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My 29F husband 31M said to me yesterday that I don’t do enough around the house and that I could be doing more. This was after he asked if the patio box that holds couch cushions still had water in the bottom of it, I told him yes it does I completely forgot about it. He proceeded to make snide comments and said I’m home all day I have time to do these things.
For context I’m the primary childcare for our one year old son and I was also diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer back in March. Thankfully I don’t have any physical side effects from chemo but emotionally and mentally it’s very draining. We’ve been married for two years, together for 7.

Later he apologized, and I told him that i feel really angry and hurt. I told him that our house is pristine and often my days if I’m not cleaning or caring for our son I’ve been preparing my will, obituary and making arrangements for when I die someday. Hopefully I’ll live a long time but I also cherish the time with our son in the
present, I don’t want to miss anything.

I honestly feel at a loss. I don’t understand how he can be so insensitive and I feel totally unsupported in the struggle that has been this cancer diagnosis.
What would you do or advice would you give?

My roommate (19F) and I (19F) live in a HCOL city. We both are immigrants in a new country and in school. My roommate is very beautiful and has a boyfriend who loves her very much. I don’t know them that well. Aside from coordinating about the apartment, my roommate and I don’t talk much beyond polite pleasantries.

I told my roommate that I would be out all day last week but then my plans changed and I decided to sleep
In until noon. When I got up, I heard noises coming from the living room. I looked and I saw our landlord (50’s M) having sex with the roommate. The roommate didn’t see me but the landlord did. I quickly went back to my room and waited until they finished and he left before coming out. My landlord texted me later that evening and said I can exchange sex for housing and said that is what my roommate is doing. I politely declined.

I am now conflicted: how to I tell my roommate’s boyfriend that she is cheating on him?

My edit: this is a post based on a post that got deleted. Everyone was fixated on the roommate cheating and only a few people were concerned about the shady landlord situation. The overall sentiment was that OOP HAD to tell everyone that her roommate was cheating because the poor boyfriend is a victim and at risk of STDs. I said that if she doesn’t know the roommate that well, I wouldn’t get involved in her romantic relationship. I believe oop’s first priority should be to find a new apartment ASAP and figuring out how to report the landlord with a lawyer. The post got deleted, but I was surprised how everyone’s priority was the cheating and not the shady landlord.

every friday our team does this thing where someone shares a fun fact about themselves at lunch. last week it was my coworker's birthday so she went first and said her fun fact was that she once swam with whale sharks in the Maldives and that whale sharks are actually the most aggressive shark species

they're not. at all. whale sharks are literally filter feeders, completely harmless. i just happen to know this because i watched some documentary about it a while back and it stuck with me for some reason

i waited like 2 seconds trying to stop myself but i just said "oh thats so cool, just to clarify though whale sharks are actually super docile, they're filter feeders" and smiled and moved on

she laughed it off in the moment but then went kind of quiet for the rest of lunch. a mutual colleague texted me after saying i picked the worst possible moment and that she had been saving up for that trip for like 3 years and was really proud of it

i wasnt trying to embarrass her, i just couldnt let it sit there in front of 9 people who now all think whale sharks are dangerous. do i regret the timing a little, yeah maybe. but was i actually wrong??

I am exhausted by the ongoing conflict with my husband over our horses and everything else really.

I owned horses long before we met. Before we got married, I was completely transparent about the costs involved and even sent him a spreadsheet outlining the annual expenses. Those costs have remained essentially unchanged, aside from the addition of a pony that we purchased for our children.

Since we've been married, he has repeatedly criticized me and used the horses as a target whenever he is unhappy. This is especially frustrating because we are not struggling financially. We own a hobby farm, and the horses are kept on our own property.

Our children have always wanted to spend time with the horses, but my horses are not suitable or safe for young children. Because of that, we began looking for a pony together. We went to see one, discussed it for several days, and ultimately made the decision as a family to purchase her. Once all the necessary paperwork was obtained, my husband even went to pick her up himself.

Now, however, he is using the pony and her care as another criticism of me and is attempting to make her entirely my responsibility, despite the fact that this was a shared decision.

For additional context, I am a stay at home mother of two toddlers. For a long time, he told me that things would be better if I got a job. I recently did exactly that, yet somehow all of my previous responsibilities remain unchanged. I am expected to work while still caring for two young children and managing the household.

What makes this so draining is that it no longer feels like the issue is the horses, the pony, or any single responsibility. It feels as though nearly everything I do, want, think, or care about becomes a source of criticism. Constantly being criticized and having my interests and decisions used against me is emotionally exhausting.

My boyfriend recently offered to give me a “loan” to purchase a car (15k) but said that I would have to pay him back WITH interest. I think it’s insane to charge your significant other interest, especially when the one loaning the money makes exponentially more than the one receiving. Why would you want to profit off your loved ones? I’m having a hard time articulating what is so messed up about this, looking for advice or maybe someone can word it better than I can lol. For more context we live together and we have a child together, he does pay a majority of the household bills but he makes probably triple what I do.

My husband (37m) and I (29f) have been together for 7 years now. I've always had issues around sleep. It takes me a while to fall asleep and I wake up very easily. My husband doesn't have these issues.

The last 4 years my husband has been waking me up whenever he feels the need to. I've had several conversations with him around interrupting my sleep and to please not do that. My husband says that I got upset at him once a couple years ago because he had left the house without saying anything to me. Ever since then he comes and wakes me up. I've asked him to stop waking me up but he won't stop.

Talking doesn't seem to work. What other things can I do or say to get my point across to please stop waking me up? Thank you.