateful that it worked on our first try but I’m just filled with dread and regret that I didn’t listen to others when they asked me if I was sure I was making the right decision. I should’ve thought carefully about if this is what I really wanted.

I feel sick to my stomach every day and I just want to die because I can’t look after him, I can’t even look after myself.
I’m in no position financially and I have only been able to keep part time jobs my whole life.

I think about killing myself every day because I can’t live with the guilt and shame. I should be happy I’ve got a lovely little boy but I’m not. He doesn’t deserve this. He deserves a mother who wants him.

I am in a same sex relationship and we had a baby boy in March and although I do love him - I really wasn’t ready. My mother passed away just before I decided to do IVF and I spent her inheritance money for IVF. I wasn’t thinking about what I was doing. I felt like everything I done was rushed and now he is here I have realized I am not ready for motherhood and I am not ready to be a mother.

I should be grateful that it worked on our first try but I’m just filled with dread and regret that I didn’t listen to others when they asked me if I was sure I was making the right decision. I should’ve thought carefully about if this is what I really wanted.

I feel sick to my stomach every day and I just want to die because I can’t look after him, I can’t even look after myself.
I’m in no position financially and I have only been able to keep part time jobs my whole life.

I think about killing myself every day because I can’t live with the guilt and shame. I should be happy I’ve got a lovely little boy but I’m not. He doesn’t deserve this. He deserves a mother who wants him.

I’m 6 months postpartum and I have been struggling so much with my mental health that it’s got to the point I can’t even be around my baby and I can’t take care of his basic needs. I am currently in the Philippines on vacation so I have people to look after him here.

I am wanting him to stay here for a few months until I get myself better because I am worried I won’t be able to look after him back at home.

The social services are already involved and I need to speak to them about the plan. The thing is I keep changing my mind about him staying or coming home with me.

I feel suicidal every day, can’t be around my son and don’t have the mental capacity to even feed or change him. It hurts.

I am struggling to connect with my son. Sometimes I don’t feel like he is mine. I recently got discharged from a mother & baby unit. Sometimes I wonder if it’s best if I put him into care. We are already under Child Protection services and have to go to a conference on the 3rd.

I have recently been discharged from a mother & baby unit after being there for over 2 months dealing with severe PPD. I felt like I was not ready to discharged.

Because of some of the comments I made during times of crisis and distress - social services are now involved and I have been placed on a Child Protection Plan.

I am not allowed alone with my son and social workers are coming in every day to monitor and check on me.

I feel like being honest and doing what I thought was the right thing about telling them how I truly feel was not right and now I am facing consequences.

My son is very well cared for but I am just suffering from severe PPD and need all the help I can and support I can get whilst being out in the community.

I have recently been discharged from a mother & baby unit after being there for over 2 months dealing with severe PPD. I felt like I was not ready to discharged.

Because of some of the comments I made during times of crisis and distress - social services are now involved and I have been placed on a Child Protection Plan.

I am not allowed alone with my son and social workers are coming in every day to monitor and check on me.

I feel like being honest and doing what I thought was the right thing about telling them how I truly feel was not right and now I am facing consequences.

My son is very well cared for but I am just suffering from severe PPD and need all the help I can and support I can get whilst being out in the community.

I feel bad when I am having low/low energy days and I don't feel like interacting with my son much (he is 4 months old.)
I am in hospital getting treated for PPD and I am planned to be discharged in two weeks time. I don't know if I am ready but we are going on vacation in September so I do want to be discharged by then.

Do you have any advice or tips so I can feel better about myself?

I feel bad when I am having low/low energy days and I don't feel like interacting with my son much (he is 4 months old.)
I am in hospital getting treated for PPD and I am planned to be discharged in two weeks time. I don't know if I am ready but we are going on vacation in September so I do want to be discharged by then.

Do you have any advice or tips so I can feel better about myself?

I am in England, London and I’m planning to go back to work when baby is 7 months old after coming back from holiday. When did you go back to work? What were your experiences like? How do the fees work out? Did you choose a nursery or childminder?

I need some tips and information specifically around fees. I work part time, 15 hours per week.

I know this sounds so selfish and horrible but I am in a same sex relationship with my partner who is Filipino of nearly 4 years. We done IVF and have a beautiful 4 month old who is such a content, calm and overall happy baby who rarely cries or fusses. We are going to the Philippines in September to visit the family.

I am currently in a mother and baby unit suffering from severe PPD and have struggled all my life.

I am struggling so much it’s got to the point I have considered my son staying in the Philippines for 6 months whilst I work, earn some money for him to have a better life. My in-laws would look after him.

