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I am also a religious person and i think its good to have faith in religion but everything that is happening she is connecting it to religion.

Yesterday a person almost got hurt and as a saying here he said ,,thank god it didn’t hurt me,, . My gf started ranting how beautiful it was that he said thank god and never said glad he is okay. I didn’t wanna ruin her beliefs but it seems a bit obsessive.

And everything that is happening she starts talking how religion and god will show us the way of some sort and completely ditches reality sometimes.

Anyone else who is like this or has a way of dealing with this ? I think god is a part of what is happening but sometimes we have to deal with reality and play our cards and not depend on god to deal us with double aces every time .

I am a male ,22 , gf is 21 .Not cheating, not intimacy. But i had this female friend from college that we had a good friendship together. My gf was always jealous of her and has told me to cut contact with her . While i don’t talk with her often . Sometimes we catch up and we talk on the phone just life stuff .

The friend has some serious issues and she is surrounded by fake people and her family is forcing her to to things she doesn’t like and she has no exit apart from leaving the country. She has told me to come multiple times just to have a friend in town , and ofc i want to help her by my gf has made it clear she doesn’t wanna be apart of my life . I even told her to cone to coffee with her but she refuses .

I feel like a dick for not helping my friend when i can and for crossing my gfs boundaries and idk what to do . I am a good person i wanna help people but at the same time i don’t want to be a bad boyfriend.

For context this girl from college is very kind , she wanted to meet my gf various times and is very respectful towards me . Never flirted with me and never tried to do something out of the ordinary.

I just always feel like a bad person when she gets mad and always names problems that aren’t problems and i always explain and sometimes even over explain things just to ease out the madness .

For example yesterday she got mad that i have a game on my phone that i played with my colleagues in class to kill time , she got mad that i haven’t told her that i have that game .

She gets mad when i don’t tell her the exact words that a female colleague has texted me , note :the texts are college related or super friendly, never flirty or something crossing a line .

She gets mad when i do something that doesn’t involve her .

She gets mad when i have an opinion thats different from hers .

She gets mad when she doesn’t see who texted me on my phone and is always curious and has to
know when a notification pops up on my screen .

She will get mad at me for posting on my story when she does it 10x times as me .

She gets mad for basically everything i do and i feel useless when im with her.

I like to think that i am a good person , never had any bad history , was very quiet as a kid , i love being healthy , i don’t do drugs or get drunk , don’t smoke , and i do everything for her but it seems its not enough. I give her compliments, love her, and am not controlling her and im letting her live her life without me trying to stop her .

So is it like a girl stereotypical thing or is it worrying?

Me(22M) have been i some situations where my gf(21F) seems to fake things to avoid doing what i like after we do what she wanted .

One thing was when we were at a concert that i talked about for months , when we went there she got ill and dizzy and we had to go home , which i didn’t mind because i love her , and thought none of it .

I started questioning this when we went shopping , we were on our feet for about 5 hours for her to look and shop for herself, i probably went to 1-2 shops to see for myself but was mostly for her which i didn’t mind again . After we went home , i really wanted to go to this basketball shop my mouth was watering because im a basketball person and this was like a dream . She started saying that her legs hurt , she is exhausted blah blah and mind you the shop was like 5 min walk from the hotel . And i went alone , i was very excited but you are telling me i can go 5 hours for her but she can’t 5 mins for me ?

Again could be a coincidence but its getting more and more often that when she likes something i will kill my legs for it but when its my turn to do something fun she always is sick , her legs hurt , she is dizzy , and it feels like she isn’t valuing my likings .

She wanted to run with me one time and i was excited, very excited. And when we went on the run she got dizzy again , her legs hurt , and we walked the running track . Idk what do i think of this ?

Not sure if its a male female thing , but every time i post myself or a gym pic (not thirst trap) , my gf would get passive aggressive and even poke me that j do it for attention. I post once or twice a month . While she posts herself 5x the time that i do sometimes even something revealing and i don’t actually care i like it and compliment her every time . Also she has gotten mad for not posting her when in reality i post her every time she hasn’t posted me in the last year just shares my story .

