u/Wide-Read1449

International Student, 1st year here. I received a merit scholarship for my first year, and it says that it will only apply for my first year. Can I get a merit scholarship again in my second year and apply for others next year too? Will my academic performance in my first year affect my chances of getting a merit in my second year?

This is not made up, and some names are changed to protect privacy.

Back in 2022, I revived a phone call to a person named “Joesph”. These calls were coming from the opposite coast that I was on, and they were calling him about overdue payment. The callers seemed annoyed when I played back the voicemail, so I just ignored them. However, there was another call about his “payment”. They said he needed him to submit his file to be processed for him to speak to a representative.

This is where I get curious. What was the representive he needed? They wanted him to come to court. So was it a judge? What did he do? I kept letting the voicemails flow in. They were getting concerned, and saying that he wasn’t the type of person to miss these things. Soon, I started getting bombarded with calls about his missed payments. He apparently missed a payment for his bank statement and doctor, and they were saying that this was the last call before they canceled his service.

I really wanted to call them back, but I was convinced it was spam again.

I didn’t think about Joesph again until this month. I received a spam text of somebody pretending to be a long lost friend. I almost replied until I looked up the number, It was just another AI. Then I got curious and looked up mine.

There he was, Joesph.

I clicked on his profile, and thats when I learnt he was arrested for consuming and trafficking Heroin, and other illegal substances back in 2021. Not only that, he was also arrested for tax evasion. I kept clicking and learnt more about this guy. He was 63 years old when he was arrested and got out in 2024, and doesnt use a phone. Like, at all. The guy that I also thought was spam between calls? That was Joesph‘s best friend wishing him luck in jail. First time I listed to that call too. He also had very few family spread out across his home state he was in, and that was the only family he had. He mostly relied on his community and his friends if he needed something, and had no partner, but a kid that he wasn’t allowed to see. (Although the kid was reported to be 28 now, and the order happened after a divorce, when they were little). That was all I could find about his kid.

Then I looked at the town he was from. It kind of cute, typical American city but quite coastal.

However, I think seeing his face for the first time was the most jarring. He was a black man who was around 5’7’ and didn’t age well.

If I’m being honest, I really thought my phone number belonged to a random dude. I did not expect this. Have a great timezone!

Listen, I want to hear what yall's got at this point. I have tried almost everything to get off Social media and regulate it. In fact, this is actually the 2nd post ive made on this account about me trying to regulate and quit.

My current problems and Youtube and Reddit, as with IG my brain avoids it for as long as possible because I get so stressed/overwhelmed while looking at it. With reddit, it's a procrastination device. I don't like it, but I do because I like to look up drama and juicy stories with it. I think it gives me some type of pseudo-community vibe to it, which keeps me hooked. As with Youtube, after a point I get so delightfully numb while looking at it. It's helped me discover so many obscured and new movies and kinda shaped me into a cinephile, but I cant stop. Like literally, once I start I cant stop watching Youtube. I just get into this trance-like state where I can just be mindllessly happy

Now, I have tried time-limits, cold turkey, abstinence, even homemade rehab. Nothing. I always end up scrolling and watching away the day. So advice please???

Ill start with mine.

The worst one that I think that I can remember was when I was 16, I recently started birth control to hopefully make my periods better. The thing is, my periods are complete shit. Apparently, mine are the worst in the entire family's, including extended relatives. So I started, and it only made my period 4x worse. None of the intended effects happened to me and my flow only got heavier. My cramps were basically disabling, although I never get to properly rest during them, and it literally wouldn't end. So I accidently skipped one pill, and never took it again.

Very TLDR version, but im not sharing all my medical details with the internet lol.

For context, heres the original: https://www.reddit.com/r/summercamp/comments/1u3dzcm/i_am_a_camp_counselor_dont_fucking_overburden_me/

First, my workplace has gotten more of thoes kids, and our current one is a level 3 autistic who absolutely cannot be by himself.

