u/FamiliarGirl07

assalamwalekum, Imm looking to book a private session with an Islamic scholar on call. My preferred languages are Hindi and English. Any recommendations?

i'm so done with her and I do not want to amend our friendship.

my friend always rushes back to me whenever she is sad of fustrated. She has had multiple break ups within a reletuv short period of time and she is always ranting me and I always listen to her

but she always puts me down and makes fun of me whenever I'm struggling. I said I'm going through an existential crisis and she told me I'm too old to be going through that? imm 18 hello?

and this is not the first time she has does this

she keeps comparing her problems with mine too and downplays them. I had some issues with mom and she started talking about how her breakup is way worse

i have never snapped at her or invalidated her feelings but she always does it to me.

i'm so done with her and I do not want to amend our friendship.

my friend always rushes back to me whenever she is sad of fustrated. She has had multiple break ups within a reletuv short period of time and she is always ranting me and I always listen to her

but she always puts me down and makes fun of me whenever I'm struggling. I said I'm going through an existential crisis and she told me I'm too old to be going through that? imm 18 hello?

and this is not the first time she has does this

she keeps comparing her problems with mine too and downplays them. I had some issues with mom and she started talking about how her breakup is way worse

i have never snapped at her or invalidated her feelings but she always does it to me.

hello, I applied for an hons in economics and got selected but my maths isn't good honestly speaking and I did not study economics in high school. Any resource recommendations please? I tried to study "Mathematics for economical analysis" but its more like a question bank ig?

i mean... books analysing and critising the purity culture for not so avid readers?

hi, I'm still in my teens but my pa are already on their 50s and 60s. I am so sad. I always feel like the time is running out. My mom is always exhausted from everything.

idk what I'd do if I lost them. I don't even have anyone ro share my grief with honestly. I wish I had some siblings so atleast we could share our grief together.

i'm someone who gets attached emotionally very very deeply and intensely. I lost my rabbits 5 years ago almost and Imm yet to move on properly. I only had them for 9 months and I consta cried for 9-10 months when they left me.

i fear it will take me decades to move on from my parents if anything happened to them god forbids.

I don't have any biological siblings, he is my cousin but due to the collective nature of the our society, we grew up like actual siblings.

today he had to go through a major abdominal surgery and I'm very sad. Idk why I'm crying honestly. I miss his presence and I feel so bad for my brother. He doesn't deserve this. He is a hardworking and caring individual. I feel bad for him because he is broke and mostly helping out others. I am so sorry that I can't do anything for him rn since I'm still a teenager.

also the fact that he has been facing this problem since April but never got diagnosed properly because he doesn't have enough resources and his family is quite neglectful.

I could have lost my only sibling if he was never diagnosed.

idk why I'm writing this here. I feel bad for the way I have yelled at him sometimes in the past. Life has not been very fair to my brother honestly 💔. And I have never realised how much close we are until today. I'm the only one crying besides his mother.

I felt so bad when i saw him on the stretcher. He was nauseous and vomiting. He had to request my mom today for financial help.

my brother is the kindest person I know. I wish he was in a better position. I wish I could do something for him, I wish I never misbehaved with him.

I know it wasn't risky but I'm still worried

I used to think lashing someone for this is a bit too much until it happened with me. Indeed, Islam is perfect and muslims are not.

Assalamwalekum, Maria here. Imm 18.

Someone a while ago accused me of extremely disgusting things. They accused me of being a zinakhor who is a mushirk in secret and an idol worship who is in a relationship with another secret mushirk. They accused me without any evidence whatsoever and spread rumours about me. They eventually did accept infront of everyone that they have no evidence against me but made excuses such as "extreme mood swings" instead of actually being apologetic. That person also decided to share my secrets and the stuff that I did over a year ago when I was 17 with other much older men of the community.

That person was a woman and thats the worst part in my opinion. A woman in her mid 20s. A full sane woman decided to do this with a teen who trusted her. 

 I've NEVER done shirk and I have NEVER been in a relationship let alone a one filled with Zina, I have never even had a real life crush !! But I'll admit in all honesty that I'm far from an idol muslim and I've committed sins but I've repented. I did do some things which could have been avoided. Now Allah will decide whether to punish me or forgive me and inshallah I'll know when the judgement day comes. 

but this thing definitely did shook my imaan. I was crying and feeling helpless.  It was a very triggering feeling for me. I was struggling A LOT. 

