u/AnotherPerishedSoul

L5-S1 herniated disc among other things with neuropathy in lower leg and now big toe. I started at a pain clinic earlier this year for steroid injections. The steroid injections don't fully work the past 6 weeks and I have to wait 12 weeks between injections.

I had to follow up today and asked about trying gabapentin again. I had someone suggest gabapentin and another medication to keep the pain low but I was told I have to go to my primary care doctor for that. Is this normal? I'm wondering what the point of being in a pain clinic where I have to be drug tested is if I can't access meds that I need. I'm not asking for opioids or anything like that. I just want to get this pain under control until I can lose weight and get a micro dissectomy. It seems like I'm going to have to accept this pain for life so I want something that will allow me to do more than just sit at a desk. I have a nursing degree that I want to use that seems less and less likely as time goes on.

When someone brings up that it's common to find drunk Englanders, she then claims that the UK is not part of Europe despite the fact that it once was. She also has videos criticizing people working while also living in a large house.

Stumbled upon a post of someone showing their weight loss after moving to Korea and as typical for these pose, other Americans are talking about how it's just not possible in the US because America poisons the food and put so many preservatives in it.

What's funny is this specific person was in South Korea. There's no way people see South Korean convenience stores and think anything in there doesn't have high levels of preservatives. It's really funny because then people complain that fruit here in the US is starting to go bad quicker which should be what they want because it contains less preservatives.

I'm both a driver and user of the apps. I've been in pain lately and can't go out to get things. I order something and simply ask to please leave on the front porch and not side porch. My front porch faces the street you have to drive on to get to my house.

Yet time and time again my food is left on a random porch, on the side porch or somewhere nowhere near me. My house is a corner house with no house across from it. If you Google my address it'll show the house with the same car out front that's out there when I order.

Yet some drivers can't figure basic shit out. It's no wonder customers act like I'm the 2nd coming of Jesus when their instructions are followed. Don't even get me started on non English speakers who can't communicate with you.

Several years ago, I met a trans woman on Grindr and we ended up hooking up for a while. It ended up being traumatic as I was sexually assaulted but that's not the point of this.

Fast forward to somewhat recently and I find out that he has detransitioned. He became overly religious and talks about how he's back to the state God made him. I'm not overly critical of the transitioners as I understand many do it because of lack of support. Now he quotes bible verses and makes it seem like being trans is a mistake.

I don't understand why so many detransitioners become overly religious. It's one thing if transition isn't for you but preaching against it seems like overkill. I honestly don't know if this particular person was trans to begin with. The way they describe trans women was a bit strange. He always said that he saw trans women as women with penises and had no desire to get rid of his.

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I can't accept that I'm gay

I know this sounds crazy but I absolutely detest that I'm gay. My sexuality never changed when I started T and I've been living as male for a long time. I feel a deep sense of shame being gay. Like I can never have a normal life. As I age and see trans men I got to know over the years date and find their special one, I notice they're all straight. I don't know any gay trans men aside one.

I've always wanted the traditional life. Find a partner, get married and have kids. It feels wrong to want this while being gay. It feels like homosexuality is just hedonism. Like something to partake in as a young person and then leave it alone.

I'm stealth but also quiet about my sexuality. If I mention wanting a partner, I make it seem like I date women, want to have kids with a woman, etc. I hate that I'm attracted to men. I'm considered old by gay standards and the only men attracted to me are chasers and men that usually have been rejected by cis gay men.

I've gotten to a point where I've switched my dating apps to straight. If I can find a woman that's fine with me being trans, I'll happily date and marry her without ever divulging the part of me that has been intimate with men.

I can't accept that I'm gay

I know this sounds crazy but I absolutely detest that I'm gay. My sexuality never changed when I started T and I've been living as male for a long time. I feel a deep sense of shame being gay. Like I can never have a normal life. As I age and see trans men I got to know over the years date and find their special one, I notice they're all straight. I don't know any gay trans men aside one.

I've always wanted the traditional life. Find a partner, get married and have kids. It feels wrong to want this while being gay. It feels like homosexuality is just hedonism. Like something to partake in as a young person and then leave it alone.

I'm stealth but also quiet about my sexuality. If I mention wanting a partner, I make it seem like I date women, want to have kids with a woman, etc. I hate that I'm attracted to men. I'm considered old by gay standards and the only men attracted to me are chasers and men that usually have been rejected by cis gay men.

I've gotten to a point where I've switched my dating apps to straight. If I can find a woman that's fine with me being trans, I'll happily date and marry her without ever divulging the part of me that has been intimate with men.

I made the stupid mistake of going down what was basically a manosphere rabbit hole on facebook. I end up on the page of a guy who has had an online presence for years calling black women fat and undesirable and insulting celebrity women who aren't married and who do not have kids.

Well one of the most recent posts he made was about being alienated from his children. His banner on his page is his two children who happened to be daughters. This isn't the first time I've stumbled upon accounts like this. Maybe I'm seeing just the male side because I'm a guy but I have absolutely seen some unhinged and scary things coming from women.

