Like I know I’m the different one. But I just to can’t understand people. To me it’s like everyone else is ND. To me people seem so mean and inconsistent without ever realizing it.
It’s like everyone is the ND one.
I dont know.
I just had my first shift in a mattress store. I’m in tears, well no but beyond happy.
I took a minute and sat down, manager said “morning sucks eh, let me get you a coffee. Make some room for me”
Not “ come on man” “you need to finish this in 5 minutes” “ “is this the best use of your time?” “Do you need to go home”.
I just walk around help customers/ do cash. Ofc do some stuff with inventory and setting up the store. But it’s cake work compared to what I had before.
No rush hours, no dumb rules(can’t take your meal with you, even though you earned it). Chill retail.
Idk if every fast food job is like this, but trust me I’ll never work fast food again.
And btw I make more money, with none of the stress or over work.
This is your sign. Screw this garbage company, and find something else.
I haven’t told them I quit. Since I just called in sick. But do I just not show up? Say bye? I will go to few more shifts. To tell my other coworkers who are great people to job hop.
Like a good respectable amount, not like average top 1% amount.
15-17.
18-22
22-26
26-30
30-35
40+
I don’t know if there is anything we can do.
We are chronically understaffed, and our store is mostly composed of week long trainees(I’m also one).
But anyways no one but people doing closing shifts are hitting 5hrs. And closing shifts by nature just take long, especially after a busy day.
But anyways, I find it so despicable most of us scheduled for 4hrs and 45 minutes, we often have to do overtime. But managers will get so idk the word like icky for us to clock when they told us to do the work. Like once I was 2 minutes from hitting 5hrs this manager got so nervous and clocked me out.
It’s like dude, wtf. The job already pays minimum wage, we are under trained and staffed, on our feet since we enter the store. That breather and employee meal was the only half decent thing about this job.
I hate how at retail, especially on a minimum wage no incentive job. You’re expected to always be doing something. Which I find such bs, why? If I’m done my actual job and take a breather what’s so wrong with this? Instead I have to spend more time looking busy than being busy.
Today I finished my work 30 minutes sooner, and I make minimum wage no benefits. So I was just terrified I’d get some bs work. So I slowed down my work as much as possible. Like the morning because I finished a bit sooner, I had to throw wet trash 5 minute walk from the actual job.
And what pisses me off is people who get upset are often just on pseudo manager positions that aren’t actual managers. You don’t get a bonus on the locations success. Like this guy was like “I saw you standing why don’t you do this” he is in a completely different department than me. Why should i, do your job? I don’t mean it in an offensive manner why?
What’s so bad about taking time to yourself after you do your hired work?
And there is no motivation to even do your work faster, because if I do guess what than I don’t get to relax I have to do someone else’s job.
Than DoorDash drivers, I get it you have your troubles your waiting. But when there is a rush of 20 people and I’m cash I can’t just drop everything and check in the back. And even when I do they’re not ignoring your order they’re just swamped with 50 burritos.
Not enough pay. Only nice thing is free meal. I make minimum wage, even roles higher than me make a few dollars extra for double the work.
Perpetually expected to have a positive attitude. I can’t be tired when I’ve been working non stop.
Dumb rules. Sure I get labels, doing stuff properly and what not. I’m talking about stuff like not being able to get a sip of water when I’m at front of house. Getting dress coded for flipping my hat when I’m doing dishes at the back. Not being able to listen to music not even a single AirPod in the back doing 100 dishes. I can’t take my employee meal with me home, like even if I’m giving it to another person which I’m not. It’s a single employee meal what’s the big deal if I eat it or my sister does? So much more.
Tied with break but constant fixation on doing something. If me and my coworkers after 4hrs non stop working wanna chat for a few minutes we should be able too. Not get slapped with “guys I need you to be proactive”.
Ik spelling errors, grammar errors, and what not errors. Sorry I’m so out of it.
And there is no motivation to even do your work faster, because if I do guess what than I don’t get to relax I have to do someone else’s job.
Than DoorDash drivers, I get it you have your troubles your waiting. But when there is a rush of 20 people and I’m cash I can’t just drop everything and check in the back. And even when I do they’re not ignoring your order they’re just swamped with 50 burritos.
Not enough pay. Only nice thing is free meal. I make minimum wage, even roles higher than me make a few dollars extra for double the work.
Perpetually expected to have a positive attitude. I can’t be tired when I’ve been working non stop.
Dumb rules. Sure I get labels, doing stuff properly and what not. I’m talking about stuff like not being able to get a sip of water when I’m at front of house. Getting dress coded for flipping my hat when I’m doing dishes at the back. Not being able to listen to music not even a single AirPod in the back doing 100 dishes. I can’t take my employee meal with me home, like even if I’m giving it to another person which I’m not. It’s a single employee meal what’s the big deal if I eat it or my sister does? So much more.
Tied with break but constant fixation on doing something. If me and my coworkers after 4hrs non stop working wanna chat for a few minutes we should be able too. Not get slapped with “guys I need you to be proactive”.
Today was worst I’ve had it ever. Couldn’t do it anymore. Called the hotline.
Waited for 10 minutes. I just realized mid conversation, they are using chatgbt. I also got a job rejection for a minimum wage retail position too.
It was so funny I cried.
