u/BillAware2906

i’m 21 and i feel so immature all the time even among ppl my age or even younger. i have social anxiety , ADHD and i think autism. i can’t make eye contact well, can’t respond well, very awkward and not fun to talk to.

i’m also slow too like i don’t think i’m stupid but it takes me a while to learn things and i’m also clumsy.
i make a lot of mistakes at work and ppl get annoyed by me and i just feel so useless.

i feel like my behaviours lead ppl to not take me seriously, hate me and it ruins my chances of making friends and having a good career.

i’m 21 and i feel so immature all the time even among ppl my age or even younger. my social skills are so bad and i think I’m autistic. i can’t make eye contact well, can’t respond well, very awkward and not fun to talk to.

i’m also slow too like i don’t think i’m stupid but it takes me a while to learn things and i’m also clumsy.
i make a lot of mistakes at work and ppl get annoyed by me and i just feel so useless.

i feel like my behaviours lead ppl to not take me seriously, hate me and it ruins my chances of making friends and having a good career.

haven’t used this app in a while but is there a way to filter out by gender? i remember there being one but i can’t find it.

i’ve always been socially anxious and extremely shy but it feels like it’s not getting better.

i’ve attempted basically every advice i’ve ever been given and it always fails

. i thought i was doing better at work with socializing with my co workers but im always left out and they hang out without me.

even yesterday, despite being in a good mood, a customer asked me if i’m okay and when i asked why they said i look depressed.

i’m not super outgoing but i try, yet people still consider me to be the quiet girl.

idk if it’s autism or social anxiety or whatever but ppl just know im weird asf.

i’m not someone that’s likeable. i have social anxiety and whenever i talk to people im actually soooo boring. people have made efforts to talk to me but after a while they just give up (which i understand)

whenever i talk to people my mannerisms are so awkward, my voice gets high pitched and i can’t make eye contact. people will make a joke around me but i don’t even know how to respond. like my mind goes blank. as a result i don’t really have many friends.

it especially hurts going to work and seeing all of my co workers having fun and even hanging outside of work and i wish i could feel included. it just feels too impossible.

i’m not someone that’s likeable. i have social anxiety and whenever i talk to people im actually soooo boring. people have made efforts to talk to me but after a while they just give up (which i understand)

whenever i talk to people my mannerisms are so awkward, my voice gets high pitched and i can’t make eye contact. people will make a joke around me but i don’t even know how to respond. like my mind goes blank. as a result i don’t really have many friends.

it especially hurts going to work and seeing all of my co workers having fun and even hanging outside of work and i wish i could feel included. it just feels too impossible.

One of my biggest reasons for getting jaw surgery is for my lip incompetence. Closing my mouth feels uncomfortable and it gives me a mentalis strain

Would jaw surgery solve this? Or would I need a genioplasty as well

21. I’ve always been seen as a loser. I’m picked last, never noticed I’m basically a ghost.

I have social anxiety so I always had little to no friends. I’m like the least liked one most of the time, and it sucks knowing that they rather hang out with anyone but me.

Dating life is also non existent and it feels impossible. Men don’t notice me at all or even treat me like a human based on my looks.

I just feel like in every situation people can just tell there’s something off about me, maybe it’s because I’m shy, unattractive or both idk. This has gotten me depressed bc it just feels like it won’t change.

My AirPods only sound normal when the off setting is on. All the other modes like transparency, noise cancelling, etc make this sound that’s kind of airy and high pitched. How can I fix

I have spent time writing posts just for it to get deleted. I know a lot of places require a karma requirement but it rarely shows how much I actually need.

Sometimes it doesn’t even require that and my posts still get deleted for no reason. If it’s because I’m a new user they should at least let me know.

I have social anxiety and every single day I go outside I always face some failed social interaction like being awkward and not talking enough. This leads me to replay those scenes and cringe when I get home.

Recently started a new job, and I’m so odd around my co workers like I get non verbal around them so they definitely think I’m so weird. I also am avoidant like I’m scared to say hi and fail to join their convos.