I failed to see how he could be shocked that his kids mother(s) are keeping them from him. He's on the internet saying that he understands why his uncle's beat and abused his aunts and then think that he will be able to see his daughters while spreading vile things about the demographic they are part of.

It's sadly not that uncommon. I truly fear for children who have parents who viscerately hate the sex they are. I fear for young boys who have moms who want to enact the violence against men and men who talk about women in disparaging ways and are okay with violence against them. I don't feel you can be a good parent with that much animosity in your heart. These kids are going to grow up with a severe complex and then their parents will blame the world when they are abnormal.

I already have opinions on how easy it is for young boys especially to fall into the manosphere but it's a whole other ballpark when these guys have kids that they are supposed to be raising and instilling value in. We really need to be able to delineate who can and can't reproduce.

I'm tired of being single. I'm in my 30s and have never dated. I lost one fuck buddy when I was honest that I slept with someone else. And likely just messed up the next one because of stepping out of the sexual realm.

Sex isn't enjoyable. I'm not young anymore. I just want someone to build a life with. But that doesn't seem to be the reality and without friends life is just miserable.

I hate that I never got to experience love. So many things and pop culture I can't relate to because I never had anyone like me. Gay spaces in my city are almost exclusively sexual and not open to trans men. I'm stuck where I am because I'm a caregiver.

Don't know what the point of this post is but just wanted to get it off my chest

Before I get the comments, yes I'm going to call them mechanic tomorrow and let them know. I don't drive this car normally as it's my sister's but recently we had to have the timing chain replaced along with other components in the engine. I picked it up today and as I was driving at home there was this loud sound that increased with speed. It tended to start at about 40 miles per hour. I don't know if this is normal or not.

Again I'm obviously going to have it looked at again but I also want to know if it's possibly another repair that I'm going to have to do. I'm at a point of the sunk cost fallacy. This cost a lot of money and it's not much else that would need to be repaired on the car. Thanks

I have a bachelor's in biological sciences and nursing. I am licensed to work in Illinois and Indiana but have not been able to find work. I currently have a work from home job but it's simply not enough and I need to pay down loans and debt.

I've been applying to nursing jobs and lab tech positions but nothing. It's getting demoralizing and I feel embarrassed to have to ask here. Any suggestions for work? It doesn't have to be in these fields. If you know hospitals that will have walk-ins that'll accept new grand nurses, I'll also accept that. I'm willing to travel well over an hour if I can get work. Or any other jobs that you know with night shift that I can apply to. Thanks

Recently we have been getting several messages from accounts that look like they may be hacked about taking down a post that was made nearly half a year ago. It was a criticism of what was likely a scam company that didn't provide what it was supposed to and lied about the cost and when the users would be billed. There was no inflammatory language used and simply discussed their experience along with several comments corroborating said experience.

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Whenever we receive these messages, they go through Great lengths to explain which rule it breaks and many times choose a different rule each time. It's a several paragraph message, sometimes in broken english, other times and perfect english. No matter how much we explained that it is not trying to defame the company, they go back and forth until I mute them. I just received one this morning claiming it was AI and I just responded telling them that it would not be removed and muting them.

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Is there anything I can do? I truly think some of these accounts are hacked so that the company can message us and not risk their accounts or risk obvious affiliation. The post did not even Garner much attention so it's obvious this company is trying to get rid of any possible negative reviews people considering their product may find.

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Would love input. I've only been a mod for this subreddit and we're a niche community so I don't understand the obsession with getting a post with a handful of comments and upvotes removed. Anyway to automatically mute messages when this is brought up?

I'm a gay male in my 30s and I have never dated. I've had hookups of course but that's been a while since I've even done that. I don't get satisfaction out of random sex.

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I'm realizing that the likelihood of me finding a partner is very low. I'm not very attractive and don't really socialize in places most gay men would. But don't socialize much but still.

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I'll be honest, I hate that I'm gay. I wanted to get married and have children. I'm a simple guy. Wallowing apparently won't do anything. I need to accept the reality but I don't know how to do so. Any advice?

I don't know why certain subreddits seem to bring out people who feel the need to be preachy to people. It's so strange that I see posts complaining about people talking about their dysphoria in trans subreddits. No shit. Most of us don't have someone in our real life to talk about dysphoria with and other trans people can understand it.

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Recently there's been an uptick in a subreddit I use. Just a long wall of text talking about how trans men who lived their lives don't have time to focus on the little things that are making them dysphoric such as height, feet and hand size etc. I hate that a lot of our dysphoria is brushed off as things that Cis men also worry about. We all know that it's a very different reason behind being nervous about being really skinny or overly fat or having a voice that could sound androgynous. Cis men and women who have those insecurities can easily prove that their sis. Trans people can't.

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One of the main reasons for trans space especially online is to talk about dysphoria even when it's not logical. No amount of self-improvement is going to change the fact that I am not a CIS male. I don't have a natal penis I can't get anyone pregnant and anytime I get sexual with anyone, I will always have to disclose that I'm trans. It's depressing.

