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Ah yes, the peak journalistic investigative brilliance of our TV studios striking again! Imagine having Jean Drèze right in front of you: a world-renowned development economist who co-authored seminal work with Nobel laureate Amartya Sen, played a key role in drafting MGNREGA and the National Food Security Act, has lived in rural India for over four decades, and most importantly someone who is a citizen of India like you and me.. but you decide to racially profile him 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

And your ultimate, high-IQ policy question is: "Where did you come from?" 🤦‍♀️ I wonder if journalist in india are even qualified to be one He is more indian and much more of a nationalist than you all could ever be. he has done way more for for this country than any of you people

I kinda had been reading the memoirs of the militant Swadhinantha Phukan alias Kabiranjan Saikia and went down the rabbit hole with regards to many such rebels in modern Indian history. Before that just want to make it clear that I absolutely do not support separatism, but at the same time I do not know why I cannot help but feel a sense of empathy for them?

He was in his 20s when he dropped out of college and eventually joined the militant outfit ULFA. He died at the age of 26, when he was encountered by the military. stating all this as someone who leans left politically, I am constantly questioning how our state and society create monsters out of sensitive people, only to celebrate actual monsters in the mainstream. Reading about his life particularly completely broke me.

What really made me cry was learning about his letters to his girlfriend. She was sexually assaulted by army officers during the height of the insurgency. In the suffocating, damp heat of the Assam society did what it always does to survivors. They labeled her impure. They treated her as tainted goods and cast her aside. But Kabiranjan wrote to her with a radical love that is rare even today and this was smh from the 90s.

He told her directly that her trauma did not define her worth and that society's rejection meant nothing to him. He wrote to her saying, Xomaaje jiman apabitra buli nokouk kiyo, tumi xodai mur kolijar apon. No matter how impure society calls you, you will always be the closest to my heart. He validated her pain when the whole world turned a blind eye. He told her, Mur morom tumar xokolou bikh xaboti lobo. My love will embrace all your pain. To see a man in the 90s, surrounded by violence, holding his assaulted lover in such high regard and fiercely protecting her dignity against a patriarchal society is just profoundly moving. He saw her soul, not the violence inflicted upon her body.

What makes his story even more tragic is his stance within ULFA itself. He was in a militant organization no doubt, but he actively condemned them from the inside when they started targeting civilians. He even openly condemned and fought to punish any ULFA cadre that would harm someone from mainland India, stating Amar zuj bharot sorkaror biruddhe, bharotiyor biruddhe nohoy. our fight is with the indian government, not indians. He openly criticized the leadership for shedding innocent blood. He had a strict moral compass about not harming the vulnerable, which is incredibly rare for an armed insurgent.

Yet today, many in rest of India still see him as a terrorist. Ofc he rebelled against India, but seriously can you blame him. Because at that time, the indian army had complete immunity to assault even children and get away scotch free with it. If you also read his story, he was pushed to the brink with how much the Indian army itself inflicted pain on his family. so can we really blame him for rebelling?

It just leaves me with a very bitter feeling about modern Indian history. A young guy who loved an assaulted woman with everything he had, who stood against civilian killings within his own ranks, and who pushed against systematic injustice against the people of Northeast is permanently branded as a terrorist and shot down.

Meanwhile, we live in a reality today where politicians who are literal rapists, or who garland and celebrate rapists, sit in our parliaments. They are given power, respect, and police protection. How do we make peace with a society that destroys a poet for picking up a gun, but blindly worships leaders who destroy women every single day? I would love to know how what you all think of these dark hypocrisies.

Going from childhood best friends to this... guys, what did I do to deserve this? 😭✨ He gave me this for bf day lmao, like I should have given him instead :/

A group of girls cornered another girl, in the washroom of a coaching centre, beat her, cut her clothes off, hacked her hair, and humiliated her while recording it. Made her life actual hell.

I won't even call it "bullying." This is assault. This is criminal.

And what's happening? Where's the strict action? Why are we still treating this like school drama instead of the violent crime it is? They just faced a suspension like seriously??

India needs to wake up. This culture of letting assault slide because "they're just kids" or "it's a personal matter" is exactly why this keeps happening. File real charges Make an example.

I am starting to feel numb to all this because every single day there is another despicable case, but this one just hit a new low. What the fk is happening in India? We are supposed to rely on the police for safety, but they are the ones committing these heinous crimes.

In Arunachal Pradesh, a Sessions Court just sentenced a police personnel, R. Nayam, to life imprisonment for abetment of rape. The details are sickening. well atleast some justice ig?

The case itself is so sickening. Nayam and other police officers literally dragged a minor boy (13) and a minor girl (12) from the roadside into the police station and once inside, they physically assaulted the minors and forced them to have sexual intercourse with each other.

