I have 3 females & 2 males, one of my males is pretty consistently instigating & bullying the other & I've had to separate them multiple times. When I first got them I had 1 female & 2 males. I added the other two females in about 24 hours ago. Is this behavior from him normal? Is there anything I can do to help? Will it die down? For reference I have a 10 gallon tank aswell
I posted this photo last night along with some context which i'll reiterate here
I work at petsmart & i was worried about this guy because he was gaping pretty consistently during my last two shifts (last night & monday night) in multiple areas of his enclosure, away from the basking light, near it, etc. I know gaping can point towards possible respiratory infections. When I came in last night aswell, his eyes I thought were looking a little sunken in, he was also been consistently dehydrated & refusing drip feeding water but i have seen him drink very surprisingly from a bowl.
Today he was taken to the vet & all they came up with was that they agreed he was dehydrated and that was it. Obviously I'm not a vet but I've spent a lot of my free time studying multiple different types of reptiles, chameleons being top of that list & I'm just not confident that's the only issue?
Info on enclosure: his basking area was reading at close to 90⁰ & the basking light is only in the far left corner but our temp things are the dial ones which are very inaccurate & i cant find our temp gun :( but no other chameleons have had any temperature issues in our enclosures.
Our husbandry is definitely not 100% correct but knowing all that I do, I try to make it the best I can while still following petsmart standards.
Long story short I come for advice, am I overreacting? Is the vet right? Is there other reasons they can display gaping thats not RI, temp regulation & defensiveness (i know what that looks like & it's not that)?
Also, he's currently in a glass enclosure & i dont know how it's set up but i'm getting my co worker to take a picture for me in a few hours & I will be moving him to a mesh enclosure in our isolation room tomorrow morning!
Hi! To begin with, we are making a vet appointment but I just wanted some insight. I know a lot about chams, I don't need to hear about improper husbandry, I know.
I work at a PetSmart & i was wondering if this looks like temp regulation or respiratory issues? Also do his eyes look slightly sunken? He's been pretty dehydrated & I gave him some hornworms & have been trying to drip feed water but hes refusing. Other than that he does really well with everything else
Does anyone know if theres any resources on petcare standards and requirements I can access at home?
Hey guys! I've been really wanting a crestie & was just wondering what everyones start up & overall care has been for a pretty standard beginner set up!
Just a few things to add, I've done a lot of research & this isnt something that is on a whim. I'm also not worried about pricing as a way to not properly care for an animal, just trying to get some insight!
Additional: heres a cutie pie of a little guy at my job for your time :)
This little guy seems to just eat very little & hasn't gained much weight. Also refuses to eat bugs, I'm trying out flavors he hasn't tried before & put two feeding cups at two different heights and sides of the tank
Hes also been to the vet & they didnt find anything wrong & I've also tried syringe feeding and putting drops on his mouth & nose but he doesn't do much with that either :( i have seen bowel movement so I know he is eating sometimes but its just so weird
I take 30 mg XR Adderall & I'm noticing my different side effects only happening sometimes, aswell as the effectiveness of the meds.
Today I took them at around 12 pm & its been a pretty chill day, I happily wasted away a lot of my time learning & engaging in my interests on here & deeply felt the good effects of my meds, later on me & my girlfriend just laid together on the couch and watched a movie. Shortly after that I started just feeling kinda sad but didn't really think too much of it.
We then were getting ready to go to the store & I barely even felt the motivation to get up & get dressed, the sadness just continued to linger at the store & i barely wanted to do anything.
Last time this happened was on the 18th, I just felt very mildly depressed & then minor inconveniences kept happening and I ended up **uncontrollably** sobbing for like 30 minutes BUT at that time I was also approaching my period which came 5 days later, so I assumed it was either to do with that or the type of changes that happen to how the meds work during different phases in a period (I would've been in my late luteal phase)
I'm feeling a bit better now but definitely still very questionable.
Recently me and my girlfriend had a pretty heavy conversation about the stakes of our relationship if I dont get my ADHD under control. I've been finding r/adhd_partners pretty helpful to just lurk and get a different perspective on my own relationship & actions, often times its difficult for me to hear certain things from her because my emotions get very quickly entangled in tough conversations because I am being directly affected, hearing similar things she's said from people who have zero influence on my direct emotions has been extremely helpful.
I want to get better so bad, for myself & for her. At the moment I feel really great, I'm learning, she's learning, I'm trying to really apply effort and find things I can apply to my relationship, building systems, stopping working against myself, etc.
Now, one thing I'm worried about is the fact that I do unfortunately know how pressure, external force & deadlines affect ADHD. The pressure is for sure on to get my shit together but eventually it will probably dwindle, in turn making this journey more difficult for me.
This feels like it could turn more into a hyperfixation & I hate that. I do know that hyperfixations can sometimes last a very long time but thats obviously not guaranteed, I also don't want to view this situation like that.
I have many things at my disposal, I'm on medication that typically works really well for me, I have a therapist, and my girlfriend has become a lot more open since learning that a lot of the struggles we have, make sense and have a root cause & the seeing the fact that many other people have struggled with the same thing in the same way she does.
Overall, I'm here to ask, how do I keep the pressure on for myself? What are the best ways to stay consistent in this journey?
I really need this change.
Recently me and my girlfriend had a pretty heavy conversation about the stakes of our relationship if I dont get my ADHD under control. I've been finding r/adhd_partners pretty helpful to just lurk and get a different perspective on my own relationship & actions, often times its difficult for me to hear certain things from her because my emotions get very quickly entangled in tough conversations because I am being directly affected, hearing similar things she's said from people who have zero influence on my direct emotions has been extremely helpful.
