When scoring myself is it ok to out 4 or 5? I feel like it is unfair to always have to be in a constant state of "oh I can do sooo much better" when I am already great at my job.
I was looking at some of my cards and requested 2 limit increases. One went from 1k to 7k and the other went from 1k to 2k.
I used to get super frustrated by people creating more work, actioning things of mine to the point that I have to do re-work, or even just people who love to suck up or take a lot of space in front of managers to look like they are creating all these revolutionary ideas.
I no longer care and now I feel great. I don't take these incidents as something ti internalize and grouch about, instead I sort of just accept thats how the world is. I don't plan on sucking up or running circles around people to get a promotion, because in the end I realize that I am actually pretty damn great at what I do. And if that doesn't show through, then another company will see it.
Basically, this is at least the 10th time one co-worker has gone and published something that I left a comment on to not publish because someone else had updates pending in the document.
It is annoying because to me it appears as though they aren't actually checking the project statuses but instead are moving them along so managers think they are "going above and beyond to be helpful"
This particular person does other things that also give off the perception of sucking up to management and chasing a promotion versus actually doing the job correctly (which I have also very clearly seen quality issues when reviewing their work as part of my role)
It is annoying to say the least.
So for the past 4 or 5 years I have been infatuated with a guy who ive talked to on and off and who happens to live basically on the other side of my neighborhood. He is 30, I am now 25, and what attracted me to him was a mix of feeling like we were on the same level mentally and that we were both ambitious and the fact that he was independent versus most guys I find that are married, dl, etc.
Certain things I liked about his personality but that was with ignoring everything that wasn't pro compatibility, to the point that I was willing to change anything for hi.
I think I just finally I am human and that he is looking for something that I am not. And when looking at pics tonight I sort of realized that while he is attractive to me, every image is of him essentially showing off his expensive cars. And it really clicked with me that he sort of has everything he wants whereas I am working towards the things I want.
So, while it still sucks, and I am very very single, I think it is nice to sort of have myself back and realize that someone who seems alright on paper isn't necessarily going to be the perfect fit emotionally / physically.
So for some context, in the world of grindr I have on and off messaged him for the past 4 years. He usually replies and it's super casual. Years ago I had to cancel meeting up because of personal reasons, and after that I think I missed my shot entirely.
Recently (about a month ago) we started chatting again and had some long phone calls and talks about meeting up, relationships, and compatability. He said he is into me and I did ask him recently again if he wanted to meet or if he was at all interested to which he replies hes super busy right now but is interested.
I get being busy, but I am at the point of facing the reality that there is something going on where he is slightly interested but not enough to actually engage with me or talk to me.
So yeah, I should be over it, but everytime I see him on grindr or on discord I just think to myself all the scenarios in which he might actually reach out and want to go on a date or hangout.
I know it is silly to out all of my mental effort into this guy, but he is really the only person ive liked for years, and I felt like we really vibed well and connected. Point being, there isn't anyone else in my area that I feel this sort of attachment, and more so I feel like deep down he will reach out to me one day.
I thought I was mostly over him, but last night I had a dream and we were on a date and all of the emotions have come back that he is sort of the only person I want.
It just sucks so bad to even consider letting go of these feelings as much as I struggle with them.
I have been in a mood cod a few weeks that has impacted my ability to focus and concentrate at work and school. I have sort of been in a state of being sad with my life but at the same time very unbothered and just going each day at a time. I think I am depressed but high functioning, but am not sure what to do about it.
So basically, its been over a week since we last chatted and I am finally over being the one to reach out to him. I get he's busy (so am I), and it finally clicked with me that it means he isn't actually interested and that is fine.
My issue now is still holding on to what could of been or the fact that we are so close in proximity (1ish mile). I am not necessarily upset about the relationship itself, but I am a bit depressed in general because it sort of reminds me of how hard it is to really find someone I like.
I was watching a movie and the actor that came on was the actor he listed as one of his celebrity crushes and it sort of triggered the feelings again because he also had said I sort of look like them and am their type. Point being, I am struggling with body image in the sense of if I lose weight as part of my goal for better health, not only will I never have a chanve with this guy again, but all the guys interested in me noe wkukd also leave. (these aren't guys id date or meet with, but they are sort of thr only people I talked to)
Basically I was putting on an academic probation hold accidentally and only found out when I went to register for classes. The program director said it should be resolved in time for me to register for summer classes, but that is less than 2 weeks away.
Most of the people I work with are in a different time zone, and I currently start at 9 am, but think it would be great to start later so that I can truly get stuff done versus being burnt out and tired after work.
I have 2 full tubs of brand new books in Russian that I bought a while ago, and am ready to psrt ways with. I don't want to throw them out or donate them to Goodwill who will throw them out so appreciate any suggestions!
For the task of localizing and standardizing content one of two things happens:
a. A decision is made to establish a rule or guideline within a chat thread, but that decision isn't fully communicated to others or included in a document that people can reference (especially in regard to localizing documents)
b. Private meetings occur with select TWs, and it creates a grouping of people with "inside knowledge," and for whatever reason that information isn't ever communicated until something mission critical occurs. This relates to information that is essential for others working on these docs, but these TWs see it as a way to make them essential to the team's dynamic so they don't share what they learn.
There is a lot I could expand on, but essentially in my view there is an issue of information being isolated to the same few people, similar to how often control or knowledge about documentation structures is limited tot senior TWs only.
My frustrating and concern is that this is creating more work in the long-term, and it is defeating the whole purpose of localization as it creates more inconsistencies than it solves. Additionally, because I have experience doing this and going through the process of switching to an entirely new content management system that focuses on reuse, I think that there are a lot of areas where we are creating double work, and where the lack of knowledge transference is creating more senior TWs who again (imo) focus on isolating knowledge to make themselves more essential.
I am not sure if it is worth mentioning again, because last time I did I was just given a back handed comment about why things are the way they are, which is frustrating because although I am newer to the team, I have experience in the field, and more so I am trying to learn as much as possible, which can't be done without access to SMEs, meetings, etc.
To me it is cringe, especially in context of if the lowest paid employee is making 30k a year and then the manager goes on about how they are buying a vacation home etc. Part of me is also on the side of why does this sort of small talk even exist.
Edit: To the people who are pro oversharing these details, why? What does this add to anyone's day? It's not jealousy to consider it rude to share about extensive trips to randomly have to mention your new pool in a short 5 minute call with 40 other people.
So, point of post, I wouldn't say it would be impossible to have a physical or intimate relationship, but he is far from the type of guy I like and the way he presents himself sort of creates an unexpected perception of top versus bottom or who is older or more masculine in the relationship.
It is completely different from what I've ever been drawn to, so I am curious if it is possible for your attraction to sort of change completely as a result of personality?