u/Brave-Hurry-2296

Would love to know based on your own experience if you went thru a neecg Saturn MD or know people closely eho went thru the same.

Or just lemme know based on your own understanding what can be expected in it.

Given aries asc so it lords 10th and 11th house for me. And lagna lord in 7th so neech bhaang as well. But yes lagna lord in enemy sign.

If venus shows wife in a man's chart and jupiter or mars shows husband in a women's chart, then going by this logic if im a women then my venus shows me as wife and a man' ju or mars shows him as a husband.

Is this valid? Yes or no, what are the nuances?

Does 7th house in D1 show myself in marraige or my partner? The planet sitting in it , the rashi that falls in it, its lord's placement. Are they all saying things about myself in marriage or my partner?

And same question for d9.

If no, then what/how does me as a partner show in my chart?

F27.

Did anyone here meet their partner through a matrimony app?

If yes, which platform would you recommend?

I have heard a lot of complaints about people getting scammed or misled or discovering fake identities later. through matrimony apps, so I have been quite skeptical about signing up for one.

At the same time, a friend of mine recently joined a matrimony platform and says there are genuinely decent people there as well. So I am hearing two very different experiences.

I am thinking of trying my luck too.

Which matrimony app would you suggest, and what was your experience like? Any tips or red flags to watch out for would also be appreciated.

First time in years I’ve stayed up all night crying. Will I ever be someone's first love, or just the one who inherits their baggage?

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I didn't sleep the entire night. It’s the first time in years I’ve had breakdowns like this, but the thoughts just wouldn't stop loop-playing in my head.

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​It kills me to think that at my age, I might never be someone’s "first love." I’ll never get to experience that completely fresh, untainted, pure chapter with someone where you're both figuring it out together for the very first time.

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​Instead, it feels like I’m just bound to end up with someone whose heart was already broken and put back together by someone else. It hurts so bad to realize that my future might just be sitting with someone else's leftovers, unpacking the baggage, the trauma, and the ghosts of their previous relationships.

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​I feel so heavy and exhausted. Has anyone else struggled with accepting this? How do you cope with the feeling that you missed out on being that "spark" for someone?

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27F. How cooked am I, realistically?

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I've have dated a few people over the last several years. Most of those relationships didn't work out, but in hindsight the breakups were probably for the best.

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One thing I've always wanted is to be with someone who is also a virgin, since I am one myself. I know this is a controversial preference, but it's something that matters to me personally.

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The funny thing is, I actually tried relaxing this criterion once. I thought maybe I was being too rigid. But even then, the guy turned out to be emotionally unhealthy and the relationship wasn't great. That experience made me think, "If I'm going to compromise on something important to me, it should at least be worth it."

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So I went back to my original stance.

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The problem is that at 27, it feels increasingly difficult to find men who are still virgins. And when I do come across someone who is, there's often no compatibility, attraction, affection, or shared values.

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Yet I still don't feel ready to give up on what I want.

27F. How cooked am I, realistically?

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I've have dated a few people over the last several years. Most of those relationships didn't work out, but in hindsight the breakups were probably for the best.

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One thing I've always wanted is to be with someone who is also a virgin, since I am one myself. I know this is a controversial preference, but it's something that matters to me personally.

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The funny thing is, I actually tried relaxing this criterion once. I thought maybe I was being too rigid. But even then, the guy turned out to be emotionally unhealthy and the relationship wasn't great. That experience made me think, "If I'm going to compromise on something important to me, it should at least be worth it."

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So I went back to my original stance.

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The problem is that at 27, it feels increasingly difficult to find men who are still virgins. And when I do come across someone who is, there's often no compatibility, attraction, affection, or shared values.

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Yet I still don't feel ready to give up on what I want.

27F. How cooked am I, realistically?

I've dated a few people over the last several years. Most of those relationships didn't work out, but in hindsight the breakups were probably for the best.

One thing I've always wanted is to be with someone who is also a virgin, since I am one myself. I know this is a controversial preference, but it's something that matters to me personally.

The funny thing is, I actually tried relaxing this criterion once. I thought maybe I was being too rigid. But even then, the guy turned out to be emotionally unhealthy and the relationship wasn't great. That experience made me think, "If I'm going to compromise on something important to me, it should at least be worth it."

So I went back to my original stance.

The problem is that at 27, it feels increasingly difficult to find men who are still virgins. And when I do come across someone who is, there's often no compatibility, attraction, affection, or shared values.

Yet I still don't feel ready to give up on what I want.

27F. How cooked am I, realistically?

I've have dated a few people over the last several years. Most of those relationships didn't work out, but in hindsight the breakups were probably for the best.