To make it even worse, they filmed the entire thing on a mobile phone and circulated it as an MMS to the public. Nayam's lawyer tried to plead for leniency saying he had kids, sick parents, and was "acting on instructions from senior officers", which is just terrifying if true.

The court rejected the plea for mercy, but the fact that a cop on duty used his power to assault and humiliate minors inside a police station is just beyond depressing.

How are women and children supposed to feel safe when the protectors are the predators? I’m just so exhausted by the constant stream of these news stories. Are we ever going to see real change in the system?

what makes it outrageous is if you read the judgement of the court, they acquitted all others, because they apparently did not physically assault the children, just forced them to have intercourse and filmed it. apparently that only meant a 25,000 Rs fine. The police also initially tried filing the FIR against the boy who is only 13. the boy was kept in juvenile detention by rakesh nayam where he was further assaulted. apparently this extra assault was why Rakesh got life imprisonment while the other police officers were only allowed to go with a fine.

Also look at the comments made by men on facebook and insta with laughing emojis.

these are like majority of men, insta comments on this incident are even more horrendous. some people are commenting about how lucky the boy should have been, that police uncle "helped him" i lost hope on indians

and this is also to the women out here, who think Northeast Indian men are such a gentlemen. girl no, they are all of the same filth

Can we please collectively revoke the mic from random uncles who think young girls are just sitting around waiting for their expert life guidance?

So in this video, we have this genius standing in front of a classroom of visibly exhausted school kids in uniforms, pacing back and forth like he's yk dropping a Pulitzer winning philosophy. 🤣🤣His main hot take? That girls only get Instagram famous or wear clothes to impress boys, and that having a boyfriend is basically a one-way ticket to ruining your entire existence.

Ah yes, thank you random uncle in a turban and saffron scarf, because before this groundbreaking lecture, these school kids had absolutely zero concept of life outside of reels. loved the side-eyes and blank stares from the kids tho lmaooo

when will these inc*ls realize we do not dress to impress anyone lmao

Ah yes, the geopolitical mastermind andhbhakt strikes again.

Imagine believing that equal rights for women is actually a top secret, foreign funded terror operation designed specifically to break up marriages and dismantle culture. Because obviously, the biggest threat to national stability isn't systemic inequality, corruption, or poverty; it's a woman asking to be treated like a human being.

It’s always fascinating how fragile these ancient, thousands of years old cultural values suddenly become the moment someone suggests women should have autonomy. If basic gender equality is enough to single handedly collapse your entire social fabric and marriage system, maybe the problem isn't foreign funding. Maybe the foundation was just built on sand, nah?

Also love the classic victim complex lmaooo. Feminism is attacking only one culture, because as we all know, patriarchy, religious fundamentalism, and misogyny don't exist anywhere else on the planet. It must be so exhausting living in a world where every single push for basic human dignity is secretly a grand conspiracy against your personal worldview

idk if this means anything though 😭 I so ffing regret sending that wall of text to him, like wtf was my dumb head thinking

I am dumb fr, who even says this over text 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

this is my guy best friend... he had requested me to introduce him and set him up with my high school wala friend 😭

I just stumbled upon this absolute masterpiece of patriarchal logic. According to this amazing preacher Murat Bayaral, men without beards might cause "indecent thoughts" in other men because they "look like women". Let that sink in. Apparently, a smooth jawline is now a gateway to moral panic because a man might accidentally look like a woman. Women's faces are once again treated as inherently inappropriate by default, to the point where even a passing resemblance poses an existential threat to male self-control, lmaoo

is Gillette about to be declared illegal? Are clean-shaven guys going to need a warning label? And most importantly, what on earth is next? damn.... these guys will always put the blame on others for their internalised sex craze

sorry in advance this is going to be all over the place.

i'm 19. part northeastern. moving for college soon. i've been living away from my family for a while now, home wasn't really working out, that's a whole other post.

so someone i follow posted about this paper on insta. its called "skin capital." i clicked it thinking i'd read two lines. read the whole thing instead. its quite interesting tbh

it's about northeastern women in delhi doing sex work. nineteen of them. manipur, nagaland, mizoram.

and they're students?? almost all of them came to delhi for college. fourteen were still enrolled while doing this. some of them are 19. 20.

that's me. that's literally my age. also it kinda felt close because I work part time at a shop, and have gotten so many such weird comments from middle aged uncles.

the argument of this paper is that your face is the product. not your degree, not anything you did. your eyes. and it costs more because men look at you and think korean, japanese, whatever.

i actually felt sick reading it but kinda also really hard to grasp this. like physically.

because we all know the stares. every NE girl knows. and it's the same thing?? the guy yelling slurs and the guy stereotyping you even when you work in a restaurant are running on the exact same thing in their head. i always thought of those as two different problems. they're not.