I know I would miss out on his development and milestones but I am so exhausted mentally and sometimes don’t even have the energy to interact with my son. I feel like such a bad mother.

I don’t know what to do.

I know this sounds so selfish and horrible but I am in a same sex relationship with my partner of nearly 4 years. We done IVF and have a beautiful 4 month old. We are going to the Philippines in September to visit the family.

I am currently in a mother and baby unit suffering from severe PPD and have struggled all my life.

I am struggling so much it’s got to the point I have considered my son staying in the Philippines for 6 months whilst I work, earn some money for him to have a better life. My in-laws would look after him.

I know I would miss out on his development and milestones but I am so exhausted mentally and sometimes don’t even have the energy to interact with my son. I feel like such a bad mother.

I don’t know what to do.

As the title says: I’m 31F from Europe looking for people who genuinely want to have meaningful conversations. I am pretty much open to any subject/topic as long as it’s clean. I am not interested in anything else other than friendships.

A bit about me:
• I am a mum of one
• I like reading especially true crime
• I like to travel (I will be going to the Philippines this year)
• I like listening to music (pop, rock, R&B, dance genres)
• I like true crime documentaries
• I like taking walks and nature
• I am in a relationship so please respect that
• I am neurodivergent and an introvert
• I am looking for someone who genuinely wants to build on a friendship and not to have random chats here and there or to be ghosted at the end of the day
• I am not expecting replies straight away as everyone has lives

Please send me a message more than “hi” or “how are you?”

As the title says: I’m 31F from Europe looking for people who genuinely want to have meaningful conversations. I am pretty much open to any subject/topic as long as it’s clean. I am not interested in anything else other than friendships.

A bit about me:
• I am a new parent
• I like reading especially true crime
• I like to travel (I will be going to the Philippines this year)
• I like listening to music (pop, rock, R&B, dance genres)
• I like true crime documentaries
• I like taking walks and nature
• I am in a relationship so please respect that
• I am neurodivergent and an introvert
• I am looking for someone who genuinely wants to build on a friendship and not to have random chats here and there or to be ghosted at the end of the day
• I am not expecting replies straight away as everyone has lives

Please send me a message more than “hi” or “how are you?”

As the title says: I’m 31F looking for people who genuinely want to have meaningful conversations. I am pretty much open to any subject/topic as long as it’s clean. I am not interested in anything else other than friendships.

A bit about me:
• I am a mum of one
• I like reading especially true crime
• I like to travel (I will be going to the Philippines this year)
• I like listening to music (pop, rock, R&B, dance genres)
• I like true crime documentaries
• I like taking walks and nature
• I am in a relationship so please respect that
• I am neurodivergent and an introvert
• I am looking for someone who genuinely wants to build on a friendship and not to have random chats here and there or to be ghosted at the end of the day
• I am not expecting replies straight away as everyone has lives

Please send me a message more than “hi” or “how are you?”

As the title says: I’m 31F looking for people who genuinely want to have meaningful conversations. I am pretty much open to any subject/topic as long as it’s clean. I am not interested in anything else other than friendships.

A bit about me:
• I am a mum of one
• I like reading especially true crime
• I like to travel (I will be going to the Philippines this year)
• I like listening to music (pop, rock, R&B, dance genres)
• I like true crime documentaries
• I like taking walks and nature
• I am in a relationship so please respect that
• I am neurodivergent and an introvert
• I am looking for someone who genuinely wants to build on a friendship and not to have random chats here and there or to be ghosted at the end of the day
• I am not expecting replies straight away as everyone has lives

Please send me a message more than “hi” or “how are you?”

As the title states;

I am currently in a mother and baby unit and in some of my meetings they told me I need to try and interact and play with my son more. They said “anyone can feed and change him.”

Please give me some tips or advice to make it more fun and not like a chore.

I suffer from depression and anxiety and on my bad days it’s really hard to do anything even interact with my son or feel connected to him.

I am currently in a mother and baby unit due to me developing postpartum depression. I have suffered from major depression and anxiety all my life. But this feels harder than ever. There are some days I feel really good and confident at being a mum and there are other days, like today I feel like this is not for me. I just want to hide away from my son and I find it constantly tiring and boring interacting with him. He has just turned 4 months old.

He was conceived through IVF (same sex couple) and I thought this is what I wanted but I’m not sure now. I just need a break. I miss my old life.

I have even considered letting him live in the Philippines for 6 months with his grandparents because I am at the end of my tether and I feel like I can’t deal with this. I feel selfish for even thinking that.