Is it like a male female thing and am I overreacting?

Im really annoyed because when my girl posts pictures of herself on stories, cf and posts i like them and i compliment her and im really happy she is confident. But when i post sometimes a picture of myself or a gym photo , i rarely post , mainly on my cf she always turns passive aggressive and sometimes even pokes me that i post for attention. Its really annoying.

My gf of 5 years i was treating like a princess , everything she wants and to make her happy , but lately that behavior has been getting out of hand . She constantly gets ideas from social media and her brain is basically tiktok videos and ig reels . We were planning our vacation and her recommended place is ,,somewhere where people aren’t going like a hidden gem ,, again , a tiktok social media saying , while not having enough money she wants to go somewhere where people aren’t going , both those things cant go together. Also , she isn’t getting along with people , like she has 2 friends only but they constantly fight over stupid things and when she goes oht with someone else she will find a flaw , don’t like them , or just say that they are ,,jealous of her,, . Sometimes she gets very controlling, asking every detail, demanding my phone , every notification i get needs to be seen by her . She also gets a bit childish and i feel like im raising a toddler rather than dating , she will want me to open her door when she feels like it and those things . Also the one thing that bothers me is that i have never cheated, never had any intentions of cheating and never will , and she still doesn’t trust me when females are around me sometimes. I have some colleagues from college , and ahe has demanded that I dont even drink a coffee with them as a group when im in their town . Its getting really annoying and its hard and i feel like I don’t deserve this . Idk what to do but I definitely need some advice . I have tried to explain to her some things but she either finds them like im dissing her or gets defensive and attacks me.

My gf of 5 years i was treating like a princess , everything she wants and to make her happy , but lately that behavior has been getting out of hand . She constantly gets ideas from social media and her brain is basically tiktok videos and ig reels . We were planning our vacation and her recommended place is ,,somewhere where people aren’t going like a hidden gem ,, again , a tiktok social media saying , while bot having enough money she wants to go somewhere where people aren’t going , both those things cant go together. Also , she isn’t getting along with people , like she has 2 friends only but they constantly fight over stupid things and when she goes oht with someone else she will find a flaw , don’t like them , or just say that they are ,,jealous of her,, . Sometimes she gets very controlling, asking every detail, demanding my phone , every notification i get needs to be seen by her . She also gets a bit childish and i feel like im raising a toddler rather than dating , she will want me to open her door when she feels like it and those things . Also the one thing that bothers me is that i have never cheated, never had any intentions of cheating and never will , and she still doesn’t trust me when females are around me sometimes. I have some colleagues from college , and ahe has demanded that I dont even drink a coffee with them as a group when im in their town . Its getting really annoying and its hard and i feel like I don’t deserve this . Idk what to do but talk about it .

Long story short we have been together for 5 years and things over time have gotten more confusing and controlling and its getting on my nerves and idk what to do . For context: i had a female friend of 5 years which my gf was fine with , but social media and her friends gaslit her into thinking i want something to do with her (which i don’t) , but i folded and cut contact with her . She doesn’t know how to be bored , she always gets mad and asks some hypothetical stupid questions to get mad at me . Last night she got mad at me for calling my friend who is on work in a different continent 4000km away and basically telling me ,,you chose him over me ?!?!,, and i just ignored it because it was so stupid . Sometimes , in a basic sitting in our pijamas she will wait outside my car for me to open her door , she will get mad for me not giving her enough compliments and saying i love her , which i do but not to the extent that she wants. She basically wants to be treated as a princess.

Not gonna tell every scenario i have been in but basically she is too much on her phone , she watches romances who sometimes are very not realistic and reads romances . Which is fine to me but she will sometimes say ,,lets get drunk and have sex,, which i know she got from something because she is not really a drinking girl . And every one of her videos , reels , tiktoks get into her head and she wants to live this fairytale where its just ,,us vs the world,, and that a man should do what she wants because , and she told me this ,,i am the prize,,. And its gotten so ridiculous that i feel numb , i dont have my spark and j feel dull. I am so mad and so powerless that I can’t do anything but yap about it.