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I'm happy that people are able to fully get rid of their dysphoria but for many of us, that's just not reality. Especially with SRS being extremely and prohibitively expensive. There's also a difference in transitioning as a minor where you have most of your life ahead of you and doing so as an adult where you're setting adult goals to the side to transition.

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I don't know why it seems like the few binary spaces we have are being inundated with people complaining about trans people in those spaces complaining. Telling people to go live their life is fully dismissive of how invasive dysphoria is. Most people are living their lives. Kids are going to school and adults are going to work. Try to seem arrogant and dismissive doesn't do anything

Conflicted about future with fwb.

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I made a post here maybe a month or so ago about an STD scare that I had with an fwb. Along with that I talked about my anxiety around him possibly sleeping with exclusively women, especially after he mentioned generally not being into cis man. At the time, many people said that I was being a bit irrational. While I didn't agree, I didn't stop seeing him.

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Fast forward to recently. We've started talking after we hook up just in general. Usually we barely talked besides some general filler conversation. But the last three times, we've talked about various things, from decorative ideas to ai and its long-term implications on society. I was hanging out with him for almost two and a half hours late last night. I'm a generally anxious guy to the point where I can't talk much but it was pretty easy the last few times.

Anyway, he offered to see movies with me if I was down. I of course said yes but that's not why I'm here.

I don't know how to differentiate between my own anxieties and dysphoria and actual chaser behavior. I'm someone with extremely unpopular opinions about dating but I'm now in a situation where that obviously isn't so black and white. Whenever we talk about our past sexual activities, almost all of his involvement minus a few times. He admitted to me that it used to be half and half but now is being more lenient towards men. Most of his sexual activity seems to be cis men.

I honestly don't have much of a reason not to continue to hook up with him along with see movies or whatever else may come from this. But a small part of me fears that if I eventually get phalloplasty, I'll be hung out to dry and be irreparably hurt. Any advice is welcome

I made a post here maybe a month or so ago about an STD scare that I had with an fwb. Along with that I talked about my anxiety around him possibly sleeping with exclusively women, especially after he mentioned generally not being into cis man. At the time, many people said that I was being a bit irrational. While I didn't agree, I didn't stop seeing him.

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Fast forward to recently. We've started talking after we hook up just in general. Usually we barely talked besides some general filler conversation. But the last three times, we've talked about various things, from decorative ideas to ai and its long-term implications on society. I was hanging out with him for almost two and a half hours late last night. I'm a generally anxious guy to the point where I can't talk much but it was pretty easy the last few times.

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Anyway, he offered to see movies with me if I was down. I of course said yes but that's not why I'm here.

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I don't know how to differentiate between my own anxieties and dysphoria and actual chaser behavior. I'm someone with extremely unpopular opinions about dating but I'm now in a situation where that obviously isn't so black and white. Whenever we talk about our past sexual activities, almost all of his involvement minus a few times. He admitted to me that it used to be half and half but now is being more lenient towards men. Most of his sexual activity seems to be cis men.

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I honestly don't have much of a reason not to continue to hook up with him along with see movies or whatever else may come from this. But a small part of me fears that if I eventually get phalloplasty, I'll be hung out to dry and be irreparably hurt. Any advice is welcome

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This may be a generational thing but it seems many on this subreddit have ideas of what cis guys do and don't do but don't seem to actually interact with them. A lot of assumptions sound downright cartoonish. Like some comments that said masculine people don't tend to be on social media when there is a whole red pill movement that's affecting young boys to this day.

A lot of the way people here seem to think about cis men remind me of people that are getting advice on topics from people who have only heard about things and not experienced it.

Cis men are very just like anyone else. The presumption that cis men don or don't t do certain things and that could get you clocked is downright ridiculous. A lot of the anxiety people have here would go away by broadening your social circles to actually include cis men. I've pretty much only had six male friends since I was a kid so there wasn't a huge chasm in socialization when I transitioned.

Edit: fixed the writing. Text to talk is atrocious apparently

I bought a 22 Camry 1.5 years ago and its just dogshit. I know people here will pay $50k for a Toyota if it runs but it's ridiculous.

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My AC has a high pitch whistle if I go any higher than level 2. I can't afford a $200+ diagnostic fee at the dealer.

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Plastic parts snap like it's an old 90s car. I barely drive this car. It has under $25, 000 miles with several broken plastic pieces. I'm not hard on cars as I'm a car enthusiast. I bet money that my GMT 800 would last longer than this piece of shit.

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Thankfully I have positive equity and will be selling it

I've been out here over an hour and barely I'm getting my third and fourth orders done. The orders are coming in and some are okay, but everywhere is either understaffed or full of people that don't want to even acknowledge and Uber drivers. Each pick up takes 15 plus minutes and people on the road can't drive for shit. I'd be better off working on second full-time job then doing this and risking my car being inevitably totaled