However, there's been more problems, and im probably getting fired this week. So to list them off:

1. Toxic Workplace

I frequently get called a bitch, pedophile, and bully by my coworkers. I got called a pedophile after I took a photo of a camper dong an activity to a company GC, that we're permitted to have photos of campers on (by our company/parents). Then, one of my coworkers started a rumor that I had a ton of little kid CP on my phone. I work with these kids and im hypervigilant that none of this stuff happens to them, so I was extremely offended. Also, that out manager expects all of us to act like an AID, which led me to getting demoted due to me being unable to keep up with responsibilities that I wasnt even trained for. I was given good advice, that never helped with the campers we were getting :(.

Not only that, my two of my coworkers would project being a bully onto me during breaks when I started to sit alone. With the excessive gossip and conversations that were happening, i'd get drained from being near them, so i'd sit alone. Then, they started to try to find where i'd sit during lunch to make fun of me there. My privacy was also being violated by them, as I would try to be along to regulate and just... be weird in private.

After that, I got 2 HR complaints about me. They never went through, don't know what it was about. I only knew somebody wrote me up when I overheard them gossiping about me in the workplace.

2. Bad management

My Director, as said before, expects everybody to act like an AID. Although i'd try and improve, my by third week I realized none of my work mattered. If I put in 100% of my work in, I wouldn't get promoted, if I put 0% of my work in, nothing would change. Everybody had their shit together and didn't need assistance from when I had to assist. So this week my manager says im off, although he says im being better off fired. Which honestly, im sad about it, but I really cant care anymore.

Along with that, I would tell my manager that I couldn't work part-time there due to mantinice happening at my apartment. I still get assigned part-time. I tell him I cane have the week off? I still get the week off. He kept telling me that i'd have my role back, but I never got my role back. Not like any of my work would matter obi.

Even so, my directors found out that I have depression (I never disclosed it nor told them about it, it was for the better) my AD told me some horrible offensive shit to somebody with depression that I wont type out in this post.

Finally, when I try to bring up the issues im facing with my director for some guidance, he's fucking rude about it. I also never got critical information about my workplace that was delivered.

3. others

My camp experience this year makes me realize that this is probably my last year at this company, as I practically have nothing left. Im not going to have a good rep. anymore, I got demoted and now potentially fired, and IT HURTS. I regret taking this job, but I love being a Camp Counselor and working with kids.

Although, im not qualified to deal with High needs/ND campers except for campers who only have medical issues.

The area im working in also sadly has a lot of parents who use their kid's disability as a way to excuse their behavior, and almost never take accountability. Im practically redundant, and I hate that im not making money right now. Im signed up for sittercity, so I guess thats good as I do have experience in babysitting.

This sucks man.

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So, I need more help. I know the basics, I’ve looked up how to, however I keep running into this problem.

Actually getting friends. You see, this guy creeped me out in radiate during a rave, and it turns out I misread the signals. He was asking to hangout, and I thought in the future. He meant now and now I can’t find him.

Same with a hot dude, I gave him my IG and he never got got back to me. Along with other female friends. I know with my generation (Gen Z) we use IG as a substitute for numbers, but should I just start lying to people and give them my number instea? I don’t get these social rules and need help.

This may be a FAQ, but I need more details. Along with that, how do adult friendships work? Are they built on hanging out instead of chatting? Because that’s the vibe I’m getting.

I also have SPD, which can affect me and social stuff.

So plesse help, I need more detail.

In Europe, North America, and Sometimes latin/South America, it's jeans. When you start to become an adult, you see more people wear Jeans. In the US, people wear sweatpants for a reason or out of tiredness. Another thing is that leggings seem to be ageless in the US too.

With these continents, more people wear jeans as they grow older. By the time adulthood hits, people always seem to wear jeans/denim type clothing for their bottoms.

The same phenomenon goes for South America and Asia, where it's skirts for women. The older you become, the longer the skirts become. For me, it's rare to see moms in Asia who wear short skirts, and with young adults in videos I see they seem to prefer mid-skirts, and only wear short skirts for sexualization. As for men, it's the typical shorts-pants for growing up, with sweatpants only at home.

It's a funny phenomenon I noticed, and I wonder what's the origin of it/ if anybody else has noticed it.