Nothing more too it. Been so long since I’ve had someone who wanted to spend time with me. I spend my days fantasizing scenarios, of friendships, romances. Of people I knew. Ik cringe, and weird. But it sucks more they don’t even think of me. Well no one does.
I’m just miserable. I could go longer. But those 3 words summarize how I feel.
I went though a petty untraditional life. Litterally, went through all of my school life without friends. I have no clue what most people do. Never had friends, like basic stuff too never went out w friends. Never did pretty much anything you can name.
So I’m behind in every metric. I also didn’t have socials. I’m just tired of being alone all the time. Decided to make a dating app. Cause I’ll be honest w my life it’s never gonna happen naturally. Can go weeks without seeing a person my age.
Now I have such a trashy profile. It’s asking stuff likes “what do I like to do when I go out?” For prompts and I literally can’t answer anything. I’ll be honest I just lied.
But I also can’t do anything about having no friends, not good relationship w family. No traveling/experiences. So my pictures are trashy too. I have no social credit to show, cause I no social life. Just 5-9 selfies I took over last 2 days.
So it’s just such a beating down cycle having no social life is stopping me from having a social life. Like getting an entry level job which you need experiences but you get experience from an entry level job. Just depressing.
It’s harder to look attractive as male than a woman.
In general girl beauty has a lot of variance. We can have that Latina face look, round face like Selma Gomez, a more striking robust face like Bella hadid/ Gisele. Different physical compositions too.
While for males there are like these strict features that every attractive male has. At least taller than average 5’11+, a good and defined jaw line, a rather deep set eye area, defined cheekbones, rather wide shoulders. Ex, any one famous for their looks on social media, Henry cavil, Ryan gosling, Chris Evan’s.
Hard structural stuff, you can’t really do much about even with plastic surgery. While for girls their much more diversity in what works.
Everyone is just so obsessed with being nonchalant, and like constantly playing these social games.
This person did this on insta so it means this. They did this and it means that. I’m going to ignore them cause I like them???
Everyone’s so ambiguous, some person will be your absolute best bud but they secretly hate you to the core. Same vice versa.
And guess what this does to us all. It makes us all miserable. People who get a lot of attention, “friends”, “romantic attention”, I’ll wager have emotions more synonymous with us here. Both ends suck.
I hate being a Gen Z. I hate it when I have to play these games, jester, and be borderline perfect to have friends. I just wanna be happy.
I hate it when people say that like it’s a bad thing. Cause like you’re not supposed to have more than this. You’re not supposed to form deep bonds with 15 people.
It’s normal and a good thing you have 2-3 friends.
Missing life’s milestones is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to come to terms with. I know there are different kinds of loneliness, and they all hurt. But when I say I have no one, I mean that literally. I’m not trying to one-up anyone else’s pain I genuinely am not. This is just my reality.
No one has ever checked up on me. I’ve never had friends, from grade school all the way through university. I didn’t even go to any of my graduations because I couldn’t face being completely alone. I spent years surrounded by the same people and still couldn’t make a single friend.
You can probably imagine what my romantic life has been like too. It’s just another list of failures and painful memories. I can’t think of a single period of my life that I look back on with happiness. Even something as simple as hearing, “Okay everyone, find a partner,” still makes my stomach drop. Those moments are burned into my memory.
I’ve spent so much of my life alone that it feels almost pathological. I never made social media because that’s something most people do with their friends. I never had anyone to make it with. I’ve never been invited anywhere—not to parties, birthdays, or even casual hangouts. Sometimes I wonder if most people I’ve talked to throughout my life even remember my name.
It feels like every part of my life is defined by missed milestones. Someone was shocked when I told them I’d seen fewer than ten movies in my entire life. But how would I have? That’s something people usually experience with friends or family. I never had that. There are so many ordinary experiences that I simply never built because there was never anyone there to share them with.
Home wasn’t any better. When I think back on my childhood, I don’t remember happiness. I remember standing outside my bedroom door, listening to my parents scream at, curse, and hit each other. Till it went to me.
At this point, I honestly think I’m probably neurodivergent as well. I’ve tried to connect with people. I’ve put myself out there. It just never seems to work.
I’m so alone. So unbelievably alone. I used to cry about it. Now even the tears won’t come anymore.
I just have realized, I want to date someone with a small to no social circle like me.
I understand to have a good relationship you don’t need to share every interest or life style.
But I want to meet someone like me. I want someone who can relate to the struggle. I just find people with large social circles are just so content (in a good way) that I can’t be anything meaningful in their life’s. I want to mean something to someone and me to them.
So where are they?
I got into a very good program for my country. And I did 4/5 pre req classes in semester 1. And all I had to do was achieve a decent mark in my remaining class to maintain it.
It was supposed to be an easy semester I had 2 classes, one didn’t matter and the other I just needed a mediocre mark.
I ended up barely passing the class and now I have lost my offer. I don’t know how to tell them this. It’s all my fault, I come from a strict traditional family. I know they’ll still love me and I won’t be kicked out or anything. But I don’t know how to tell them. I also have no job, so all the application related fees have been wasted too.
I’m talking about people 16-24ish. I’ve maybe met one person who reads as a hobby. And most people I’ve realized will give a unique glance if they find out you read of that age.