u/sirenyti

My brother is getting married soon and I bought a dress for his wedding a few months ago.

My sister-in-law asked me about my dress a few months ago and I told her what I was wearing. I got no push-back or anything at all.

Today, three weeks before the wedding, I was told that I need to wear pastel colors to match the rest of people in the pictures.

My sister-in-law told me, "I could have sworn I told you" and "I thought you would hear about it from someone else."

When I told her the color of the dress, she said "my maid of honor is wearing that color and I would really prefer if you just wore pastel."

I simply told her I would not.

My stance is:

1. I already bought this dress I am not buying another one
2. I am not in a bridal party
3. If I was not important enough to have a direct conversation about this with, its not important enough to make a change to my already purchased dress.

WIBTAH if I did not acquiesce and buy a different dress?

Context: I am wearing a gold-champagne shimmery dress that fits me well.
More context: I just purchased a house and spending money needlessly isn't something I want or need to be doing.

EDIT:

Here is an example of the color which is a non-issue. Bride is not upset about the color I chose. Just that it is not pastel which she never told me I had to choose to begin with.

https://www.magnific.com/free-photo/metallic-gold-paper-background_3686858.htm#fromView=keyword&page=1&position=0&uuid=65af54c6-29ef-4d12-aa60-de281eac7853&query=Champagne+glitter

EDIT

Even if she paid for a new dress, I wouldn’t wear it because I went through the trouble of finding my original dress and getting it tailored to my height.
It’s more work and consideration I have to put into something that doesn’t *actually* matter at the end of the day.

And the fact that I was not informed and am being told to comply last minute is the frustrating part.

EDIT

I purchased three other dresses (much cheaper than my original) and will only choose one of those to wear if I like them more than my original.

My brother is getting married soon and I bought a dress for his wedding a few months ago.

My sister-in-law asked me about my dress a few months ago and I told her what I was wearing. I got no push-back or anything at all.

Today, three weeks before the wedding, I was told that I need to wear pastel colors to match the rest of people in the pictures.

My sister-in-law told me, "I could have sworn I told you" and "I thought you would hear about it from someone else."

When I told her the color of the dress, she said "my maid of honor is wearing that color and I would really prefer if you just wore pastel."

I simply told her I would not.

My stance is:

1. I already bought this dress I am not buying another one
2. I am not in a bridal party
3. If I was not important enough to have a direct conversation about this with, its not important enough to make a change to my already purchased dress.

WIBTAH if I did not acquiesce and buy a different dress?

Context: I am wearing a gold-champagne shimmery dress that fits me well.
More context: I just purchased a house and spending money needlessly isn't something I want or need to be doing.

EDIT Because people think I am being evasive about the color—the bride has not seen the color but here is an example of what it looks like
https://www.magnific.com/free-photo/metallic-gold-paper-background_3686858.htm#fromView=keyword&page=1&position=0&uuid=65af54c6-29ef-4d12-aa60-de281eac7853&query=Champagne+glitter

EDIT

Even if she paid for a new dress, I wouldn’t wear it because I went through the trouble of finding my original dress and getting it tailored to my height.
It’s more work and consideration I have to put into something that doesn’t *actually* matter at the end of the day.

And the fact that I was not informed and am being told to comply last minute is the frustrating part.

EDIT

I purchased three other dresses (much cheaper than my original) and will only choose one of those to wear if I like them more than my original.

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They also couple this with context given by historians.

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