Long story short we have been together for 5 years and things over time have gotten more confusing and controlling and its getting on my nerves and idk what to do . For context: i had a female friend of 5 years which my gf was fine with , but social media and her friends gaslit her into thinking i want something to do with her (which i don’t) , but i folded and cut contact with her . She doesn’t know how to be bored , she always gets mad and asks some hypothetical stupid questions to get mad at me . Last night she got mad at me for calling my friend who is on work in a different continent 4000km away and basically telling me ,,you chose him over me ?!?!,, and i just ignored it because it was so stupid . Sometimes , in a basic sitting in our pijamas she will wait outside my car for me to open her door , she will get mad for me not giving her enough compliments and saying i love her , which i do but not to the extent that she wants. She basically wants to be treated as a princess.

Not gonna tell every scenario i have been in but basically she is too much on her phone , she watches romances who sometimes are very not realistic and reads romances . Which is fine to me but she will sometimes say ,,lets get drunk and have sex,, which i know she got from something because she is not really a drinking girl . And every one of her videos , reels , tiktoks get into her head and she wants to live this fairytale where its just ,,us vs the world,, and that a man should do what she wants because , and she told me this ,,i am the prize,,. And its gotten so ridiculous that i feel numb , i dont have my spark and j feel dull. I need some advice on how to deal with this or how to approach a conversation with her without her getting mad.

Tldr my gf is very gaslit from social media and is lost from reality .

Me and my gf have been together for 4 years now and over time it feels like she hasn’t grown up yet.

The situation in particular, we were out yesterday and she made it jokingly that i hit her on her arm she bumped into me and said that she wanted a kiss on the arm . We were out and im sorry but i said i will do it in the car there are people around us and its a bit weird kissing your arm in public . She got fake mad and then it became actually getting upset .

For more context she is always acting childish , doesn’t care about anything other than her feelings , wants to control everything about me and I can’t make a proper conversation with her . Lets say I start talking about work or what my goals are at the moment,what i did what happened, she will look at herself in the mirror not listening to me and she will say something very different and i feel very stupid . For gods sake she couldn’t even remember my firms name for 2 years ( its my dads firm so it means a lot to me ) . And i feel like im dating a child who doesn’t care about real world stuff and just cares about me telling her how much i love her and complimenting her . She thinks she is the prize .

Tldr my gf is acting childish and i need some advice how to handle it

Me and my girl have been together for 5 years now and since the start she is always complaining and it seems i am not enough even tho i do everything for her and i need help .

For example, she is always complaining about some of my girls friends and i cut them out . Always complaining about lets say i follow a girl i know and she is good looking , she will say ,,why are tou folowing her , do you like what you see?,, and provoking me everytime . Sometimes i will go out with her and 2-3 days i will do something else and ahe will complain that we don’t go out enough when in reality we go out 3-5 times a week . She will complain that we go home early but in reality i go out till 12 and i have work the next morning. Ahe will complain that i don’t compliment her enough, that i dont buy her flowers often , that I drive some thpe of way , that im too friendly and women can find that as flirtin. She will complain that i work too much, that i post too much on my close friends story and basically i feel like whatever i do im not enough and its demotivating.

And i need some help of how to deal with this.

Tldr my gf is complaining way too much and its demotivating to be in this relationship.

Me and my girl have been together for 5 years now and since the start she is always complaining and it seems i am not enough even tho i do everything for her and i need help .

For example, she is always complaining about some of my girls friends and i cut them out . Always complaining about lets say i follow a girl i know and she is good looking , she will say ,,why are tou folowing her , do you like what you see?,, and provoking me everytime . Sometimes i will go out with her and 2-3 days i will do something else and ahe will complain that we don’t go out enough when in reality we go out 3-5 times a week . She will complain that we go home early but in reality i go out till 12 and i have work the next morning. Ahe will complain that i don’t compliment her enough, that i dont buy her flowers often , that I drive some thpe of way , that im too friendly and women can find that as flirtin. She will complain that i work too much, that i post too much on my close friends story and basically i feel like whatever i do im not enough and its demotivating.

