u/Middle-Asparagus-802

When getting on the bus I always wait to allow those on the bus to get off first. I’ve always been taught this since i was a kid. If you accidentally got on before someone got off the bus driver would even ask you to step back to let passengers off.

Is that not a thing anymore? I’m regularly seeing people having to try to shove past people to get out the doors because everyone has already jumped on and are blocking the exit. It’s happened to me a few times when I’ve actually had to stand in the wheelchair bay to let the passengers pay and sit down before I can get off as they all block the door.

I was going in to Bolton last week and a woman with a pram was trying to get off but everyone jumped on the bus so fast and blocked the entry she couldn’t get to the exit and some didn’t even bother finding seats just stood near the door so the bus driver didn’t see the poor woman trying to get off and drove off.

Why is this happening?? I thought it was common knowledge to wait so people mustn’t be teaching it to their kids anymore. Although I even see older people doing it too

I might be old fashioned but it’s actually really annoying to watch people just jump on the bus as soon as it stops without a care for others 🤣

Is it not a thing anymore?

So we get to work and one of our usual nurses called in sick at night. So we had a nurse from the emergency department float up to our unit. Our breaks start at 10 and we get half an hour each.

So the float nurse was on first break. He went off the unit to get food. He came back 40 minutes later and went ‘woah the line at the canteen was crazy, Ill go for my break now’ 🤨🤨 so he didn’t class the 40 minutes he was gone as his break even tho we had taken csre of his patients for 40 minutes and now it was my turn for break. I mentioned it to the charge nurse and she said it’s fine and I just go when he comes back. So he came back again after like 40 minutes so I said ok I’ll go on break now. He said if I go now there will only be 1 nurse on the floor. So I asked how if he is back from break. He said he has to go praying now. He said it’s non-negotiable and as it’s his religious he can’t be stopped from going. So he went and was gone again around 45 minutes.

Me and the charge nurse missed our breaks as when he got back it was basically lunch time so missed breakfast. I wake up at 5am and don’t eat until first break. So I didn’t eat anything until almost 1pm and felt dizzy and sick as we can’t have food or drink on the unit and I was too busy managing mine plus his patients to leave and grab something.

I kept complaining to the charge nurse because we’ve just had 15 patients each for the last almost 2 hours and she was saying it’s fine he’s a really nice person, he’s come to help us and it’s religious purposes. But he didn’t come to help us he was sent to help us. Not like he volunteered.

I don’t care about him praying that’s fine it’s the 1.5 hour long break which was all 3 nurses breaks. If he had his notmal 30 minutes we would have all had a break before he even needed to go praying.

Not sure how he is getting away with this in the ED department. I just feel so annoyed. Not only did I work through a break I don’t get paid for but also had extra patients that were all due antibiotics and vitals ect. Not to mention none of us knew anything about these patients and were constantly being asked questions we couldn’t answer.

It’s not fairrrrrrrrrrr. I sound like a toddler having a tantrum but I don’t care 🤣

Hint-it’s not me.

But can whoever it is just admit it? Like what’s the worst that can happen. No one believes anything on here anyway 🤣

So today I saw chewwits for the first time in years. I remember as a kid literally everyone used to eat the paper wrapper. I have no idea why. I just remember me and all my friends sharing them and no one ever unwrapping them. Well today I tried to eat the wrapper and almost choked 🤣

Was eating the wrapper an actual thing back then? Maybe they were edible and not now or was I just a weird kid?

Btw I don’t mean the paper outer packet I mean the individual paper wrapped around them

So for months I have been telling my mom the dog is unwell. She had very sore, dry and swollen ears and was constantly itching and also limping. I put a lot of work in to researching her symptoms and told my mom multiple times the dog has ear and skin Infection as well as something wrong with her leg.

My delusional mother claimed there was nothing wrong with the dog she was just acting up to get her attention. She claims the dog loves her that much that whenever she leaves the room the dog pretends to be ill and this can last for weeks 🤣🤣 makes no sense since she is barely ever with the dog…

Anyway I took control of the situation, saw a vet and I was right. The dog has Infections and a sore leg which I’m in the process of fixing now. I told my mom and she got so angry saying the vet is wrong and she is right and said that the dog probably played up in front of the vet because she had withdrawals for being so far apart from her.

She just can’t accept that I was right and claimed she had to drink a full bottle of wine and get drunk because of me ‘challenging her’

Anyway, the dog is now on an elimination diet and I had to spend a lot of money on special food aswell as almost 500 on the vet costs and it turns out she has been sabotaging the entire thing. She has been secretly giving the dog cakes, fried chicken, Chinese food. Even though she never gave her any of this before. She is acting out because she is annoyed that I was right that the dog was unwell.

