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Pretty much what the title says. I had a mechanic work on my car -not only was the issue not fixed, but the car was worse after picking it up.

I tried to have him re-check his work, but he kept saying it must be another problem with the car.

It took me paying for a diagnoses of the first mechanics work at another shop to get confirmation that the first guy installed at least one wrong part and could have damaged the car if I had continued driving it.

The original mechanic continued to deny that he made a mistake, but finally accepted a refund on the wrong part and refunded me.

However, the car is still not running right, so he hasn’t fixed the issue. I’m assuming it’s the other part he put in, since I now realize how absolutely clueless he is with more technical repairs.

I want to approach him about the fact that the car is still not running right, and even ask him to potentially return/refund that second part as well.

However, he has gaslit me so much throughout this process, on top of being unwilling to double check or warranty his work or the parts.

I would like to get the remainder of my money back since he didn’t resolve the issue, and now I have a $650 useless part I’ve paid for, not including labor.

I’m going to need to start fresh with another -more reputable - shop.

Any advice on how to handle this very uncomfortable situation appreciated!

Does anyone have intense distress around if something you own gets even a small defect. This isn’t all objects I own, but many - especially newer items.

I also get distressed over things not being straight or a certain way. For example, I purchased a gift card the other day for a friend, and the worker put the security sticker on crooked. I became highly distressed. Or perhaps I’m writing in a greeting card, and I notice the whole thing I wrote is at an angle. I can’t let it go.

Not so much a perfectionist thing, but I struggle with things that change in manufacturing. Which is hard, as things are always changing. Whether it be the fit/material of a shirt brand/style, a change in label, the look of an item, etc. I now purchase multiple of the same thing sometimes if I like it, so I have back ups. I’ve gone so far as to hunt the original items down on eBay often.

Has anyone had similar experiences and success managing these issues?

Thank you.

Thoughts or distress around if something I own gets even a small defect. This isn’t all objects I own, but many - especially newer items.

I also get distressed over things not being straight or a certain way. For example, I purchased a gift card the other day for a friend, and the worker put the security sticker on crooked. I became highly distressed. Or perhaps I’m writing in a greeting card, and I notice the whole thing I wrote is at an angle. I can’t let it go.

Has anyone had similar experiences and success managing this?

Thank you.

I have been diagnosed with mostly pure OCD, and some that manifests physically.

Are thoughts or distress around perfectionism a specific form of OCD. Like if something I own gets even a small defect, I get very distressed. This isn’t all objects I own, but many - especially newer items.

I also get distressed over things not being straight or a certain way. For example, I purchased a gift card the other day for a friend, and the worker put the security sticker on crooked. I became highly distressed. Or perhaps I’m writing in a greeting card, and I notice the whole thing I wrote is at an angle. I can’t let it go. What type of OCD is this?

Has anyone had success managing this type of OCD?

Thank you.

I have been diagnosed with mostly pure OCD, and some that manifests physically.

Are thoughts or distress around perfectionism a specific form of OCD. Like if something I own gets even a small defect, I get very distressed. This isn’t all objects I own, but many - especially newer items.

I also get distressed over things not being straight or a certain way. For example, I purchased a gift card the other day for a friend, and the worker put the security sticker on crooked. I became highly distressed. Or perhaps I’m writing in a greeting card, and I notice the whole thing I wrote is at an angle. I can’t let it go. What type of OCD is this?

Has anyone had success managing this type of OCD?

Thank you.

I had new aftermarket rear and front driveshafts installed on my 2016 Jeep Liberty, 186k. After pickup, I noticed heavy vibration. Long story short, after getting a diagnosis from a secondary shop that there was an issue with the new rear driveshaft part or install, I had the original mechanic take the aftermarket one off and put my old one back on (still has some life in it). This has decreased the vibration immensely, although I’m still suspecting some issue with the new front driveshaft as well. When I picked up the car, they went out of their way to show me that my OEM driveshaft was substantially shorter by a few inches than the one they ordered and installed. I have no idea why they pointed this out to me. After doing research - am I correct that replacement driveshafts should be the same length as OEM, and could this have been causing the binding and heavy vibrations. The vibration was so bad, the second mechanic that looked at it advised me not to drive it, as not to cause any damage to surrounding parts - so I had it towed back to the original shop.

Should replacement driveshafts be the same length as the OEM? Is there any likelihood damage was done for the 30 minutes of driving I did with aftermarket one in?

Thanks!

Has anyone successfully replaced their driveshafts with aftermarket parts and not had any issues with vibrations, etc.

Been in a mess trying to get driveshafts successfully repaired/replaced on a 2006 with 186k, and am just now learning that aftermarket driveshafts on Liberty’s can be hit or miss.

Would appreciate any experience or pro knowledge in this area. Thank you.

What am I looking at for a fair estimate to hire someone to re-stain a 250 sq ft platform deck? No stairs, no balusters (hog wire). I live in the southeast - rural area. The deck will be professionally cleaned/soft washed prior to staining. I am supplying the stain. Stain I am using calls for one coat. Just looking for some input here on what is a reasonable going rate these days. Thank you.

I’ve been with my current therapist three years now. The past few months I’ve been heavily struggling with my mental health - so much so that I’m looking into a residential treatment or an IOP. My therapist knows what a sensitive state I’ve been in and that I also struggle heavily with DPDR and pure ocd.

Yesterday during our session I mentioned how terrified I am of being stuck with DPDR forever. And instead of giving me reassurance that this is something that can be worked through, she tells me that she feels that “part” will always be there. I guess from her viewpoint, a very practical answer.

She likes IFS work, so this is what she was referring to. I dislike IFS, as I take parts very literally and not metaphorically. I should note we were not doing any parts work at the time, nor is this a modality I have chosen to use, except a few times it’s come up in conversation.

Well this comment scared me to death and I can not stop thinking about what she said. I feel almost betrayed. I feel scared - as this isn’t Joe Shmoe on the street saying this to me, but a professional I trusted. I understand that she was coming at it from the IFS framework, however considering my state I don’t think that was the answer I needed at the time.

It concerns me that after three years and with her having a trauma informed background, that she was not more aware of her use of language and her approach. I understand that without having experienced DPDR, folks cannot truly understand how difficult it can be.

Can anyone tell me how you would feel if this happened with your therapist? I’m just at a loss.

I’ve been with my current therapist three years now. The past few months I’ve been heavily struggling with my mental health - so much so that I’m looking into a residential treatment or an IOP. My therapist knows what a sensitive state I’ve been in and that I also struggle with pure ocd.

Yesterday during our session I mentioned how terrified I am of being stuck with DPDR forever. And instead of giving me reassurance that this is something that can be worked through, she tells me that she feels that “part” will always be there. She likes IFS work, so this is what she was referring to. I hate IFS, as I take parts very literally and not metaphorically.

Well this comment scared me to death and I can not stop thinking about what she said. I feel almost betrayed. I feel scared - as this isn’t Joe Shmoe on the street saying this to me, but a professional I trusted. I understand that she was coming at it from the IFS perspective, but considering my state - I don’t think that was the answer I needed at the time.

Can anyone tell me how you would feel if this happened with your therapist? I’m just at a loss.

I know many of us have struggled with DPDR for years, etc, please no comments about this. Thank you.