Maybe I can't explain it and maybe you may feel I'm exaggerating but I'm being serious I swear to Allah. 

I felt as if I can't be a muslim anymore. I felt Islam isn't for me. My heart was aching, I felt I lost a part of myself, my faith.

But remembering that one of the attributes of Allah swt is Al-'Adl, meaning the most just gives me a lot of hope. 

Allah swt states the punishment of accusing a chaste lady to be 80 lashes in the Surah - Annur

The Light (24:4) 

وَٱلَّذِينَ يَرْمُونَ ٱلْمُحْصَنَـٰتِ ثُمَّ لَمْ يَأْتُوا۟ بِأَرْبَعَةِ شُهَدَآءَ فَٱجْلِدُوهُمْ ثَمَـٰنِينَ جَلْدَةًۭ وَلَا تَقْبَلُوا۟ لَهُمْ شَهَـٰدَةً أَبَدًۭا ۚ وَأُو۟لَـٰٓئِكَ هُمُ ٱلْفَـٰسِقُونَ ٤

Those who accuse chaste women ˹of adultery˺ and fail to produce four witnesses, give them eighty lashes ˹each˺. And do not ever accept any testimony from them—for they are indeed the rebellious—

— Dr. Mustafa Khattab, The Clear Quran

This brings me a lot of joy and comfort. I'll never forgive her and may Allah judge her fairly for every tear of mine. 

If you ever feel know please do remember that the divine law of Islam is perfect but Muslims are not. If they have done you wrong, then they will definitely face a harsh punishment in this life or akhirat inshallah. Them hurting you isn't Islam, them hurting you is only them deviating from Islam and working in the opposite direction. 

May Allah curse such people. 

I’m pursuing a hons. in economics and I’m looking for a book that discusses Muslims and microeconomics, preferably. Any book recommendations? Thanks.

I’m pursuing a hons. in economics and I’m looking for a book that discusses Muslims and microeconomics, preferably. Any recommendations? Thanks.

I’m pursuing an hons. degree in economics and I’m looking for a book that discusses Muslims and microeconomics, preferably. Any recommendations? Thanks.

my_qualifications : 12th pass

I’m currently pursuing a Bachelor of Arts (major) in Economics from a government university.

I chose Economics because I’ve heard it has a good scope abroad.

My minor/allied subjects are Political Science, Linguistics and Archaeology, but I have the option to change them.

Should I change them?

my goal is to either move abroad or try for UPSC

myquals_ 12th pass

I’m currently pursuing a Bachelor of Arts (major) in Economics from a government university.

I chose Economics because I’ve heard it has a good scope abroad.

My minor/allied subjects are Political Science, Linguistics and Archaeology, but I have the option to change them.

Should I change them?

my goal is to either move abroad or try for UPSC

Hi, Assalamwalekum

My maternal family claims they are Pashtuns, but I am a bit skeptical of this claim. I'm here to get some perspective. Thank you.

My mom's paternal grandfather first moved from Afghanistan to Peshawar, and then to Rajasthan, India due to a property dispute with his brothers. He was a Suleimani pashtun and used the name "Shed/Syed" (?) He later joined the king's army.

He spoke Pashto fluently. My mom can understand and speak it too, though she isn't fully fluent. However, my mom's paternal grandmother wasn't Pashtun; she was n Ansari.

My mom's paternal grandfather stayed strongly connected to his roots, but unfortunately, he died when she was only a kid. Her dad and grandpa had a strained relation and hence, he wasn't connected to his Pashtun (?) roots. Despite this gap, my mother (esp.) and her brother both consider themselves as Pasthuns.

Pashtun features (esp the eyes & hair) are noticeable in my uncle and his kids, not so much in my mom.

Given all this, are they actually considered Pashtun or not?

hi, I'm from Rajasthan and I'm thinking of pursing BA from either MSU or Paul, MSU is my first preference. What is the bullying scene there? I'm also a muslim...

hi, planning to study in Parul from this year ownwards because of its A++ grade but a I have been seeing a lot of negativity surrounding it. Why? please be honest. whats the bullying scene there? and do you guys have any opinions on Maharaja sayajirao university?