What kind of psycho gets jealous of someone helping a dog?? Why is not she grateful that I am paying HER dogs vet bills and getting her better? She got angry and was like they probably think your the dogs mom now and you never will be 💀

I left the nhs 5 months ago due to stress and burnout and just lived off savings since. I worked my 2 months notice and left on good terms.

Well now I have been offered a new job and have been waiting around 3 weeks for a reference from my line manager. I did see a ex colleague last week who told me the line manager is currently off work. I don’t know if it’s annual leave or sick or sick leave. So instead I gave HR email. However they’ve replied saying only line managers can give references.

So what now?? How can I get a reference if the line manager isn’t responding and still possibly on leave?

The job isn’t to wait forever for me.

I have given them the email address of a band 6 sister who I know often stepped up if manager was on leave. I believe she was deputy. Will they give me a reference?

Is it ok for me to give their email address without discussing it with them first? I just want to get the reference sent out asap and if I message them first without send an out the reference it would take days or weeks for a response

I’m talking about members of the MDT so Drs, physios, OTs ect. I just feel like all day every day they are coming to me asking me things that they could just do themselves.

Constantly coming to ask me if their next patient is sat out of bed or not. Surely when you go to see them you will see with your eyes if they are in bed or not? It’s not something to interrupt a meds round for.

Or I would have started my shift 5 minutes ago and hounded with questions if a patient can walk, swallow, drink yet we all had the exact same handover at the exact same time. So how would I magically know more info

Physios and OTs recently keep interrupting my meds round to tell me they can’t get a patient out of bed as they are soiled. So instead of going to the aids themselves, they come to me to ask me to stop my meds to get the aids for them. It makes no sense

Just all day coming to me interrupting me for things they could do themself but for some reason expect me to do.

Not to mention every time a patient wants something I’ve heard them say ‘let me get the nurse for you’ but alls they have asked for is a cup of water or something anyone could have done

It’s just draining me. I don’t ask anyone for anything. I also don’t care if they need my help or generally don’t know something. I’m happy to help. But at this point they arnt even trying 🤣 99% of their questions could be answered if they just looked at the patient or spoke with them.

Asking me does a patient take sugar in their drink. Ask them!! 🤨

So I have a long term partner however his favourite hobby is lying in bed all day. He works Monday-Friday 9-5 so on weekends just wants to stay in bed and not leave the house

But I’m someone who wants to go out all the time and haven’t really been anywhere in almost 2 years.

But I’ve bought myself a railcard now and want to start going on a lot of solo trips and enjoying myself.

does anyone else go on solo trips despite having a partner? What places can I go to? I’m thinking Lancaster castle tomorrow

I’m honestly open to anything as long as it is interesting

My dog poos 4/5 times a day on average all very large poos. I’ve never known a dog to poop this much. We clean the garden and as soon as it’s clean she will have filled it up again.

We have changed her diet drastically and we are now weighing her food but has not made a change to her poo habits

So for the last few years my mom’s boyfriend has basically been crying poverty. He has a very good paying job but has been claiming he can’t afford his bills, can’t afford food, and other living essentials. He claimed even though he was on a good wage he had a lot of debt that was taking the majority of his money.

So my mom worked overtime, borrowed money, took out loans to pay the bills and recently I have spent a large portion of my savings on taking their dog to the vets since they claimed they couldn’t afford it.

Well last week was his birthday and his ‘birthday gift to himself’ was a 70k supercar. He drove up as though he thought we wouldn’t even question it?? Then he started telling us how he paid a large amount upfront and now has to pay 800 a month. But last week was crying that he couldn’t even afford a jar of coffee.

He claimed he had been pretending to have no money to save up for this car because it’s an ‘investment’. How is it an investment? Cars lose money by the second. He has literally scammed us all, basically frauded us in to using our own money because he wanted to save up for this car and to feed his own ego.

My mom doesn’t even care??? She was angry day 1 and now she is like he’s already bought it so it’s too late to do anything about it. Girl you literally had to beg your family members for money just to pay your rent last month. Get mad!!!

Not to mention he has afforded this car but snapped yesterday when we asked him to buy toilet paper and shouted at me ‘I’m not made of money’ make it make sense??

Sorry but I want all the money back from him that I paid to help them out. I paid their vet bills, bought them food, borrowed them money to pay bills which I never got back. Like I’ve literally been scammed by my own stepdad lmao

Yet I’m the only one who seems to care he has played us all

Can I get my money back? When I borrowed money I gave it in cash, but I would be on record for paying everything at the vets. I didn’t mind paying at first but now finding out I was scammed I want my money back.

So my dog is just getting worse by the day.
A few months ago I started out walking her in the garden for a few weeks, then just walks up and down the street, then slowly getting further and once time managed an hour walk.