that's the part i keep circling. men don't only do this by hating you. they also do it by wanting you. and the wanting version comes with a compliment attached so you're supposed to feel good about it. you're not a person in either one. you just cost more in one.

there's a line where one woman says her face doesn't feel like hers anymore.

i've read that like ten times already

and i'm not saying they're to be shamed. its just that its hard to picture whats presented in this paper like racism is being monetized. like wtf

but also i can't call that freedom. she's choosing from a menu men wrote. that's still a choice. it's not the same as being free. both of those are true at once and it's doing my head in a bit.

also the whole thing runs through telegram groups and PG accommodations apparently as presented here.

and I am scared af because I am currently staying with my bhaiyah and was hoping to move to a PG for college or a dormitory. landlords charging extra rent to not ask questions? like wtf again. these are girls in normal student areas.

different situation obviously, i'm not comparing myself. but reading this right now hit way harder than it would've last year.

so wanted to ask, has being "wanted" in this country ever once felt like a good thing to any of you? because i can't think of a single time. would really like to hear from other NE girls, i don't have anyone to talk to about this.

link: https://www.rajraf.org/article/skin-capitalracial-appearance-as-erotic-commodity-among-northeastern-migrant-women-in-delhi/1283

sorry in advance this is going to be all over the place.

i'm 19. part northeastern. moving for college soon. i've been living away from my family for a while now, home wasn't really working out, that's a whole other post.

so someone i follow posted about this paper on insta. its called "skin capital." i clicked it thinking i'd read two lines. read the whole thing instead. its quite interesting tbh

it's about northeastern women in delhi doing sex work. nineteen of them. manipur, nagaland, mizoram.

and they're students?? almost all of them came to delhi for college. fourteen were still enrolled while doing this. some of them are 19. 20.

that's me. that's literally my age. also it kinda felt close because I work part time at a shop, and have gotten so many such weird comments from middle aged uncles.

the argument of this paper is that your face is the product. not your degree, not anything you did. your eyes. and it costs more because men look at you and think korean, japanese, whatever.

i actually felt sick reading it but kinda also really hard to grasp this. like physically.

because we all know the stares. every NE girl knows. and it's the same thing?? the guy yelling slurs and the guy stereotyping you even when you work in a restaurant are running on the exact same thing in their head. i always thought of those as two different problems. they're not.

that's the part i keep circling. men don't only do this by hating you. they also do it by wanting you. and the wanting version comes with a compliment attached so you're supposed to feel good about it. you're not a person in either one. you just cost more in one.

there's a line where one woman says her face doesn't feel like hers anymore.

i've read that like ten times already

and i'm not saying they're to be shamed. its just that its hard to picture whats presented in this paper like racism is being monetized. like wtf

but also i can't call that freedom. she's choosing from a menu men wrote. that's still a choice. it's not the same as being free. both of those are true at once and it's doing my head in a bit.

also the whole thing runs through telegram groups and PG accommodations apparently as presented here.

and I am scared af because I am currently staying with my bhaiyah and was hoping to move to a PG for college or a dormitory. landlords charging extra rent to not ask questions? like wtf again. these are girls in normal student areas.

different situation obviously, i'm not comparing myself. but reading this right now hit way harder than it would've last year.

so wanted to ask, has being "wanted" in this country ever once felt like a good thing to any of you? because i can't think of a single time. would really like to hear from other NE girls, i don't have anyone to talk to about this.

I came across a post where the OP was upset because a news headline did not explicitly state the gender of a female rapist. It is frustrating how quickly these discussions get hijacked by claims that "women are bad" or that there is a "systemic agenda against men."

Before anyone misunderstands me. well yes, female rapists exist, they are despicable, and they should be locked up forever. The issue is that the men bringing this up are not doing it to advocate for the victim or demand justice. They are using male victims as a tool to dismiss and downplay the sexual violence women face daily.

What makes this even worse is that when this news first broke, many of these same men were making light of the victim, saying things like "wish that were me" or calling the boy "lucky." Sexualizing a minor is pedophilia, plain and simple, yet it gets brushed aside by a culture that too often tolerates or normalizes this behavior.

As for why The Hindu did not mention the perpetrator's gender in the headline: that is simply standard journalistic style for that specific publication. Other news outlets explicitly mentioned the teacher's gender right in the headline. If these men had taken two seconds to check, they would have seen that The Hindu reports on male perpetrators using the exact same neutral phrasing.

People need to stop pretending to care about the victim when it is convenient for a gender debate. If you truly cared, you would focus on the trauma that child went through, rather than using a tragic crime to score points in an online argument. All rapists and pedophiles, regardless of gender, belong in prison for life.