I want to get better so bad, for myself & for her. At the moment I feel really great, I'm learning, she's learning, I'm trying to really apply effort and find things I can apply to my relationship, building systems, stopping working against myself, etc.
Now, one thing I'm worried about is the fact that I do unfortunately know how pressure, external force & deadlines affect ADHD. The pressure is for sure on to get my shit together but eventually it will probably dwindle, in turn making this journey more difficult for me.
This feels like it could turn more into a hyperfixation & I hate that. I do know that hyperfixations can sometimes last a very long time but thats obviously not guaranteed, I also don't want to view this situation like that.
I have many things at my disposal, I'm on medication that typically works really well for me, I have a therapist, and my girlfriend has become a lot more open since learning that a lot of the struggles we have, make sense and have a root cause & the seeing the fact that many other people have struggled with the same thing in the same way she does.
Overall, I'm here to ask, how do I keep the pressure on for myself? What are the best ways to stay consistent in this journey? Has anyone else felt similarly in their own relationship?
I really need this change.
This is going to be a long one.
Hey guys! I'm 21F with ADHD-PI & I have a Non-ADHD partner. My ADHD affects 99% of my life & like 90% of my relationship.
A little backstory on my life & ADHD history, I was diagnosed as a child because my symptoms were a combination, mostly hyperactivity, I struggled in school with focus, I was very talkative & would interrupt a lot, yk "typical" ADHD kid.
I dont remember too much of my history with meds as a kid but I know I was on Adderall & my mom said it turned me into a zombie, I'm assuming that's why we stopped meds but after that nothing was really picked back up.
Fast forward to my time in high-school, I pretty consistently had B's-D's & struggled a lot with all of my work & really my entire ability to learn in school. Junior year of high-school was definitely the worst, it got to a point where I was skipping school because I couldn't get out of bed, I would stay up all night and sleep all day, lots of binge eating, room was a complete pig stye, overall my mental health was horrible & it eventually led me to a diagnosis of depression (which I now think due to my severity of ADHD & what I've learned about myself that it was a misdiagnosis.)
I graduated in 2023 & moved out on my own (with a friend) to a new city October 2024, mainly to be closer to my girlfriend.
Once I was really on my own, it was put into perspective how messy my life is & how difficult it is to keep up with my daily living. All my life I just thought I was lazy and that was just the fate I was dealt. I then started learning more about ADHD & got re-evaluated + re-diagnosed.
Me & her are almost completely different people in terms of habits & lifestyle and its made it really difficult on our relationship. She is typically very tidy & mess affects her mental health quite a bit.
We've had **many** struggles over our 2.5 year long relationship with how difficult it is for me to listen, to push myself, to do basic things around the house, etc etc.
Recently it's gotten to a point where she kind of had to give me an ultimatum 🫠 if I don't get better in 6 months, she's leaving.
I really hate that this is what its taken for me to really get pushed to see how badly I need to change & become a better person for not only myself but for her aswell.
Its been time and time again where I will have a day off & will tell her I will get things done but I end up spending 7.5 hours in bed and start doing the bare minimum 30 minutes before she comes home. I've made countless promises to her that things will change, the things I need to do will get done, but it never happens.
I dont want to live like this anymore, her criticism of my habits & me seeing myself continuously disappoint her have started to directly affect my mental health really badly. I don't want to lose her.
I need all the advice I can get, how do I keep myself out of the hole I've continued to keep myself in, what small things can I do in my daily life to keep myself going, HOW DO I MAKE IT STICK !!!! Give me all you've got, I desperately need it.
(Side note: I am on 30 mg ER Adderall & the occasional 10 mg IR here & there when I really need it, I also think my physical health like diet, exercise & sleep are effecting how my meds work so I also need advice on that, it sucks when I take my meds and they just decide they aren't going to show up)
Do you guys have any systems set up that help better keep track of how long an animal has been in store? Please share if so
Censored this because it looks really gross but what could this be? Should I be concerned?
Hey guys! Before I start, yes I know no fake plants I work at petsmart and we have unfortunately very little to work with but I try my best (which is why im here)
This baby boy is sick, we havent been able to get him into a vet yet but thats 100% on the agenda, im concerned he has a respiratory infection but the only symptom im seeing was a dried yellow discharge from his nose.
I mainly wanted to ask about how he looks in this photo, it was around 8 pm when it was taken but I know they're very weary on sleeping when daytime is still simulated, I was also concerned about how flat he was at the time. Does anyone have any input?
Is there any means or method of reporting pet stores? I'm in Wilmington, NC. This Petco is inhumane.
How can I tell if these eggs are fertile? She was a rescued catch, found her around my job and was never sure on sex. Obviously female, not sure what to do now
The description..... all I have to say
Just noticed this last night :((( I was thinking maybe its because that side is primarily the side I sleep on ?? I dont know what to do
I bought a shirt on the 1st and just recently went on a really good sale, I was wondering if anyone knows if they'll honor a refund for the difference?
Hey guys! I work at a petsmart and have made a few posts asking questions in the past but I'm trying to figure out a way we can set something more suitable up for our chameleons.
We have a tall starter tank for chams (we get them really little so size shouldn't be too much of an issue) that was a return that we're able to use. I was wondering if it would be okay to make a set up for night time use just so they can atleast have something more suitable :( or if moving them around will just be more stress? Thanks for any help or tips :)