Now she isn’t even safe to step foot out the house. For the past month or maybe longer if she sees a dog even if it’s far away she will become very aggressive, barking, lunging towards the dog, and I’m not even joking when I say it’s like she has superhuman strength, she has never been this strong

Yesterday I tried to take her for a walk in our garden but as soon as the front door opened she just started barking and growling at a cat and trying to lunge for it so I made her stay inside.

Today I tried again. She was very calm so I put her lead on to walk in the garden. Our garden has a fence and a gate so we thought she can’t get out. Also didn’t put her muzzle on as we was in the garden. Anyway I was walking her around with her lead on and a lady and a chiuahah was walking on the overside.

She became extremely aggressive lunging at the fence trying to throw her self over it, growling, barking, snapping her teeth, I was trying to hold her back but like I said I swear she has superhuman strength she even went to the gate and was trying to open the lock with her nose. It took 3 of us to get her back inside and even then we struggled

Then the woman started shouting at me saying I’m choking the dog?? She has a lead that goes around her neck. But sorry it’s not my fault if she is literally lunging towards you and choking herself and if I didn’t hold on to the lead your dog could have been eaten?? I really don’t understand where she was coming from that. I was not doing it on purpose and would never want to hurt her but was trying to save an accident from happening

She settled down as soon as she was inside. I just don’t know what’s happening with her. She isn’t safe to leave the house at all anymore. She has a vet visit next week and I don’t think I can get her there as I can’t drive and it’s too risky for her to be out.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I just feel like crying. We are thinking of getting in a behavioural therapist once we have saved money

Pocket bully. Not sure of age we think around 3

So my dog is just getting worse by the day.
A few months ago I started out walking her in the garden for a few weeks, then just walks up and down the street, then slowly getting further and once time managed an hour walk.

Now she isn’t even safe to step foot out the house. For the past month or maybe longer if she sees a dog even if it’s far away she will become very aggressive, barking, lunging towards the dog, and I’m not even joking when I say it’s like she has superhuman strength, she has never been this strong

Yesterday I tried to take her for a walk in our garden but as soon as the front door opened she just started barking and growling at a cat and trying to lunge for it so I made her stay inside.

Today I tried again. She was very calm so I put her lead on to walk in the garden. Our garden has a fence and a gate so we thought she can’t get out. Also didn’t put her muzzle on as we was in the garden. Anyway I was walking her around with her lead on and a lady and a chiuahah was walking on the overside.

She became extremely aggressive lunging at the fence trying to throw her self over it, growling, barking, snapping her teeth, I was trying to hold her back but like I said I swear she has superhuman strength she even went to the gate and was trying to open the lock with her nose. It took 3 of us to get her back inside and even then we struggled

Then the woman started shouting at me saying I’m choking the dog?? She has a lead that goes around her neck. But sorry it’s not my fault if she is literally lunging towards you and choking herself and if I didn’t hold on to the lead your dog could have been eaten?? I really don’t understand where she was coming from that. I was not doing it on purpose and would never want to hurt her but was trying to save an accident from happening

She settled down as soon as she was inside. I just don’t know what’s happening with her. She isn’t safe to leave the house at all anymore. She has a vet visit next week and I don’t think I can get her there as I can’t drive and it’s too risky for her to be out.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I just feel like crying. We are thinking of getting in a behavioural therapist once we have saved money

Pocket bully. Not sure of age we think around 3

So my mother is crazy. I’m not talking a small amount of crazy, she has been on the psych ward multiple times. However, now she refuses to take her medication as she claims there is nothing wrong with her.

Well, her new obsession is convincing everyone my boyfriend is secretly in love with her. A family member called me up to ask if I knew my mom had told everyone that my boyfriend is in love with her and going to leave me for her 🤣🤣

I then found out her reason for believing this is because when they had a conversation at my house while I was in the shower, he had looked deep in to her eyes the entire time 🤣 is that not normal? To look at the person you are having a conversation with

Anyway I found this out a few weeks ago, told my bf and he was almost sick. I didn’t mention it to my mom because honestly it didn’t even surprise me. It’s the type of stuff she does

Well now when my bf stays over she is walking in my room with just a towel on claiming she needs to borrow deodorant or some perfume. But then will stand in my room and talk with nothing but her towel on. Also been asking him to drive her to work even though her job is literally a nine minute walk away.

Now my bf said he is never coming to my house ever again and that he feels extremely uncomfortable and like there is no boundaries in the house.

But what can I do? I don’t know that she is going to burst in my room with a towel on. When I asked her she said ‘so it’s my house and I wasn’t naked’.

She generally doesn’t realise how crazy she is. What to do now? She won’t accept that she is at fault