u/Citruslor

Due in 5 weeks. First time mom.

i didn’t buy any diapers or wipes yet.

I want to potty train early (it’s done commonly where I am from) and heard cloth diapers help with that.

either way, I want to use cloth diapers cause I hate disposable items in general and the cost for them as well. But is it too much work along with other things that come up with a new born?

We hired a postpartum doula who is also an expert in cloth diapering and she will gladly help us.

I am curious when did you start and what brands do you recommend initially?

We live in a 2 bedroom. plenty of space. But don’t want to buy stuff that aren't essential right now.

my plan:

make a baby corner in our bedroom

- buy a bedside Cosleeper bassinet or crib that opens on one side.

question: Is it better to get a bassinet to use for 3-4 months or get a convertible crib that can be used for long?

other areas

- have something in the living room area for the baby to sleep.
question: what should this be that is also easy to move?

thank you for any advice.

I was wondering was any post partum care discussed on the show? (or books). I know it’s highly unlikely for an expected care, but handmaids are valuable to their society so I would expect some care at least? how long before a handmaid would go to another house?

I know I can deal with this and figure it out as well but just tired about every challenge.

first trimester I could barely eat or function as a human.

at 20 weeks my pelvic girdle pain started! I feel all swollen down there. cant walk for long but managing it with a PT.

at 28 week now, 3 weeks ago got diagnosed with Anemia and finished 5 rounds of Iron infusions. finally able to eat and my appetite is back. Just today confirmed after my 3 hour test that I have Gestational diabetes also. 🥲😑

I am not new to eating in a particular diet and I understand the science behind it. But right now just feeling so exhausted with everything. its been just one after the other!

Edit - on the positive side, I am so thrilled each time my baby kicks or moves. I can’t wait for the day I cuddle my baby!!!

That scene where Ezra and Nicole have a conversation before she goes missing was so emotional and Ezra seemed really so upset. he says “I am never gonna see her again” with so much sadness.

how did he go from this to letting her go? its not like a breakup that he could move on from. she literally came back from the dead.

https://preview.redd.it/hfhomdta2phh1.jpg?width=985&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b9d0326e22f3308fa6e2688ccd3c0abc04c64176

So I am now officially Anemic and the doctor has prescribed I take Iron infusions at least 5 doses.

Did any of you got it and felt better after? did you notice any side effects? was your baby okay after?

I have never gotten any before and I am concerned about all this.

Hello friends, just wanted to vent a bit.

I am not a super athlete or anything. but I have loved strength training and going to the gym.

first trimester gym felt so loud, smelly I went maximum once a week for some basics.

Recovevered a bit in second trimester. but then at 20 weeks pelvic pain started. now I can’t walk without limping or feeling the pain. at least at home I used to do some Pilates. Now this is limiting my basic movements.

I am trying my best with some pelvic floor therapy. But I can’t believe how sedentary I feel.

on top of it I am diagnosed with Anemia and probably GD (need to take 3 hour test).

I can’t sleep continuously for 7-8 hours. 3-4 is max.

I know it’s not my fault, but I feel guilty for not trying more. :( I am just sad

I am currently in my second trimester.
I have been diagnosed with Anemia. In my first trimester I barely ate 500 calories everyday and that impacted my nutrients obviously which led me to lose interest in everything.

I hear from my friends how they need their mothers to help them and say proudly how their mothers are their big support system.

For me, my mother will want to come but she also brings her own tantrums and constant boundary crossing, if asked not to completely shut down and not communicate. I can’t deal with this behavior at a vulnerable time. I need to be peaceful now.

But it pisses me off thinking how easy to love their own child, I can’t imagine a day my kid hesitating to come to me.

Recently also my mother defended herself that she fed honey to my niece when I said it’s harmful.

Why are parents like this? Full of ego even with kids. It really blows my mind.

I am towards the end of my second trimester.
Before buying baby stuff, I want to first declutter and organize home in a way that not just me but other people can access things and is super functional.

We moved countries and homes 2 years ago and have decluttered a lot doing that already, but I am sure there’s new stuff and some clothes that don’t fit anymore.

I am not an everyday cleaner but will keep things functional.

Here for any suggestions :) thank you!

This is something I saw today on social media.

I see a lot of posts on here and other pregnancy subs where women often feel stressed or overwhelmed about having or not having a baby shower.

I saw a video where a woman‘s friends and family organized a nesting party. They all came up to cook batches of food, store and freeze them up before the baby. They helped her with everything that she and the baby needs. it wasn’t a party just to buy them gifts from a registry and leave.

I don’t have a village like that, but if any of you do, I think it’s a great idea instead of baby shower. Ofcourse I think one can have both.