I keep thinking about how weird I am at work and get so mad at myself for acting this way. I just want to relax and forgive myself but it’s hard.

started a new internship a month ago and i keep going silent around my co workers. they have made efforts to get to know me but i just say really short sentences and get awkward.

whenever it’s lunch i sit with these group of girls in my team and i genuinely cannot bring myself to say a SINGLE word. in my head im thinking of things to say but idk how to join in. during lunch its always really loud so i can’t even hear that well so i end up not speaking. i tried to say something but i can’t.

they are talking about topics im interested in too but i dont know how to join in and i end up freezing up. now i dont think they like me or tolerate me anymore so i feel like i should just avoid them if i can’t contribute anything

this is such a stupid problem but i really don’t want to go to work tomorrow. it’s making me feel sick.

i have social anxiety and i work hybrid but whenever it comes to my office days i get super nervous. i’ve only been working here for a month and i feel like i am very awkward around my coworkers. they have tried to include me but im so boring and weird so now they hang out without me.

they all go into office more than me and hang out outside of work and since we’re having a lunch party i’m gonna sit with them and it’s going to be extremely awkward.

i keep telling myself its not that serious but my mind keeps stressing over it idk why

the socially inept and ugly combo is the worst thing ever. i can’t make friends and i can’t get into a relationship.

people treat me terribly ive been bullied throughout my childhood and even as an adult people exclude me and make weird comments.

in every situation im the least liked one there and i don’t have any hope for my future.

also im not smart either and with my poor social i suck at networking so i dont think i could ever achieve a good career.

i have always grown up as the weird outcast. i never had a lot of friends, was always picked last, extremely socially anxious and awkward. i also had nothing going on for me i wasn’t attractive or smart.

these feelings still remain and i just feel so inferior to others. every time i go to work i get so depressed because i see all of my coworkers socializing and having fun meanwhile im just there awkward in the corner. there have been efforts to include me and have convos but im so socially inept that it just leaves me feeling even worse.

i’ve tried common advice ive heard like “nobodys thinking about you”, “just relax”, “be yourself” or “it’s in your head” but it doesn’t help at all.

these failed social interactions make me consider if i am even worth taking to and do i even have a personality. it just leads me to isolating myself and not enjoying life.

21. i was always behind compared to everyone else. still haven’t achieved milestones like dating, getting my first kiss, having a lot of friends and i just struggle to connect with other people.

my mannerisms are so awkward and weird, i can’t dress well, my hair doesn’t look right and i don’t wear makeup. even when i attempt to, i feel like an imposter. i don’t have a thriving social life, i just go to work and school and haven’t gained much experiences.

it’s like im stuck in this awkward teenager stage in my adults while everyone else progressed even those younger than me.

I feel like I’ve hidden my true personality for so long because of anxiety and bullying that I don’t think I have one. I have no idea how to talk to people or share my thoughts or opinions on anything. My default state is just being silent and avoiding social situations. When I do talk to others I have this fake overly nice personality and my voice is high pitched and it’s so cringe.

I want to make friends but it’s hard because I’ve become so boring and scared to talk to others.

I feel like I’ve hidden my true personality for so long because of anxiety and bullying that I don’t think I have one. I have no idea how to talk to people or share my thoughts or opinions on anything. My default state is just being silent and avoiding social situations. When I do talk to others I have this fake overly nice personality and my voice is high pitched and it’s so cringe.

I want to make friends but it’s hard because I’ve become so boring and scared to talk to others.

I have adhd, social anxiety, autism and depression and I struggled a lot growing up. I constantly felt like a disappointment to my family and had a hard time in school both in academics and in social settings.

I struggled to make friends in general and I also felt weird because I couldnt fit in with other Somalis. my family would judge me for not having Somali friends and I always wanted to have a group of Somali girls to be friends with but I never really could do it. Most of them are outgoing and I’m not and they could tell I’m weird.

Now that I’m older I am doing better but those feelings still remain. There’s a part of me that still seeks having a friend group and going out everyday but despite the many opportunities to meet people I still feel so awkward. I’m thinking about starting therapy but I’m kinda scared.