One thing I've always wanted is to be with someone who is also a virgin, since I am one myself. I know this is a controversial preference, but it's something that matters to me personally.

The funny thing is, I actually tried relaxing this criterion once. I thought maybe I was being too rigid. But even then, the guy turned out to be emotionally unhealthy and the relationship wasn't great. That experience made me think, "If I'm going to compromise on something important to me, it should at least be worth it."

So I went back to my original stance.

The problem is that at 27, it feels increasingly difficult to find men who are still virgins. And when I do come across someone who is, there's often no compatibility, attraction, affection, or shared values.

Yet I still don't feel ready to give up on what I want.

This is something I've been observing for a while, and I'm curious whether others have noticed it too.

I've come across several men whose Jupiter was afflicted: combust, retrograde, hemmed in by malefics, under harsh aspects, debilitated, etc. What struck me wasn't simply bad judgment or immaturity. It was a kind of moral blindness.

These men often see themselves as righteous, wise, principled, and justified in their actions. They genuinely believe they are the "good guy." Yet when you look at their actual behavior, there is often deception, hypocrisy, manipulation, infidelity, exploitation, or a complete lack of accountability.

What fascinates me is that the issue doesn't seem to be a lack of intelligence. In many cases, it's the inability to accurately judge the ethical quality of their own actions.

Another pattern I've personally noticed is that many of these men are openly misogynistic while simultaneously presenting themselves as highly moral, traditional, patriotic, or value-driven. There seems to be a disconnect between the ideals they preach and the way they treat women in practice.

Of course, this is anecdotal and I'm not claiming every afflicted Jupiter manifests this way. But Jupiter governs wisdom, ethics, dharma, judgment, and higher principles, so it makes me wonder whether a damaged Jupiter can create a distorted moral compass rather than simply "bad luck".

I'm 27, and I feel like I'm living in two completely different realities at the same time.

On one hand, I know I'm still young. I genuinely believe that it's possible to meet someone I'll love deeply, and who will love me back just as deeply. I haven't given up on that idea at all. There's still a lot of hope and optimism in me.

But on the other hand, I look around and see my friends getting married, settling down, having kids, and moving into the next phase of life. Some seem genuinely happy. Others honestly look like they just got married because it was "time" to get married. They found someone reasonably compatible and went ahead with it.

Then reality hits me: I'm 27. If I want children someday, fertility isn't exactly moving in my favor. Every year that passes feels like one less year of flexibility. The weird part is that I don't even have a life partner right now, so it feels like I'm worrying about a future that hasn't even begun yet.

How do you deal with this contradiction?

Can someone help me understand this?

I've always wondered how people can genuinely fall in love multiple times in their lives.

Let's say two people meet when they're young. They spend months or years together. They become emotionally vulnerable with each other, share their dreams, fears, and future plans, and eventually become physically intimate. To me, physical intimacy feels like one of the deepest forms of connection two people can have.

Then they break up.

What I struggle to understand is what happens afterward.

How does someone go from believing "this is my person" to eventually feeling the same level of love, desire, and attachment for someone else? Is the second love or third love or so on... as real as the first one? Or is it different?

When people fall in love again after a serious relationship, are they experiencing the same thing they felt before, just with a different person? Or is it more that life moves on, humans aren't meant to stay alone, and having a partner becomes part of building a fulfilling life or they are just acting on their needs?

And the person who falls in love many times, is he/she trustworthy ?

How do you interpret a placement when the Lagna chart and Bhav Chalit chart tell different stories?

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I'm trying to understand how astrologers reconcile differences between the Rashi (Lagna) chart and the Bhav Chalit chart.

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For example, in my Lagna chart, the 7th lord is placed in the 11th house and is not afflicted by Saturn, Rahu, Ketu, or any other malefic influence. On the surface, it looks like a fairly clean placement.

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However, when I look at the Bhav Chalit chart, Ketu shifts into the 11th house and ends up conjunct my 7th lord.

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In a situation like this, which interpretation carries more weight? Do we primarily judge the 7th lord from the Lagna chart and then use the Chalit chart only to understand the areas of life where the results manifest? Or does the Ketu conjunction in the Chalit chart significantly alter the relationship indications?

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The reason I'm asking is that my real-life experiences seem somewhat consistent with a Ketu influence. I've had relationships and romantic connections, but they tend to lose emotional momentum over time. Things don't usually move forward, and at some point I start feeling emotionally detached or dry, even when things initially seem promising.

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Would this be something you'd attribute to the Chalit chart placement, or am I misunderstanding how the two charts should be read together?