u/Acrobatic-Monk9735

This will probably shock some woman to hear, but it’s very prevalent.

Older women (usually 40+) will use pictures with their very pretty daughters who are often the focal point of the picture.

Here’s the male experience for a 50+ man:

Flips through pics of 40+ women, hits one age 45 who’s stunning with great skin. WOW, she could easily pass for 25! Looks like she must be in a museum standing in front of a mummy display. No, wait! That’s her mom! It’s the mom’s profile.

This is gross and it’s VERY OBVIOUS why you chose a picture as you primary, with that particular daughter whose face isn’t blurred out.

This is even worse than the Mystery Of The Group Shot where we have to figure out which girl is in all of them (we all know which one it is.)

But pimping your daughter? Do you really want me thinking about how I was attracted to her pic more than your own?

Downvote if you want, but please women - do not use your daughters as dating app bait. And yes, it happens A LOT.

Recently, a man posted that he was in a year long relationship with a woman. To him, this relationship was just for fun and for casual sex. It was a relationship, so they were exclusive to each other (I think it was an open relationship but that is beside the point: they agreed to be each other’s main partners). She understood otherwise because she met his family, they cooked together, etc.

Apparently, she never asked him if they were serious. When they broke up, she was disappointed to find that he didn’t take her seriously, and to him, the relationship was just some casual fun. She felt that because they cooked for each other and were meeting each other’s families and whatnot, that the relationship was serious. She told him that she wished he communicated earlier that the situation wasn’t serious so that she could have left before wasting an entire year.

He and multiple other men defended the situation. They argued that she should have asked him if he wanted to be serious, therefore the situation is her fault. That because she didn’t do the “emotional labor” of asking him “are we going to get married someday”, that she deserved whatever happened to her and he did nothing wrong. They argued that meeting each others’ families isn’t that serious and that women aren’t entitled to commitment.

I find this diabolical, and disturbing that so many men operate this way. Of course, she should have

However, to me, the situation is diabolical. There is always the possibility that he genuinely didn’t know, or that he was neurodivergent, but in my opinion, a decent person will communicate their intentions. Even if they aren’t asked. So many men defended this situation and claimed that she essentially deserved it and it’s her fault.

He spent a year getting consistent sex, validation, affection, and food and presumably other benefits like support with tough situations etc. He has no reason to speak up about the situation because of these benefits, outside of an internal moral compass.

How often do men operate this way? Where they will kind of lie by omission and let a woman assume the relationship is serious for an extended period of time? And how many men, even if they wouldn’t do this themselves, think it’s justified and okay?

I think this situation was eye-opening and that women should protect themselves accordingly.

My 29F husband 31M said to me yesterday that I don’t do enough around the house and that I could be doing more. This was after he asked if the patio box that holds couch cushions still had water in the bottom of it, I told him yes it does I completely forgot about it. He proceeded to make snide comments and said I’m home all day I have time to do these things.
For context I’m the primary childcare for our one year old son and I was also diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer back in March. Thankfully I don’t have any physical side effects from chemo but emotionally and mentally it’s very draining. We’ve been married for two years, together for 7.

Later he apologized, and I told him that i feel really angry and hurt. I told him that our house is pristine and often my days if I’m not cleaning or caring for our son I’ve been preparing my will, obituary and making arrangements for when I die someday. Hopefully I’ll live a long time but I also cherish the time with our son in the
present, I don’t want to miss anything.

I honestly feel at a loss. I don’t understand how he can be so insensitive and I feel totally unsupported in the struggle that has been this cancer diagnosis.
What would you do or advice would you give?

My roommate (19F) and I (19F) live in a HCOL city. We both are immigrants in a new country and in school. My roommate is very beautiful and has a boyfriend who loves her very much. I don’t know them that well. Aside from coordinating about the apartment, my roommate and I don’t talk much beyond polite pleasantries.

I told my roommate that I would be out all day last week but then my plans changed and I decided to sleep
In until noon. When I got up, I heard noises coming from the living room. I looked and I saw our landlord (50’s M) having sex with the roommate. The roommate didn’t see me but the landlord did. I quickly went back to my room and waited until they finished and he left before coming out. My landlord texted me later that evening and said I can exchange sex for housing and said that is what my roommate is doing. I politely declined.

I am now conflicted: how to I tell my roommate’s boyfriend that she is cheating on him?

My edit: this is a post based on a post that got deleted. Everyone was fixated on the roommate cheating and only a few people were concerned about the shady landlord situation. The overall sentiment was that OOP HAD to tell everyone that her roommate was cheating because the poor boyfriend is a victim and at risk of STDs. I said that if she doesn’t know the roommate that well, I wouldn’t get involved in her romantic relationship. I believe oop’s first priority should be to find a new apartment ASAP and figuring out how to report the landlord with a lawyer. The post got deleted, but I was surprised how everyone’s priority was the cheating and not the shady landlord.

every friday our team does this thing where someone shares a fun fact about themselves at lunch. last week it was my coworker's birthday so she went first and said her fun fact was that she once swam with whale sharks in the Maldives and that whale sharks are actually the most aggressive shark species

they're not. at all. whale sharks are literally filter feeders, completely harmless. i just happen to know this because i watched some documentary about it a while back and it stuck with me for some reason

i waited like 2 seconds trying to stop myself but i just said "oh thats so cool, just to clarify though whale sharks are actually super docile, they're filter feeders" and smiled and moved on

she laughed it off in the moment but then went kind of quiet for the rest of lunch. a mutual colleague texted me after saying i picked the worst possible moment and that she had been saving up for that trip for like 3 years and was really proud of it

i wasnt trying to embarrass her, i just couldnt let it sit there in front of 9 people who now all think whale sharks are dangerous. do i regret the timing a little, yeah maybe. but was i actually wrong??