And i need some help of how to deal with this.

Tldr my gf is complaining way too much and its demotivating to be in this relationship.

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Проблем ми е испораката , дали да одам по македонска пошта и да се надевам дека ке чекаат 1 месец или има други начини?

Фала ви ногу однапред ❤️

My gf has this sort of thing where if i tell her something that happened to me or someone close to me , especially if its a female , she will say oh yeah well this happened to me or someone close to her . Basically undervaluing the thing that i told her and shifting it onto her . We are people i have also done that sometimes but lets say i tell her , can i have the day off today i need some space or something, she will reply well i also need space and i make time for you , basically denying that i need space and one upping herself.

So i(22M) while in college have started to sell custom plates for decorations purposes in my country and i have made about 300-600 € monthly while working about 6-8 hours a week from them . I have had thoughts of making it official and selling them worldwide but i will need to invest some money to promote and for packaging.
I work alone for this and i make them for 4€ while selling for 15€ and i see some potential but at the same time i can see how it will fail . What is your advice , opinion?

I don’t know how many people think this way but in the groups i have been , people get really annoyed when their partner is doing something without them and more so doing things that involve people from the opposite gender .

To me when someone has goals , works on themselves and does things without depending on another person is more attractive than someone who will depend on you for everything, work , goals , hobbies.

Like of course you will need to find something to so tk together to feel like you value each other but some personal** **hobbies should stay personal .

Long story short i was in college with my roommate and we finished college . I have the apartment for 3 more months but I remembered this happening a couple of months ago and its still bothering me .

When my roommate wasn’t there i went with my girl just for her to sleep there with me because i was in college in another town . When i went to the bathroom she went into my roommates cabinet and found his girlfriends stuff and his condoms . When j went out I confronted her and she got a bit mad because in her defense ,,he won’t find out because i will put them back ajd he wont find out ,, which is true but from a moral aspect that is borderline insane and disrespectful.

For context she is always disrespectful towards peoples privacy from her family to me . She used to constantly check my phone to see if I cheated which I haven’t nor ever will . She is also my first relationship.

So aitah for confronting her and getting a bit mad when she did this or?

Me and my girl have been together for 4 and a half years . We had our ups and downs but lately she can’t stand the fact that i have some female friends . I never go out with them , just sometimes catch up since they are my college friends . I have both male and female friends .
My gf told me that this has made her trauma and I couldn’t sleep these last few weeks because kf that and yesterday i went out with her to talk , just try to understand both of our realities. I explained everything, that friendships are normal at this age , that I don’t and won’t have feelings for anyone else but her but she doesn’t seem to understand me . She told me quote ,,i should be the only female friend you have and thats the bare minimum,, and I can’t seem to wrap my head around that .

I am also a friendly person , i wont be a dick to someone who doesn’t deserve it , and she doesn’t like that , she has called me out multiple times that being friendly with another female could make her believe that im flirting with her , which im not . I explained and explained and even gave her a hypothetical: what if i had a childhood friend for over 10 years and you met me ? What then?
Her reply was ,, you either cut her out or not be with me because i might catch feelings for her,,
Which to me was insane, but i guess everyone has their opinions. She got mad and started raising her tone that i cannot have female friends .

For context these are my friends from college , strictly platonic friends, nothing more . They are from another town and i might see them lets say 4-8 times a year because i have an apartment in their town . She has also told me that when i go there i can call up mg male friends only not any female friends . And to me that is kind of controlling and a bit insane because if she can’t trust me being next to a person of the other gender , how can she be safe with me because in life you are bound to have friends from the opposite gender wether you like it or not. And i have told her before ,, anything i am doing , im fine with you doing,, and she says im telling her that to excuse my friendships . And she doesn’t want to understand me adn ia still strict on that, even tho i told her that she can come with us to coffe outing or some shit like that just to see that there is nothing more.

And i don’t know what to do?

Tldr gf has some strict boundaries and idk if we are compatible