u/La-Rouge-Elephant

It might sound strange. But regular “just leave now” advice does not help. It’s like my brain every day starts a new life and “forgetting” the things that are very wrong as not every day is emotionally abusive. It’s not same as being drawn to person by enormous love etc its more like a relationship thats so much of a habit I struggle to imagine a different life. Why? I would never think it can happen to me. I’m the logical, straight thinking one usually.

Any similar stories? Advice thats more than “just leave”?

It did not even save it as draft. Showing that security thing all the time. I cannot even verify any security related things - is it a bug?

How to deal with it?

Why it happened?

Hi! Marketer entering countertop business. I’m looking to know more on your customer acquisition. I did a research and it seems that Google works best for most cases in Scandi market. How about USA or Canada?

Hi! I opened new account for my client and it got blocked once. Just posts, no logo yet - can be the reason? I guess yes. Uploaded ID etc - got it back. Then got logo, posts, all set up neatly and just followed few accounts and get this “verify human” thing.
:( Uploaded all asked like video etc. And get banned. So im not human? How to appeal and is it worth it?
Or better create new?

I just dont understand reason why?

Hi! I opened new account for my client and it got blocked once. Just posts, no logo yet - can be the reason? I guess yes. Uploaded ID etc - got it back. Then got logo, posts, all set up neatly and just followed few accounts and get this “verify human” thing.
:( Uploaded all asked like video etc. And get banned. So im not human? How to appeal and is it worth it?
Or better create new?

I just dont understand reason why?

Since I live in Easter EU, just read stats that around 70-80 % of parents don’t pay alimony (mostly men).

And the amount is like 250 usd a month. Just for kids, not like wife’s lifestyle splurges etc. Average salary in country around 2k. 250 usd does not even cover most kindergardens.

It makes me wonder - is that you as a man consider something normal?

Even if you hate ex-wife - kids are yours. Or you would’t feel that way?

I doubt all mothers cut off dads - usually they need help rising them. And even then - the sum is so small for your own kid who needs to go to school, clothing, food, education, etc.

I just happen to be living abroad for many years in a “normal society” , and saw the opposite - men are willing to spend time, money on their kids and even ex-wifes if they take care of kids. Not like supper happy with such arrangements, also not no-limit spendings, but reasonable support.

What happens in a man’s mind regarding kids?

Since I live in Easter EU, just read stats that around 70-80 % of parents don’t pay alimony (mostly men).

And the amount is like 250 usd a month. Just for kids, not like wife’s lifestyle splurges etc. Average salary in country around 2k. 250 usd does not even cover most kindergardens.

It makes me wonder - is that you as a man consider something normal?

Even if you hate ex-wife - kids are yours. Or you would’t feel that way?

I doubt all mothers cut off dads - usually they need help rising them. And even then - the sum is so small for your own kid who needs to go to school, clothing, food, education, etc.

I just happen to be living abroad for many years in a “normal society” , and saw the opposite - men are willing to spend time, money on their kids and even ex-wifes if they take care of kids. Not like supper happy with such arrangements, also not no-limit spendings, but reasonable support.

What happens in a man’s mind regarding kids?

I am confused what’s happening. He said he does not even want to work. If something super interesting then yes - otherwise its ok as it is.

The problem is 35 F wants to plan a basic life with flat purchase, 1 kid , basic wedding etc - 40M says also want all that and with her, bet talking only about common travels, entertainment etc. As soon as she asks to discuss ling term life plans - he has something to say that’s her fault - “oh, but you have too many meetings with friends, we have no time to plan it, because of you” ( 1x a month meets a friend).

No signs of any thinking on property, kids, wedding etc. He says a woman is just not thinking on practical aspects even if she says - “I can cover fully wedding expenses, no problem” (no plans to overspend on this one day party).

Never before experiences that man is not eager to achieve something. Also, is so long time without work - I would assume some part time or project work would be just healthy for his mindset. But hes not interested as “his investments covering basics” and his borrowing from parents so he does not need to sell his investments. But hes asking me to sell my investments when I was out of work and we needed to pay rent. Because “yours are not so good money making investments in stocks”.

Worst thing - he’s became very angry, aggressive, emotionally abusive (never before when working) - so I’m not sure whether its even good idea to take this topic further of planning a life…

Strangely, myself being all logical and decisive, seeing red flags - still need some advise from this forum. What would you do in my situation? ( diverse perspectives will be appreciated).

I just noticed many people who do ads ( or soc media ) jump from one job to another. In my career its also been the case.

I’m wondering which marketing job categories are the nost stable ones? CRM? SEO?

Just discovered I might be ND. I never thought i would struggle so much with work to be honest.

Without a “proper reason”.

It’s even good days when all day in officce is simply “too much”. And I am so irritable at home too. Like nobody can ask me anything, i’m just a grumpy grump.

Anyone can relate or give some reasonable wind-down advice?

I’m curious on this. Is this the material you like working with or its something not so popular? Would you suggest it as a ling lasting and reasonably priced material?

Hi there! Looking for unique pieces to add to my capsule. So tired of basics, i would like to try different textures to add interest in my look. What are your suggestions?

Hey! Here’s the the thing. I’ve been 8 years in marketing and moved to b2b for agency. So far enjoying sales and usung marketing skills too. However, agency also sild marketing, ecom projects so it’s close to what I have done for many years in any case.

Now - having a new offer of manufacturer in design objects, so I will need to find retailers. I kind of like very much the novelty, new things etc. However, I never worked for a manufacturer.

Any advise on best ways to find clients? Before I used Meta ads, email etc. Just wondering if for retail I need to focus more on trade shows, Linkedin outreach, cold calls etc.

Any good experience stories or advise on how to handle most difficult part of the job would be helpful.

I am heading to architect/builders conference. North Italy. Looking for elevated look advice, but only capsule - I want to travel light.

I’m in b2b marketing, content and sales. At the moment, even with soooo many tools available, but very few of marketing/sales know them well - I feel it will take lonk time to replace anything. You?

I know there are joke forums on FB, but I would like to hear more personal stories.

And, were you embarrased or were able to laughed it off?

I just wondering if anyone tried to be on 2 calls at same time or confused Slack chats, etc. Would be fun to read (or learn)

Hi! For those overachievers that managed to keep more than 2 jobs - how do you do it? What type of jobs are those and how do you find them?

Hi! Since most of my marketing jobs required serious business result (boost like 2x the business, or work like E Musk crazy/smart.) I wonder why its not a norm to get a comission too.
Maybe I need to switch industries?

Im now in discussion for switching to b2b marketing/sales. Just want the output for my results.

I just wonder…. Not even diagnosed myself, but started to learn about masking and it really got me re-think my current direction in life that obviously never suited well for me.

Would like to hear more on how you felt with your life after realizing you have ADHD?